hi everyone have'nt been on much the last few weeks can't get my head around we've had another negative .i have'nt even been for my follow up appit at the hospital iv'e just been blocking it all out think i'll leave it till the new year now to phone them.we are going to have another try but to be honest not sure when we're going to be able to get the money together to fund it. also we've said this is going to be our last go so i think deep down i don't want to face my last chance of motherhood .i have lots of niece's and nephews who i see all the time one of them's with me most weekends.its just not the same this time last year we we're say this might be our last christmas on our own but here we are again saying the same thing.i do like christmas its just that theres the feeling that something is missing i come from a large family so all my christmas's have been full of kids but since we've all moved out of the family home they've changed i want my house to have just one child's laughter would do (although i would have more no such luck).well theres my moan for the day.
hope you all have a lovely christmas and best wishes for the new year .
take care
kate xxx
feeling low
Kate,
How awful for you and DH. I'm really sorry to hear you that you got a negative result.
I know how that feels and I know what it's like to have another year go by without getting the thing that you want to happen most.
But you need to give yourself some time. I read recently that what other people don't realise is that each time we have that result show up as negative that we go through a type of bereavement. You need to allow yourself some time to grieve.
Be nice to yourself
Have a lovely Christmas and every good wish and luck for the New Year,
Big hug
Edi
How awful for you and DH. I'm really sorry to hear you that you got a negative result.
I know how that feels and I know what it's like to have another year go by without getting the thing that you want to happen most.
But you need to give yourself some time. I read recently that what other people don't realise is that each time we have that result show up as negative that we go through a type of bereavement. You need to allow yourself some time to grieve.
Be nice to yourself
Have a lovely Christmas and every good wish and luck for the New Year,
Big hug
Edi
Dear Kate,
I would like to comfort you but I know there is no comfort for this pain.
Maybe it is good to know that you are not alone. That there are more women like you who have to suffer this sorrow.
I do not know your age, if you have a possibility to save money for maybe in 1 year.... (I e.g. am 40 and the limit in this hospital is 41 so, even if I had the money, it is defenitely over in this hospital and to be honest I do not know if I have the power to go through). But if you are e.g. 31 and you are able to save money, that you could go on when you are 33 ? That there is still a possibility for you??
I send you a big hug of comfort,
Alette
I would like to comfort you but I know there is no comfort for this pain.
Maybe it is good to know that you are not alone. That there are more women like you who have to suffer this sorrow.
I do not know your age, if you have a possibility to save money for maybe in 1 year.... (I e.g. am 40 and the limit in this hospital is 41 so, even if I had the money, it is defenitely over in this hospital and to be honest I do not know if I have the power to go through). But if you are e.g. 31 and you are able to save money, that you could go on when you are 33 ? That there is still a possibility for you??
I send you a big hug of comfort,
Alette
after lots of IUI, 4 FETs and 5 IVF's
a babyboy!
a babyboy!
i think I'm with you
Hi,
I think I'm with you on this we recently had a second negative and cant bring ourselves to make more decisions about it.I have been going to the infertility counsellor since the first time around failed(which is free) and she has been great. I want sure about going last week because I didnt feel like I had moved on and I always want to progress. But she just said I was being honest about my feelings and not to make any decisions until I was ready as the part of the greaving process I was in was the bit where you dont feel like moving on.
So we shall just see, I come from a medium sized family but Iwe are the only childless couple, its hard especially at Christmas so we are just going to focus on being good to ourselves and see how we feel in the new year.
Good luck on whatever you decide.
B
I think I'm with you on this we recently had a second negative and cant bring ourselves to make more decisions about it.I have been going to the infertility counsellor since the first time around failed(which is free) and she has been great. I want sure about going last week because I didnt feel like I had moved on and I always want to progress. But she just said I was being honest about my feelings and not to make any decisions until I was ready as the part of the greaving process I was in was the bit where you dont feel like moving on.
So we shall just see, I come from a medium sized family but Iwe are the only childless couple, its hard especially at Christmas so we are just going to focus on being good to ourselves and see how we feel in the new year.
Good luck on whatever you decide.
B