July cycle buddies

caz1 · Post by **caz1** » Sat Jun 19, 2004 10:05 am

Hello ladies - just thought I too would pop in to say hello and all the luck in the world. I really know how tough the whole thing is - its just SO long a drawn out isnt it? Anyway- the good news is that miracles can and do happen!
Lots of love and a big hello to my cycle buddies (hi Staci!)
Cazxx

Sand · Post by **Sand** » Wed Jun 23, 2004 5:21 pm

Hi Everyone

I'd like to join this thread if you'll have me ! Hospital today confirmed I can start downreg on 15 July. Yippee ! Just 2 days after you, Cerise - except I'm jabbing not sniffing. This will be our 2nd ICSI. First was in March 04. Last time, all went textbook style right up until the end, when AF arrived day before test date. So, everything crossed for this time..... can't wait to start those jabs again !

Roll on July

......

Sandra

loopylou57uk · Post by **loopylou57uk** » Wed Jun 23, 2004 8:36 pm

hello ,i just wanted to wish you all to get bfp,s
and to say welcome back to sand,good to see your back on the rollercoaster,i too are due ec next friday,
i hope all your dreams come true,
best of luck,love loopy

janem · Post by **janem** » Thu Jun 24, 2004 10:34 am

Hi Cycle buddies

I'm day 3 into down regging and sniffing 3 times a day. I have had my first hot flush. I'm excited but also very scared but trying to keep upbeat and positive. Apparently my dh reports my mood has changed but he is being sympathetic and doing the washing up under protest. The injecting phase scares me but I'll cross that bridge when it comes.

Any tips on how to remain happily married getting through this???

Waiting for Af to arrive in about 4 days time and then a scan on day 6 so fingers crossed my ovaries are going to sleep!
Good luck to everyone and look forward to sharing with you the high and the low points

Bye for now

Jane

AMITHIS · Post by **AMITHIS** » Thu Jun 24, 2004 10:51 pm

Hi Sandra,

I had my first cycle of IVF/ICSI in April and mine went the same as yours. Everything looked great until AF showed up 3 days before my test. Anyway, now I'm just waiting for AF to show up so I can do a frozen cycle with some of the embies from last time. I have to inject and take estrogen and progesterone, even for the frozen cycle. Anyway, I have a feeling AF is going to show up tomorrow and I start downregging 21 days after that, in which case I'll be starting around the same time as you.

I'm having a huge problem feeling motivated to do this again. Definitely need to work on the PMA! It seems like all of you are very motivated. I hope some of it rubs off on me. I don't want to just put it off forever but I sort of feel like it's our last chance and like the security of knowing the embies are there waiting.

Jane,

Can't offer any tips on staying happily married during this but am looking forward to anyone else's answers as DH and I did have a few rows! Over all, he was quite understanding and he did give me all my injections. He was more sympathetic at the beginning and less so towards the end (I think he was tired of my complaining by them) but that is when I actually needed his support the most.

Anyway, off to cook dinner.

Hello to everyone else!

Staci

Dagny · Post by **Dagny** » Sat Jun 26, 2004 11:06 am

Hi Guy's

Just nipping over to wish you all so much luck with your impending treatments. We all deserve to get that BFP so fingers crossed for us all.

Love Dagny xkx

Nickie88 · Post by **Nickie88** » Sun Jun 27, 2004 3:36 pm

Hello ladies - hope you haven't forgotten me

Haven't posted lately as not really alot to tell yet - had my NK Cells and APAB (or whatever) blood tests last Monday - am in no hurry to get the results! Am just plodding on quite happily until AF arrives (should be in the next 5 days or so) and then start my Natural FET!

I think I am a bit like Staci - I feel quite content to have my embies in the hospital on ice and the motivation is quite hard to go again as if it fails then there will be nothing for such a long time (well at least until the NHS allows me to have a go) - I have spent a fortune already (not as much as some I know) but enough for me to feel as though I don't want any more debt

Well, July just around the corner now ................... COME ON GIRLS

Love
Nickie

Sand · Post by **Sand** » Sun Jun 27, 2004 4:29 pm

Hi there Girlies !

I've been trying to get to grips with where everyone is at - there are so many of us already

, and I'm sure more still to join. I thought I'd try to do address where everyone is up to (have been trying to sunbathe, but have given up as everytime I go out, the sun goes in). Was also going to try to get this thread to the top, but Nickie has just beaten me to it.....!

Nickie - Roll on AF eh ? (due around 2nd July ?), - then you can get cracking ! Let's see you show them how it's done this time. A BFP due before end of July please !

Loopy - Thank you so much for the Welcome back - so nice to hear from you again (if you know what I mean). This time will be The Time, I can feel it ... DownReg starts 6 July ..?

Staci - Hi - How are things ? Any sign of AF yet ? I'm sure that once you know exactly when dereg will start, your motivation will soar

I've convinced myself that the only thing I did wrong last time was that I didn't take things as easy during 2nd week of the 2WW, as I should have. My 2WW was actually 17 days (don't know why). I went back to work on day 10. Am planning on having the full 2WW off this time (and more If I feel I need it) and I'm sure

this will benefit me. Pls let us all know your dereg start date as soon as you know it.

