Gem's thread

[Tracey S]

Gem

Putting all this on here as you deserve your own thread to - I mean you are PG so it needs to be recognized on it's own too.

Posted: 19 May 2004 14:12 Post subject:

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Hi all you lovely ladies
We have one lovely baby with a strong heartbeat,it measures what it should for 7 weeks and 1 day we go for our 9 week scan on 2nd June so another 2 ww wait.We are so happy its so hard to think that another heartbeat is beating inside of me.I got my dates right I was 7 weeks yesterday,I was so nervous this morning I was laid in bed at 6am wide awake thinking about the scan,we've just come back from a lovley lunch its so nice to have dh back but very frustrating I forgot to ask about sex at the clinic I think we might have to give in soon or see if we can wait til our 9 week scan.
Caz so happy your levels have gone up so now try and relax,which day is your scan?
Bina you made me laugh about the pg test I've got one left and I was tempted this morning.
Tania Not long til your scan and no it doesnt sound early I should have had mine last thursday but the dr was off sick so thats why I've had one today at 7 weeks.
They also saw an empty sac on my scan which measured 5 weeks which she said loooked like it had implanted but had come away so it should absorbe back but they will check on the next scan,we were so happy we had one healthy heartbeat,my ovaries are still enlarged which is common for after ivf treatment which is prob why my belly is big and there was a dark area which was enlarged which is common so that might explain my backache its easy to forget we have been trough ivf with all the drugs as well as get pregnant it takes a few weeks for everything to go down after the drugs.Tracey are you going to try for a normal birth? bet you cant belive how which time is going,when is your due date?
Sorry to hear Dagny is feeling down but it is to be excepected as wasnt her daughter due next month which must be so hard as well as start treament again,we are all here if she needs us,but understand that she as to have a few days away.
I can stop the pessaries when they run out which is tonight,is this ok I haev some left over from the Oct/Nov cycle so I could carry on an dtake them,but I know our bodies make our own now we are are pregnant so I can stop them tonight,it just makes you feel better doing somthing,if you know what I mean.
Well I've had a lovley day of work with dh and i'm out tonight on a leaving do at a chinese,my best friend who works at the same school is leaving to go to Camp America in June til Oct I will be gutted to see her go as she as been my rock during treatment and a very good friend so 21st June will be a sad day.
Hope everyone else is ok and not worrying too much
Love gemxxx
7 weeks and 1 day

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Tracey S



Joined: 29 Apr 2003
Posts: 1367
Location: Lincs
Posted: 19 May 2004 14:25 Post subject:

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GEm

How wonderful - I had assumed you had both gone out for lunch rather than being worried about you. You are a card though - I really think it would be best and nice if you set up your own thread with this news - why don't you copy and paste all your news and set up a thread so the others can find it easily.
I never had another scan at 9 wks - my clinic don't do them so had to sweat it out until 12 - yikes!!!! Sounds like you are doing fine and honestly it is fine to stop the pessaries - you don't need to hunt out any more. I do understand what you mean though - they (even tho they drive me round the twist) become like crutches and I immediately thought I would lose my babies when I stopped - this last time I stopped a few days early as they were driving me crackers! Hot flushes and bloating and all sorts! Just stop them you will be fine.
As for sex - it is really ok but you could just ring the clinic and ask a nurse - they won't mind - just to make sure but there is nothing I have read to indicate there is a problem - up to both of you of course but I would wedge in a few sessions before you feel sick
Dagny is fine - she has a bad day today as her best friend is giving birth to her second and this baby and Dagny's would have grown up together. She actually is very strong so she will pull through I know.
AS for me well have been enjoying the garden and went round for a friends for coffee this morning and left my adolescent dog to eat all the fish food and generally be naughty like toddlers are She can be a right one! My due date is 13th August but think I might be having another spurt! Yikes - have a scan next thursday and am 28 weeks this Friday which is a big milestone in twins and well singletons as they have a 90% chance of survival!
Last time they said all ok for a natural - I know if I pushed otherwise they would do what I wanted. Head one is down and they don't think she will move as she is a stubborn git (can't imagine for one moment where she gets it ) and the other is breach and think she might stay like that or transverse as twin one is hogging the space and the other one is being feisty and trying to snatch some back (not sure where that comes from either??? ) so if twin one stays head down they suggest a natural regardless of twin two which might turn after delivery of one or they will turn (ouch) or will deliver breach (even more ouch) - but as I am in for close monitoring we have to see.
Must dash - need a drink - cold and non alcoholic of course!
I am thrilled for your news and can't resist it TOLD YOU SO!!!!!
Love
Tracey
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ttc for 9 years. 37 yrs old - dh is 8 hours younger!First IVF in August 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF was negative.3rd go FET and negative.4th go FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th go FET and pg with twins - hopefully this time

[Tracey S]

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Posted: 19 May 2004 14:28 Post subject:

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Hi Gem

I just want to tell you how happy I am that you got to see your little miracle and it's heart beating away. I can remember feeling exactly the same as you about the fact that there is another heart beating inside you. It's a bit freaky to start with but the bonding starts as soon as you see it. Oh Gem enjoy every minute of it as it is such a miracle and so special. Being PG is such a short time in the grand scale of life but can seem a lifetime waiting for scans and things but you have got to this stage and it is wonderful.

