Hi Everyone -
Sorry, I have been off for about a week. I am so very, very sorry for the BFNs, and to Lauren and Neffi for your chemical pregnancies

Praying the best for your futures and for healing.
Neffi and Mkd- I am so happy for you to begin the adoption processes! It is an amazing journey, definitely emotional and full of uncertainty, but so is IVF. They are just different. Once you have your children, you will see things in an entirely new light. It won't seem like a last resort, it will just be what it was supposed to be all along.
Mkd, as far as doing IVF at the same time...hmm, that is a personal decision. I personally needed to focus on fertility and adoption at different times because both take a lot out of you. Also, look into if your adoption will be postponed if you become pregnant. That is very common with international adoption, though I'm not sure about domestic (are you in the US or UK?). We were going to have to do IVF from the start, so we decided to adopt first (something I had always planned on), which brought us our DS. Then we were able to do IUIs and natural IVF, so we did that, but when it didn't work, we put it all aside (I thought we were done) and that brought us DD. DH wanted to give traditional IVF a shot, so we did and on the third try it worked. So you can definitely come back to it if you want. I would not start an adoption with the intention of stopping it if you become pregnant, but if you want to do it simultaneously so you can have two (or three) children close together, then that is understandable. Another option would be to start trying again when you are nearing the completion of your adoption.
We were also in a different position, because adoption was in the cards for us (well for me anyway), since I was 16. I have two adopted brothers and for me it was just how families were put together. We thought two adopted and two biological kids would be perfect, and so far we are on pace for that. The path is different than we thought it would be when we got married, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. I could not imagine life without the little boy and girl who were jumping on my bed this morning and and bursting with excitement to give me the Mother's Day gifts they made at preschool.
I am very excited for you both, and please let me know if you have any questions
