Any other 1st trimester newbies?

[sophiejane]

Hello all,
Thank you everyone for your kind replies to me. I was so devastated about losing a twin, but I have done lots of research into it and apparently it does happen to 1 in 8 preganncies, but normally people don't know about it as by the 12 week scan the 2nd sac has disappeared, therefore people don't know there were 2 there in the first place.
The main worry has been that I will lose the other baby ..... I have been so worried these past 2 weeks. I have a scan 2moro ... soooo nervous. I will be 12 weeks pg 2moro so my PMA tells me that if its alright at this scan its going to be alright for the whole of the pg. There's surely got to become a time when I start to relax.
Some of us will soon be able to make a 2nd trimester thread ... or we could call all of us a pregnancy buddy thread name so that we all stick together.
If I am right there is Sophie (me), Jackie, elizabeth, Susan, Toni, Shyla, Anna, Valli. Hopefully I haven't missed anyone off.
Let me know whether we should have a thread name ..........

Hope everyone is well .... I still feel absolutely terrible with migraines, vomitting and lack of energy. Iron tablets seem to have helped the energy levels but nothing is helping the nausea / vomitting.

[alicia]

Sophie Jane,

Just wanted to pop in and say good luck for your scan tommorrow. This is the hardest part, but once you see that all is well with your baby, you will be able to settle in and enjoy the 2nd trimester. You might even be able to see him/her moving around on the scan.

Thinking of you,

Alicia

[Guest]

Hey Sophie

Keep that positive attitude up!! Wishing you loads of luck with the scan for tomorrow............the 12 week scan is a big hurdle and you will relax after it! You have done so well, hopefully now you will be able to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!

Having said that I am 16 weeks on Monday and still feel a nervous wreck........if I feel a pain or ache I am wandering what it is!! Par for the course for us girls I would imagine!!

Thinking about you for tomorrow!

Hi to everyone else.......i'm off tomorrow to purchase a pair of Juicy Couture Maternity Jeans!..........perfect excuse!!

Big hug

Jenfx

[kappy]

Sophie,
Good luck with your scan today! 12 weeks is a major accomplishment. Can't wait till I get there. I can't imagine that the worrying ever really stops, but it will be nice to just enjoy being pregnant for a change.

[sophiejane]

12 week scan went well. Yippee. baby is still going strong. God, I was so nervous, and I have now got a bit more of a skip to my step. Obviously I am still abit worried, especially as the doctor wants to scan me again in 4weeks time, (other people would wait another 8 weeks until they are 20 weeks pg). But I am determined to get my PMA back, (and stop bloomin checking my knickers every few minutes - I can't belive I have still been checking these for the past 12 weeks .....)
our little baby even waved at us today ...
Speak to you all soon. I'm off to watch Hollyoaks. BB eviction tonight as well .... I hope John goes I just can't stand his big yellow underpants.

[valpas]

hi sophie,
how did the scan go? hope everything went well. i am checking the thread for your post.
we should have a thread for us, so that we all can stick together.
love valli

[sophiejane]

Valli,
We must have posted at the same time. Where is everyone. You are all so quiet.
Some of your 12 week scans must be coming up??????
Keep in touch.
From Soph

[eacole]

Hi everyone,

I'm hanging around, just been very busy at work. Had my 12 week scan a week and some days ago. I was anxious about the screening for downs (I'm 37, so considered high risk) but had the nuchal and came out with low risk (1:935) so was enormously relieved as I don't want to have the amnio, couldn't bear that risk, small though it might be, of miscarriage. Had 2 too many of those..

The baby was simply amazing! It was so lively, doing 'pops' in the sac, literally bouncing itself up! and turning over so I could see it's lovely spine and ribs, and waving it's timy arms and legs. I had to laugh..

Go for the next scan at 20 weeks..I'm feeling fine, except for some pretty severe headaches a ttimes, worse if my blood sugar falls, and still mild nausea. The tiredness is beginning to lessen, but I'm on iron tablets now cause I tested borderline anaemic (I'm sure all the blood I lost in my twin's miscarriage triggered this). Still keeping up with everyone, though, and glad to hear everyone is doing fine. I can't wait to hit that 14th week, the official start of the 2nd trimester. Due date is 26 July, the day before my Bday and two days before hubbys (28 July). Hoping the poor kid will have his/her own Bday, obviously we'll just have to sacrifice one of our own, if thats the case! Byt he way, had my first baby dream since being pregnant, dreamt I gave birth and the baby was a girl...thought I had no preference!!

