new and mixed up

[shaf]

Hi ladies,

I am new to this list but not to IVF. I had my son after 10yrs of trying and now for the 2nd i just don't have the patience to go the same way again but after reading so many stories on this board I really feel motivated.
Situation is like we were ready for IVF again, suddenly he was like lets not have another baby and give our son best of everything and all. It was like I had suggested the same thing to him a couple of months back and he was like why don't you have the interest and all. Now when I had mentally prepared myself for this he changes. I just don't know what to do as I am just about to have an AF and go for my check up. I have got all mixed up.
please tell me what to do

Shafs
TTC 10yrs
Hypothyroid
PCOS

cycles of clomid
4 IUI all BFN
1 -IVF 2003 BFN
2- IVF 2005 BFP (son now 4)

[Supergenius]

Shafs-

I would go to the check up and then an IVF consult w/ your DH. After that, you two should have a serious discussion. As you know, IVF can be emotionally draining (as well as physically & financially)...so you really want to be on the same page with each other.

Just my 2 cents.

[amysbabies]

Before you go ahead with IVF I definitely think you and DH need to be in agreement. He might be feeling anxiety about going through it all again.

I think giving the best and everything to one child is nice, but I also think that having a sibling as you grow up and when you're grown is one of the best things in life.

[jenice]

Shafs- I also have a little one via clomid though. Even though IVF sucks when it doesn't work, I still want to try to give my child a sibling. I just finished doing an FET on the dreaded 2WW. Maybe my child will end up being an only child anyway but I figured later in life I'll known that I tried everything I could It really is a personal decision in the end and a financial one. I also agree that you both need to be on the same page.

[shaf]

Thanks ladies althought my DH is still not talking on the IVF issue I thought I would go ahead, cos as jen said atleast I should not think later that I din't try. I wanted a big family but then sometimes things don't work the way they should.
And we thought producing would be a piece of cake.
I have my appointment today with my RE.

[shaf]

Hey girls

Very dipressed as my DH said that he has comeup with some work out of country so he has to travle by dec 1st week, if I start with IVF then ER or ET may interfere with his schedule. he has said strickty no this time as he needs to go this time for its a big one for him. I just was so prepared. Feel like screaming and letting myself go.I was so god*** prepared.
Pray that things work for us.

[lisa10]

With IVF, you can never plan perfectly anyway. So many people have has cycles cancelled after waiting for months to start one. Don't worry. If you prepared now, you will be prepared in the future too. IVF is very difficult and you and DH have to be ready together for it. My first cycle resulted in a chemical pregnancy and my DH didn't want to see me go through the physical and emotional pain again and suggested stopping. Together we had to decide we were ready to take on the physical and emotional toll of IVF again. Please make sure you are on the right page. If it means waiting a few months, that's how it has to be. Trust me IVF is a waiting game at every point of it. You wait to start, you wait while you stim, you wait during the 2ww, you wait for the ultra sounds, you wait for the RE release. It is all waiting!

[shaf]

Thanks lis can't imagine to find anyone who understand our problem in this place. I found this board in the right place and right time.I know the waiting of IVF the terrible waits at every point.Thats why we girls are made of something diffrent who can tackel everything.

Thanks a ton for your kind words.
Thanks a lot to everyone of you.