we had a scan on friday and unfortunately one of my twins
didnt make it past 8wks. the other one seems to be doing well.
what a rollercoaster of emotions!! devasted to have lost one of our babies, delighted to still have one and soooooo scared that we will loss this one too!!
has anyone experienced this and gone on to have a healthy baby?
i have another scan in two weeks time so please god all will be okay!
hope you are all well
love hayley
11wk 1d (one wee miracle)
sadly lost one of my twins
Hi haley
Sorry to hear of your lost...................I also lost one of my twins at about 7 1/2 weeks, although we did not know that we were having twins then we thought that we had a miscarriage on the Saturday, then on the Monday they scaned me to make sure everything was gone and there was anaother sac, and even then I thought we had lost them both!!!!
The news did not sink in....!!! after having had 3 bottles of wine to drown my sorrows and 2o cigis.....tut tut
Please do not give up hope as I have gone on with this one and I am now at 32 weeks today and waiting, the rest of this pregnancy has been fine, if not without any worry I would be lying, I also opted for a Nucal fold scan done at 12 weeks just to make sure everything was ok, and thankfully it was.
Keeping everything crossed for you and try and stay positive.
Love
Wibbs
If you have any more questions please ask.
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Sorry to hear of your lost...................I also lost one of my twins at about 7 1/2 weeks, although we did not know that we were having twins then we thought that we had a miscarriage on the Saturday, then on the Monday they scaned me to make sure everything was gone and there was anaother sac, and even then I thought we had lost them both!!!!
The news did not sink in....!!! after having had 3 bottles of wine to drown my sorrows and 2o cigis.....tut tut
Please do not give up hope as I have gone on with this one and I am now at 32 weeks today and waiting, the rest of this pregnancy has been fine, if not without any worry I would be lying, I also opted for a Nucal fold scan done at 12 weeks just to make sure everything was ok, and thankfully it was.
Keeping everything crossed for you and try and stay positive.
Love
Wibbs
If you have any more questions please ask.
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Hi Hayley
I am sorry you lost one of your twins it must have been such a shock. Good to hear that the other one is doing well. Fingers crossed it will be OK. Good luck with the next scan.
The worry never ends.
Take care, love Dagny xkx
I am sorry you lost one of your twins it must have been such a shock. Good to hear that the other one is doing well. Fingers crossed it will be OK. Good luck with the next scan.
The worry never ends.
Take care, love Dagny xkx
Me 38 DH 40
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
Hayley
I am truly sorry - of course it is mixed emotions - it is dreadful to lose a baby at any stage as many of us unfortunately know. I have several friends that have lost a twin at this stage and later. They have without exception all gone on to have a healthy baby and some are still pg but like Wibbs passed the 28 week mark now.
Fingers crossed and it is natural to mourn the one you lost. Try to look after yourself.
Love
Tracey
xxx
I am truly sorry - of course it is mixed emotions - it is dreadful to lose a baby at any stage as many of us unfortunately know. I have several friends that have lost a twin at this stage and later. They have without exception all gone on to have a healthy baby and some are still pg but like Wibbs passed the 28 week mark now.
Fingers crossed and it is natural to mourn the one you lost. Try to look after yourself.
Love
Tracey
xxx
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!
hayley, i'm sorry to hear about one of your babies, it's so sad and must have been such a shock.
i am really happy for you that your other baby is doing well. everyday that passes the risk to our babies becomes less and at 12 weeks the risk decreases significantly. take care of yourself and little one. look forward to hearing about your next scan.
phil
i am really happy for you that your other baby is doing well. everyday that passes the risk to our babies becomes less and at 12 weeks the risk decreases significantly. take care of yourself and little one. look forward to hearing about your next scan.
phil
Dear Hayley
So sorry to hear your news. But if it helps at all, I too also had this and my bubs is due in two days time. At 7 weeks there were two sacs, one slightly smaller and at 9 weeks the little one had just disappeared.
The day before, another girl Susi from this site, had the very same thing happen to her so it was strange I was almost ready for the news and just so relieved to see the other one looking OK. For me, that's how I dealt with it, just focussing on the little one there and praying everything would be all right. I too had a nuchal scan at 13 weeks which when it showed I was at low risk really helped to make me think a bit more positively.
The consultant said that this situation is much more common than people realise, but 'normal' people don't have the scans as early as us IVFers, so it isn't detected a lot of the time.
So keep positive, take it easy and I'm sure everything is going to be fine.
Love Nicola x
So sorry to hear your news. But if it helps at all, I too also had this and my bubs is due in two days time. At 7 weeks there were two sacs, one slightly smaller and at 9 weeks the little one had just disappeared.
The day before, another girl Susi from this site, had the very same thing happen to her so it was strange I was almost ready for the news and just so relieved to see the other one looking OK. For me, that's how I dealt with it, just focussing on the little one there and praying everything would be all right. I too had a nuchal scan at 13 weeks which when it showed I was at low risk really helped to make me think a bit more positively.
The consultant said that this situation is much more common than people realise, but 'normal' people don't have the scans as early as us IVFers, so it isn't detected a lot of the time.
So keep positive, take it easy and I'm sure everything is going to be fine.
