Not able to conceive

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glendakim
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Not able to conceive

Post by glendakim »

Hiii everyone! This is Bella; I'm thirty-six years old. I live in Texas, USA. I've been an infertile person for nearly a decade. Well, I always wanted to have a child of my own, but due to this STD. I am not able to conceive. I just want you all to give me suggestions. I and my DH have saved a lot of money for a surrogacy process. But, Its not enough as its too expensive in the USA. Some of my husband's colleagues are suggesting us to try India for surrogacy. But, I'm not sure about it as India is an underdeveloped country...I don't think they will have good enough standards. Another hot choice which I've is Ukraine. I need suggestion from people who are experienced. I only have got good reviews of India and Ukraine. My priority is of affordability with good standards...
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Ghost
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glendakim wrote:Hiii everyone! This is Bella; I'm thirty-six years old. I live in Texas, USA. I've been an infertile person for nearly a decade. Well, I always wanted to have a child of my own, but due to this STD. I am not able to conceive. I just want you all to give me suggestions. I and my DH have saved a lot of money for a surrogacy process. But, Its not enough as its too expensive in the USA. Some of my husband's colleagues are suggesting us to try India for surrogacy. But, I'm not sure about it as India is an underdeveloped country...I don't think they will have good enough standards. Another hot choice which I've is Ukraine. I need suggestion from people who are experienced. I only have got good reviews of India and Ukraine. My priority is of affordability with good standards...
You are 36 in this post, but 30 in another post you just made.

How much do they pay you to post here under sock accounts advertising surrogacy in the Ukraine? Are you the same person with all the other fake stories? Why does your employer need to advertise falsely?

One poster just posted she was about to start IVF, right after posting she was 34 weeks pregnant from IVF.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
Alyssa562
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Hi there. I would ask the obvious question. Why go abroad? Why not look for some way to fund surrogacy in USA? I'm sure there would be options for that. Some insurance policy etc, maybe. I personally, feel that the risk factor increases when you go abroad. Especial because of legal issues.
Ghost
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Alyssa562 wrote:Hi there. I would ask the obvious question. Why go abroad? Why not look for some way to fund surrogacy in USA? I'm sure there would be options for that. Some insurance policy etc, maybe. I personally, feel that the risk factor increases when you go abroad. Especial because of legal issues.
Good points, but the OP is just an advertiser using sock accounts pretending to be a patient.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
KattyH
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Re: Not able to conceive

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Alyssa562 wrote:Hi there. I would ask the obvious question. Why go abroad? Why not look for some way to fund surrogacy in USA? I'm sure there would be options for that. Some insurance policy etc, maybe. I personally, feel that the risk factor increases when you go abroad. Especial because of legal issues.
Reproductive tourism just like medical tourism is on a boom and getting too popular too quickly - so I assume there must be some benefits after all. However, you made an excellent point about the legal part - as far as I've been reading the post in a number of forums about the rules. The worst part is every country has its own set of them. Pretty complex and confusing ones TBH to the point of being ridiculous - like India do not permit same-sex couples for surrogacy and Ukraine needs one of the parents to have a biological link. What's wrong to be same-sex parents, eh?? I haven't read in details but the child born to a surrogate in another country must have a US passport first to return to the US - that surely isn't a piece of cake.
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KattyH wrote:
Alyssa562 wrote:Hi there. I would ask the obvious question. Why go abroad? Why not look for some way to fund surrogacy in USA? I'm sure there would be options for that. Some insurance policy etc, maybe. I personally, feel that the risk factor increases when you go abroad. Especial because of legal issues.
Reproductive tourism just like medical tourism is on a boom and getting too popular too quickly - so I assume there must be some benefits after all. However, you made an excellent point about the legal part - as far as I've been reading the post in a number of forums about the rules. The worst part is every country has its own set of them. Pretty complex and confusing ones TBH to the point of being ridiculous - like India do not permit same-sex couples for surrogacy and Ukraine needs one of the parents to have a biological link. What's wrong to be same-sex parents, eh?? I haven't read in details but the child born to a surrogate in another country must have a US passport first to return to the US - that surely isn't a piece of cake.
In the USA, surrogacy laws vary tremendously among states. California is excellent, but New York is awful for surrogacy, as some examples.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
Alyssa562
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Re: Not able to conceive

