Looking for November Cycle Buddies

[mellow4]

I am freaking out! I just got a call saying they are moving my transfer to tomorrow. I was told yesterday it would be on Saturday. I hope everything is okay. What a crappy day I am having and this is just topping it off. I pray there isn't a problem.

[riogirl71]

mellow praying that everything is fine good luck with transfer!

[mellow4]

Talked to my RE. She said they didn't check them today, and has no idea why they are trying to do a day 3. She is going to call the embryologist in the morning to get a report, and if all is still looking well, we are switching to a 5 day as was originally planned. Stress levels are through the roof tonight...sheesh. So, I won't know until tomorrow. But, I have to say...advocate for yourself ladies. They don't do it for you, they look out for themselves and their time is precious to only them. Speak up if you are feeling unsure. I have lost too much by not being pushy enough...no more. I have had it. I will not lose another child or embyos because some idiot Dr. doesn't want to listen.

Okay, enough of my rant...just had to get that out.

[karenthescorpio]

Annashope- I'm so sorry my friend. This just sucks and I feel so sad with you. I'm saying a prayer for you for peace and comfort. Xoxoxoxo

Rio and Sonya- congrats!!!!!!

[margi26]

Anna: My dear friend. My heart is very heavy and I am so very sad for you. This is so unfair. Please hold DH close and although this isn't your cycle--you will be a wonderful mother some day. You are in my thoughts and in my prayers. If there is anything that I can do--please let me know. (((HUGS)))

[margi26]

Mellow: What on earth?! How confusing...you are so right--advocating for yourself is so very necessary and important. I am sorry for the stress, but glad that you are asking questions and taking control! Best of luck with the transfer--whether tomorrow or Saturday! And always feel free to rant--that is why we are here.

Let us know what the embryologist says in the morning? Try to get some good sleep tonight.

[riogirl71]

Margi - your IUI tomorrow? If so awesome luck to you!

[Blessedmomof1thruIVF]

Sorry all but I can't do personals today I just got probably the worst news I have gotten in a very long time. My mom was admitted in the hospital last night. They are running tests because they found a tumor and strongly feel that she has cancer. She has a severe infection which is delaying the tests so tomorrow we should know more.

I haven't been online in 2 days and I haven't really thought about it until it was time for my injections last night and I was in the ER with my family. The amount of stress is unbearable right now and I am hoping it will get better but it might get worse. We are on day 8 of stimming. Is this cycle not going to work for the stress from the above, should I cancel the cycle if we get back news tomorrow? My DH wants us to continue...

[cwehrs]

Hi all, I'm new to this board but hope you don't mind my joining your little group! I'm having a really stressful day and need some support. This is my first IVF attempt, DH is 39 with male factor (5% morphology), and I am 38 and have always had irregular cycles. We tried IUI 15 years ago without success (we've been married 20 years next July), but couldn't afford to go beyond that at the time. Just recently my husband got a new job with insurance that covers IVF (yay)! We restarted the whole workup process, and the doctor insisted on trying IUI again. So after 3 failed attempts at that we are now on to IVF. Here's where the stress/disappointment sets in. All my ultrasounds looked great, I seemed to respond well to the meds, and I had 15 follies going into the ER yesterday. So I went in really excited. Then I come out of anesthesia to discover that they only got 5 eggs. 5 ??????? I know that it's common to not have an egg in every follie, but 5? So now I'm waiting around to hear today how many (if any) actually fertilized. I'm just so discouraged. My husband is trying to be so upbeat and saying "don't worry, we only need 1", but I was really hoping to have extras to freeze. Now I'm just hoping that we have SOMETHING to transfer on Monday. Honestly, if it doesn't work out I don't know how I'm going to find the courage to go through it all again, especially if I'm going to have the same poor result. All the needles, the emotional roller-coaster, all of it. I know it's too soon to be so negative, but I just can't help it. A woman I work with did IVF a couple of years ago and it worked the first try and she has SIXTEEN frozen embabies. Really? It just seems so unfair! Anyway, thanks for putting up with my little rant. Maybe I'll get a call this afternoon that all 5 fertilized and all this negativity will be for nothing.