Love Nicola x
TTC 8 yrs. Me 35, DH 52. 1st IVF eggs didn't fertilise, sperm couldn't get through shell. 2nd & 3rd ICSI got embryos but -ve. 1st FET +ve with twins, '1 disappeared' at 9 wks. One baby due 9th April.
thank you all so much for your replies!
well im feeling alot more positive now and concentrating on our one wee miracle. i am delighted to hear that this has happened before and you have continued on with your pregnancy...best of luck to you all!!
nicola- our situation seems really similar
- me- ttc 7yrs.. 1st ivf 30 eggs none fertilized even though dh swimmers tested ok???? 2nd icsi ohss then+with twins from fet and now as you know one was lost at 8 wks!!
can i ask a personal question... did you actually bleed with your loss? i havent and the doctor isnt sure if i will or not.
anyway thanks a million and heres to reaching that 12th week on sunday!!
take care
love hayley
well im feeling alot more positive now and concentrating on our one wee miracle. i am delighted to hear that this has happened before and you have continued on with your pregnancy...best of luck to you all!!
nicola- our situation seems really similar
- me- ttc 7yrs.. 1st ivf 30 eggs none fertilized even though dh swimmers tested ok???? 2nd icsi ohss then+with twins from fet and now as you know one was lost at 8 wks!!can i ask a personal question... did you actually bleed with your loss? i havent and the doctor isnt sure if i will or not.
anyway thanks a million and heres to reaching that 12th week on sunday!!
take care
love hayley
Hayley
Well done you - you sound perkier! I know of no one who actually bled -t hey only knew because of the scan - the twin gets absorbed.
Others can surely put me right
Take care
Love
Tracey
xxx
Well done you - you sound perkier! I know of no one who actually bled -t hey only knew because of the scan - the twin gets absorbed.
Others can surely put me right
Take care
Love
Tracey
xxx
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!
Hi Hayley
That's really spooky! I have to say I haven't come across many others since being on this site, who have had this same problem with the sperm fertilizing the eggs. That first time, I gave half my eggs away (11) as part of egg share and it was a bit of a shock when the embryologist told us that the other couple's sperm fertilized 10/11 of my eggs OK.... So good in one respect it wasn't my eggs, but as you can imagine, very difficult to get your head around, when you know someone else was steaming ahead with embryos and we weren't going anywhere!
I haven't been able to find out much about this 'sperm functionality' problem, they really don't seem to know too much about it still. Like you, my DH's sperm was, quote, 'really encouraging', but as I also have mild PCO I think everyone assumed it was something to do with me. (Before we tried the FET, DH had a chromosone test done, which came back normal).
And re. the bleeding, I didn't have any - and generally, thank god, my pregnancy has been totally straight forward with no complications, not even morning sickness (which probably means I'll have the birth from hell now!)
You're doing really well, almost there with the 12 week scan so I really look forward to hearing all is well.
Nicola x
That's really spooky! I have to say I haven't come across many others since being on this site, who have had this same problem with the sperm fertilizing the eggs. That first time, I gave half my eggs away (11) as part of egg share and it was a bit of a shock when the embryologist told us that the other couple's sperm fertilized 10/11 of my eggs OK.... So good in one respect it wasn't my eggs, but as you can imagine, very difficult to get your head around, when you know someone else was steaming ahead with embryos and we weren't going anywhere!
I haven't been able to find out much about this 'sperm functionality' problem, they really don't seem to know too much about it still. Like you, my DH's sperm was, quote, 'really encouraging', but as I also have mild PCO I think everyone assumed it was something to do with me. (Before we tried the FET, DH had a chromosone test done, which came back normal).
And re. the bleeding, I didn't have any - and generally, thank god, my pregnancy has been totally straight forward with no complications, not even morning sickness (which probably means I'll have the birth from hell now!)
You're doing really well, almost there with the 12 week scan so I really look forward to hearing all is well.
Nicola x
TTC 8 yrs. Me 35, DH 52. 1st IVF eggs didn't fertilise, sperm couldn't get through shell. 2nd & 3rd ICSI got embryos but -ve. 1st FET +ve with twins, '1 disappeared' at 9 wks. One baby due 9th April.
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Hayley
I was sorry to hear of the loss of one of your twins. I am glad that you are feeling a bit more positive about it, this site really does help.
Take care and good luck with your next scan
Helen
I was sorry to hear of the loss of one of your twins. I am glad that you are feeling a bit more positive about it, this site really does help.
Take care and good luck with your next scan
Helen
Age 27
I.V.F started in 2001. 1st cycle +ve mc nov 2001 at 12 weeks. Fet mar 2002 +ve then -ve.
2nd cycle +ve eptopic oct 2002 6 weeks.
fet mar 2003 -ve. 3rd cycle over stimulated embies frozen. Fet nov 2003 +ve due 11/8/04.
I.V.F started in 2001. 1st cycle +ve mc nov 2001 at 12 weeks. Fet mar 2002 +ve then -ve.
2nd cycle +ve eptopic oct 2002 6 weeks.
fet mar 2003 -ve. 3rd cycle over stimulated embies frozen. Fet nov 2003 +ve due 11/8/04.
Hayley
Glad that you are feeling more positive now and concentrating on your ongoing pregnancy. It is sad that you lost one of them but he/she will be a guardian angel for the one who is still here!
I havent had my first scan yet so I dont know if I am carrying twins or not but Zoe metioned to me that my HCG reading of 350 might suggest that so I'll have to wait and see. I dont want to get my hopes up though just in case.
Take Care
Mimi
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Glad that you are feeling more positive now and concentrating on your ongoing pregnancy. It is sad that you lost one of them but he/she will be a guardian angel for the one who is still here!
I havent had my first scan yet so I dont know if I am carrying twins or not but Zoe metioned to me that my HCG reading of 350 might suggest that so I'll have to wait and see. I dont want to get my hopes up though just in case.
Take Care
Mimi
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