Cycling In 2012 Board (formerly Fall/Winter 2011-2012)

[fvrogers]

JenMink55 - How was your Black Friday shopping? I can completely relate to your anxiety for Monday. I am still that way and I have heard my LOs heartbeat 3 times already. It is hard to explain. My symptoms are much like yours, all stomach (nasuea/indigestion/constipation) with no real changes in my breasts. Just a tad bigger, but not much. Hang in there, I am sure everything will work out just fine.

Sunshine1576 - I think we can all relate to how you are feeling. Just remember how blessed you are to have DH by your side. Sometimes taking a break is really all you need to regain your positive mental attitude. I also know how it helps to replenish funds. It is so easy to get frustrated after a failed cycle because that is when you a broke both mentally and financially. Take a little trip with DH to regenerate then you make feel a little more positive about jumping back in the TTC wagon. I just know your miracle is right around the corner.

Tess69 - Stay positive hun!! It is still early. You will may still get your BFP, just hang in there!

Maria - As always, you and your family are in my prayers. I hope you were close to God and made it through this rough day.

Bodie1011 - How are you feeling?? Any real symptoms. I think I am the textbook case of every symptom in the book.

Anton - As always thanks for your encouragement! I am not sure when we will find out the sex. I keep forgetting to ask at my OB appointments and my friends keep telling me different dates. I will be sure to ask my OB at my appointment on Monday.

HopeThisWorksM - Congrats, I am so happy you have had great ultrasounds. Wishing you a happy and healthy nine months!

Ester - It is always so good to see you!! I am officially 12 weeks tomorrow!! I cannot believe it. My next OB appointment in on Monday and as always I am so nervous and pray that everything is going well.

Blessed143 - I can so relate to you!!! I would tell people I had a BFP beta and they thought that was the end of the road and that we were home free. They could not understand why I was nervous about the ultrasound. I am still very nervous about ultrasounds and I am heading into my 2nd trimester. Just stay in prayer and stay positive. I am sure your ultrasound will be just fine.

BlueEye - So sorry that your family had a hard time understanding. Sometimes there are people that truly do not get it.

AFM - I am in New York for the holiday. I was so blessed on the drive up, my nausea stayed in check. I am praying that is the case tomorrow as I drive back to Virginia. For some reason I am so nervous about my 2nd trimester appointment on Monday. With the hematoma, I have had very light spotting on and off and no matter how much my OB tells me everything is fine I cannot help but freak out at the sight of blood. I guess one hurdle at a time - gotta survive the drive tomorrow then I can focus on obsessing about my appoint.

Felicia

[Sunshine1576]

It feels so much later then it actually is...Black Friday made this day really fly and my boss was so impressed with our sales. Yay, and I managed to come out alive without a beating imagine that. I had anticipated a break from blogging but decided it's not good to shut myself off even for a day, coming here is like much needed therapy. You ladies are so supportive through these rough times and I really appreciate all of you!

Ester,
it's always good to hear from you and I like your PMA..Maybe saving money toward our next cycle is being proactive. My new RE recommends us to try one more IUI before investing everything in IVF. I looked into the IVF Attain Program, it would cost us 21 grand for 3 IVFs and 3 FETS with 70% of our money back if we don't bring home a baby, and we could finance everything. We have unexplained infertility where we got pregnant naturally once, but two years later even after all diagnosic surgeries, my doctor was floored when he couldn't find anything wrong. Our first and only IVF (so far) we tried icsi for that cycle. I know sometimes it takes more then one try, but being that this is a HUGE investment we want to narrow everything else out first. I would to find out if there is anyone else out there in the "unexplained" category? With our last consultation with our new RE, he did mention the sperm was sluggish, low motility but what I don't understand is they wash the sperm first and you would think that would help increase the motility. In our last procedure the motility was 25% but after the wash it went up to 75% so how could we neccessary blame the swimmers? I mean it only takes one little swimmer we're not asking alot. lol nobody knows but we will take the rest of the holidays off and make something happen maybe in Feb.
I hope you continue to thrive, I want to see some belly pictures soon! xoxo

Leora,
How are you feeling? I hope you are finding some great distractions to help time fly by!!!So no turkey in the tiny oven this year for Thanksgiving? If it makes you feel better, we had pot roast! lol

Anton,
It's so much fun to have dinner parties but I depend on my dh and his grill for most get-togethers. Anyway I wish we all could ring in the new year together. How many hours apart are we anyway?

We,
I will keep praying for your son and for God to help you get through this time.

