3 failed cycle and 4 th attempt and scared

[bei]

hi everyone hope u all doing great , i m just so scared right now becoz i had 3 faied cycle and this is 4th times i m doing ivf and i never had bfp before and i m just scared becoz it was realy hard on me last time it took me lot of time to come out of that depression . i did 1fresh cycle and 2 fet nothing worked and this is 4th time i m doing it i know if this time i wont get result i would never able to do this again i m ttc from 4 year and i m on ivf journey almost 2 1/2 years i dont even remember any more when i start . i m on this board almost a year when i join this board i had some of the friend and they all almost all of them r pregnant i m tiyed of seeing bfn all the times please any positive story will help

[gi]

Hey bei,

Thanks for the pm - i just sent you back one.
As you can see from my signature i didnt get a sniff of a bfp till my 5th cycle!! Keep the faith some of us just take longer than others, i didnt want to do the 5th cycle as i was all set to do donor by then (my sis said she would be my donor) but jason and the doctor convinced me to give it one more try with my own eggs. I was convinced it hadnt worked, i tested a few days early as i was so fed up and needed a glass of wine! and was sooooo shocked when it was positive. I know i went on to m/c, but got a bfp again on next fet unfortunatley again m/c, i changed clinic got loads of tests and different meds and as you can see i am 12 wks pg (Please God this baby stays). I know how difficult it is right now to believe it can work but if we dont keep trying then it definatley wont work. I wish you and dh all the best

gixxx

[bei]

gi thanks again today i m getting so emotional . but thanks for ur reply after i red ur post i feel like u been thoru a lot too, i should not lose my pma right before ny cycle .

[to_have_fun08]

bei - I also have never even gotten a hint of a BFP. Been trying for 5yrs, 4 canceled IVF and 5 full IVF cycles and nothing. The last 2 cycles have also taken a toll on me. With each BFN it takes longer and longer to get over. I am just so pissed off for 3 or 4 weeks afterward. Now I am just cynical and don't trust what any Dr. says.
Just wanted to let ya know you are not alone. There are a few of us out here that are still struggling. Now I am seeing gals that I cycled with when I first started, going for a 2nd child. It is really hard to keep going but we have to do what we have to do to get a baby. Eventually we will get what we want or run out of funds so we can longer do IVF>


Chris

[mlm03]

bei - don't lose hope. I have been ttc for 5 yrs and have been to 3 different drs. and have tried ivf 3 times. i was getting ready to look at de or adoption but decided to try one last time. i only had 3 eggs retrieved - 2 fertilized and I am finally pregnant! now if I can just make it to the 12 week mark....... the only thing that i have done different from this cycle to my others is i started working out and completely changed my diet. i don't know if it helped or not or if it was just luck! Although my new doctor did change the drug cocktail and went with microdose lupron flare. it didn't help me produce more follicles than i had in the past though, but i did get more eggs than i have in the past.

don't give up!

[hope_for_the_luck]

Hi Bei, if your BFNs were all from the same batch of embryos, it might be that this whole batch of embryos were not good enough. A new fresh cycle will be different. There are many cases like that. I just failed my fresh cycle last month and when talking to my RE he agrees that sometimes women just produce better quality eggs in some months. Don't give up!

hi everyone hope u all doing great , i m just so scared right now becoz i had 3 faied cycle and this is 4th times i m doing ivf and i never had bfp before and i m just scared becoz it was realy hard on me last time it took me lot of time to come out of that depression . i did 1fresh cycle and 2 fet nothing worked and this is 4th time i m doing it i know if this time i wont get result i would never able to do this again i m ttc from 4 year and i m on ivf journey almost 2 1/2 years i dont even remember any more when i start . i m on this board almost a year when i join this board i had some of the friend and they all almost all of them r pregnant i m tiyed of seeing bfn all the times please any positive story will help

[dolo977]

