I guess it's game over for us. I'd been off work for 2 days with a bad head and last night started getting bad AF pains. Tried to convince myself that it was just wind or something, but when I went to the loo at 1.50am, I knew it wasn't. I've passed lots of blood clots, so I guess that even though I had a +ive and 3 embies were put back, there's no hope of any being left. Just made an appt to see my GP, although dunno what good that'll do as she hasn't exactly been helpful up til now. Anybody out that that can give me any hope? There again, my boobs have stopped hurting now, the way they usually do when I come on, so I guess that's it. If I did a HPT, would the results show -ive straight away, or do the hcg levels still show up for a couple of days. I daren't do one in case it gives me false hope.
Jools
Heavy painful bleeding
Heavy painful bleeding
Me 31 (dodgy ovulation)
DH 39 (dodgy swimmers)
TTC 9 Years, 12 months on Clomid 6 yrs ago
1st IVF/ICSI Sept 04 +ve, m/c at 5 1/2 weeks
Couldn't face the pain again.....
DH 39 (dodgy swimmers)
TTC 9 Years, 12 months on Clomid 6 yrs ago
1st IVF/ICSI Sept 04 +ve, m/c at 5 1/2 weeks
Couldn't face the pain again.....
Oh Jools - I can't believe this is happening to you.
You must be worried sick. Please please don't give up hope.
I really hope that your GP is helpful. Could you get a scan done?
I'm thinking of you and so hoping that everyting turns out OK.
Love Barny
You must be worried sick. Please please don't give up hope.
I really hope that your GP is helpful. Could you get a scan done?
I'm thinking of you and so hoping that everyting turns out OK.
Love Barny
Me 33 & PCOS, DH 32 & lowish sperm quality
Dec '03 - IVF/ICSI - Ectopic
July '04 - IUI negative
Aug '04 - IUI POSITIVE - Baby boy born 25/04/05
Dec '05 Natural pregnancy - Baby girl born 22/8/06
Dec '03 - IVF/ICSI - Ectopic
July '04 - IUI negative
Aug '04 - IUI POSITIVE - Baby boy born 25/04/05
Dec '05 Natural pregnancy - Baby girl born 22/8/06
Hi Jools, I am so sorry to read your post - but take some comfort in not all heavy bleeding means bad news - there have been so many girls on here who have had similar experiences and gone on to have healthy pregnancies.
I think your GP should refer you to an Early pregnancy unit and they will be able to do a scan and blood tests. I know some GPs can be very unhelpful (I have the same problem) but I think that sometimes they don't really appreciate what we have been through to get pregnant. But hopefully they will be sympathetic and get you an emergency appointment.
HCG levels do take a few days to drop and leave your system - so I would just wait and see what your GP can do for you.
Jools, I really hope that it works out for you and I'm thinking of you and praying for the best.
Take care
Love and hugs
Dolly
I think your GP should refer you to an Early pregnancy unit and they will be able to do a scan and blood tests. I know some GPs can be very unhelpful (I have the same problem) but I think that sometimes they don't really appreciate what we have been through to get pregnant. But hopefully they will be sympathetic and get you an emergency appointment.
HCG levels do take a few days to drop and leave your system - so I would just wait and see what your GP can do for you.
Jools, I really hope that it works out for you and I'm thinking of you and praying for the best.
Take care
Love and hugs
Dolly
Me 38 / DH 40. TTC 8 yrs
3 natural pg - 2 ectopics and 1 miscarriage
2nd IVF +ve but miscarried
1st, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th IVF all -ve
Moved to the ARGC.
Just started for the 7th time (!) Feb/March 2006.
3 natural pg - 2 ectopics and 1 miscarriage
2nd IVF +ve but miscarried
1st, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th IVF all -ve
Moved to the ARGC.
Just started for the 7th time (!) Feb/March 2006.
Thanks for your thoughts. I've been to see a different GP today, but she wasn't any more sympathetic really. She did phone the hospital and she's arranged a scan for Tuesday morning, so I guess I've got to wait til then. Still bleeding, although not as heavily as initially. Still hoping, but not very optimistic.
x
x
Me 31 (dodgy ovulation)
DH 39 (dodgy swimmers)
TTC 9 Years, 12 months on Clomid 6 yrs ago
1st IVF/ICSI Sept 04 +ve, m/c at 5 1/2 weeks
Couldn't face the pain again.....
