New to this board - Looking for Advice

[Babywishin926]

Hello,

I am new to this board and the entire process... and I am petrified! My husband and I were married in September of 2009. The only thing either of us had ever wanted was to be parents, so once we got married, we started TTC. Six months later, when we still were not pregnant. My OBGYN gave me clomid, which for 5 long cycles, did nothing for us. My doctor told me that due to my PCOS (poly cystic ovarian syndrome) we would need to see a fertility specialist and that IVF might be our best option for having a baby. In September 2010, we met with our new RE (who is wonderful!!!) and she informed us that part of the reason my PCOS is inhibiting us was my weight. She had mentioned that in order for our health insurance to cover our process, there were certain steps we needed to follow. My next appointment is this coming Tuesday and I can confidently walk into her office and teller her that I have done everything that I need to do in order to start injectable medications for the IUI's!! I am so excited, but so scared!! I am not really sure what to expect, physically and emotionally.

I have had some friends that have gone through the process with the same office that I go to and they are very motivational, which is great. But I fear that they are sugar coating this process so that I won't be scared... and all it is doing is making me feel more scared...

Does anyone have any advice that they would be willing to give or experiences that they would be willing to share with me?? I would be so grateful!! Thank you for reading my rant and for any advice that you leave for me...


Wishing,
Nikki

[mom2twins]

I started TTC at 25. As most people here I will say that of course we thought we would be pregnant in no time, and moving right along into family life.

The thing about fertility is this - it is a myriad of emotions all in one. It is heart wrenching, devastating, hopeful, and wonderful depending on where you are in your cycles. You will be hurt, angry, resentful, joyful and happy all in a matter of weeks. My best advice is don't tell the world. If you end up with negative results or failed pregnancy tests you will be happy that you don't have to cry on the phone with 20 people. Tell one or two people that you really trust, and tell them "don't ask me, about it, I'll talk to you about it when I am ready". Sometimes you really need someone to listen, and other times, if people bring it up when you aren't ready to talk about it it can ruin your day. I am not sure why some of us have been chosen for this to be our fight, but we have, and you have to keep a fighter's mindset. Don't be surprised when your friends with natural fertility don't understand, or when you don't want them to talk to you about conceiving. Also some people will say silly things, let them toll off your back, this is your fight and no one has walked in your shoes.

I finally conceived a beautiful set of twin girls in 2009 3 years after trying to conceive. They are my everything. I still want one more, and am currently waiting the results of our 2nd FET. I am so scared, and hopeful, and nervous that I can't stand it. I hope that it works, but at least this time I have the comfort of my beautiful daughters to help me through. They were a balm to my soul after our last IVF failed.

I wish you the best of luck that you will be blessed with the family that you want.

[Babywishin926]

Thank you so much!! I really appreciate you taking the time to read my entry and send me some advice! Everything that you have said makes total sense, and just getting this one response, I am so glad that I signed up for this board. The things that you mentioned would never have been things that I would have thought of on my own... I have a couple really close confidants that I am entrusting my 'secret' with. One who is about to start the process and one who has 3 beautiful children from IVF. They have been very sweet and open to talk about their experiences so far, but I just don't want to get too hopeful, in case I don't work out exactly the way they did.

Congratulations on your girls. I will keep my fingers crossed for you. Thank you again for your help and advice. It really does mean a lot to me.

[fieldec]

I'm glad that I read this post. It was so up lifting to know that other people are experiening the same emotions I am in a week. Mom2twins I enjoyed reading your experience and advice you gave. It made me think of the way I am processing this whole fertlity experience. Good luck!

fieldec