Welcome to the crazy and unexplainable world of IVF/TTC! I am glad to have you join, as I too am anxious to start my cycle in March. It is good to hear that you have the possibility of conceiving naturally! Maybe that little get away in Feb. will result in a bundle of joy for you. I will keep you in my thoughts as I do with everyone else in this forum. I too have lurked on this site for weeks now and have found everyone to be very supportive. For me this takes a lot of pressure off me and especially me DH.
When do you start your stims in March? I have my final consult for signing paperwork with RE on Jan. 5th. At that time if my AF hasn't shown up (always up in the air as I don't ovulate because of PCOS) then they will start me on BCP. My stims are scheduled to start around March 14th. Hope to hear from you soon.
TERESA
thank you for the quick response and the warm welcome! i think this "outlet" will be good for me and the DH too...i don't think he fully understands the whole process and what he is in for....
i'm not sure the exact date i'll be starting my stims...we don't get back from our trip until the end of february, and i'll start my BCP after i get AF, which should be close to march 21.
i'm looking forward to the positive vibes we'll all be bringing each other...and thanks again for the warm welcome!
I couldn't help but chuckle when you said it would be good for your DH as he may not know what he is in for. My DH seems equally as clueless and seems to become more nervous the more I try to talk to him about it. I do not want him to be completely in the dark as he wants a little blessing as much as I do. Just seems that the DH's get off so easy in the process of it all. For the sake of my DH, I hope I don't go psycho on the stim drugs!
i'm right there with ya....i try to send him articles about how it will affect me / us, but i'm not sure he understands the magnitude. he wants a baby so bad, but after seeing me as an emotional mess last week with this whole implantation bleeding / losing the embryo thing...he might be starting to get a clue. i'm also nervous how the drugs will affect me, but we ALL know it will be worth it in the end!
PS: i lived in mesa / scottsdale from '95 - '05 and my heart (and many of my friends!) are still there. living in this cold weather (to be closer to family) is killing me. you're a lucky girl!
wannabmommy - I thought the same thing when we started going through IVF and my DH came to all my doctors appointments and he got really into everything that goes on - he's been woderful - talking about it together def. helps both of us because we realize we feel the same way about some things & very different about others - he was never really that open to adoption, but has def. come around in the past few months after we had a BFN! I bought this little book called "wayward stork" or something like that...it's really little and had him and the rest of my faimly & his family read it and it helped A LOT - they loved that I thought of all of them through this process & it opened up a lot of doors for everyone to ask questions & then when I would shut down at times or not want to be around others because of the drugs, they understood more (not completely because i dont think anyone fully understands) but it helped enough to make it seem worth it - I think ~20 friends/family have read the same book - it's like their little light into what we go through. Good luck - my DH & I are going to do an FET probably in May/June.
me - 30 / 2009 - both tubes removed / DH - 31, perfect
First IVF - Sept '09 - BFN
First FET - May '10 - BFN
Second FET - Sept '10 - BFN
Second IVF Attempt - August '11 - BFN
Third FET - Oct '11 - expanded embryo - BFP (Blake born 7.5.12)
How funny that you lived in Mesa & Scottsdale! I lived in Scottsdale till I married my DH and then we moved to Mesa. I know you envy the warm weather now, but I'm sure you remember the 115 degree summers. I'm sure its very beautiful in MD with all the snow for the holidays.
mcfarland
I've never heard of that book, but I think I'll try to buy it. What a great idea for helping your family understand. I too don't always want to get together with my family like I have in the past. Most of my cousins have had kids and its hard for me to go to their birthday parties. I don't know if my cousins really understand how hard it can be. So thank you for the book idea!
hopeforbabies wrote:I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you've had to go through. I know that HSG is painful, but they do them for a reason and you are the perfect example of why. I'm sure you were both sad and relieved to find out what had prevented you from getting prego for so long. I will keep my fingers crossed that your FET will be successful. Best wishes!
hello-
new to ivf, have a lot of reading to do, before i decide. does the dr. have to remove your tubes or in some situations?
thumper - sometimes they have to remove your tubes for various reasons (but not always!) - they only remove them if there's something wrong with them or they are blocked or something like that...I've had both of mine removed so IVF is my only option at this point.
I think a lot of the comments & feedback are accurate - for YOU, it won't be anything new / there won't be a lot you'll say "Oh I didn't know that!" but everyone in your family will be like "wow, really????" and they'll ask you lots of questions...it's helpful! Good luck!