DH 39 (dodgy swimmers)
TTC 9 Years, 12 months on Clomid 6 yrs ago
1st IVF/ICSI Sept 04 +ve, m/c at 5 1/2 weeks
Couldn't face the pain again.....
Jools,
I do not really post very much but keep an eye on everyone and just had to reply when I saw your post. I am so so so so sorry to hear what i s happening - but there is always hope. I had a friend who bled tons and so thought it was all over - indulged in some B52s and then found the emby had clung on!
I do know that hpt will still show positive - so I would ask GP to do a quantitive test then you will know whether your numbers are rising or not. If you GP is not willing to do so then I know the medicentres here in London stations do them (for a fee of course) - I don't know if you have anything similar in MK?
Keep hanging in there - but whatever the outcome you will come out the other side.
I do not really post very much but keep an eye on everyone and just had to reply when I saw your post. I am so so so so sorry to hear what i s happening - but there is always hope. I had a friend who bled tons and so thought it was all over - indulged in some B52s and then found the emby had clung on!
I do know that hpt will still show positive - so I would ask GP to do a quantitive test then you will know whether your numbers are rising or not. If you GP is not willing to do so then I know the medicentres here in London stations do them (for a fee of course) - I don't know if you have anything similar in MK?
Keep hanging in there - but whatever the outcome you will come out the other side.
Petra
attempt no 1: October 2002 - negative
attempt no.2: January 2003 - weakly positive
attempt no 3: May 2003 - negative
attempt no 4: December 2003 - positive but early m/c
hoping the time is now right
attempt no 1: October 2002 - negative
attempt no.2: January 2003 - weakly positive
attempt no 3: May 2003 - negative
attempt no 4: December 2003 - positive but early m/c
hoping the time is now right
Jools,
I'm so sorry to hear what you have been going through.. The girls are so right, I know my sister bled very early on in her pregnancy and was fine, but I know it must be hard to take everything in at the moment.
Just want to say I'm thinking of you and really keeping my fingers crossed for you xx
Kel x
I'm so sorry to hear what you have been going through.. The girls are so right, I know my sister bled very early on in her pregnancy and was fine, but I know it must be hard to take everything in at the moment.
Just want to say I'm thinking of you and really keeping my fingers crossed for you xx
Kel x
Hi Everyone
Still feeling like i need scraping off the floor, but your replies really help. I've phoned up an IVF clinic in Northampton (about 45-60 minutes away) and they will do a hcg level blood test for me on Monday (too late for today) which will cost me about £25. They'll have the results for me the same day so we can then phone back our Dr in Italy. He's already said to do a progesterone injection every other day for a few days so I've dug out the ol' syringes again. The thing is, even if he says to do another type of injection to help me hold onto anything that's left, my Dr has been so unsympathetic I feel like I'll have to sell myself to get them to write me a prescription. I'm still in a lot of pain and still bleeding so I don't suppose there's much chance, but I'm not giving up until we've had the scan on Tuesday.
Love Jools xx
Still feeling like i need scraping off the floor, but your replies really help. I've phoned up an IVF clinic in Northampton (about 45-60 minutes away) and they will do a hcg level blood test for me on Monday (too late for today) which will cost me about £25. They'll have the results for me the same day so we can then phone back our Dr in Italy. He's already said to do a progesterone injection every other day for a few days so I've dug out the ol' syringes again. The thing is, even if he says to do another type of injection to help me hold onto anything that's left, my Dr has been so unsympathetic I feel like I'll have to sell myself to get them to write me a prescription. I'm still in a lot of pain and still bleeding so I don't suppose there's much chance, but I'm not giving up until we've had the scan on Tuesday.
Love Jools xx
Me 31 (dodgy ovulation)
DH 39 (dodgy swimmers)
TTC 9 Years, 12 months on Clomid 6 yrs ago
1st IVF/ICSI Sept 04 +ve, m/c at 5 1/2 weeks
Couldn't face the pain again.....
