Starting first round of IVF in March

[hopeforbabies]

Hi,

I just joined the forum for someone besides DH to share my hopes & worries with. DH and I have been trying for children about 2 years. I was diagnosed with PCOS at 18 or 19 and DH has a low count from testicular damage. This year we decided to see a fertility doctor and had two failed IUIs.

Doctor decided because of low sperm count a IVF with possibly ICIS would be best for us. I'm excited and nervous at the same time. Our insurance will pay for the majority of the costs, but its a one time deal. I fear that the IVF will fail and I don't know what we will do after that. Has anyone had success on their first round?

Me: 27y
DH: 30y in Jan.
06/09 non responsive to Clomid 50mg
08/09 Clomid 100mg - IUI BFN
09/09 Clomid 100mg - IUI BFN
03/10 IVF? TBD

[JG_379]

hopeforbabies- I was successful the first time around. I still have awhile before I get to meet my babies, but I did get pregnant. I also have 3 frozen embryos from my first retrieval should we ever want to get pregnant again. So yes, it can work! Best of luck to you in the future! This is a great place to meet new friends who are going through the same thing and a great place to ask questions.

[hopeforbabies]

JG_379,

I am so glad to hear that you had success on you first attempt and twins! That is exactly what I am hoping for. I just wanted to thank you for your reply and encouragement. I'm scaried to death, but stories like your's gives me great hope.

[KatieG]

It also worked on the first time for me. I am going to be starting an FET around that time so maybe we will be cycle buds. Good luck and keep the PMA. SOmetimes its hard and the process is stressful but it is all worth it. My advice is stay as calm as possible and have a support system. I found this place to be the best place b/c your around people who understand what your going through.

[hopeforbabies]

I think you're right about this being the best place for me to find support. I have a hard time laying it all down on the DH because I know it just makes him worry more too. My family is very supportive, but its hard for me just to "not worry because it will happen".

I would be greatful to have you as a cycle buddy in March. Since you've been through this before you'll be able to tell me what to expect. I think that is part of what I get so nervous about is not knowing what is coming. Next week they are doing a SHG and a HSG. Nurse said that I might have some bad cramping. Did you have to do either of them?

Thanks again for the support.

[dogzrule]

I too had am pregnant from my 1st IVF. I wish you all the best! As for the HSG, I had one several years ago, and, not to scare you, it was one of the most painful things I have ever experienced. Just thinking about it traumatizes me all over again. BUT from what I hear, my experience was very rare, so I know you will be just fine.

[hopeforbabies]

Yeah the nurse said that I should probably take some midol before and after because I guess the iodine they inject makes the uterus really contract. I guess I get a hint of what labor will be like without having to be pregnant. LOL Well thank you for the heads up. I believe they are doing the SHG on tues. and the HSG on wed. so I'll let you know how it goes. Just keep your fingers crossed for me.

[mcfarland2213]

hope for babies - I had an HSG this past May and I wanted to tell you (as dogzrule said it is pretty painful) and it doesn't last as long as they said it would, but those few minutes of actually doing it, I almost passed out & had to lay down as he was showing me what the results were in the room. My DH was a little worried because I was fine/it was so quick and then I felt faint! Both of my tubes were blocked so I had a laparoscopy in June to remove both of my tubes. The hardest day for me was the HSG day because I felt like I'd hit a brick wall - being told that I had to have my tubes removed (which was on my 3rd annivesary to my DH ) was really difficult and from then on I at least knew what my problem was so it wasn't that bad to get my tubes removed and start the IVF process. I had my first round of IVF this past September and we did get a negative test which was the only day worse than the HSG

I'm going for a FET next year but I wanted to give my body some time to adjust and feel more like normal (as the drugs make you feel a bit different than yourself!) I had transferred 2 perfect embryos and the doctor doesn't know why it didn't work but he said we'd try again next time and hope my body accepts it (A lot of my friends didn't have success on the first try but did on the 2nd). My insurance doesn't pay for anything so we've paid everything out of our own pocket - it's hard, esp when it fails but I'm hoping in the end I'll look back & say it was all worth it!

I wish you all the best & I'll check back to see how things are going! I don't really know where I fit on here as I just joined as well and I'm awaiting treatment.

[hopeforbabies]

I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you've had to go through. I know that HSG is painful, but they do them for a reason and you are the perfect example of why. I'm sure you were both sad and relieved to find out what had prevented you from getting prego for so long. I will keep my fingers crossed that your FET will be successful. Best wishes!

