Hi all
Thanks to everyone that tried to keep me positive
but it was not meant to be for me this time
the scan i went for the thursday before last i should have been 9wks PG and i so wanted to see the heart beat but it was not there and had not grown anymore than it had and was told the pregnancy was not going anywhere we were totaly crushed i had to go into hospital last thursday and have a ERPC which was a horrible experience but had to be done as i did not want to wait as i was given the option of that or to m/c waiting a week was long enough, now all i can do is look forward and hope i am given the chance again to get another positive and everything to go ok though i sit and wish things could have been different if its not meant to be its just not i guess i am still very sad by it all but will fight on i have 8 frozen embies to use and will as soon as i feel i can and i also need to ask the docs how long before i can start again which will probably be a couple of months anyway.
Though i count this as a bad experience i still feel lucky to have got as far as i did the hospital told me it was just one of those things that happens and me i just think why me well my luck just ran out but i am so hoping i will get lucky again.
Good Luck to everyone having treatment and testing soon
Hi Susan, I was so sorry to read your post. I have been through something similar and now how much it hurts.
You sound like you are managing to stay positive even after such a horrible experience. Which is something that I didn't manage to do.
Take time to spoil yourself.
Love and big hugs
Dolly
Me 38 / DH 40. TTC 8 yrs
3 natural pg - 2 ectopics and 1 miscarriage
2nd IVF +ve but miscarried
1st, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th IVF all -ve
Moved to the ARGC.
Just started for the 7th time (!) Feb/March 2006.
Like you have said you had got this far which is a good thing and as you have 8 lovely frosties next time hopefully things will progress all the way. There is no rhyme or reason as to why these things happen especially to us girls who pin everything on getting PG. It's just so hard to accept.
Have some time out and get yourself back on track for your next go.
Be strong and keep your chin up.
Love Dagny xkx
Me 38 DH 40
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
Similar situation for me 3 weeks ago. Starting bleeding and had a scan, should have been 9 weeks and baby had died at 7 weeks. I just keep asking Why why why!
But like you said, we must take the positives from this, and battle onwards and upwards! WE WILL GET THERE!
Love karenx
Me 31 Poor responder, DH 37 failed vasect.reversal.
1st ICSI 3 eggs, 1 embie - neg
2nd ICSI 4 eggs, 3 embies - neg
3rd ICSI 5 eggs, only 1 egg mature, 1 x embie -POS, Miscarried early may 04 at 9 wks
I just wanted to say how sorry I am too - it does not seem fair at all does it this life business let alone IVF! I have given up trying to rhyme and reason with it but it is just sometimes so hard to accept. When I had an ectopic everyone was saying at least it worked - I knew what they were trying to say but it was early days and I felt like saying "really and do you see a baby in my arms?!!". In time I learnt to use it as a positive as you will do and already have started doing.
I wish you every success with the frozen and being pg with twins on frozen know it works!
Love
Tracey
xxx
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!
Hi Susan,
I am sooo sorry to hear of your sad news! What a horrible thing to go through! But you sound so together and with it, that I hope your strength will carry on and you manage to stay positive for the next step!
Nothing can really make things better I suppose but the hope of things working out for the best next time round might just help a little?
Wishing you all the strength to cope and lots and lots of good luck for next time!
All the best,
bina
ttc 2.5 yrs
endometriosis treated May 2003
IVF Apr 2004 +ve: Lucy was born 27.12.04
2nd IVF Jan06 +ve; EDD 30th October 2006 - feeling sooo lucky and praying for a healthy delivery!!!
i had to go into hospital last thursday and have a ERPC which was a horrible experience but had to be done as i did not want to wait as i was given the option of that or to m/c waiting a week was long enough, now all i can do is look forward and hope i am given the chance again to get another positive and everything to go ok though i sit and wish things could have been different if its not meant to be its just not i guess i am still very sad by it all but will fight on i have 8 frozen embies to use and will as soon as i feel i can and i also need to ask the docs how long before i can start again which will probably be a couple of months anyway.