HI Bei,
I can understand how you feel. IVF is an emotional rollercoaster and it is so important to not give up. You have to stay strong and positive. I will give you my background, 1st IVF, transfer was cancelled, embryos were a poor quality. 2nd IVF I had a 3 day transfer and a BFN. 3rd IVF I had 2 perfect 5 day Blasts transferred, I was pregnant and then lost one due to a MC and the other an ectopic which resulted in surgery and removal of tube. I had a terrible time and a painful recovery from the surgery because they had to open me by my stomach. I just recently went through my 4th IVF, I was told that it would be a 3 day transfer and already started to lose hope because it was not a " 5 day Blast", but to my surprise, both took and I am pregnant with twins. I am now entering my 11th week, no guarantee in any pregnancy until the baby is born, but so far, so good. My levels were rising good, the ultrasounds showed 2 strong heart beats. I just want you to know that just because it does not happen the first, second or even third time, does not mean it can't happen. Same with having a 3 day transfer compared to a 5, everyone is different and it does not mean it will or will not happen. You have to decide what your limit is and should that limit be reached and no pregnancy, don't be too hard on yourself. We can only do so much to try and achieve pregnancy, we do not have full control when it comes to that and it makes it very stressful, emotional and difficult to deal with sometimes, but not something that should define who we are and what we will be. Keep trying..... and keep your head up. My doctor helped me by explaining that each cycle is different and the quality, quantity and the way our bodies respond to the meds will vary. I just wanted to write to you because I have walked in your shoes and I want you to know you are not alone and it can happen for you. Good luck

[wishfull27]

Bei - I got my BFP on my 4th Attempt I|VF 1 and 2 used my own eggs and got BFN ( was 39 at time) then went to ED - first cycel - had 2 perfect blasts transferred - BFN then went straight into a FET which I had little hope for as already had no success with 2 grade A b lasts and low and behold as I type this I have 2 gorgeous boys next to me - 12 weeks old - never give up the fight xxxxx

[Debbie67]

I am currently on my 5th cycle.., out of the 4, one didn't make it to transfer and one didn't make it to ER!

May 11th Tues, is my beta test, so I know what you are saying about being scared Bei! I have been going stir crazy!! With the med's it is hard to distinguish between what is symptoms, and what is the mimic of meds! At first about 4 or 5 dpt I had cramping all day, and now I just have this pinch, pull feeling vertical by my belly button.. Probably nothing, I know..
At like 8dpt I POAS! TERRIBLE IDEA!! It was negative! Nurse told me it was way to early, so I felt better! I am not going to do again until my results are positive on Tues! I figure this, if I am PUPO (pregnant until proven otherwise) than I will be just that! I am gonna soak it up ladies!! LOL! Ok so the hormones are talking now!

Chris! We cycled together! I feel you girl! Please don't give up hope,.... any of you ladies. I know this is so so hard, but there is a light at the end of this tunnel!

We are all scared

[1dawn1]

bei,
i got pregnant on my 4th try! 1st cycle was fresh ivf, transferred (2) 5 day blast, perfect! chemical pregnancy.
did 2 fet's with negative results.
moved to new clinic, had to cancel fresh transfer due to over stim. went right into fet and got pregnant.
my son will be 2 this june.
it is definantely hard hearing "sorry" when the phone rings with your results, but so worth it when you get that call that ask "do you want to do the baby dance?"
hang in there!

[bcs19]

Good Luck to you Bei...
I was suppose to go for a FET transfer yesterday and I got a call that all 7 of my frozen embryos did not survive thawing
So confused...
This was my first IVF cycle...I had 13 eggs retrieved and produced 11 embryos of good cell quality (9,8 & 7's). I had 2 fresh transferred, got pregnant with one but miscarried. I was left with 7 frozen (only frozen 2 months) was going for the FET and none survived????? My husband and I are very confused as to why all 7...even my Dr. said it is very unusual for so many at such good cell quality to degenerate.
Any advice or experiences would help...

bcs