DH 39 (dodgy swimmers)
TTC 9 Years, 12 months on Clomid 6 yrs ago
1st IVF/ICSI Sept 04 +ve, m/c at 5 1/2 weeks
Couldn't face the pain again.....
your positive attitude
I don't know you obviously but I really admire your attitude I hope Monday comes quickly for you and with a good result it sounds like you have been treated very shabbily by your doctor. Try be around people if you can through the weekend Cate
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bubblymichelle
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Hi Jools,
Please don't give up hope, if anyone knows what your going through I know exactly reason being I bled alot during my pregnancy infact uptil I was 18wks pregnant. Alot of my bleeding at first was clots and then it wasn't so heavy. I did make sure I rested as much as possible but I was exactly like you think the worse. Sometimes though it can be unexplained why we bleed but some women do. Is it bright red or dark? sorry to be crude? I did have alot of red blood but its horrible when you have to wait because a&e cant do an early scan either.
Look how it worked for me I am now blessed with a wonderful Son who is 8 months old now, so try and stay positive.
If you want to PM me your welcome to, I will help you the best I can.
Love
Shell.
xx
Please don't give up hope, if anyone knows what your going through I know exactly reason being I bled alot during my pregnancy infact uptil I was 18wks pregnant. Alot of my bleeding at first was clots and then it wasn't so heavy. I did make sure I rested as much as possible but I was exactly like you think the worse. Sometimes though it can be unexplained why we bleed but some women do. Is it bright red or dark? sorry to be crude? I did have alot of red blood but its horrible when you have to wait because a&e cant do an early scan either.
Look how it worked for me I am now blessed with a wonderful Son who is 8 months old now, so try and stay positive.
If you want to PM me your welcome to, I will help you the best I can.
Love
Shell.
xx
please dont stop taking the shots. i bled very bad when i was pregant with my tywins. i had huge blood clots that came out. there was one that was very hard and very dark. i thought for sure that that was my baby.
it wasnt. i even did a test and it said -.
i called the doctors and they said to keep taking the progestrone and to drink lots of water and to take my vitamans. and to come in. and i came in and they did the blood test and i was pregnant.
i couldnt understand how i could be pregnant when i bled so much. i truly thought that i was dying.
and when you look down at my info you will see that i mc. at first they thought that that was because a blood clot had cut off there oxyeg, but they now know that it was because of compermised uteres.
so please hang in there
becky
it wasnt. i even did a test and it said -.
i called the doctors and they said to keep taking the progestrone and to drink lots of water and to take my vitamans. and to come in. and i came in and they did the blood test and i was pregnant.
i couldnt understand how i could be pregnant when i bled so much. i truly thought that i was dying.
and when you look down at my info you will see that i mc. at first they thought that that was because a blood clot had cut off there oxyeg, but they now know that it was because of compermised uteres.
so please hang in there
becky
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
Thanks everyone, but it really is game over. DH ended up taking me to a&e yesterday, as the pains were getting worse and worse. They did a urine and a blood test and both were negative. They then transferred me up to gynae and the Dr there was fantastic and snuck me into the closed ultrasound dept to do a scan so that I knew if there was any hope or not. Unfortunately he couldn't find anything in my womb apart from debris so they concluded I'd miscarried. They kept me in over night and gave me some pethadine as I was in so much pain, and let me out today. It was fantastic this morning, there was me lying in bed and all I could think about was my poor babies that would never be, and the woman in the bed opposite was moaning about her breasts hurting her because she needed to breast feed her baby. Then her considerate hubby bought the baby in so she could feed her in front of everyone. I had to get out of there. I couldn't handle it. There were just pregnant woman everywhere when I was leaving.
There's still a tiny percentage of me that doesn't want to believe it, and is thinking that maybe it would be too early to see on a scan (EC done 23 days ago, ET 25 days ago). I've got to go back next Saturday and they want to do a final conclusive test so I still don't know whether to say sod it and get steaming drunk tonight or if I should still hang on. I've still got the appt with the EPU on tuesday for a scan and a urine test and I don't know if it's worth keeping that or not. I don't know what to think. My brain has turned into a mass of snot and tears.
I can't face going back to work either. I've got one girl working for me who's 6 months pregnant and I really can't deal with it right now. I texted my boss on Friday to say I wouldn't be in because I thought I was having a miscarriage (she knew about the IVF) and I got back a short text saying 'ok. Sorry about your news.' So it feels like she doesn't give a sh*t. She's off next week, so I've supposed to be in charge and there's just no way. I don't know if I want the girls in the office to know or not. If they know they won't put their foot in it, but 'they'll know'. If they don't know, what excuse do I use for not going in? I just don't know anything right now!
