Hello Ra4el
I am really sorry about your loss. There is no bigger loss for any mother than loss of her baby. It is an explained condition. I feel very bad for you. But, giving up is not an option at all. Remember there is always a light, at the end of the tunnel. So, don't lose hope. I know its hard but give yourself a new start. I suggest you to have a family trip, try to spend a lot of time with your family and friends and give yourself a break. This may helps you. One failure doesn't mean you can't carry any-more. It was just a bad time. Gather courage and try once again. Hope you get pregnant again and able to live up your dream of four children
Make surrogacy your least priority. Firstly, try to conceive naturally. I am sure you can, if you don't have any serious health issue. Hope this may help you. Best wishes for your future.
Hello Ra4el
I am really sorry about your loss. There is no bigger loss for any mother than loss of her baby. It is an explained condition. I feel very bad for you. But, giving up is not an option at all. Remember there is always a light, at the end of the tunnel. So, don't lose hope. I know its hard but give yourself a new start. I suggest you to have a family trip, try to spend a lot of time with your family and friends and give yourself a break. This may helps you. One failure doesn't mean you can't carry any-more. It was just a bad time. Gather courage and try once again. Hope you get pregnant again and able to live up your dream of four children
Make surrogacy your least priority. Firstly, try to conceive naturally. I am sure you can, if you don't have any serious health issue. Hope this may help you. Best wishes for your future.
I'm so lucky I found this thread! I'm so happy for you, Jennyblack! Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. Such stories give me hope that I will also have a happy surrogacy journey. I've also faced infertility. I had cancer of a uterus. That's why there is no chance for me to carry my own baby. I believe that surrogacy will give us a desirable baby. I wish you and your family all the best! Your story is very inspiring. OP, how is your surrogacy going? I'm so sorry about your situation. I couldn't hold back my tears while I was reading your story. I hope you're doing fine. Hope to hear from you!
So sorry for your loss. My advice to you is do not TTC again even if your DH wants it. It might cost you your life. Listen to your doctors this time. Try surrogacy. It is a very good method if you find the right clinic. I went to BioTexCom for IVF and their surrogacy program really pleased me. They choose the surrogates. The method of selection includes a through examination of their medical histories, past and present. This rules out chances of genetic mutations and diseases because only the best are chosen. They sign some paperwork so your baby is safe. I hope that you get to be a mother soon
Hello. Your story is really sad. I’m sorry you had to go through such difficulties. I’m expecting my third baby now. I’m a little bit nervous but I’m sure everything’s gonna be fine. But my sister is infertile. I don’t know why it happened to her. But she faced similar problem to yours. She spent many years ttc but she didn’t succeed. She tried a lot of different treatments. She’s even gone through the IVF. But it also didn’t help. That’s why her husband and she decided to go for the surrogacy. And it worked in their situation. Now she is a mother and I’m proud of her. To say more, she is a mother of twin boys. They are amazing.
As your doctor didn’t allow you to give birth, surrogacy is a great choice. As it is illegal in most countries, I recommend you to go to Europe. For example, choose one of the Ukrainian clinics. They offer the most affordable prices. You can also separate your price into several payments. You can call them to ask all the details. After all the examinations they will choose the surrogate for you. As usual, they all have a big database of the surrogates. So, you have nothing to worry about.
By the way, you will be allowed to visit the surrogate after the pregnancy beginning. As for me it is great. You will be near your baby from the very beginning.
Anyway, I hope your dream will come true. I wish you all the best.
I'm in the same boat. I have been trying to conceive for 8 years. I had 6 miscarriages. Unfortunately my infertility is unexplained. So now surrogacy is an option I am looking into. I didn't start my journey yet. Now I'm doing my research on it. I really hope to start the process as soon as possible.
