August Frozen Transfer

[blairwh58]

Jersey- since today is day 7 so thursday would actually be day 9 after transfer. Debating on testing tomorrow but may try to hold off. How did you like online grad school? I am supposed to be starting my Masters next tuesday with Walden University- an online program. Hoping it works out but not sure how it will go yet. Also depends on whether I'm happy or depressed next week. Hoping for happy though.

[Jerseyjane]

Blair - I liked Phoenix online alot however it was alot more work than when I went to a university here in my state. Phoenix expects tons of participation (like 4 times a week) but my friends that did other online universities had a much easier time with not as many requirements. The thing I liked most was I could work whenever I had a free chance (this was before DD of course).

[kizmet]

JerseyJane - WoooooooooooooooHooooooooooooooo! Yay, I'm so happy for you! I hope all goes well on Thursday.

Yarnista - Hugs. I'm so sorry. Keep us updated on the plans for your next FET though.

Blair - Here's hoping the next week doesn't drag out too slowly for you!

MeloP - Great to hear from you. How are you doing?

Melmar - What's happening for you?

AFM - After getting a good beta result yesterday - 2296 (so it has more than doubled every 48 hours) and progesterone is at 48.5, I'm in a panic this morning because I'm bleeding. Not heavy, just a small clot in the loo first thing this morning and every time I've been since, there's pink on the toilet paper (sorry TMI), so now I've plummeted from absolute joy to being sick with fear. Great. I've got an appointment with my GP at 9,45am so hopefully I can get an OB referral and maybe even get an early ultrasound before the end of the week. Even though there wont be a heart beat yet, at least I could see bean there right? OK, gotta go throw up now.

[blairwh58]

kizmet- Wow that is a great beta. I have read a lot of people have light bleeding the first few weeks and end up with perfectly healthy babies. Hopefully you can get a referral and get in before the end of the week to at least calm your nerves. Still so excited for you though. Keep us posted. My week is already dragging on. And the fact that I want to POAS makes it even worse. I know I shouldnt but its killing me already. I just want to know whether it worked or not.

Jersey- Yea I decided to get my masters online because I dont have the time or money to go back full time. I figured I will at least try the first 2 classes and see how it goes. My work will pay for $5000 a year so this first semester will be covered at no cost as long as I end up with a C or better. I also cant decide for sure what I want to do with my life career wise so I am still hesitant to jump back into school without knowing its really what I want to do.

[Jerseyjane]

Kizmet - Thank you. Now about you... I don't mean to get too personal but did you just have sex? I know alot of women who have bled after sex while they are pregnant, the pink could just be a minor irritation still lingering. Are you having bad cramps as well? If your not then I wouldn't worry. The head nurse at my clinic always said to me, "just bleeding is o.k., just cramping is o.k., bleeding and cramping together...not o.k." Hopefully you can get an appointment with an OB right away. When you make the appointment tell them about the bleeding this way they know how important it is to give you the soonest appointment they have. I'm sure everything is fine. Your beta is great, congratulations.

Blair - That is great that your employer pays for part of your school, mine didn't pay for any. I think even if you are undecided about your career path, take some of the general courses this semester that could be used for various masters. Why do I have a funny feeling that you are going to POAS tomorrow?

[kizmet]

JerseyJane and Blair - Hopefully you're right and I think you are, but it hasn't stopped me going into minor meltdown. I think by now, you all know me well enough to know I have a tendency to overreact...anyway, I'm still bleeding but no cramping, well nothing more than usual anyway. GP has given me a slip, so I can get a beta done whenever I want and the clinic has booked me in for another beta Friday morning after I paniced and rang them this afternoon.

Blair - are you going to POAS or stick it out?

I've seen my GP and gotten a referral for the OB and guess what??? They won't see me until week 12. Yep, WEEK 12! That pretty much means my FS has handed me off to the GP, despite not even telling her what my current drug regime is; my GP has referred me to an OB who won't see me til week 12, so now, although the IVF clinic has still ordered further tests like betas for weeks 6 & 7 and an ultrasound for week 7, then nothing til week 12. Is this normal? I really have no idea, but I do feel a little abandoned! So in an attempt to look after myself, I've done the only logical thing, and bought a pregnancy book. At the rate my specialists are going, that's going to be a whole lot more helpful than they are! It's also a pregnancy journal, so it has sections to fill out on how you're feeling physically and emotionally each week. I love it already.