Neffi,
I know it's hard to be SIL who are pg, mine just got to celebrate her son's first birthday yesterday. Today I struggled with a baby crying in the boutique shop, I tried to restrain myself from walking over there to comfort her but couldn't. I knew I would be attached the moment I held her...This baby was 3 mnths old and her name was Adares. For some reason I'm ok with todddlers but get super crazy over any infant I see and want so badly to take her home with me.

Bodie,
Did you get much online shopping done? Why not, I mean it's great to shop in our best comfort! Glad you got to see some family for Thanksgiving.

Tess,
Thinking of you too. Those hpt can be so hard esp. when it's still pretty early..

Blue, talk about language barrier, it must be quite the challenge to talk to them about all this, G/L
I know I missed several of you but I will be back tomorrow, I promise.
AFM: worn out from work but it was a good productive day and I'm off to bed. G'night!

[blueeyedreamer]

Got a call tonight that dh mom is in hospital with a possible stroke. We are heading to Canada tomorrow morning.

[Gina1976]

Blue- I'm sorry to hear about your Dh's mom. Praying that she will cover quickly!

Blessed- Thank you. It's been hard but we will all be okay, knowing she's now at peace and with loved ones

[bodie1011]

Anton - good luck with the dinner party! What are you making?

Laura - great news on those follies!

Moorebaby - Yup - waiting till I'm out of the 1st trimester. I'm looking forward to joining you around christmas. It really can't come soon enough. Although I am sure I will find something else to obsessively worry about even then.

Blessed - Hang in there - Friday will be here before you know it. Seeing the heartbeat will be a big relief. Then you can start to worry about the next milestone

Blue - oh no! It a hard enough conversation, but to have to keep repeating. Your poor DH. And now I read your news about his mom. I hope all is OK.

Felicia - I've had pretty bad nausea all day long, exhaustion, occasional sore boobs, and recently the headaches started. All I can do is to keep reminding myself it will all be so worth it. For nausea, I am on preggie pops, seabands, and crackers. Has anything helped you? Good luck on Monday. The 2nd trimester appt - YAY. Although I keep getting confused. It it 12 weeks or 14 weeks that the 2nd trimester starts?

Sunshine - so glad you had a good sales day yesterday!

AFM - watch Cowboys and Aliens (it was OK) and Friends with Benefits (that was really good) yesterday. Did someone online window shopping but did not end up buying anything. Today we are off to the in-laws for 2nd thanksgiving!

[Ninde]

Hello ladies - hope you all survived Black Friday! Heard some pretty scary reports on it over here in terms of stampeding, etc!

Nac: I hope you sorted things out with your dh. Its all dh and I seem to do at the moment.

Jen: I'm sure it must be really tough waiting for the U/S. I really hope it goes well for you.

Christy: thats a tough call to make and I know what you mean about taking a break from fertility treatment for a while and trying naturally. Whats great is that you can try in between cycles and wouldn't that be just wonderful if it worked? Honestly - you are doing all the right stuff so hopefully it will happen and I would definately suggest accupuncture. The more I've looked into it the more I've read about people who succeed with its support. And wasn't that so lovely that Belles left you the card for Valentine's Day. I often hear in my work with clients how particular adults made such a difference in their life - I'm sure you will be one of those people who Belles tells people about. Your kindness can't but touch her deeply.

Maria: I prayed for you yesterday and I continue to do so. Your post was heart breaking and I wish you strength and courage x

Tess: I really hope tomorrow's beta gives you a BFP.

Felicia: So nice to hear from you. Sorry about your haematoma, no wonder you are on edge about it. Its lovely to hear you have your second trimester appointment though

Neffi: that shopping sounds hard and I hope you were ok

Bodie: After your houseful of guests I think you are entitled to a day on the couch!!! I really enjoyed Friends with Benefits and thought Cowboys and Aliens was fun. HOwever, now totally distracted by season 4 of true blood (thanks Leorira!) and seeing Eric Northman in various states of undress!

LauraN: Thats great about the U/S!! And I laughed about your hair appointment! Thats just one of the things I learned from last time - get the hair done before the ER!!!!

Anton: Did you find the cards?!!

Gina: I'm really glad the service was nice and thats lovely that photos were with her

Hopethisworks: Thats absolutely wonderful - congratulations on the heart beat

Moorebaby: Lovely to hear from you. I hope things are going well for you. It is hard sometimes not to think that you and I would have been due around the same time but I'm really delighted for you. I'm doing good, planning to get going again in January and probably ER around end of Feb and our transfer is 2/3 days so either very end Feb or early March.

