Going for sibblings?

[riogirl71]

We have a baby boy from our IVF and now we are doing a fresh cycle for a sibbling. While we are VERY blessed to have a baby, we of course would love to be blessed again. I have so many mixed feelings, sometimes I think it will work for sure since I have been pregnant and it worked, then other times I feel like we used up all of our luck on the IVF that gave us our little angel. I am sure all these feelings are normal and the meds make me a little crazy right now! I know some of you have twins and are going for another, how was it to have twins? We are also considering that possibility since we were agressive last time and transfered 4.
Will you be less or more agressive this time around? Just wanted to share some thoughts!

Baby dust!

[Warren Dew]

We wanted to be more aggressive the second time around but our RE wouldn't let us.

[angram]

riogirl - We were also blessed with a beautiful baby in early 2009 and are now trying for a sibling. While it wasn't a tough decision on wanting a sibling for Audrey, it was a tough decision on going back for another round of IVF. We feel the same way as you, that we were so blessed with our DD and how could we possibly ask for more? Well we just did ET yesterday and only transfered one embryo, perfect 8-cell grade 1 day-3. My RE wanted to put back 2-3, but DH really doesn't want twins and was adamant about putting only one back in..that was our agreement in even going back to IVF. I was torn on being so conservative, since I'm 38, only made half the follicles this time with double the meds, and am not as fearful of having twins. I really wanted to transfer 2, but want DH to feel comfortable about what we're doing. If you don't mind having twins, I'd say go for it. I finally agreed to putting back one, only because it was perfect and we still have another shot this year at IVF, if needed. So sorry for the novel, but I'd say go as aggresive as your RE feels is safe and as far as you feel comfortable going. I probably wouldn't transfer 4 myself, but I'm only comfortable with having twins, nothing more Good luck with your decision!!

[riogirl71]

angram - congrats for being PUPO!!! we only have 6 follies so I am hoping for a miracle, ER is Friday!

[angram]

riogirl - thank you! We only had 7 follies, 6 eggs retrieved, and 4 mature, which all fertilized using ICSI. Your 6 follies will be great! Keeping my fingers crossed, best of luck, and I'll be thinking about you tomorrow!!

[Angela37firsttimeivf]

Hi all, our baby boy Adam is just over two weeks old. We had him thanks to our third round of IVF (7th try including FETs) and we are so grateful. The problem is this, we have five frozen eggs left over and the thought of them are driving me literally mad. I don't want to just throw them away, but on the other hand, we are kind of happy with just one child. My husband is sure he doesn't want more children, whereas my attitude is more, well lets take a chance, if its meant to be, its meant to be, why else would we have these left over. If we didn't have any left over, the problem would be solved for me. But my husband just says we only froze the remaining ones in case anything went wrong with the first pregnancy, and what's the point in going for another attempt, if we don't really want a second child. He says two children would leave no time for us as a couple, and that he feels too old. (I'm 40, he's 41). But I know if we just said goodbye to them I would be so sad. Of course, it doesn't help everyone around us having two children. Any advice?

[hopeagain2008]

I didn't realize until we were blessed with the first one, that we would want another so badly. Originally after our 1st was born, I was so happy and blessed just to have one, that I thought we were done. It was such a dream come true, we wanted to just enjoy her, rather than worry about doing IVF. But now that my little one is 2yo and growing so quickly, there isn't anything more in the world I would want more, than to have a sibling for her. She is so loving, would be a great big sister and everyone around us has 2 or more. I think our feelings have grown stronger over time--so we would be more aggressive this time around, especially now I am older.

[1dawn1]

We have a baby boy from our IVF and now we are doing a fresh cycle for a sibbling. While we are VERY blessed to have a baby, we of course would love to be blessed again. I have so many mixed feelings, sometimes I think it will work for sure since I have been pregnant and it worked, then other times I feel like we used up all of our luck on the IVF that gave us our little angel. I am sure all these feelings are normal and the meds make me a little crazy right now! I know some of you have twins and are going for another, how was it to have twins? We are also considering that possibility since we were agressive last time and transfered 4.
Will you be less or more agressive this time around? Just wanted to share some thoughts!

Baby dust!

Hi riogirl,
I feel the same way as you do. My husband and I had our son, who will be 2 in June, through a FET. It took us 1 fresh cycle and 3 FET to finally get pregnant! 3rd FET was with a new clinic. We could not do another fresh transfer due to over stim. In any case, we transferred 3 embryos and got 1 PERFECT baby boy! We too felt SO blessed, and of course still do. He is just wonderful.
I kind of knew that I wanted more than one child, prior to getting pregnant, but after our failed attempts and than FINALLY it worked, I wondered if I should press my luck! Was I being greedy? My husband would be perfectly fine with one child, and I will as well if our final FET does not succeed, but I have to give it a try and use what we have left. If it is what God has in his plans for us than it will be.
We did try another FET a couple months ago, that did not work. We have 8 embryos still in storage and have decided to try 1 last time. We are going to have them thaw out all 8 and transfer the BEST 2. We do not want twins, but want to have a better shot in a successful transfer/pregnancy so will transfer more than 1.
My luck throughout this whole process has not been the best, so I am not too scared of having multiples.(although I know it could very well happen)
I also felt like I used up my luck with trying for our first success. Our children do deserve a brother, sister or both and we should try until we are comfortable in not trying anymore, or of course can not afford it! When you look around and see families of 4 or more, do you think they felt the same way we do? I mean, feeling like they should not try because they have been blessed? No, probably not. So why should we feel that way?

[riogirl71]

We did another fresh cycle and only had 3 eggs fertilize out of a total of 6 (the others were not mature). We transfered all 3. I know sometimes it seems unmanageable with even one child, I get overwhelmed. But everyone said it gets easier as they get older. I probably would be happy with one child but I feel like I owe it to my son to give him a sibbling. I am an only child and I really wish I had a sibbling, I want my son to have a sibbling really bad. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and stories! Here is praying for a BFP in a little over a week!!!!