I was also thinking about all you lovely ladies spread out all over the world and was wondering what type of maternity leave entitlements you all get? With Melo in NZ and did someone say they were in Canada, and everyone else in the US, I'm sure there's a huge variation between countries and individual jobs? I'm very lucky - as I work at a university we have a 6 month maternity leave program on full pay. This can be taken as 12 months half pay with another 12 months available unpaid and you still have a job to come back to. As I have also worked there for 10 years, I can take my 3 months long service leave on full pay (or 6 months half pay) on top of that plus any rec leave owing on full pay. They also have a child care facility on campus and a return to work program which allows you to work more flexible hours when coming back from maternity leave. I can't believe how lucky I am on that front.

[Melo_P]

Hey Yarnista - I'm sorry Big hugs to you.

Jersey - congratulations - thats really awesome

Blair - not long now - will be checking in for your BFP too!

Kizmet - sounds like you got it sorted! Keep your clinic on their toes ... from memory here post 7 week scan - it was just another follow up at wk 12 too. There are crazy natrualists type people (how have no idea of IVF hell obviously) that put a fairly strong case together for not having more US than you need too - not great for bean.

I'm feeling bit anxsious and everynow and again sad and then up in the air about what next. Just eating like a pig, drinking coffee and drinking and trying not to think about it all too much. Follow up with clinic sept 14th

Hugs all

M

[Jerseyjane]

Melo - Good luck at your follow-up visit. I will be looking forward to hearing how it goes.

Kizmet - Here in New Jersey at my clinic they do 2 intial beta tests 2 days apart, then they schedule an ultrasound for week 6, week 7, and week 8. If all is well then they release to you to your OB. They do the ultrasounds in their office so they also do blood work on ultrasound days. My OB also does an ultrasound at the first visit (usually around 9 or 10 weeks) then another ultrasound at 12 weeks, one at 20 weeks, and then not again til 37 weeks. I love my OB because when I was pregnant with my daughter he also did ultrasounds if I was ever feeling really nervous about something. Now moving on to maternity leave, your job sounds amazing! As a teacher I don't get maternity leave (paid). I can use all of my sick/personal days for full pay then take family leave for 6 weeks but that is only 50% of my salary. I do an optional insurance program through work called voluntary disability and I receive full pay, untaxed for 12 weeks. Even though I do not get paid from the Board of Education I can take up to 2 years and return to my position. With my daughter I took 6 months then returned. This time (all goes well God willing) I would probably take 8 months off. I hope your bleeding has stopped.

Blair - Are you peeing today or will you hold out til Thursday?

Itsmyturn - How are you feeling? Isn't your ultrasound coming up real soon?

Yarnista and Melmar - Lots of hugs to you both.

[blairwh58]

jersey- I really want to try and wait as long as I can before I test. I was feeling very positive until here recently. Yesterday I was in a mood where I could have killed DH just by looking at him. For some reason nothing was making me happy. I am starting to worry that maybe it didnt work this time. I dont know why but I just dont have a good feeling about things anymore. Hoping that waiting to test and getting a BFP will make all this go away.

kizmet- Sounds like you have an awesome maternity leave. Over here in the US...we get screwed. 12 weeks is about the longest you can possibly get and still have a job when you get back. 6 weeks off is pretty standard, but I am hoping to be able to take the full 12 weeks. Ideally by then I would be able to quit my job and work from home....but I dont know that its really feasible at this point until DH starts making more money. I cant believe you have to wait until 12 wks to get into the OB- crazy.

melo- Sept 14 will be a good day. My niece and brother in law both have birthdays that day. I cant wait to hear the plans.

itsmyturn- How are you feeling lately?

yarnista- Still doing ok?

melmar- How are you doing?

AFM- Nervous and anxious!! I just dont have a very good feeling this time around. I feel like it should have worked....3 embryos and everything was the way it should be. I dont know where all these negative thoughts are coming from but I need to try and snap out of it. Whats the latest you all got a BFP? Trying to hold off on testing until I know its for sure. How long did you all wait to have sex? Our office told us 1 wk after the transfer but I am too nervous that it will somehow screw something up.

[melmar]

Wow gals - a lot going on!

Congratulations Jane!! That is so awesome! I cannot think of a happier way to go back into the school year!

Yarnista-I am so sorry-how are you hanging in there? We are here for you.

Blair-way to stay strong and not POAS. Wait until you have a positive feeling in the morning and then do it-can't hurt to will the baby gods up above, right?