I am feeling a little less weepy today but still having the odd wobbly moment. You are right, my daughter was due next month so it will be difficult but knowing that I have all you lovely girls to see me through really helps me a lot.

You take care of your 'little beating baby heart'

Good luck to everyone else having scans and enjoy this special time.

Love Dagny xkx
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TTC 4.5 years Me 35 tubal damage DH 37
1st- IVF Aug 2001 -ve & severe OHSS
2nd- 1/2 IVF 1/2 ICSI Feb 2003 -ve
3rd- ICSI Aug 2003 +ve Daughter Katelyn born Feb 2004 @ 24 wks PG but sadly died 3 minutes later
Hoping to start 4th tmt in June 2004

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gem



Joined: 28 Jun 2003
Posts: 317
Location: barnsley south yorkshire
Posted: 19 May 2004 14:54 Post subject:

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Thanks Dagny
That was such a lovley post you know exactly what to say where I struggle to find the right words,you made me shed a few tears with your post I will be praying that your next treatment will work and you will get a brother or sister for Katelyn,you really deserve it.
Look after yourself
Love Gemmaxxxx

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alisonn



Joined: 24 Nov 2003
Posts: 206
Location: sevenoaks kent
Posted: 19 May 2004 15:52 Post subject:

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wonderful news gem, hope u can now try and enjoy being PREGNANT
without worrying too much.
well done alisonn x


Love
Tracey
xxx

[Dagny]

Tracey

Wot are you like??????? As David would say, "You have too much time on your hands!"

You are right though as ever, Gem does deserve her own thread.

Love Dagny xkx

[Tracey S]

I hope you have not been telling David everything I do and say!!!
HE already probably thinks I am a bad influence!!

Just had an email from Nik - she has DH's parents up so is busy!!!

What am I like - according to another thread of yours "Tracey is a flapper" - better than slapper I suppose

Course I am right about Gem's own thread - poor Dolly and the worry though
Love
Tracey
xxx

[Dagny]

I know, Dolly has just had the rugged pulled from under her again the poor thing. I really hope it turns out to be OK. I have just posted to her and I came across as such a ***** I was just trying to tell her not to read up too much on the net but I know I would be just the same. I hope she doesn't get too offended.

Ooooohhh I wished I had done a deliberate typo and put slapper instead of flapper Tee hee hee heeeeeeeeee

Sorry Gem, your thread, I'll sign off.

Dagny xkx

[phil]

hi gem,

i'm so happy for you both, and baby. sounds as though you had a lovely day, you deserve it.

phil x

[bina]

Gem,
I'm soooooooooooooooooo pleased for you! This is exactly how it's supposed to be! Fantastic news! Enjoy it!
Congratulations!
Caz - even I hadn't thought of worrying about the second empty sac thing, so I'm amazed somebody else can be even more inventive at the worrying game than me....! So please let's not make it into a competition - seems we're all so different.........
Tracey, can you not sort us all out once and for all......when does the worrying really get better? Ever? When the baby's here it'll really start, won't it???
Gem, so chuffed it's all good news for you!
Love to everyone,
bina

[Tracey S]

The worrying improves at various stages - you will find it is much better after 12 wks - that milestone and then again after 20 wks! For me that was a nightmare as Oliver had died on my 20 wk scan but don't want to set you all off again - this is very rare!!!

Now I am worrying more about the birth and if they are growing enough but this is not very often - I enjoy it more. I will no doubt be a nightmare again after - oh for a stress free life.

Enjoy and don;t start worrying about not worrying about Caz's worries - yikes what is happening to me

Love
Tracey
xxx

[gem]