Sorry to go on. Hope I make some kind of sense.
J x
There's still a tiny percentage of me that doesn't want to believe it, and is thinking that maybe it would be too early to see on a scan (EC done 23 days ago, ET 25 days ago). I've got to go back next Saturday and they want to do a final conclusive test so I still don't know whether to say sod it and get steaming drunk tonight or if I should still hang on. I've still got the appt with the EPU on tuesday for a scan and a urine test and I don't know if it's worth keeping that or not. I don't know what to think. My brain has turned into a mass of snot and tears.
I can't face going back to work either. I've got one girl working for me who's 6 months pregnant and I really can't deal with it right now. I texted my boss on Friday to say I wouldn't be in because I thought I was having a miscarriage (she knew about the IVF) and I got back a short text saying 'ok. Sorry about your news.' So it feels like she doesn't give a sh*t. She's off next week, so I've supposed to be in charge and there's just no way. I don't know if I want the girls in the office to know or not. If they know they won't put their foot in it, but 'they'll know'. If they don't know, what excuse do I use for not going in? I just don't know anything right now!
Sorry to go on. Hope I make some kind of sense.
J x
Me 31 (dodgy ovulation)
DH 39 (dodgy swimmers)
TTC 9 Years, 12 months on Clomid 6 yrs ago
1st IVF/ICSI Sept 04 +ve, m/c at 5 1/2 weeks
Couldn't face the pain again.....
DH 39 (dodgy swimmers)
TTC 9 Years, 12 months on Clomid 6 yrs ago
1st IVF/ICSI Sept 04 +ve, m/c at 5 1/2 weeks
Couldn't face the pain again.....
Hi Jools,
I just read your post and I'm so sorry to hear what you went through.
My heart goes out to you dear.
If I was you I would certainly be staying away from work for a few weeks.
You can always come up with a story if you don't want the girls to know.
When I had my m/c 2 years ago I didn't tell anyone except my boss who was told to keep it to himself which he did.
Please take care..
Cheers,
San2
Me 34 / DH 40. TTC 6 yrs
Unexplained infertility
2002 M/C 7 weeks natural pg
2003 3 IUI but 3rd cancelled low s/c
ICSI No 1 - August 2004 BPF 14/09/04
I just read your post and I'm so sorry to hear what you went through.
My heart goes out to you dear.
If I was you I would certainly be staying away from work for a few weeks.
You can always come up with a story if you don't want the girls to know.
When I had my m/c 2 years ago I didn't tell anyone except my boss who was told to keep it to himself which he did.
Please take care..
Cheers,
San2
Me 34 / DH 40. TTC 6 yrs
Unexplained infertility
2002 M/C 7 weeks natural pg
2003 3 IUI but 3rd cancelled low s/c
ICSI No 1 - August 2004 BPF 14/09/04
Jools,
I hadn't been on the boards for a couple of days and just read your postings ...I'm so sorry about whats happening. Theres nothing I can really add that will help but I just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and your DH.
Take Care,
Pam
I hadn't been on the boards for a couple of days and just read your postings ...I'm so sorry about whats happening. Theres nothing I can really add that will help but I just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and your DH.
Take Care,
Pam
Me 31 DH 29
TTC 2 + years (blocked tubes, Fibroids etc)
IVF 1st timer
TTC 2 + years (blocked tubes, Fibroids etc)
IVF 1st timer
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bubblymichelle
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Hi Jools,
Well I am going to add my two penneth worth and I hope and pray I am right. When I was bleeding upto 18wks of my pregnancy I did go to A&E because I was so heavy and had bad pains strong period pain and I was convinced I was losing the baby. Well when I went to the hospital they wouldn't scan me because I was under 12wks pregnant they said that if they was to do a scan they wouldn't be able to pick it up compared to what the fertility clinic do so please do not get urself into to much of a state, miracles do happen!!
Love
Shell.
xx
Well I am going to add my two penneth worth and I hope and pray I am right. When I was bleeding upto 18wks of my pregnancy I did go to A&E because I was so heavy and had bad pains strong period pain and I was convinced I was losing the baby. Well when I went to the hospital they wouldn't scan me because I was under 12wks pregnant they said that if they was to do a scan they wouldn't be able to pick it up compared to what the fertility clinic do so please do not get urself into to much of a state, miracles do happen!!
Love
Shell.
xx