Kizmet-sounds like you are doing great! FYI-I bled all the way through the 6 month with my last pregnancy. I just stopped looking down when I went to the bathroom. And it wasn't just spotting at times-had to wear pads pretty much through whole pregnancy. In the beginning they said there was nothing they could do-but I went into the hospital a million times when I was worried and just let them do an ultrasound to put the mind at rest. Also-I can take 6 weeks Family medical full pay-but we use our bank of sick days(we get 200 sick days when we get tenured at my school) and 2 unpaid years for every child. So I could have taken four years with the twins and still come back to my job. All in all it is not bad, I just wish they gave more time for a c-section.

AFM-back at school-just coaching tennis this week-so it has been good to be up, busy and moving. I am two pounds away from my goal weight and am hoping I can get there before the 13th when the students start. Really just trying to keep my mind busy so I can decide what I want to do next. I see my doctor tomorrow to discuss "options", but I do not know if I want to go through it again. I am enjoying my family once more and do not want to get into that all encompassing mind state of wanting to have another baby again. I really feel that with this last try I was too absorbed in it and missed out on two weeks with the family that I have right in fromt of me-I do not want that again. If I do anything I think I will just go back to IUI-if it works it is meant to be and if it doesn't than at least I am not spending another million dollars, doing tons of shots and going through mental breakdowns. Obivously you can see that I am vascilating as I write this....will tell you about appointment tomorrow then!

Happy baby vibes to all!! Sooo happy for you and can't wait to follow you on your journey!

[itsmyturn79]

Hi girls, i had to change of username because i couldn t login anymore under itsmyturn. I was very frustrated as i see all the good news from yesterday. Anyway i am back!

Jerseyjane, i am so HAPPY for you!!! CONGRATULATION!!!! wow, this is so cool!!!!!!!good luck with your 2nd beta tomorow. In my clinic, if your beta come over 100, then you don t need to go to the 2nd one! so don t stress!! let us know when is your 1st us scheduled!

Yarnista, i am so sorry!!! you know we are here for you.Send you big hugs xxx

Blair, i feel your pain, those last days are real mind torture!!! i think you are safe to start tomorow!!! make sure you don t drink any fluid over night, just to get the max hcg concentration!!!empty your bladder before you go to bed!!i would be so waiting for your post. Best of luck

Kizmet, your beta look great, you should be feeling releive!!! you got a viable pregnancy!!!!don t worry about the bleeding it s quite commun!!! as long as it s not heavy, everything is fine. So tell me what is happening now! how are still gonna have the 6th week us? or do you have to wait for week 12. Hope you can get a u/s sooner and that you feel very good with your new ob.

melo, would be waiting for the 14 of september. Hope you find a way to take your stress out! you need to feel better for your next try!!

Melmar, good luck for yomorow, will be waiting for your post.

AFM, have very strong nausea today, and my breast soreness comes and go. I am dreaming like crazy and extremly anxious! can t wait for my u/s next monday. When i ll see an heartbeat then i would be more relax and more confident to tell my parents and close friends the following week end! wishing everyone a beautifull day!! xxx

[Jerseyjane]

Melmar - It's so good to hear from you and thank you. I think IUI is a great choice, so much less invasive. My cousin had twins from IVF because they told her that was her only option. Then went back for round 2 and they said she was no longer a candidate. Anyway she basically convinced the doctor to try IUI and she got pregnant her first try. So who knows right? Good luck.

Itsmyturn - So good to hear from you as well. I am so sorry about the nausea, that stinks. I can't wait to hear about your ultrasound. When next week is it?

Blair - I hope your day is getting better and just know that the hormones make you crazy. I had a day like that last week where I couldn't even help myself from fighting with DH. I just kept going and going. I kind of think you might feel better if you POAS. I have a good feeling about this.

AFM - So tomorrow will be so hectic. It is the students first day of school and already I had to tell my principal that I will be 30 minutes late to work. I have to drop DD off at daycare, then get to clinic by 8:00 for my 2nd beta, then race to school. I am supposed to sign in by 8:30 which is obviously not going to happen, then I have a meeting all morning. I guess that will make waiting for the phone call go by a little faster.

[blairwh58]

melmar- It is good hearing from you. As for the IUI I think its a great option. We in fact did 3 IUIs which are so much cheaper, but DH counts are too low to consider it an option again. Was watching the new show on TLC and apparently the couple ended up with quints because of IUI- so watch out. Best of luck and keep up posted on things with you.