[wishfulthinking]

hopeforbabies - i should be starting my first cycle of ivf in feb/march though have no exact date yet. i too am scared stiff of what to expect. its nice to find someone in the same boat. me and DH been TTC for 4 and a half years with no luck. all tests showed nothing wrong with either of us. so annoying having no explanation for infertility. been told that we have a good chance with ivf. be lovely to hear back from you because it is so hard to find someone who understands what i'm going through. i have 2 friends who are pregnant at the moment - naturally and this is difficult. i'm truly happy for them but they no longer know how to act around me for fear of hurting me by talking about babies. everyone keeps saying "be positive" and " i'm sure it will work" but it really isn't as simple as that. when you've wanted something for so long and been denied it everything seems so unfair. anyway i'm concentrating now on having a good xmas before the stresses of treatment in the new year begin. hope to hear back soon. Em x

[hopeforbabies]

I know it is very hard not knowing why you just cant seem to get prego. I also know how hard it is to watch all your friends and family have kids so easily. Both of my cousins got pregnant within months of each other. Then I found out that my baby brother had gotten his girlfriend pregnant by accident. My only advise is to tell your friends how you really feel. I was very sad at first and didnt want to go to their showers. But once the babies were born and I got to hold them and play with them it was easier for me. Keep me posted on when you will be doing your cycle. I found out on Tuesday that I get to start my Stims. on March 13th! Maybe we will have our first cycles together. Take care and keep your head up.

[hopeforbabies]

[quote="KatieG"] I am going to be starting an FET around that time so maybe we will be cycle buds. SOmetimes its hard and the process is stressful but it is all worth it.

Well my SHG and HSG are over with and I found out that I start my Stims on March 13th. The SHG or saline test was not that bad and I thought it was neat that I got to see the uterus expand. The HSG was a bit painful and I was crampy for most of the day yesterday. Good news is that everything looked normal which was encouraging. Keep me posted on when your FET will be.

[HopefullySoon]

I just got news that I will start my first round of IVF in the first week of January. I am nervous and excited as well. I have had one failed IUI and was completely devastated. I been trying for 3 years before that to get pregnant. I was diagnosed with damaged fallopian tubes. I have already decided to have 2 embryos transferred and am hoping for twins. I think I am just as nervous or more. I'll let you know how it goes. The main thing that worries me right now is having my husband inject me with all those needles and medication. I'm just waiting for my next cycle to get started.

[hopeforbabies]

Hopefullysoon - I will keep my fingers crossed that you get those two little bundles of joy on your first cycle. My DH and I are also planning to transfer two in hopes of getting twins. I wont cycle till March and it seems so far away! But at least I can enjoy the holidays without having to worry about too much.
Don't be worried about the injections just make sure you double check that your DH is giving the right one and make sure you have a medication chart. That way you can mark off what and when it was given. I know everything will be fine and I'm so excited for you. Keep me posted on everything!

[wannabmommy]

hi ladies!

i'm also beginning ivf in march, and thought i might join you all on this crazy journey. i've done all of my tests, HSG etc...and of course, DH and i have been diagnosed with unexplained infertility

my DH and i have been TTC for about a year and a half. i'm 36 and he's 42. we started going to a RE in september, and we were going to do IUI, but with my chances of getting preggers only going to 18% (and it's not covered by insurance), we decided to go right for the gusto and do IVF. of course, we've had an overseas vacation planned (in february) since earlier this year, which is why we're not starting earlier...but i'm very anxious!

in the interim, we've been trying like mad to make it happen naturally.
this month i had some really strange things happen in my body....about a week after i ovulated, i began spotting...for about 2 days. my period is always right on, so i knew that something wasn't right. in doing a bit of internet research, i learned that this could be implantation bleeding. in addition, my breasts were SUPER sore, i had minor cramping and a bit of a headache. all early signs of pregnancy. the spotting stopped for one day, and then started again....leading into my period. my breast soreness went away, and i could tell that something had gone wrong. i'm not one to "cry wolf" that i'm preggers, but i know my body and that what happened was not normal. (we were also keeping our finger crossed that this would happen naturally so that a) we wouldn't have to go through all of the IVF craziness and b) we could save ourselves a lot of $$!)

i'm assuming that i had concieved (good news, i guess) and that something happened to the embryo. it was VERY disappointing, and only made me that much more anxious to start IVF.

just wanted to share my humble story. i've been reading these message boards for weeks, and hope to find some great cycle buddies for support.

happy new year!

lori

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