ED and Early Menopause

[springwoman]

Hi, there! I’ve decided to post here as I need some help. I feel a little bit trapped and can’t make my mind what to do further. The thing is I have some problems with my fertility. I was diagnosed with a low ovarian reserve nearly a year ago. My gyny says that I may even face the first signs of menopause soon. I think it’s a hereditary issue as my mom also had some problems with her periods. She gave birth to me when she was 26 and started to have the first problems with her periods when she was 34. I have the same problems. Firstly, I started to have shot delays between my menstrual cycles. Then the delays became longer and longer. I had menstruation only 6 times this year. The problem is I’m childless and want to become mum very much. Is there anybody here who has the problems? How did you manage to conceive? Did you use medications or natural remedies?
P.S. My gyny recommends me to try egg donation. She says that ED IVF will give me much more chances to conceive. We have already visited one fertility clinic. It’s situated overseas. The clinic seems to be a reputable one and is much discussed on various fertility forums. We decided to deal with this clinic as it has very reasonable prices and we liked the package of services they offered to us. However, when we visited them, we were a little bit puzzled. The clinic’s halls were too overcrowded. There wasn’t even a vacant place to stand. We had to wait nearly two hours before the fertility specialist was ready to meet us. We spent nearly 45 min in the fertility specialist’s office as she asked too many questions and investigated the results of our health tests very attentively. We also visited one more fertility clinic. The things were quite different there. The clinic was empty, but I didn’t like the fertility specialist who worked there. I think she was too soothing. I don’t like such people. Now we have to make a decision which clinic to choose. Do you have any clues which clinic to choose?

[xenia]

Hi, I am sorry y haven't been happy with a clinic. I know that overseas ivf clinics offer great service at reasonable price. A few friends of mine have undergone ivf at amazing ivf clinic in Gdansk, and have been extremely happy with the service and treatment they got.

[Veronica]

Hi, hun! I’m really sorry to hear about your struggles of getting pregnant. If you have a low ovarian reserve, ED may become a nice solution for you. You may also try to improve your health by leading a healthy lifestyle and practicing a healthy diet. I have a close friend who managed to conceive after reducing her weight with the help of a healthy lifestyle. You may also try some herbal medications. Some of them do make miracles.

[Teddy bear]

Unfortunately, a low ovarian reserve is a hereditary issue. Do you have anybody in your family with the same health problems? A healthy lifestyle is great, but I don’t think it will help greatly in this situation. As for the clinic, I would check the success rates of both clinics. For me, it’s the key moment in choosing the clinic. It will be nice if you check how they’re selecting egg donors for their ED programs. At any rate, good luck in your TTC journey!

[xenia]

Teddy bear- I can't agree you. I think this source explains the issue pretty well: https://www.eggdonationfriends.com/succ ... dont-tell/

[springwoman]

Xenia, thanks for the clue. I’ve read this article and found loads of useful information in it. I would certainly take it into consideration while choosing the fertility clinic. I’ve written in my initial post that my mom did have some problems with her fertility, so I think my problems with ovaries are the hereditary issue. As for the clinic, they seem to have rather good success rates. We’ve found loads of positive feedbacks about them on various fertility forums. In addition, we quite liked their prices: they don’t charge much for their services…

[Veronica]

If I were in your shoes, I would pay more attention to the way they select egg donors for their egg donation programs. I think it’s better to deal with the clinics that offer oocytes of young egg donors. As far as I know, they are considered to be the most effective. I would also pay attention to the donor’s health: it’s better to take eggs from the woman who’s totally healthy. It will be nice if they check her heredity. Just pay attention to these things. I don’t think long lines are good criteria for making a decision…

[springwoman]

I quite agree with you, hun. However, those long lines made us so anxious. The clinic offers us oocytes of 19-26 years old women. All egg donors have to pass through a rigorous medical checkup. In addition, the clinic’s specialists will check the lady’s heredity. They deal only with those ladies whose parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles are free from the hereditary diseases. They also choose women who have already given birth to a child. This the way the clinic chooses egg donors. What do you think about it?

[xenia]

springwoman - I have also across a few posts of ladies who are considering ivf de with PGS NGS to maximize their chances of getting pregnant and having a problem-free pregnancy.

[Teddy bear]

I think it’s great that the clinic offers you oocytes of 18-25 year old women. They are really considered to be the best. It’s also great that they offer you eggs of the women who are already mums. However, it would be quite interesting for me to get to know how are they going to choose an egg donor for you. I know that some clinics let their patients glimpse at the photos of the donor. What about the clinic you’ve got interested in? Do they offer such an option?

[springwoman]

Before visiting the clinic for the first time, we sent them a short description of the woman who would suit us as an egg donor. We specified her height, weight, hair and eye color and etc. Our program manager told us that they have a very large database of egg donors. They use a special software to find appropriate egg donors for each DE IVF. If we sign up a contract with them, they will be able to enter their database and see 3D photos of egg donors. This the way this clinic chooses egg donors for its clients. What do you think about all these things?

