Hi there,
After 4 years of trying to conceive, my husband and I realilze our best chance is to use a donor egg. I've been on clomid, had 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs. Apparently the embryos were very good, but at 43 the chances of using my own eggs and having a live birth are almost zero. Still I can't even imagine not having a baby... Unfortunately, in BC you can't use anonymous donors. In the States you can see the profiles and pictures of thousands of donors, but it is very expensive unless you share the donor and this is still more expensive than using a known donor in BC. Trouble is I was hoping to find a Spanish donor (or latin). I live in Canada now but come from Argentina where they do IVF with donors but you aren't allowed to even see a baby picture of the donor, I think it's the same in Spain and other countries. My husband is german, but we'd love to have a child who shares my background and characteristics as well... I know very few Spanish people in Canada, much less someone under 30 who would like to donate... so I'm afraid I have an uphill battle ahead
I'd appreciate any advice...
Thanks!
Hi
We've just been to a clinic in Marbella (spain) called CERAM for a first consultaion about egg donation as it is my only option too.....as i have High FSH. Although it is a small clinic, the staff were great, very friendly and professional, they really made us feel comfortable and knew how to explain everything so that we would understand, and all spoke brilliant english
(one of the nurses is english).
They also have a great success rate around 60% at present.
Donations in spain are completley anonymous, the clinic itself determines the best possible match with a donor.
Hello eliz! A couple of months ago I was also looking for clinic, where de ivf can be done. I have PCOS and unfortunately treatment didn't work at all. So the only solution was using donor eggs. Now I'm in the very beginning of the process. My dh and I just came back from Ukraine. We had our first meeting with the doctor of biotexcom clinic. There are many reviews about this clinic, that's why we chose it. there were really many couples. I think it shows that clinic is popular among infertile couples. We made all needed tests. Also we gave characteristics of desirable donor to our doctor. We want our donor to look like me. The representative of the clinic met us in the airport. Then taxy was carrying us across Kiev, including the clinic. We were provided with comfortable apartment and food supply. Also we had a manager, who was translating for us. All these services is already included into our package. We've chosen 'success' package. We'll have 5 attempts. In case of five unsuccessful attempts the clinic will return us money. Our package costs 9 900 euros. We paid 4 550 euros during this visit, after we signed contract. I'm so nervous! Can't wait to go to the clinic for embryos transfer. I can advise you to pay attention to all reviews, both positive and negative. It's better to contact clinics directly. Each clinic has an official website. There you can find all needed contacts like phone or email. Don't be afraid to ask them questions!Searching is one of the hardest and stressing parts. When you think you've finally found what you was looking for, you see some info, which changes your opinion completely. I remember we contacted a couple of clinics. But some of them answered in a week or even more! Some of them didn't answered our questions, some just ignored us. I think communication with clients should be one of the most important things for clinics. Because their attitude makes the first impression. First communication is decisive. Biotexcom didn't make us to wait. They sent us email with all info we needed. To be honest I also thought that Ukrainian medicine stuck in the past. They have photos on their website. There are pics of the clinic and apartments which they provide. But I had doubts till I saw everything with my own eyes. I should say, that was such a relief to see modern equipment and fashionable design. So here you have nothing to worry about) I hope I helped somehow) I wish you all the best!
So sorry to hear about your situation. I can only wish that you find happiness soon. Why don't you try this clinic in Kiev, Ukraine called BioTexCom. I have been suggested by a few of my friends and on forums about them. Hope this helps! Good luck...
I'm sorry to hear about your failed IUI. But donor eggs are such a blessing! I am now preg (11w5d) with donor eggs. I've had multiple failed IUI's and IVFs.
From my side,there are some non-profit public organization like Happy Family(Surrogacy) and IVF consultant reproductive technologies, medical, legal, ethical and psychological aspects. I hope that helps you somewhat. This board is full of great gals that are very supportive and helpful!
OP, I'm so sorry you have to go through this! I'm in the same boat. I’m also looking into using donor eggs. I’m so angry at my friends for getting pregnant without trying then feeling like a horrible person for doing it. For me the hardest thing about infertility is that no one can ever understand what you are going through. Unless they have been there themselves. And maybe this sounds terrible but I don’t like hanging out with our pregnant friends anymore. All they do is talking about childbirth, children and how it’s exhausting for them to be pregnant. This makes me depressed. I am happy for them, but sometimes it’s too hard. I'm on the edge of turning 40. We have been trying for about 5 years. My group of friends all started to have babies in our late 20s early 30s. I wanted to hang out with people that didn't have babies (selfish, I know). But there is seriously no one who doesn’t have children! I'm seriously the last one left. I feel like I can't breathe sometimes.