Love,
Elizabeth

[sophiejane]

Eliazabeth - glad all is going well. I've been completely knocked out by headaches too.
Actually I do believe I am having the worst pregnancy ever. I am 13 weeks today. I am still vommitting regularly - about 2 or 3 times a day. I can be anywhere and it just happens (supermarket, walking the dog, talking to clients, driving). I have also had constant stomach ache.
Went to the midwife on Wednesday and found out I have an infection .... high temperature and high pulse rate. Great ... another scare, so I am off for another scan today just to check everything is alright.
I hope they can find the cause of the stomach ache ... although I have had very bad diarrhea this morning as well. The GP did say the infection maybe the dead twin, so I am on antibiotics and waiting for test results to come through today.
So all in all I am feeling absolutely terrible. Dp has given up being sympathetic .... because its been going on so long now I suppose, and he isn't coming to the scan with me today. I'm a bit upset about that, but then he has had to take so much time off work as it is (or am I just making excuses for him).
Since before Xmas I have only managed 1 or 2 days of work a week ... thank God my boss is being sympathetic.
So I am very nervous for the scan today ... I hope I will be posting later on to say everything is fine.
Hope everyone else is OK. Sorry to ramble on about my problems, but it has just seemed that its been one thing after another with my pg.
All the ebst
Love Sophie-J

[Guest]

Hi Sophie

God you really are going through it!!

I am 16+4 today and still worrying like mad............I have no symptoms whatsoever now........all gone and my last scan was 4th Jan so I am panicing like mad that something is wrong that I may not even be pregnant!!!!!!

I can empathise with you though.........don't know if you saw my posts but after 6 treatments........2 eggs out of 14 fertilised.........it finally worked and four days later I was told to stop all meds that my pg was not viable as hcgs were barely going up..........four days later they started flying up and they put me back on meds.........and here I am! In fact this is part of the reason for me not posting.........too scared in case things go wrong!

Anyway didn't mean to harp on about boring me!! Just wanted to say....not that it helps much........you will worry about every little thing, but babies are hardy little things and your wee one has made it this far......have faith in him/her........we are all here for you and thinking of you today.....xx Jenf

[Toni]

Hi everyone

Sorry not been around much - having a rough old time

Sophie-J, Elizabeth its great news about ur little fighters keeping going. Sorry u r having such a poorly time tho Sophie - you really do sound like you are having a rough ride!!! I hope the scan goes ok today I am looking forward to hearing that everything is ok. like you i have not been in work much due to all the fainting and dizziness i have had, tho thankfully not much vomitting - mostly just nausea, tho that seems bad enough. unlike you work are not being very understanding..... in fact i got a snotty letter from them this morning which really upset me. but what can u do........... XXX

and Elizabeth - sounds like you have a little Gymnast on its way!! Weh-hey!!! well its obviously a bundle of health all boucing around like that!! XXX

Jen-F - wow!!! its so good you made it this far. i foloowed your posts a while back and it was so frightening there for absolutley ages!! You have a real little fighter in there. so pleased for you. XXX

I went to the doctors last week as my boss insisted i see someone (i wanted to say, 'duh, im pregnant!!!' which they alrady knew, but obliged) and after a routine examination he told me I have a heart murmur. Has anybody else had this? He said it sometimes happens in pregnancy with all the extra blood whooshing around, but when i mentioned it to my midwife she seemed alarmed........ and reckons i should be referred to a cardiologist............ i didnt know whether to be worried or not. My doc asked to see me back again today, told him how i was feeling and that the last couple of days i have had seriously bad stomach cramps. they seem to have eased off a bit now. he listened to my tummy and my heart again.....didnt look too happy with what he heard.....and has sent me home to wait for a phonecall from the hospital for an appt today!!! And hes signed me off from work for 2 weeks on the sick. feeling very low now. and im so scared that my babies are not ok in there............ It was just when i got home that i picked up the letter as well which didnt help!