Jersey- Today was much better hormone wise, but I did have such a bad headache that I ended up leaving work an hour early so I could lay down in the dark. Its better now thankfully. I think its good you have a meeting to help pass the time tomorrow while you are waiting on the phone call- that always helps distract me. I cant wait to hear what your 2nd beta results are though!!

itsmyturn- That stinks you got locked out and had to change user names...what a hassle. It also stinks that you have bad nausea today (even though its a good sign pregnancy wise). I am sure once you have your ultrasound and see whats going on in there you will feel so much better and less anxious. I cant wait to hear about it.

kizmet- how have you been feeling lately? I am still so jealous of the maternity leave. Maybe I should try and convince DH that we should move overseas for awhile. I also looked back...so did you not test positive until 11dpt? Just trying to figure out whats the latest someone tested and ended up pregnant.

AFM- Still trucking along. 8dpt today. Im sure the temptation to test will here even more tomorrow morning so we will see how much pressue I can handle. I know I would feel better testing but only if it came out positive. I think at this point if it was negative I would start the depression stage. I did read online today that with frozen transfers people usually have lower hcg levels...which makes me think it could take longer to show up on a home test.

[kizmet]

JerseyJane - You've got no idea how much better it makes me feel when I read that someone else "just keeps going and going" when it comes to fighting with DH. Then he'll say something like "would you just listen to yourself" which only makes it worse until I actually do listen and then think "OMG, I am a nutcase!".

Blair - I got my first positive 10dp5dt. If I ever have to do this again, I wouldn't even contemplate testing before then, I might even be able to hold out til the morning of the first beta (so I had an idea of what to expect from that phone call). The negatives just knocked me too hard despite the fact I knew I'd just gone too early. I hope the headache has passed. As far as sex goes, our clinic said not within 24 hours of transfer but we waited a week because I was just too nervous, and this is probably TMI, but now we are back to normal activity (I think those pills are still doing their trick on me! DH is keen for me to stay on them forever!).

Melmar - Great to hear from you. I love your attitude and I think you'll make the right decision for yourself and your family no matter what when it comes to another baby.

Itsmyturn - i think I'm almost jealous of your nausea!I think I'd feel BETTER if I felt sick. I just feel physically normal other than some light cramping every now and again and I'm really tired but that's mainly because of the drug regime I think because I have to take a pill at 10.30pm and a pill and pessary at 6.30am, so I don't usually get to sleep until 11.30pm and wake well before the alarm, usually around 5.30am and since I'm a 9 hours a night kind of girl, this 6 hours just isn't cutting it! I've got an appointment for an ultrasound at 7 and a half weeks on the 15 Sept. Not too long to wait now really. Good luck with yours!

Melo - Good luck on the 14th, let us know what you decide.

AFM - Bleeding has stopped, panic has passed. I'm thinking I'll cancel the appointment for the extra beta tomorrow. If something has gone wrong (which I'm now convinced it hasn't) what can I do about it anyway? I've got my third beta on Tuesday, so it's not much of a wait.

[Jerseyjane]

Kizmet - You sound soooo much better I am so glad. Hooray for an ultrasound appointment!!! I think you have such a wonderful attitude and I probably would have canceled the beta for Friday as well. As far as the fighting goes, I too do realize at some point and say to myself, "shit you're absolutely crazy" but that still doesn't stop me from carrying on. For some reason I enjoy keeping the quarreling going, it's like I have to end it when I'm good and ready.

Blair - You see Kizmet got a positive 10 days past, I think itsmyturn got one 9 days past a 3 day transfer, and I tested at 6 days past and got a negative, then I tested again on 8 days past and got that faint positive. I think if you do decide to POAS and you really are trying to wait til the latest possible time I'd say try 11 days past your transfer. I think that should be long enough to wait, but then again there are some people that get a negative the day before their beta and actually have a positive beta test. Whatever you decide it sounds like it's eating at you so maybe it's better to just go for it and test, at least you'll have some idea. Oh, I just remembered you had asked about sex, I still haven't yet. My clinic says none for 2 weeks so that will be Thursday and even then who knows when I will. I honestly don't even feel like I want to be bothered right now. I know that sounds horrible but when I was just on estrace I was like "sure honey, let's go" now I think to myself "ughh I am so not in the mood." Hopefully that will change for his sake (lol).