trying for number two--is it any easier?

[ann d.]

Well I told DH about the HPT and cried. Couldn't hold the sadness in any longer. Now I'm sitting here waiting in the RE office for them to do my bloodwork. I know I'm already blessed with a beautiful DS. Just wish I could provide him with a sibling and add to our family. Life isn't fair. Sorry I'm venting. I know friends who are preggers and it'll be hard to be joyous for them while not thinking about our IVF journey being over.

[karenvancouverisland]

hi ann.. i'm so sorry for your cycle.. it does just suck. you said your 'IVF journey being over'... does that mean you won't try again?

and please don't apologize for venting.. that's what we do here. and i'm so grateful we do.

big hugs to you. and again, i'm so sorry for your loss of what 'could have been'.

[riogirl71]

Ann - I am so sorry, huge hugs!

[Kerri_789]

Hi ladies,
Thank you for your understanding. I did not do anything wrong, though I want to know what I can do to increase my chance of getting pregnant...

[brit1612]

Kerri-I have been researching the internet for ways to improve your success, and I recently bought an ebook called IVF success program. My husband and I are planning on trying for number two this summer, and I plan on trying out the program. It is a lot about lifestyle, diet, herbs, acupuncture... It gives you a recipe book that incorporates foods that are good for fertility.

http://brit1612.IVFsuccess.hop.clickbank.net


I have a question also. My doc requires you to do 3 days of bedrest after transfer and I have always followed these orders in the past. When we try this summer my ds will be one and a half years old and I can't imagine not being able to do anything for him for three days! How have ya'll handled this, and does your doc require bedrest???? Thanks.

[karenvancouverisland]

no my doc's don't require any bedrest... just to 'take it easy for 3 days'...meaning- no heavy lifting/ extreme exercise, ect. they describe to me that doing an ET is like "sticking flecks of dust onto a thick peanut butter sandwich".. meaning those embies aren't going anywhere unless we do something extreme .. and even then, they probably aren't going anywhere, but better safe than sorry.

btw, i work with crack addicts, who, *sigh.. get PG all the time. they lead very stressful lives.. unfortunately, they carry a child just fine..

hope that's helpful, but really i think you need to do what's comfortable for you.. i'd suggest asking your dr's mroe about it and seeing if there's any leeway

[ann d.]

@Brit- My RE said 3 days of bed rest and light activity. I had a lot of help from my mom and DH. That was the only way I could do it. However, by the 4th day I was holding him and carrying him up the stairs once or twice a day. My RE said that we also have to live our lives and understood that having an active 14 month old is not easy to stay on light activity all the time.

AFM- Thanks ladies for the support. We officially got the BFN call yesterday. I would break down into tears every now and then and cried one more time holding my DH in bed at night. I did say my IVF journey was over because before we started this FET, I had said I didn't want to go through this journey again no matter what the outcome of this FET. My DH was in full agreement. We felt that we were so lucky to have our DS, why go through any more heartbreak if it doesn't work again. Now that we officially got a BFN, my DH brought up the idea of trying again. I don't know what to think. Part of me thinks, of course I can do this! But then the other part is thinking, do I want to do this to my body and mind again (not to mention our savings account) if it doesn't work?? I don't know. I'm definitely going to think about it for the next month, maybe meet with my RE and see what he says.

Yesterday, I was mourning all day; and today I was sad, disappointed and angry. Then tonight, I started thinking about all the blessings I have in my life and that helped lift my spirits a little. I thought about all the other women who would give anything to be pregnant just once and how lucky I am to have this opportunity to experience motherhood. Then I started thinking about my wonderful DH,beautiful son, parents, sister, our health, having a home, etc., the pain doesn't hurt as much. However, I'm sure if I hear about another friend or relative pregnant, the pain and sadness will come back, but I have to stay focused on the positives! Anyway, good luck to all you ladies in whatever you decide to do. I may join you for one more cycle, who knows?