Blessed: Totally understand what you mean. I'm really glad your U/S is this Friday and I can't wait to hear how it goes

Blue: I'm so sorry about your dh's Mum. And I know this will further complicate them taking in whats happened with your baby. I'm really sorry.

Afm: Just had my second personal training session. Warned him I could not do the step up s on the bench today as my legs would not stretch that far! So he just increased the number of bloody lunges! However, I was clever and got into the jaccuzzi afterwards which should help.

Another big row with my dh. There are times when I find his multiple sclerosis harder than others and this is one of them. One of the reasons its hard is because if we have a normal row inevitably it turns into how his life isn't good because of the MS. I utterly understand that, I really do. But it means I always seem to have to back down or off because he is sick. It frustrates me and what frustrates me even more is that he won't do things to help himself in terms of working with support groups, doing some exercise, having accupuncture or reflexology, meeting up with friends. And I won't even get started on the no sex! I'm sorry if I sound harsh but 10 years of this is really taking its toll.

Ninde

[Tess69]

Beta day today. Argh! I POAS this morning and thought I saw a very very faint line so might be imagining it. If it is a positive, it's a very low HCG level. Ah well, by 2 pm this avo, I should know.

Leora - i'm thinking of you today and really hoping for a great beta number.

Ninde - it must be so hard for you. When I've had a bit of biffo with DH I try to take a deep breath and walk away from the heat of the moment. No point trying to solve issues when we're both heated. It still drives me nuts but it really helps. Often, if we come back to the issue a day or two later, we'll discuss it harmoniously. Well done doing the gym bunny stuff. Great motivation.

Christy - i did acupuncture and traditional chinese medicine before my frostie was implanted. If i get a postive today, I'll rave about it!

Blue - i'm really sorry to hear about Dh's Mum and hope that she is doing okay. I'm also really really sorry to hear about your miscarriage. They suck!

Sunshine - our infertility is unexplained, although it's probably got a lot to do with my age. I only started ttc at 37 - the biggest mistake of my life! I think about 40% of infertility is unexplained.

Anton - it's always such a pleasure to read your lovely colourful posts. So great to see you still on here.

Felicia - wow 2nd trimester. Time has flown by. How are you feeling?

Anyway, time for me to go and get ready for my bloodtest. It's going to be a long wait. I'm almost tempted to go and buy another hpt as i don't have any left but don't want to burst the tiny bubble of hope I have.

[Gina1976]

Tess- Good luck! I will be praying for good and high numbers!!!

[margi26]

**CRASHING**

Hope that everyone had a good Thanksgiving with family and or friends.

Christy: ((HUGS)) to you. And, these decisions are never easy. You have a good head on your shoulders. What you and DH decide will be best I am sure. You will be a great mom at the end of this journey.

Maria: Prayers of peace for you and DS and family.

JenMink: How did Black Friday go?! And good luck on Monday!! I have everything crossed for you.

Felicia: Hang in there! I had a hematoma with lots of bleeding...feel free to ask me questions.

Hopethisworks: Big Congrats!!!!

Tess: Not sure what the time zone/difference is to New Zealand, but I am sending you positive energy for a great beta!!!!

Anton: Love your beautiful tree!! And your wonderful PMA.

Leora: Doubling vibes doubling vibes, doubling vibes

[Gina1976]

Leora- Can't wait to hear your BETA numbers!!

AFM- Kinda bummed. Our loan got disapproved and we didn't even ask for 1/2 of the cost. We have a good standing with our bank too. Maybe we shouldn't use a bank for a loan for it. We really need to try this, this summer. If not we'll have to wait several more months.

[Tess69]

I'm preggas. I'm absolutely overwhelmed. HCG was only 29 but they weren't concerned as I am only 13dpo and it was a thawed embryo replacement. Won't really believe it till I see a nice rising beta at my next bloodtest on Thurs.

Right I'm off to clean the car to settle my brain down a bit.

[margi26]

Tess: Woohoo!!!!! So happy for you!! Enjoy this!!

[WeHaveHope]

Dear friends,
Yesterday was the mist difficult day of my life. I did all I could to comfort my son and it was so difficult to see and feel his pain. I know that God and my son's father in heaven will give us peace. But these next days, weeks, and months will be very difficult. Thank you all for your continued prayers. Please continue to keep us in your prayers.

