Winter 2010-2011 Cycle Board

[TammyS]

Oh Carol, your post makes me want to cry. We're close to being done with IVF too...so I can kinda understand how you are feeling. If you want to talk...pm me anytime. Great Big Hugs to you my friend. Please dont be a stranger. I'll be praying for you.

Margi!!! Woohoo!!! Sooo exciting! I cant wait to hear about your next ultrasound! I'm sorta confused though, as to what they think is going on...what did they say?

Kynlee...Good Luck today!! Prayers to you! Cant wait to hear the good news!

Lou...loved the video! Sooo cute!! I'm betting boy, too.

Greekchick...The cramping does not mean that your period is coming. It's just a side effect of the meds.

[NancyB]

Carol,

Here's a hug for you.

I echo Tammy. I can really understand being at the end of the IVF time. We've only done one IVF cycle and are now going to do an FET while we work at saving like crazy incase the FET doesn't work we'll do one more fresh cycle and that will be it for us.

It stinks being totally self pay. My dh doesn't want to do a loan for a fresh cycle. We just aren't sure about the state of the economy and I can more easily put that out of my mind than dh can.

Again, hugs to you and here are some flowers too

[katieb1231]

Carol - I am so sorry for you I feel your pain even though I have 4 frosties left I am fighting the same thing my head says enough but my heart says no and our pocket book says UGH....it is a horrible cycle & it is so tough to know what is right....times like these I wish I had a crystal ball so I know what the future holds so I know what to do....

Kynlee - I just know you will have a BFP!!! I am waiting and can't wait for it to come through!

Lou - Love the video your little gummy bear just looks amazing & perfect! So happy for you, you will be an amazing mother I am only sadI won't get to join you on the PAT board....thought for sure I would get to spend at least a little time with you there....

GreekChick - Cramping means nothing at this point, pregnancy signs are very similar to AF signs so it is hard to tell which & the progesterone & estrogen wreak havoc on your system too.

Tammy - I love your perseverance I envy your resolve to move on and try again....I just don't know if I can get there......I am sick of feeling down & sad......BFP aren't even any fun for me anymore.....they usually just spell MC for me.....

Amanda - I am sure the medicare will work out they are slow as mud but if her qualifications meet the criteria she should be in, but they are slow.....god bless you & DH for paying for the initial appt so you can get more information and know what move to make next...I am praying with every fiber of my being that your Mum has a better outcome than the first Dr indicated. BTW most hospitals have their own sort of programs that help with payment for the un-insured or under insured might want to look into that...

Lauren - Can't believe you FINALLY got that darn letter! YAY! Now let the journey begin.....praying for a positive outcome for you girl!

Tess - I feel your pain my friend sometimes it just creeps up and grabs away whatever great mood you are in and it all just goes black.....I have never gotten as far as you and I can't imagine what that would be like so sorry again but you have incredible strength. As far as the adoption is concerned we heard about our DD who was the neice of a friend of a friends on December 11th met with her December 13th and brought Em home January 2nd....so sometimes these fast processes can be a blessing in disguise Em is perfect despite having a not so perfect gestational time she shows no signs of anything as a matter o fact she is smarter & talks more than most of her almost three yr old classmates. So do the due diligence for yourself and see what you think....thats all you can.

Anton - Again I am so sorry.....are you doing OK my dear.....

Sweetpea - I like to be a stalker sometimes too, but we know you are out there & no matter what we wish you the best and are rooting for you everyday

Margi - Congrats again!


AFM - Thank you first off to all of you for all the well wishes & inquires about me....I just wish I had better news I am depressed & sad & feel let down. I can't believe I had to change my ticker to be MC # 6....just so depressing. RE is completely dumbfounded which is never a good sign.....he just doesn't know why I keep getting pregnant but can never keep them..sometimes I wish it was a BFN so I wouldn't have to deal with the Yay I am pregnant only to be told a few weeks later sorry you are not......I don't know if I have this in me any more it is this horrible cycle of excitement, pure joy, complete let down followed by depression only to start up again. I feel like I am doing everything right but it just doesn't happen for me......I have so little PMA left at this point and I am having a hard time finding the strength to go on.....the fam & I are headed to Steamboat Springs this weekend for a little get away (really just a change of scenery).....I definitely need some time to let all this sink in and see what our next move is....we have four frosties left for two more cycles.....whish I had better news for you all but I just can't keep the PMA right now.....

[LeeS]

Crashing for Katieb1231 - I feel your pain and confusion and don't have any definite answers but some possible suggestions if you decide to try again. I was diagnosed with PCOS in 2003 and did IVF #1 with a BFP. DH and I were excited because we figured my problem was getting pg not staying pg...well 11 weeks later after a HB and being release to an OB I had a m/c of a normal karotype male. We tried a few FETs all BFN and another IVF, again a BFP but m/c at 8 weeks. No testing done that time. We took a break, fostered and adopted our wonderful DS. Now we want to give him a sibling and have returned to the IVF arena.

So it turns out that there are a few different things now that REs can check for, monitor and medicate that may help with women who can get pg but can't stay pg. I had immuno testing and have NK cells, blood clotting disorder as well as a hypothyroid. The plan is to do this cycle with an eye on keeping the thyroid below 2.5 (which is lower that the normal range), having intralipid infusions to combat NK cells, and asprin as well as heparin for blood clotting issues.

All of this is just to say that maybe you can investigate possible reasons for the m/c and there may be new protocols that can help you to stay pg. I of course have not started my meds yet but I at least have hope that the new findings and protocol can give me a shot at getting pg and staying pg.

