DONOR EGG Tmt Thread... " Egg-heads"

[Clemo]

Hopeful - I hope you're doing ok and everything has settled down.

hrdtqt - Thanks for your words. Hearing how happy you are makes this journey seem worth everything.

IVFinNJ - I can understand your feelings re: having a biological child. I went through the why me's, it's not fair, there are so many bad parents our there and why am I made to struggle.
But in the end, this is our lot in life and we must live life as happily as we can. From all the women I have spoken to the hurt fades greatly once you have your bub.

Hi Kelly.

AFM - Well I took my cousin for her down reg scan on Wednesday and then I showed her how to inject. I started estrogen tabs on Monday. So it's all systems go now. We have the 1st follie scan for my cuz and lining scan for me this coming Monday. We're excited to see how many follies she has. So epu is estimated for 14th Dec.

It's getting more exciting now!

[hrdtqt]

I started in 1987 not 1977... Twenty years was enough but worth every tear. Here is a poem I just wrote for them for their second birthday...

A barren heart I had no more, when mine eyes met with those I bore;

The years of longing, pain and fears, was gone with many million tears;

This love I only dreamed I knew, stared back at me and there were two;

No greater love than mine for you, my precious children, that is true;

So for all time, that being for ever, may our love flourish and grow not sever;

When I grow old and tired and weak, with my last breath I need not seek;

For the love I've known in you my two, will carry me now, my life time through

Mommy

[Clemo]

That's a beautiful poem.

[poohgirl]

Clemo--I so excited that you are going to be our next BFP!!!!

IVF--This process sucks!!! I am going to strongly suggest that you read the first 10 or so pages of this thread because it really helped me with the donor egg thing. I am with kelly in that I was more upset that I couldn't get pregnant that the biological thing wasn't as much of a issue. But I know you have to grieve the fact you can't have your own bio kids, and it is a process you have to work through. Does your clinic have a therapist you can talk to?

Hello to everyone else!!!

AFM--I feel somewhat human again, I think my queasy stomach is over (knocking on wood) looking forward to the 2nd trimester in a few weeks!

[hrdtqt]

For me, that hardest part of the entire twentyyears was that I couldn't get pregnant and have a child. I grieved over that almost every day and expecially every month and that pain was gut wrenching! When I started with all the treatments and I had many many, (never kept track but for years I had donor insemination every month, till it was published the success rate at THAT clinic was higher on the local IVF waiting list than for us that were being inseminated. Furthermore one of the women became HIV+ve and a large investigation ensued and well - no testing of donor- so that was it for me at that place. Any way on subject, when I found out I needed donor eggs, it hurt much like it did when I found out I needed intervention to get pregnant. You need time and information to be able to process and accept what you need to do, to have what matters most and of course, that is YOUR baby. I don't ever look at my children and think what it would have been like if they were my eggs - never! When you grow these little human beings they are just yours (and dh too ; it just happens and it just is. It will work out when you are able to process all the pain you are going through now. Good luck to everyone in this painful situation and remember how fortunate we all are, that this is possible. It wasn't, not that many years ago...

[IVFinNJ]

Thank you so much ladies for all of your insight. We met with RE today regarding donor eggs. The option is looking more and more attrative!! While I am still angry, I am grateful that I can still achieve pregnancy. Reading through this thread and other information has helped. I read somewhere (not sure where) that when you are throwing up in the toilet, there is not doubt that the baby is yours!

[hrdtqt]

IVFinNJ How true! I love it!!!

[Clemo]

Hey everyone,

I took my cuz for our scans today. She has 10 follies which we're really happy with and my lining is looking good. So it's all systems go! EPU will be either Saturday or Monday. We're having another follie scan on Thurs so we'll know for sure then.

Woohoo!!

[summerbaby]

Clemo - thinking of you and wishing you and your cuz all the best!!!

big hello to everyone!

xx summer

[wishfull27]

mornign ladies

Big welcome to hrdtqt and IVFinNJ !

Clemo - so excited for you and cousin - please keep us posted - all crossed for bumper harvest after thursdays scan xx

Summer - great to see you have time to post - gives me faith that I will be able to cope with the babies and some sort of life as well ! Huge hugs for the gorgeous Anna ((()))

Kelly - hope you and the twins are fdoing well - am sure christmas in your house will be very chaotic this year - hugs to you all ((()))

Pooh - yipee nearly 2nd trimester - so pleased youa re feeling better - when is the next scan ???

Pauline - hows you honey - heard anything back from the clinic for January cycle ?

Hi to everyone else I ahve missed - hope you are all doing great !

AFM ! - had 28 week scan last week and both babies are smack bang in the middle of the growth charts and the same size - its estimated they weigh about 3lb combines - so why the hell do I weigh 28lb more got slightly elevated blood sugars though so having to monitor them after each meal - but coping fine with that and keeping within the levels they want me to ! - and just when I thought i was done with needles !!!!!

Take care everyone

love

Carolyn xx

[pauline69]

Hi everyone

Sorry haven't been posting lately.

Clemo, good luck with your scans, hope you get lots of eggs.

Carolyn, have been thinking about you and wondering how you were getting on. Hope your sugar levels behave themselves. Not long now till you are on leave.

Hope everyone else is doing great and looking forward to Christmas.

AFM, don't know what's up really, just feeling a bit blue. The clinic have another donor sorted out for us. I will start at next AF (end Dec) and return to Prague mid-January.

Pauline x

[Preeddy09]

I know we have a few cooking fans on this forum, and I would like to start a main thread for all cooking discussion.

I want to cook some authentic Mexican food. Im wondering if anyone here knows how to make an authentic Mexican mole?

[wishfull27]

clemo - we need an update - am assuming your cousin will have had ER by now going by your last post - hope you got a bumper crop and are all nicely fertilising xxx

[Clemo]

Pauline - Hope you're feeling ok love. It's not an easy road.

Wishful - Thanks for checking up on me. EPU was yesterday. We got 9 eggs so we're really happy with that. I'm waiting for the call today to tell me how many embies we have and the time for tomorrow's transfer.

xx

[sabi]

clemo,
congrats on 9 eggs! that's terrific! Good luck on the transfer. I transferred
2 5 day blasts & preg w/twins. positive thinking my dear! you are almost there. keep us posted.

Hi girls! on bedrest- been in hospital w/gestational hypertension. pretty scary. docs think i'll be heading for pre-eclampsia b4 pregnancy is over.

i'm hanging in there. hope everyone is getting ready & excited about holidays.

thinking about you Carolyn, Chriss, Summer & all my fellow eggies.

take care & God bless.
Sabi