I did my first IVF/ICSI in August 2009. We transfered two 3-day embryos and I got pregnant with b/g twins! We were so excited. On December 25, 2009, Baby Girl A's water broke. I was almost exactly 22 weeks pregnant. There was nothing we could do, and our daughter and son were born and died on December 26.
For most people, having a second set of twins is statistically astronomical. Not so for me.
We finished our first IVF with 4 leftover embryos. We froze them in pairs, since we were expecting to transfer two at any future FET.
Now that I have had severe complication with a twin pregnancy that let to infant death, I'm terrified to have twins again. But I hate the idea of discarding embryos and/or decreasing my chances of getting pregnant.
We did our first FET in March. At our doctor's recommendation (both my high-risk OB and our RE), we defrosted one pair, waiting until they grew to blastocysts and transfered the better of the two. The cycle resulted in a BFN.
We have an appt to meet with the RE again on Thursday to discuss our next FET. My DH is in favor of doing the same things again (defrosting a pair, growing to blasts and transfering one). I really want to transfer both on the day they defrost... I don't really have a logical reason, just emotional ones. Also, our national health insurance covers all IVF expenses, so my DH would rather do more cycles with a single embryo than fewer cycles with multiple embryos.
My RE gives us a 45% pregnancy rate for a single blast transfer and a 55% rate with a double 3-day transfer. With the double transfer, our odds of twins are around 30%, with a single blast, twins are only 3% chance (identicals).
I don't know what to do. I know that there are no answers. I'm just looking for support and advice....
Thanks