[DandMe]

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[DandMe]

Hi all, I'm new to this board but hope you don't mind my joining your little group! I'm having a really stressful day and need some support. This is my first IVF attempt, DH is 39 with male factor (5% morphology), and I am 38 and have always had irregular cycles. We tried IUI 15 years ago without success (we've been married 20 years next July), but couldn't afford to go beyond that at the time. Just recently my husband got a new job with insurance that covers IVF (yay)! We restarted the whole workup process, and the doctor insisted on trying IUI again. So after 3 failed attempts at that we are now on to IVF. Here's where the stress/disappointment sets in. All my ultrasounds looked great, I seemed to respond well to the meds, and I had 15 follies going into the ER yesterday. So I went in really excited. Then I come out of anesthesia to discover that they only got 5 eggs. 5 ??????? I know that it's common to not have an egg in every follie, but 5? So now I'm waiting around to hear today how many (if any) actually fertilized. I'm just so discouraged. My husband is trying to be so upbeat and saying "don't worry, we only need 1", but I was really hoping to have extras to freeze. Now I'm just hoping that we have SOMETHING to transfer on Monday. Honestly, if it doesn't work out I don't know how I'm going to find the courage to go through it all again, especially if I'm going to have the same poor result. All the needles, the emotional roller-coaster, all of it. I know it's too soon to be so negative, but I just can't help it. A woman I work with did IVF a couple of years ago and it worked the first try and she has SIXTEEN frozen embabies. Really? It just seems so unfair! Anyway, thanks for putting up with my little rant. Maybe I'll get a call this afternoon that all 5 fertilized and all this negativity will be for nothing.

This journey is nothing if not emotional. There will be ups and downs and a million little milestones to cross, each one more stressful and difficult than the last. I'm always a 'silver lining' kind of girl... so I'd like to say .. a huge yay for your insurance covering your IVF!!! I'm assuming you get a few cycles covered? I've seen too many people put all their savings into one cycle and have it totally fail... that's sad. One thing that you must avoid is to compare yourself to anyone else. There is no way that one of us will have a cycle that's just like another... some of us will get dozens of eggs, some will get three. It's just how it is... and it isn't fair and it sucks. Many of us will go through more than one cycle to get our precious babies. I am on my third (second IVF and one FET). It was heartbreaking, but we had to accept that just getting IVF was not a guarantee that we would get a baby. That was hard to accept.

I had 32 eggs, 22 were mature but only 17 fertilized... we transferred three and froze five. I was heartbroken that we lost 26 eggs... silly of me.. looking back. Getting five eggs is awesome, although you may not get frosties, you will most likely get two or three that are great for transfer. And your DH is right.. it only takes one!! Are you doing ICSI? Don't be shy about talking about how you feel, trust me, we ALL go through periods of sheer agony and disappointment, so you are not alone. I will be praying for your awesome five eggs to get a wonderful fertilization report!! Meanwhile, you can ask your RE what you can do next time to try to get more eggs.. if you need a next time! Perhaps you triggered too soon...? Big hugs... thanks for sharing.. and keep us updated on your fert report.

[annashope]

My sweet sweet IVF sisters where would I be without you. Thank you so much for your warm support and all the hugs it REALLY helped. So what did we do? well we got drunk We got together with my wonderful in-laws ( I am closer with them than my own parents) and I made a pot roast (DH's favorite) and we toasted to future success. If I have learned anything from this board is that while this journey is hard and unpredictable in the end we do succeed. I am gonna hold onto that and live vicariously through you girls for the next few months. Unfortunately right now we just don't have the money to do another fresh cycle and we are hoping to be able to do this again in late spring or early summer. I have seen many of you go through terrible losses and bfn and to see you girls finally get bfp's is so very encouraging. For now we will focus on our son and our two wonderful furbabies. It still hurts but I am getting better. I have to admit this was the hardest BFN for me since even the RE is shocked that it failed and as always there is no answer as to why. Hopefully the time off will help as this is the first time I actually felt like I couldn't do this anymore--Thank God I am better now and we will keep trying.