Tracey you are a star and so sweet
Thanks for making my own tread I feel like I really belong here now.
Yesterday was such a lovely day one i will remember forever,but I'm afraid today as been one i want over,everything was ok at work until playtime dont know if you guys know that I'm a nursery nurse in a special needs school it was end of play and I was getting my class in we were waiting at our door for it to be opened and as we were waiting one boy from the other class who as alot of behavoural promblems as well as being austisic well he came running out of his class and was just about to knock a girl in my class flying luckly I saw him in time and managed to stop the girl from falling I caught her using my hands and side I was very aware not to stop her front on with my belly ,but it was such a scare that once the children were insde I just broke down in tears thinking about what could have happened I have never been as scared in all my life,the teacher and csa who I work with and have known about the treatment and the miracle were brill but the tears would not stop I think it wasa bit of shock as well these children are lovely and I love them dearly but some are very rough and being in the playground or in assemblies and whole department things I do feel very valuable luckly the people I work with are lovely and I always sit away from the ones that are likely to kick off,but as not everyone in the primary department knows its very hard keping safe esp in the playground so now I'm swapping my dinner time break and feeding instead so I'm not in the playground but Denise and Annette have both said i should think careful and go on sick until I past 2 weeks,I dont know as I'm not one for going on sick but I was so scared today what if something happens this is too important to mess up,We break up for half term next friday so I've only got tomorrow and next week to work I might see what I feel like tomorrow and maybe think about having next week off and going back after half trem where i would ahev had my 9 week scan,What do you guys think?
When I got home from work and told dh I started crying again he was really worried as I couldnt talk with all the crying but dh as said as I used my side which is a bit tender and the baby is really protected so its very unlikely that it would have been harmed he said its up to me about having time off but he did say that as I'd got that upset and scared this afternoon that the stress wouldnt be any good for me or the baby.
Sorry for rambling but I had to get today off my chest and you are all so dear to me I class you alll as my friends.
Thhanks again for my separate tread
Love gemxxxx
Who cant stop looking at the scan photo

[Tracey S]

GEm

Poor you - if it helps - might not I totally understand - I was like Coco the flaming clown at that stage and must say after some weeks of improvement am back to even worse (another story) Firstly at 9 weeks I slipped on some lettuce in the market - don't ask and went flat over and was in tear incase I had crushed them or something - it worried me for ages and would not go to the market again just in case............
NExt my Weimarner puppy who by this stage was in adolescent mode and decided to go skidding on the ice with a great stick and came charging at my tummy at 90 miles an hour - I got the full force - this was 10 weeks - they both survived and I had a friend who fell of her horse at 10 weeks and ok - bit of bleeding but fine............

The thing is to do what you feel comfortable with and what you won't regret - it would be dreadful for you to look back and say "wish I hadn't of done that or wish I had taken that time off". Take half term as time to relax and think and seriously think about the extra week off - the world won;t stop turning will it without you? Then you have the 12 week scan.
Try not to worry too much and you will cry - it's hormones!!!

You are very welcome in having your own thread
Love
Tracey
xxx

[Helen Reid]

Hi Gem

Congratulations on your scan.
It must of had been so scary what happened. Your work sounds really supportive which is good.
Like Tracey says do what you think is right. A couple of weeks off work would not do you any harm but you might find it difficult to go back.

Take it easy

Helen

[Dagny]

Hi Gem

Gosh, how scarey it must have been for you. I would be tempted to take that extra week for half term as you would never forgive yourself. I worked in a school and know what it's like when the little 'uns run around with their eyes shut half the time and just charge into you. I didn't work when I was PG mostly as I was so sick but I just thought it wasn't worth the risk. Like you said perhaps you can do other duties rather than in the playground.

I can remember my friends little boy head butting me in the tummy when I was 10 weeks and was convinced it was game over but your body does protect the baby a bit like an airbag! Some people who don't even know they are PG carry on doing all sorts of stuff which we wouldn't even consider as we have been through so much to get there.

Hope you are feeling a bit more relaxed and less shocked now.

Take care and look forward to the 12 weeker it's amazing!!!!!!!!!!

Love Dagny xkx

[phil]

hi gem, you must have had a dreadful scare. the good thing is that the baby is really well protected but i do know what you mean. when we were flying out in holiday i was lying down and something fell out of the overhead locker right onto my bump. it hurt and that made me so, so scared that if i felt it then what about the baby, i understand how you feel.

why dont you take some time off work (wise words tracey) and get your next scan behind you. it will do you good.

phil x

[alisonn]

hihi gem, i can imagine what a scare u must have had, i personaly
think u should take the girls at work advise and take the week off, all
ivf babies i think our extra special considering all we have to go thru
and what is a week off in the life u have a head of you, and also
your dh wont be worrying. My sister in law had a similar experience,
she works with adults with special needs and it made her very wary.
I suggest u take the week off, put your feet up, stay in bed, go
shopping what ever just enjoy being pregnant without worrying
yourself too much. alisonn xx

[bina]

Hi Gem,
So sorry to hear about your scare! I so understand it must be frightening, but what the others have said really makes sense! There is so much natural protection around that I'm sure it must be fine; and as you're not having any funny symptoms , surely it's all OK.!!! just look back at your scan picture and imagine your miracle growing every minute...!
I'm back to worrying, because these yo-yoing symptoms are just druving me mad; one day I'm sick, next few I'm not; one day boobs big and sdore, next few days they're not; It's driving me insane. Can't my body make up its mind? Can't wait for my scan on Tuesda, but feeling VERY apprehensive, because tummy seems to have gone down, which surely can't be a good sign..!
AARRGGHHHH, driving myself mad here - so won't carry on!
Happy Sunday to all of you!
Lots of love,
bina