BFN Group

[to_have_fun08]

summit - have an awesome time on your vacation and good luck with persuing adoption. My cousin is in the process of adoption, the baby is due any day now. Best wishes to you and keep us posted from time to time.

[summit]

Thanks to-have-fun, I will check in.

What adoption agency is your cousin using? I am in the process of researching reliable agencies.

take care,

[to_have_fun08]

Summit - i don't know what agency she is using. I'll see what I can find out. I know she is in Dallas, Tx but don't know if the agency is local.

[to_have_fun08]

Summit = Where do you live. I spoke with my cousin she says that just depending on where you live and what kind of adoption you want to do will probably depend on the agency. She is in Texas so could probably only give recommendations for agencies in her area.

[summit]

To-have-fun- I live in Maryland. So I am guessing a TX is a little far. Do you know if she is doing a closed or open adoption? Also, how long did the process take for her.

many thanks for all of your help!

[Heidi67]

Summit so sorry to hear your sad news. I'm assuming you didn't get any frosties. A kick a** vacation will do you a world of good. We went down to Sedona for an extended long weekend and it was just what we needed. Excellent hiking and weather and alone time. I'm not as stressed about our up coming last cycle.
I hope the adoption process goes well for you.
Heidi

[to_have_fun08]

summit - they are doing an open adoption. The mother is 24 and is on her 4th child. They started going through the adoption process last March. I believe they were matched in November. They were willing to take any ethnicity. the baby is african american and mexican.

[summit]

Heidi- Thanks and good luck to you. We are planning a trip to London and Ireland this spring. It cannot get here fast enough.

To-have-fun-
Wow, it sounds like they were matched fairly quickly. It seems that if a couple is willing to adopt a child of any race the process moves along a lot faster. Is the birth mother also from TX? We are just in the preliminary process of our research so all of this info is helpful. It is just hard to wrap my head around all of this and come terms with the fact that I will likely not have biological children of my own. I guess over time it will get better... it is just hard to accept... it all seems so final... I still have my follow-up appointment with my RE on Wednesday, which will just be another day to remind that having a child of my own is not likely. Have you and your husband considered adoption?

as always many thanks for your support,

[to_have_fun08]

yes the birth mother is from Texas I think it does go faster when the adoptive parents are opened to any race. I would think that Caucasian babies would be really hard to get. No me and my hubby don't think we will do adoption. it was hard enough to get my hubby to agree to donor eggs. at least with De it will be half his but he really wanted a child of mine. i think partly he agreed to donor is because he is hoping for some miracle i could get pregnant on my own after we have the first. Im not holding my breath on that one. I also wouldn't like all the crap you have to go through for adoption. my cousin showed me the application and they wanted to know so much crap, financial status, history, even made sure your pets shots were up to date. That would just drive me nuts seeing that most anyone can have a child without getting asked a million questions. just cus we can't conceive we get our personals totally invaded. To each is own, a lot of people go through it with no problem. After DE we are done for.

[summit]

To-have-fun- Thanks for all of your openness. The adoption process does seem a bit overwhelming... As you said it does seem crazy that so much of your private life has to be disclosed to adopt, yet any random person can just have kids, but I guess God just has a funny sense of humor. I am wishing you well as you approach your last cycle with the donor egg. Keep me posted:)

[qita71]

Hello all
Well I got my BFN beta yesterday It was my first cycle so I would be grateful for anyones input as to questions to ask my RE when I see them tomorrow.
My story: I am 39, DH is 35. DH has no fertility problems. I got pregnant last year (the first month we tried) but miscarried at 9 and a half weeks. No tests done but popular opinion seems to be it was due to genetic issues. Diagnosed at the end of 2010 with endometriosis and had op. Started IVF cycle on 03.01 with Gonapeptyl. More Gonapeptyl on 04.01 and 10.01. Then started GonalF on 12.01- 225mg daily until 16.01, reduced to 150mg daily from 17.01 until 21.01. Night of 22.01 had the trigger shot. Morning of 24.01 I had the EC- 8 eggs. By 25.01 4 of those eggs had fertilised. They carried out genetic testing on the embryos (in view of my miscarriage) and all 4 were found to be fine. ET on 29.01. They transferred 3- apparently on the morning of the ET the 4th was not developing as well. Following that I did absolutely everything by the book in terms of resting and taking Cyclogest and Progyluton.
So if I can get pregnant naturally how come it didn't work for 3 assisted embryos? Yesterday the clinic mentioned they transferred morulas- should they not have been blastocysts as 5dt??
Any other questions as to the protocol used etc that strike you that I should be asking my RE? Any thoughts gratefully received.