Dagny - I see you're stimming now and hope you're feeling okay with it ? How long will you stim for ?

JaneM - I hope the sniffing is going well ! AF should be due tomorrow

I too was terrified of the injections before the 1st cycle, as was my DP - he's scared sh*tl*es of needles. However, we got thru it - as you have to - and towards the end he was quite calm about it (and at times I even felt he was quite enjoying it, what with my moods !). Everyone feels anxious before the 1st time - I'm confident that you'll be fine. PMA PMA

SamK - Sorry to see you won't be joining the July thread. I think you're doing the right thing, not taking any chances. September isn't too far away

Make sure you have lots of pampering in the meantime

Julie - Any news yet on date to start

What a bloody nightmare re your records. Idiots.

Macaroni - Now only 6 days to go 'till 3 July

What's your process ? Is this when Doewnreg or Stims start ? (Sorry if I've missed something)

Cerise - As I said before, you start Dereg on 13 July, 2 days before me, and we too cycled in March.....but didn't have any frosties. I know what you mean about the balance between positive and negative. It really is difficult to strike a happy medium. Not too long to go now - hang on in there

Ang - Are you still waiting for AF ? Have you now got date to start Dereg ? Pls let us know. I hope you had a relaxing break in Norfolk.

Teresa - Any new yet on dates ?

TraceyS and Caz - thanks for keeping an eye on this Thread

TraceyS, I see you haven't (too !) long to go now and hope you are feeling well today.

I do hope that I haven't missed anyone, and sincere apologies if I have.

Lots of hugs and kisses to everyone !. It's all happening now girls, so please let's keep updated ! ...... and lots of PMA PMA PMA !!

Sandra

Dagny · Post by **Dagny** » Mon Jun 28, 2004 7:10 am

Hi Sandra

Blimy there are a lot of you July buddies already

I am stimming for 11 days. My EC is July 8th and ET July 10th all things going to plan. I am feeling quite positive at the moment but as we all know this IVF thing is a day to day feeling and PMA could quite easily turn into NMA on a click of the finger

Hope everything goes well for you. I will be keeping an eye on you all.

Love Dagny xkx

ANGELA · Post by **ANGELA** » Mon Jun 28, 2004 12:17 pm

Hi Girls,

Cor i reformatted my pc and couldnt get back on here ahhhhhhhhhhh
but am here now lol wow what a lot of posts there has been on here i have 2 weeks to go before i start down regging af is due on the 9th july not long to go now dont have many nerves at the mo its weird it doesnt feel like it me thats actually gonna go thro it am sure the nerves are gonna kick in very soon but for the moment im just enjoying not being nervous which is rather strange for me as iv spent the last 3 years being nervous about something lol, i am glad im actually gonna get started soon it feels like at last i may actually get somewhere am trying not to build my hopes up to much but its hard not to do as you all know

well girls good luck to you all lots of hugs and kisses to us all come on girls we can do it

love ya all
love Ang xxxxx

Tracey S · Post by **Tracey S** » Mon Jun 28, 2004 1:56 pm

Sorry not been around - keep sleeping as not sleeping at night

June board are pretty much sorted (yes you are you lot!) and can take my eye off them for a few minutes to check on you lot.

Must say am most impressed with the PMA - Staci you can do this - I know it's hard and you think it's your last chance - don't even look at that far ahead - just concentrate on the embies and making sure you look after them when they go back in - that's enough to be going on with.

As for relationships with DH's, DP's - well that's a toughie - there were times when I was a right

- especially as DH has two children and I kept on to him that it was ok for him as he had children already - you know the vile things that drop off your tongue and you can't scoop them back! AFter Oliver died on my 4th tmt we decided we were like two playing cards - can't stand up on their own but can if they prop each other up - think of it like that and try and talk about stuff when you want. Make time to do this. They will not understand totally where you are coming from and vice versus but it helps to admit this to each other and help each other through. I know at times I was "defence is the best form of attack" but I saw what it did to DH and stopped - and trust me with a mouth my size................

They hurt too - it's all very hard and if anyone wants a rant then bring it on - you can rant at me ok?

All just focus on each day and no more and no ifs and buts from any of you - without doubt some of you will find your dreams this time around and I wish so much it was all of you - go on try and suprise me!

I wish you all loads of luck and always think of you all.............. may all your dreams come true.
Love
Tracey
xxx

julie n · Post by **julie n** » Mon Jun 28, 2004 8:32 pm

Sand,

I start downregging next Wednesday 7th July. I can't believe that it has been so long since my last attempt in January!

I'm looking forward to going to another clinic that seems so far to be so much more efficient and caring.

I know what you all mean about keeping motivated, it is hard but we've all got to keep going.

I will be practising my yoga to keep me calm and have acupuncture tomorrow (it is particularly painful at the moment because of my hayfever!)

Good luck to everyone, it will be so good to all be going through the same thing at the same time.

