failed first attempt and sad

[sabbyk2000]

Just completed the june ivf cycle and I got my period today. What is next? Can you help? I am so upset... four embryos left

[cillile]

Hi,
Sorry to hear about the failed attempt. It is very sad. Most people here would have some idea of how it feels.

Where to from here? If you are able to afford it and up to it, then try the stored embryos. I think perhaps drs are different about how much of a break they like you to take, but if things are good, they might try a frozen cycle to coincide with your next ovulation. Mine offered but it took us a few goes to get the timing right as I ovulated before the usual initial test date.
Talk to him or her and see if they have any ideas on what might have gone wrong (usually there isnt I think as there is a big chance factor here too) and hear their suggestions on how to proceed.

My clinic has nurse counsellors and also psychologists. The nurse counsellors vary, some have been very understanding and a good source of support, others not so much, offering more practical advice and information. They are available almost 24/7 though. The counsellor I saw was good. Had to wait more than a week for an appointment each time (one time more than 3 weeks). It might be a good idea to get to know one if they are available as there may be other times further down the road when youll want some professional support.

Good luck

[JA2JB]

I'm new to this board, but old to IVF. My first attempt also failed in 2007. I was so positive throughout, and I told EVERYONE, so it was devastating. I had to take call after call on the day I got my results from people expecting good news. Only time helped.

Eventually (about 6 months), I went back for a FET, and this time we were successful. Take the time you need to heal before making any decisions. This is an emotionally draining process that few can understand, but find someone you can talk to that won't judge you or try to rush you through your grieving. With time, you'll get through it.

[cillile]

I found getting busy and moving on to the next attempt as quite a good distractor from the sadness and disappointment of the previous failure. But it only worked at that time. When the next attempt failed, I think I did fall heavier, so after a few goes was quite beside myself.
I expect if one of the later ones had been successful, the relief that you would feel would 'make it all worth it'.
I think moving quickly from one try to the next was the best idea for me, with age being such a big factor. If there are no time pressures, then perhaps a slower approach may be kinder to yourself.
Finding someone to talk to about it (I have found here quite helpful. What other people are saying sounds so familiar) is probably a good idea.

[Annariea]

I know this is a sad time for you, but my first attempt I got pregnant it only last 6 weeks. My second attempt failed my third attempt I had a beautiful baby Boy my four attempts I had a beautiful baby Girl. I am telling you this so you want ever gives up hope just never so praying!