I hope this helps and wish you luck in your journey!
Lee

[katieb1231]

Thanks Lee, I hate it too....and I am praying for you this time around! I have had a battery of tests and all came back OK not sure if they did EVERYTHING but at our WTF appt I am hopping to get more of a picture of what might be next. We did 5 full injectable IUI's 1 IVF with my eggs and this last was a donor 1 fresh 1 frozen (8 cycles, 6 BFP's, 6 MC) so far so we are pretty well tapped out not to mention the private adoption of our daughter so we will not be doing anymore fresh cycles will use our frozen ones then if that doesn't work then we will be happy with our little family as is....I will bring up all your suggestions with my RE.....at this point I will try anything and take any test out there! Thank you & maybe I will see you on the April/May board.....

[Sunshine1576]

Wow, the rain outside sets the mood even on our board today. Really need some PMA so I'm sending some to you right now! Just got home from my clinic, I loved not feeling so rushed to get in and out, it was really nice. Plus while I was there I checked my voicemail and earlier this morning a company (my neighbor currently is working for) called me for an interview. I need to call them back but thought it would be wise to have some lunch and read up on them first.

At my appointment they poked me 3 times trying to find blood. Said I need to start drinking ALOT more water and gater-aid. Like 8 glasses of water a day to prepare for a pregnancy, but it will be much easier to draw blood too.
Aproximately 10 days until the big day of insemination... I really shouldn't go into any more details!

I wish everyone a better afternoon and to know this journey wouldn't be the same without you!
SUNshine1576

[greekchick]

ok ladies another question bit embrassing really my mother and I just debated bout somethiing so id thought i'd ask the experts
ok so here goes is safe to have sex 6days after the et?daft question i know but my mum put the question mark in my head
thank you
hope ur all well?
by the way crampin calmed down now..

[kynlee]

greekchick- My Dr said no sex for a week, but every clinic may be different...

Carol- So sorry for all you have been through... Best of luck with everything... this journey is financially & emotionally draining...Ill be saying prayers that a door opens for you

Katie- so sorry I feel your pain, this journey absolutely sucks...Its a rollercoaster for sure... I couldnt imagine getting the BFP to lose it, its so unfair... I am hear if you need to vent (huge hugs)

AFM- Well Girls once again I got a BFN I am emotionally drained today, I cant stop crying... I know each of you know the feeling of wanting to be a Mom so bad, I dont want to give up but I dont know what to do... I go to the RE on the 13th to talk and figure things out, but I dont know what I am going to feel like after we leave the appt... My DH said maybe we should try donor sperm, and I want to but I feel like that is taking from him even though he said it wont that he would be grateful to have the baby, My RE had it in my head that its hard to go with Donor Sperm for the Husbands... then we talked adoption, which he was against but now said he would do what ever it took to make a family... I think adoption maybe to expensive and I wouldnt even know where to start looking... Right now I want to take a few days to myself and think what path I want to take, I dont want too give up on something I want so badly... Thank you all for your support on this rollercoaster, I have faith and hope that it can happen by seeing you ladies... Keep me in your prayers... Ill be checking in on each of you... Your like my 2nd family now... Hugs to all of you!!! xo

[nwquiz]

kynlee am so sorry. there are no better words to say at this point. gosh this last week of the month has been hard on this board. please keep up the pma abd when you feel like it again jump back on the bus again.

[katieb1231]

Oh Kynlee.....I am crying with you I am so sorry this totally sucks I wanted this for you (for all us) so badly & I thought you were going to get your BFP...this whole process is just brutal I am seeing my RE on the 8th and don't know what we will do either I don't think I will start again til at least June at the very earliest I need some time to let all this sink and not be so sad & so pissed off...you are in my thoughts & prayers please let me know if you need to vent......I am so sorry.....

[MamaBoo]

Greekchick: we've had two good betas and are waiting for our u/s and we're still not "allowed" to have sex. RE's orders are no intercourse. You can call your clinic to see if they say the same thing.

[greekchick]

its ok,my mum said the more u get the better chance blesss her..but we avnt anyway coz doc said least wait till the test....

its a week since my et cramping stopped for now horrible this waiting game im going be honest i have a Phoeba to take tests coz in 3 years the amount ive took n all been negative dont think i can bare see another 1 im dreading the testin
does the progesten stop or delay your period coming?x

[NancyB]

Kynlee,

I am so very very sorry. Simply no other words. Without a doubt know that every woman on this board totally understands what you are going through.

[margi26]

Kynlee: I am so, so sorry. My heart aches for you. Yes, take some time to wrap your head around all of it and your choices for next steps. Whether IVF, or adoption, you will be a mom. I know it. I am sorry for this loss....we are all here for you and will certainly pray for you. Take care....((((HUGS))))

[margi26]

Carol: I am so sorry that you are at a difficult and depressive space. I don't know what to say, other then I hope a miracle or fabulous opportunity presents itself to you and DH. But, above all, please don't let this put a wedge between you and your love. You are so blessed to have found one another. This ttc thing is so very draining on everyone. But especially so for those of us "racing the clock". I am exactly one year younger than you. I am pregnant, but have had losses before and know that I am not in the clear. If I lose this pregnancy I just don't know if I could continue on--these past 3 years have been so emotionally, financially, and physically draining. I totally get that. Please take care of yourself and best of luck with house, etc. Feel free to PM anytime, my friend.