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Hi there. That sure is unfortunate. I am glad to see you are trying to find a solution though. Many couples just give up. I read about a case where a woman tried to commit suicide because of this. She was infertile. Fortunately, now there are solutions are available. People don't need to be so hopeless. I have heard good things about surrogacy. In fact, even IVF has had a pretty decent success rate. I'm afraid I have no experience with either of the locations you mentioned. However, I do know that India no longer allows foreigners to avail their surrogacy services. So, that option is off the table I'm afraid. Do keep me updated. I would love to hear from you.
gracehamilton
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Ivf means In Vitro Fertilization. It is a process by which an egg is extracted, a sperm sample retrieved and then combined them manually in a laboratory dish for fertilization. Then the embryo is transferred to the uterus. This gives a chance to every woman who may not be able to handle fertilization to be pregnant. However, there is a need for this to be done by professionals and people who have explored and have experience in it. There is a certain clinic my wife attended. they gave her a quality service. Below is a video that will explain them. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3wkbg ... xTYJhtR0rA
kierrajack
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Hi there. How are you? You must go to Ukraine for the fertility treatment. I heard very positive reviews about surrogacy in Ukraine. They take good care of surrogate mothers. I wish you all the best. Take care of your health and diet.
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Avoid IVF and sorrogacy in Ukraine. Clinics there hire shills to post on this site under sock accounts posing as patients. Avoid any centers that advertise deceptively.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
gracehamilton
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Though am new here I wish to share my story. I was married at very young age. I was on my teenage. This was because of the ill-treatment I used to receive from my mother in law. My husband suggested that I may stay in his house rather than being treated that way and all that I could get was just a chunk of food. We didn't planned for any relationship. But with time, Our inner being became closer without our concepts. After we finally concluded to get married, we have tried to have a baby but failed. I have been recommended a hospital in Ukraine for ivf and I wish to know if there is anyone with its where about. This is a video which I have been told to watch.https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCg15WU ... lq45hP0NXQ. Please direct me accordingly
Ghost
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Avoid IVF and sorrogacy in Ukraine. Clinics there hire shills to post on this site under sock accounts posing as patients. Avoid any centers that advertise deceptively.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
JennyKL2017
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As for me surrogacy is a great option for infertile couples. I still don't understand why people are so surprised when they hear about this service. It is getting really popular around the world. If infertile couple doesn't want to adopt, do they have other options to become parents? No, they don't. So, why don't they use their only chance to make their dream come true? No one can judge them. It is absolutely normal. Kids, born by the surrogates do not differ from other kids.
The main task of the couple is to choose a good medical center. Instead of reading reviews I recommend to visit different clinics to choose the best one. Prices are really different. As far as I know, the highest price doesn't mean the best service. So, it's up to you. Try to make the right choice.
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JennyKL2017 wrote:As for me surrogacy is a great option for infertile couples. I still don't understand why people are so surprised when they hear about this service. It is getting really popular around the world. If infertile couple doesn't want to adopt, do they have other options to become parents? No, they don't.
Incorrect. They have many options besides surrogacy. Surrogacy is used only in a small minority of cases, although I agree that minority is growing.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
Anna-WWW
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Hi, Bella. Like hundreds of other infertile women I used to go for the surrogacy. I was unable to get pregnant for a long time. So, we had no choice. That’s why I completely understand you. People keep saying that it is not safe. But I don’t agree. Medicine is very developed nowadays. Doctors are doing their best to help infertile couples. My baby boy was born 3 years ago. It was pretty hard but I’m glad that we did it. I know that surrogacy is still illegal in most countries. You should be very attentive choosing the clinic. I recommend you to visit a couple of medical centers. Talk to doctors and choose the one you like. I’m sure you will make the right choice.
In common, the surrogacy process doesn’t take much time. It takes 1-2 months to finish all the preparations. After that you will wait for 9 months of the surrogate’s pregnancy. As for me it is much faster than adoption. As usual, adoption takes a couple of years.
Also, thanks to the surrogacy, we got our biological baby. Our son is genetically related to both my husband and me. It is really great! He looks exactly like my husband.
Well, don’t be afraid and you will get what you want. Hundreds of women around the world go for the surrogacy. It is absolutely safe nowadays. Hope your husband is supporting you. It is very important. I wish you good luck!
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