Blair I am so thrilled with your bfp. I have watched you go through the Chemical in July and bfn in August and I am just thrilled that this finally worked for you. You so deserve this and as mentioned before it helps to see that this precess does eventually work. Yay and congrats I can't wait to hear the beta

SD- Good luck with the POAS but I have to admit ---it is the work of the devil...lol once you start it is so adictive you just can't stop I can't wait to see your bfp

Rio- congrats girl!!!You are pregnant and that line is not faint!!! I can't wait to hear the beta

Jenmink--how are you preggo? and where are the POAS pics? we need those pics to know that positive tests do exist..lol

Blessed--I am so sorry about all the stress you are going through I will keep you in my prayers. Please don't give up yet as insane as it sounds anything can change and you have already put so much hard work into it. Also as a Cancer survivor myself I can tell you it is tough and scary but it is treatable and curable you just have to have faith and be strong. I am sure your mom would not want you to stop working for a grand-baby for her. Again I may be wrong and you have to do what is right for you. All I can offer is my positive thoughts and prayers. Hang in there

Mellow--you are so right. You have to fight for yourself all the time....and why the heck are they not checking them???? my RE called every day with updates on the embies with our fresh cycle...ugh makes me so mad for you. Well 5dt is great I am keeping my fingers crossed for you and sending you lots of lucky thoughts

Margi---thanks again for all your thoughts and prayers. DH and I talked about doing iui's in the meantime but have not decided yet. I think in a way we are still really hurt by the bfn. However I have browsed the net and there a hundreds of stories of successful iui's so maybe I will be joining you in the iui madness. I am just curious are the stim meds as expensive for iui's as ivf? I have only ever done iui's on clomid which I hate---it makes my lining so thin

Kerenthescorpio---how are you? thanks for your warm message

Krisinger---how are you holding up?

I know I missed many of you but I am sending you all baby dust and sticky thoughts.

[mellow4]

Love you Anna! I'm so sorry you have been feeling down. I will keep praying for you, and thinking of you. So glad to be able to call you a friend. I'll be rooting for you when you are able to try again. I did 4 IUI's with Gonal, maybe you could try that, if you don't have male factor issues. It's worth a try anyway.

Blessed~ What a tough decision to make. So much stress, makes it hard to make the right choice. You have to do for you what you feel is best. You can still be there for your mom and pursue this at the same time...it doesn't mean you are just thinking of yourself. I'm guessing if you asked your mother she would tell you to go ahead with it...your family needs some happy news. Hang in there.

Haven't got the call yet, so I don't know if they are going to make me transfer today or let me wait until Saturday. Will see.

[margi26]

Anna: Pot roast and alcohol--perfect "comfort" combination.
I am so glad that today you are able to look forward....I of course am very hopeful regarding the IUIs despite my old age We, too are doing it for financial reasons, but I have read lots of success stories, and there is a link to an article that helped me feel better regarding outcomes with stims that I can send you the link to. Yes, the stims are still pricey, but you don't use as much--I even stimmed less days than I did for IVF, so it doesn't hit the pocketbook quite as hard. I am using a quarter of the daily dose (of Gonal-F) that I used for IVF and was worried at first it wouldn't be "enough" but I have had good response--# of follie-wise. This time my E2 level is double the last cycle, so although I had smaller follies, they are producing more E2 so I am hopeful that there are some good eggs in there. It is also so much less stress on your body than ER and ET. Have you considered using DHEA while you wait to restart? There are a few converts out there (Rio) and although it is ideal to use it for 3 months, I think using it for a month or two (as I did) couldn't hurt and could help as well. (And it is super-cheap--Amazon) Did you use any acupuncture? Sorry...I don't remember. I am using that for the IUIs and find it keeps me much more relaxed. Keep your head up--you are such a wonderful woman. Also, what stims do you use? Occasionally there are folks on here with "extras" to share. This is such a wonderful, supportive network in so many ways. Take good care of yourself right now. You need to pamper yourself.

Mellow: Where is that call!?

[MYIZZY]

Hi everyone:
Thanks for all the updates and posts, even though I don't say much.....just reading and catching up from the past 2 weeks, I'm balling with tears of joy and tears of sadness for all your different stories. I did my fet on 11/11, the re said it went well, but like I know what a "good" frozen blast is supposed to look like....just seeing the pictures made me start crying because this is my last chance...I did what they said and laid around all weekend. I had some blood work done on 11/17 and they said my estrog & progest. levels were great, but that my thyroid numbers were off the wall...and the meds had better start working or there will be trouble if the transfer worked. I go for my 1st blood test on 11/22. I'm so dam scared, so sick of the worrying. Does anyone else have thyroid issues with this?