Heroic DHs, DPs and DFs

[alicia]

After reading many of your posts I am so inspired to hear about all our DHs, DPs and DFs and what they do for us. I thought mine was the only one!

I've read your posts about them "missing" their flight to be with you, carrying heavy boxes on trains with eggs strapped to their person, letting you charge up the credit cards when there's bad news, and being generally supportive. Here's what mine has done:

1. Quietly stood by for TWO YEARS while I freaked out about being unable to conceive while traveling 70% at a stressful sales job - Me: WE HAVE TO DO IT NOW!!! IT'S THE ONLY DAY I'M HOME THIS WEEK AN D I'M OVULATING !

2. Let me quit that high stress job and take fashion design classes for fun while going through testing, surgery and later IVF.

3. Then was all love and concern when I finally got tested and found out my tubes were useless.

4. Gives countless samples for testing and multiple attempts at IVF - he's probably starting to get excited when he sees the little room at the hospital. sad.

5. Continuing to smile through all those weeks when we can't fool around due to doctor's orders.

6. Takes care of my after surgery and treatment - lets me watch movies, makes delicious food, fetches magazines and books.

7. Willing to repeat all of the above "as many times as it takes" for me to have a beautiful baby or else run us both ragged trying.

I love him!!!

What does your DH/DP/DF do that makes you secretly cry with gratitude?

alicia

[DebraP]

Alicia...what a lovely idea for a thread.

Just thinking about my response was enough to make me well up. DF is 27, I'm 40. I had my tubes tied during my 1st marriage (at which point DF was 15 - spooky!). He has never, ever, not even once suggested I'm responsible for where we find ourselves now. He has never complained about the impact our 3 failed tmts have had on our life, nor the cost (we have to go private due to my age). I tend to be extremely moody whilst on the medication and look for excuses to fight/niggle/snap - he never rises to the bait and always holds me when I cry.

We have a 14m daughter from our very first tmt and seeing what a fantastic father he is makes me willing to go through this over and over again. He is a wonderful man.

From what I've read all our partners are pretty damn wonderful.

Crying now.....
Debra.

[Dagny]

Hi Alicia

Are we married to the same man!!!!!!

It is amazing what our partners do for us isn't it? I couldn't ask for a better husband. My DH is my childhood sweetheart and I couldn't live without him.

He goes to work at 6am and comes home at 7pm and makes dinner without any moaning. He is Director of his own business and has to do paperwork all evening after cooking and putting away.

He does the food shopping, brings it in and puts it away.

He does the washing and hangs it out, gets it in and puts it away.

He comes to most appointments and waits in the waiting room reading Woman and Womans Own (I think secretly he likes reading them )

He watches me go through hell on earth during operations and see's me in pain and still smiles at me telling me how much he loves me.

I have spent months (added all together) in hospital which is 45 mins to an hour from our house and he is there when I need him to be. He comes over on his way home from work and then doesn't get home till gone 10pm only to leave at 6am the following morning and do it all again for weeks. The nurses take pity on him and keep food for him if he wants it.

He records programms for me while I am in hospital.

He is a SAINT and I love him. He has always got a smile on his face and takes anything I throw at him - not literally

There is so much more I could say but I will leave it there for now.

I love him so much it hurts!

D xkx

[Kel]

Alicia, Debra and Dagny - What a fantastic thread! That has made me smile and want to cry too!

You know, I think the main thing I have learnt going through this rollercoaster is that DH is the most important person in the whole world whatever the outcome.. I was so scared going through our first IVF, but my DH was my star.. It's brought us so close together and I feel so lucky to be with him.. I felt so guilty and down that it was down to me we were going through IVF, and that was the only time DH would get annoyed and say it's not with one or the other it's about both of us, and always will be about both of us so we'll get through it together.. It's amazing when you've been happy together for years, you suddenly see even more to each other.... Even if I did shout and rant about rubbish when down regging!!!!!!!!! (so he may not say the same about me!!!!!!! )

Anyway - thanks for making a thread about our DH's, DP's and DF's - they are all stars!

Kel X