Love,

Maria

[blessed143]

Tess-That is good. Glad to hear it! Praying for your beta doubles...

leora- cant wait to hear your next beta.... hoping they double big numbers

Gina- I am sorry that you get not get the loan. I really pray that you get a loan.... thinking of you!

Marian- Still thinking of you... I am so sorry. Thinking of your DS and pray that he is doing ok.

AFM- I am loving my new laptop ... I feel like I want to eat all the time. When I eat I then feel kinda yuckie so... I dunno. I pray that my u/s goes well on Friday. I went to Target tonight since DH has to get up in a few hours for work and well bought some HPTs.... Even though I had my beta still needed to know ... so I POAS again, DH would have a fit if he knew. Line came up super dark and fast. So I am relieved about that. I still have some cramps ever now and then so I was worried. hehe... This is such an emotional roller coaster. Thinking of you all...

[Sunshine1576]

Alright Tess! Congratulations girl!
I know you are over the moon so excited and won't be able to sleep tonight. Are you planning on telling your family right now or waiting until closer to Christmas? I know it will be the perfect present under your tree this year!

Gina, I am so sorry, I had intentions of posting yesterday. I'm glad your grandmother had a repectful service, I think even if they had a camera video, it would of been too much to watch. You have the best memories with visiting with her in the nursing home, those memories will always be keep right there close to your heart. I hope your uncle is going to be ok, are you pretty close to him? I know banks are being tougher these days due to the economy. When I applied for a bank credit card last November, it required a joint signature. What gets me is everyday I receive bankcard applications in the mail, why would my personal bank deny me? They looked at my current debt including my mortage for me personally which I thought was insane and when I asked why they said well if something ever happened to dh, you would be solely responsible for the mortgage. I was like how morbid and besides that is why I ahve life insurance on both of us. Yeah it's a nuthouse with the bank authorization personal! I honestly believe credit unions are easier to deal with. Also check out your clinic to see if they may offer financing options? Research the IVF ATTAIN PROGRAM to see if a clinic may offer this as a benefit to you.

Margi, Thank you for posting over here...I know it will be all worthwhile whichever step we take. I have to keep reminding myself it's not about the cost, it's more about the outcome and I need to check back on the PAT board to get updates on all my former cycle buddies..Take care of you, Mama. It's alot of work, but enjoy every blissful moment of it.

Maria,
I will keep praying, it will take lots of time and I know the holidays will always be the toughest especially for your son. I wish there was something more we all could do for him, but praying that God will give Him peace along with strength is something I will continue doing. Do you come from a pretty big family? I miss my dad even after 11 years and everytime I see his brother (my uncle) I cannot help but think of my dad even more, the resemblience is certainly there.

Ninde,
I couldn't imagine the distress your husband is going through, MS must be physically hard, not to mention emotionally for you both at the same time. But you are right, to better himself he has got to be motivated to improve his lifestyle. He needs help and it may be a workout for you to get him there, but he needs a good doctor who can recommend his next steps and see that he follows up with your dh. Maybe a counsellor or physcial therapy coach? Because I'm not a nurse and I don't ahve much advice I went online tonight and researched MS. Here is what I found the might be beneficial:
" Historically, individuals suffering from MS were advised against participation in physical activity due to worsening symptoms. However, under the direction of a physiotherapist, participation in physical activity can be safe and has been proven beneficial for patients with MS. Research has supported the rehabilitative role of physical activity in improving muscle power, mobility, mood, general conditioning and quality of life. However, it is important to be cautious about not overworking or overheating the patient during the course of exercise. Physiotherapists have the expertise needed to adequately prescribe exercise programs that are suitable for the individual. The FITT equation (frequency of exercise, intensity of exercise, type of exercise and time/duration of exercise) is typically used to prescribe exercises. Depending on the patient, activities may include resistance training, walking, swimming, yoga, tai chi, and others. Determining an appropriate and safe exercise program is challenging and must be carefully individualized to each patient being sure to account for all contraindications and precautions." So anyway I found this all very interesting and maybe if you talked to him sharing with him these benefits, he would agree see a physiotherapist? P.S.Thanks for all the sweet comments about Belles..They are moving out on Monday and I plan to help them get everything moved over...Regardless on where they eventually relocate, I want Belles to settle in and know she's never going to be more then a phone call away.

Bodie,
I thought "Friends with Benefits" was comical..I couldn't stop laughing. I hope you enjoy your 2nd Thanksgiving! Have you already told the inlaws?

AFM: Opk was two lines today...so I'll be hanging the "Do not disturb" on my bedroom door tonight...Shhhh it's our little secret!