Yeah, my friend recently had a baby shower and I didn't go because it was just too hard. thing is, I went to one of my best friend's the day after I found out IVF failed for the first time and I was Ok at first, but as time drug on, I realized I wasn't ok...some days are certainly more difficult than others! I know how you feel with people not understanding - I love my niece & nephew but sometimes it's just hard to be around kids (but mostly for me it's harder to be around pregnant women) just because that's just something my body won't let me do yet!
me - 30 / 2009 - both tubes removed / DH - 31, perfect
First IVF - Sept '09 - BFN
First FET - May '10 - BFN
Second FET - Sept '10 - BFN
Second IVF Attempt - August '11 - BFN
Third FET - Oct '11 - expanded embryo - BFP (Blake born 7.5.12)
mcfarland2213 wrote:thumper - sometimes they have to remove your tubes for various reasons (but not always!) - they only remove them if there's something wrong with them or they are blocked or something like that...I've had both of mine removed so IVF is my only option at this point.
I think a lot of the comments & feedback are accurate - for YOU, it won't be anything new / there won't be a lot you'll say "Oh I didn't know that!" but everyone in your family will be like "wow, really????" and they'll ask you lots of questions...it's helpful! Good luck!
Yeah, my friend recently had a baby shower and I didn't go because it was just too hard. thing is, I went to one of my best friend's the day after I found out IVF failed for the first time and I was Ok at first, but as time drug on, I realized I wasn't ok...some days are certainly more difficult than others! I know how you feel with people not understanding - I love my niece & nephew but sometimes it's just hard to be around kids (but mostly for me it's harder to be around pregnant women) just because that's just something my body won't let me do yet!
ahh... i found out that my tubes are blocked after having a tubal reversal...i am amazed so far, drs. make it sound so easy, only for them... thanks for responding.
Thank you so much for the amazon link. I am going to go on shortly and order it for myself. I'm glad you are staying positive as am I. I just wish I could relax and stop worrying about so much. At this rate I'm afraid I will be completely exhausted by the time March finally rolls around. Maybe I'll be able to calm down after I have the consult with my Dr. tomorrow. Either way I guess we just need to keep our chins up and stay hopeful. Thanks again for the link!
thumper -
what I feel that is ok about not having tubes anymore is that I know EXACTLY what's happening in my body as far as why baby making is not working...but it's hard because IVF is our only option at this point.
hopeforbabies - good luck at the doctor, let us know how it goes - I know, I want to try for may/june this year but it seems like an eternity away sometimes! Part of me wants to do it next month, part of me wants to wait - I'm not even on any hormones right now and I still go back and forth ha! Good luck & can't wait to hear how it goes!!
me - 30 / 2009 - both tubes removed / DH - 31, perfect
First IVF - Sept '09 - BFN
First FET - May '10 - BFN
Second FET - Sept '10 - BFN
Second IVF Attempt - August '11 - BFN
Third FET - Oct '11 - expanded embryo - BFP (Blake born 7.5.12)
Just wanted to let you know how my apt went yesterday. Looks like everything is moving forward. They had to take blood again because my AF is late and they wanted to see where my levels were, so they could decide if they will put me on Provera first or just have me start BCP. I should hear back from them by Thurs. Plan is for me to be on BCP until March 2nd and then I will start Lupron. My stim drugs will start March 13th and ER/ET somewhere around the week of March 22nd. My DH is excited and wanted to know why we had to wait so long. I guess my clinic is so busy they are booked out that far! Oh well, I'm just excited we are finally getting the ball rolling.
just coming back into this world after the new year and wanted to say hello!
mcfarland - i ordered "wayward stork" as soon as i saw your posting last week, and i read it all in one sitting last night. great read, thank you! i think there is some highlighting in my future for the parts i want dh to read!
thumper - welcome to our humble march board!
hopeforbabies - THRILLED to hear that your appointment went well, and look forward to cycling together in march. i think i'll be a few weeks after you, but it will still be nice to have someone to share with!
I am pretty excited too and so is my family. I'm glad that we will be cycling together too. Funny after all the time I had with the Dr. and him answering so many questions I keep remembering ones I forgot to ask him. He said to call whenever if I thought of anything else, but I'm afraid I might tie up his phone lines all day!
I am glad to have you join, as I too am anxious to start my cycle in March. It is good to hear that you have the possibility of conceiving naturally! Maybe that little get away in Feb. will result in a bundle of joy for you. 
I will keep you in my thoughts as I do with everyone else in this forum. I too have lurked on this site for weeks now and have found everyone to be very supportive. For me this takes a lot of pressure off me and especially me DH. 
My DH seems equally as clueless and seems to become more nervous the more I try to talk to him about it. I do not want him to be completely in the dark as he wants a little blessing as much as I do. Just seems that the DH's get off so easy in the process of it all. For the sake of my DH, I hope I don't go psycho on the stim drugs! 
I know you envy the warm weather now, but I'm sure you remember the 115 degree summers. I'm sure its very beautiful in MD with all the snow for the holidays. 
Maybe I'll be able to calm down after I have the consult with my Dr. tomorrow. Either way I guess we just need to keep our chins up and stay hopeful. Thanks again for the link!