[Veronica]

Seeing the photo of the egg donor sounds quite beneficial. As far as I know, not all fertility clinics are ready to provide such an option. It will give you an opportunity to make a better choice. However, will they charge any additional fees for this. As far as I know, some fertility clinics do this. What about the one you’ve got interested in? Have they offered you any optional services?

[springwoman]

No, I don’t think they would charge any additional fees. We have to sign up a contract with them. According to this contract, the clinic will charge only a fixed sum. As we’re going to book several shots, this sum will be divided into several installments. We will be able to make a payment in cash or via a bank transfer. The clinic seems to be a reputable one, so I don’t think we won’t have any problems with this. At least, I hope so.

[Shank_D]

Hi, there! I’ve decided to post here as I need some help. I feel a little bit trapped and can’t make my mind what to do further. The thing is I have some problems with my fertility. I was diagnosed with a low ovarian reserve nearly a year ago. My gyny says that I may even face the first signs of menopause soon. I think it’s a hereditary issue as my mom also had some problems with her periods. She gave birth to me when she was 26 and started to have the first problems with her periods when she was 34. I have the same problems. Firstly, I started to have shot delays between my menstrual cycles. Then the delays became longer and longer. I had menstruation only 6 times this year. The problem is I’m childless and want to become mum very much. Is there anybody here who has the problems? How did you manage to conceive? Did you use medications or natural remedies?
P.S. My gyny recommends me to try egg donation. She says that ED IVF will give me much more chances to conceive. We have already visited one fertility clinic. It’s situated overseas. The clinic seems to be a reputable one and is much discussed on various fertility forums. We decided to deal with this clinic as it has very reasonable prices and we liked the package of services they offered to us. However, when we visited them, we were a little bit puzzled. The clinic’s halls were too overcrowded. There wasn’t even a vacant place to stand. We had to wait nearly two hours before the fertility specialist was ready to meet us. We spent nearly 45 min in the fertility specialist’s office as she asked too many questions and investigated the results of our health tests very attentively. We also visited one more fertility clinic. The things were quite different there. The clinic was empty, but I didn’t like the fertility specialist who worked there. I think she was too soothing. I don’t like such people. Now we have to make a decision which clinic to choose. Do you have any clues which clinic to choose?

I wouldn't call it a Premature Ovarian Failure yet but you certainly need to rush if you want a baby as the reserves might not last long. Considering the fact that you have had 6 AFs you did ovulate which gives some hope! Do you have PCOS, as in has that been identified? You need to know your AMH level, it's important to know as it also gives you an idea of the viability of your eggs. While it's still possible that IVF could work for you as you're still ovulating but unless you have a good quality egg there's might be a low chance of success as sometimes embies do not make it due to the egg quality. Definitely, donor egg IVF could help you and without having to wait for success for long or go through several failures again. I know people have a lot of second thoughts about donor conception but as long as you keep the "different' at bay the child will not grow up in resentment. You'll have to feel the child is very much yours and that only a biological link doesn't make one a mother... there is responsibilities one have to put up with... since you'll be the one to do that you'll be the rightful mother and not the one who donated the egg for greater good. My friend had to go through surrogacy, and as you know that comes with more dilemmas... but thankfully her clinic Lotus Surrogacy had a thorough pre-process counselling which helped her a lot over the major decision making. Today with her twins clinging to her she is like 100% sure she chosed the right thing. It's all about what you want!

[Shank_D]

If I were in your shoes, I would pay more attention to the way they select egg donors for their egg donation programs. I think it’s better to deal with the clinics that offer oocytes of young egg donors. As far as I know, they are considered to be the most effective. I would also pay attention to the donor’s health: it’s better to take eggs from the woman who’s totally healthy. It will be nice if they check her heredity. Just pay attention to these things. I don’t think long lines are good criteria for making a decision…

Obviously, that's super important too. The primary requirement of going for any assisted fertility procedure is to find a right clinic. The success rate matters, the package price matters, what all they include and are there any multiple try packages that matter too. Besides the general considerations, it's important to take the other details of the process that concerns you into account.... like the selection of donor when you have to have a donor conception. Two things are absolutely important through physiological test reports of the donor and similarity in appearance with the candidate... like a blond mother would want the child to have blond hairs too and not go all brunette.... similarity as much as possible. Also, the legal agreement's scope with the donor or the surrogate, if you're going for surrogacy, is a must. You need to understand your rights and also make sure the clinic has liabilities about it as well. I've heard many women lose their chance due to an irresponsible act of surrogate or that the donor eggs all got arrested due to some problems with its quality in which case you're not liable to pay. Glad my friend landed up with Lotus Surrogacy Kiev and haven't had to face any of such challenges during her surrogacy procedure... all was written in the agreement explicitly.