I had the lovely pleasure of Nikola coming over yesterday and thought I would share with you how wonderful it was and say thanks to Nik at the same time.
DH thought she was more wonderful than normal and lovely and very laid back so we could have a jolly good play with Florence. She only bought over Florrie so she could have some qualitity time.
She looked absolutely wonderful and I can tell you all for a fact she is a the most fabby mummy and doing a wonderful job - still bieing hard on herself though!
We went to the pub and she bought birthday lunch - thanks N! and I won't piddle on her fire by telling you what Auntie Tracey did but let her do it.
Hopefully I made up for it later when I was better behaved.
I must say Florence is a delight and can't imagine Milly to be any different.
Can;t wait for ours.............
Love
Tracey
xxx
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!
Tracey...sounds like a lovely visit. You deserve all the nice things, whether it's your birthday or not. You've been so incredibly supportive to so many people on the board.
I just wondered if you'd read Gina Ford's 'New Contented Little Baby Book' yet? She must be taken with a pinch of salt (she dictates what YOUR breakfast should be and at what time) but the underlying message is very good indeed. It worked for me and everyone I know who tried it, even if we picked it up after a couple of months. Ms Ford IS extremely dictatorial but if the idea of a routine and sleeping through at night appeals, try it. She does address twin issues too.
What a kind message - you are lovely! Yes read Gina several times and DH has just finished. I like many of her principles like sleeping routine and getting the feeds in during the day so more sleep at night - I wish! As you say need to take some with a pinch as would never get out the house - don't let them sleep in the car - yeh right!
Hope you are ok honey
Love
Tracey
xxx
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!
It sounds like you had a fabby day with Nikola. I am very envious and hope one day we can all meet up. You say Nikola is a super Mummy - I knew she would be just form her posts and could feel how caring and kind she is and I know that you also will be a fantastic Mummy too.
You have given me the most tremendous support from when I was PG through Katelyn's death and now through my treatment. Your girls will have a Mummy who will have all the right advice and a Mummy who loves them more than life its self. You have got a special gift, Tracey.
I am intreagued as to what you did during lunch and I hope Nik lets us know very soon.
Take care my friend
Love and hugs Dagny xkx
Me 38 DH 40
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
Bet it was great to see Florence and Nikola. Soon you'll be able to have outings with all 4 of your baby girls and everyone looking on enviously!
On the subject of Gina Ford, there is only one section about twins, i think it starts at 4 weeks. The principles are ok, but not sure how it works in practice. Do you tell visitors to come at certain times only, and if they come at a time when the babes are in bed (in their own room!) not let them see them!!?
Helen
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me 33, DP 35
ICSI cycle Nov 2003, tested positive.
Helen Louise...I found the strict routine made visitor planning much easier. If they said a time I could tell them precisely what we'd be doing. I always knew when she'd be feeding/hungry/tired/sleeping. It meant I could go out too - if it suited the routine. Overnight I stopped saying 'maybe she's hungry' when she cried. I always knew what it would be - ready for sleep (overwhelmingly) OR hungry. I'd had a horrible first 8 weeks but all that disappeared overnight. We were living with my MIL for the 1st 3 months, and I felt under huge pressure to minimise the disruption of our stay. When the baby screamed at night (and she did for hours), I felt under enormous stress. If I sound evangelical now about the book, it's because I've loved every single minute since.
To be honest I didn't follow it to the letter but found the '2 hours up then sleep' worked brilliantly. I kept to that, even if the feeding moved and it still worked. It is restrictive but I accepted this in return for us all sleeping. I've still got a baby that sleeps the moment I put her down for, overwhelmingly, the whole night. I followed the 'no sleep associations' advice to the letter and never got into the habit of rocking, feeding/nursing, singing her to sleep either. It feels gorgeous but goes belly up when you need someone else to take care of them/you're out/DH is having his turn etc. She has a dummy at night, which I think is fine and I swaddled her for a month or two early on.
I'll get off my 'I love Gina Ford' soapbox now It might not work for everyone but it completely changed my life.
Thats good to hear.
We will certainly be following some of the basic principles. We are going to print it on a spreadsheet and stick them to every door!!
Helen
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me 33, DP 35
ICSI cycle Nov 2003, tested positive.
and lovely and very laid back so we could have a jolly good play with Florence. She only bought over Florrie so she could have some qualitity time.
It might not work for everyone but it completely changed my life.