Julie

AMITHIS · Post by **AMITHIS** » Tue Jun 29, 2004 3:17 pm

Hi everyone,

Well, AF showed up today so I'll start downregging 20 days from now. If you can believe it, even after all this waiting, I panicked last minute and almost decided to hold off until my next cycle.

I managed to come up with a list of reasons why it would be better to wait but DH straightened me out. I think I am just procrastinating as I usually do when I'm confronted with anything unpleasant. I know that once I actually start downregging I'll probably feel better about things because I'll be taking some action. It's just the anxiety of waiting and thinking too much about it all....if that makes any sense.

In other news, we found out last night that my brother in law's wife got pregnant and they had planned to announce it to the family yesterday but she went in for a sonogram and there was no heartbeat so they had to do a D&C. My husband and I have been married 4 years. His 2 brothers both got married this year; the youngest one in Oct. and the oldest in Jan. Needless to say, there is a bit of pressure sometimes to feel like we need to be the first to have children. I was actually kind of shocked that his brother's wife got pregnant so quickly. She is around 40 and they had only been trying for a few months! So, when my mother in law told me about this, my initial reaction was that I feel bad for them but they are still much better off than we are since there's clearly nothing preventing them from conceiving naturally and they should be encouraged that it worked so quickly for them without any help. I actually felt a little resentful that it even worked for them so quickly regardless of whether she miscarried or not. I know it is absolutely horrible for me to feel that way. I certainly wouldn't admit it to anyone other than those of you on this board since I know most people would just think I was a terrible person and not understand.

Tracey,

Thanks for the encouragement! Good advice about dealing with DH. I'm going to have to really be careful about thinking before I speak this time around. I felt so bloody miserable at times the last time, that part of me just wanted to drag him down with me. I also know it is terrible to think of this as one person's fault but my big issue was I just couldn't help myself from focusing on that while on the medications. It just really irked (trying to use clean language!) me that I had to do everything when he had the problem. Horrible way to think I know but I just couldn't help it. I'll just have to keep reminding myself that he would gladly be the one undergoing treatment if it was possible instead of putting me through it.

Julie,

I've tried doing a yoga tape at home thinking that would be a great form of exercise during treatment. It is difficult....at least for me as I have absolutely no coordination! I'm in great shape from a cardio standpoint but my body seems to have a very limited range of flexibility.

Angela,

I know what you mean about spending so much time being anxious beforehand! I truly did feel less anxious once I started injections last time. I was so scared of the needles, side effects, etc. and had worked myself into a complete frenzy before I got started. Once I saw that the injections weren't as bad as I feared, that really helped. Plus, before I started the injections, I still felt like I might get too scared to go through with it and back out. Once I actually got started, I knew there was no turning back so that removed the anxiety of trying to decide whether to go through with it or not.

Dagny,

Your EC is next week, right?! How are you feeling at this point?

Sand, Jane, Macaroni, Cerise Nickie, .... Hope you are all doing well! If I've forgotten anyone, I apologize. There's quite a lot of us so it may take me awhile to get familiar with everyone's names, where they are at, etc.

Bye for now,

Staci

Tracey S · Post by **Tracey S** » Tue Jun 29, 2004 3:31 pm

Staci

Thanks for the update and AF hey - we always have such mixed reactions about the flaming thing don't we. I totally understand where you are coming from and you have done the right thing. One thing you are extremely good at is knowing yourself and your weaknesses and dealing with them. We all feel sometimes that we just would like to leave it a bit longer - plunging in again is the right thing but it's like jumping off a cliff - you never know what is to happen next..........
As for your BIL - again I totally understand where you are coming from. My brother announced his 2nd the evening I was going in for my lap and dye - he doesn't ring me from one year to the next!

And all she did was moan thro the pg that she only "does girls" so hope it wasns't a boy!
And then a friend of DH's was starting IVF and I was on my 4th go - I felt like - hope it does not work for you first time when I have had all this and then felt a right

The pressure is immense and very real - try and forget for the moment the "race" to see who is pg first. It is dreadful that she got pg so quickly in a way as we have to fight so hard and then you feel awful for feeling that way. It is now dreadful she lost it and nobody should have to go through that whatever. Just remember you are now back on an even keel in terms of IVF rates versus her trying again at 40. If you think about it you do not know her history either - only what you have been told - ie she is pg - maybe she has been trying for years or lost them before. They have less than a 15% chance of conveiving naturally and you have a 38% chance of conceiving thro IVF. Focus on that. As for DH - well he probably feels guilty and at "fault" so try and be gently. You are right - he would do the same for you if the boot was on the other foot. You are very strong Staci - much stronger than you give yourself credit for and I for what it is worth think this time is YOUR TIME -so go and prove me right so I can say told you so.
Love
Tracey
xxx

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jun 29, 2004 7:36 pm

Hi Girls

I am joining you.......fifth time lucky and all that!

On metformin this time........thought to help PCOS....who knows, I'll take anything!!

Just waiting for af to come, should be 1 July my birthday!!...........then scan and all being well DIUI mid July.

Good luck to all July cyclers!!

JenFx

July cycle buddies

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