Love and kisses

Toni xx

[sophiejane]

Blimey Toni, and here's me thinking that I was having the worst pregnancy ever. Up to 10 weeks I was really dizzy, faint, nauseous and couldn't even walk up the road without fainting .... I think thats what a twin pregnancy does to you. I got better when i started taking iron.
I don't think the doctor is worried about your babies, I think it is you they are worried about. So do take it easy. I imagine they want a specialist to check your heart murmer.
I used to have a heart murmer (apparently lots of females do, but we just don't know it) ... mine seems to be alright at the moment although the doctors do keep on checking it.
I also have really bad stomach ache ... I have just had my scan and my gorgeous baby is doing fine .... kept on crossing its legs and waving its arms. They think the stomach ache may be due to my ovaries still being enlarged, and that my uterus is now pressing against them.
So Toni, I really hope your fears are alleviated today. The doctors will be taking precautionary measures. Is your dh / dp or anyone else around to support you??

I'm thinking of you, but I'm sure it will all be alright .... its those twinnies taking all your energy and goodness leaving you with nothing.
All the best

Jen ... I remember your cycle really well ... and can rememebr what a hard start it was for you. I'm glad I am not the only one feeling nervous. I spoke to my friend today who is 15 weeks pg. She has no symptoms what so ever, so don't worry I think thats what happens around 14 - 20 weeks. Whats your midwife like .. why don't you give her a ring and ask if you can pop in to see her and hear the baby's heart beat. My midwife says I can do that whenever I have a panic (what she doesn't know is that I panic every minute of the day!!!!)

From Sophie-J

[Toni]

Hi again

im glad your little babe is fine Sophie-J, sounds like its also got a lot of energy bundled up in there!!!

After waiting ages for the hospital to ring me i finally rang them - and they just treated me like a pesky kid or something!! Apparently the doctor had looked over my notes, from the midwife, and decided that he would just book me in for a routine scan?! On the 2nd Feb which is nearly 2 weeks away. Now I DO understand that dizziness and fainting are symptoms of pregnancy, and I understand that heart murmurs can be too, but I was worried about the cramps. probably anxiety - but Im sure you agree girls that when you go this far just to get pregnant you worry about every little twinge being a bad sign. My cramps were so bad yesterday and the night before, that i hardly slept a wink.........

When i tried to explain to the woman on the phone that the notes they had looked at were my pregnancy notes and had nothing to do with what i saw the doctor about this morning, she said 'oh i know about the dizziness'. i tried to tell her how bad the cramps were and she just went 'well what do you want then, a scan? I can't do that, we are not an early pregnancy unit!' In the end i gave up on her, she seemed so callous and everything she said just made me feel like i was being a nuisance, and after drying my tears decided to ring Good old Nurture, our fertility clinic.

Once again they came up trumps and were fantastic. after taking all my details the consultant rang me back in about 5 minutes (the consultant we dealt with also has an antenatal clinic at the adjoining NHS hospital), and was so calming. the first thing he said when i'd told him what was going on was 'come on down to nurture for a scan tomorrow morning, if you have any kind of bad abdominal cramps its important to at least get an echo done, even without bleeding. And ill listen to your heart for you too.' I am so relieved!!!! all you want is to know whether your little babies are okay, am i right?

sorry for going on so, but I just had to vent. i couldnt believe i was just brushed off by the hospital when they are supposed to be looking after me from now on. I had to turn to the private clinic we used, and I really feel i should have long cut the apron strings by now, and should have a few various people and places to turn to. Is it me, do you think, or was how i was treated wrong somehow? maybe im just being over emotional....................

Love

Toni xx

[kappy]

Hi you guys.
I'm over on the other first trimester thread. Not sure how we ended up with two, but it's nice in a way since I think you all were much further along when it started. It's great to commiserate when you're awaiting first scans, etc. I do follow you all closely, so I was sorry to hear what a rough time some of you are having right now.

Toni - I'm glad you're clinic is so supportive and understanding. The hospital definitely wronged you! I can't believe they didn't insist on bringing you in considering everything that's going on. Thank goodness your clinic came through. I have two friends (both female) that have heart murmurs. They both just live with it and have it checked once a year. And I also had one when I was growing up. It's probably something they will want keep a close eye on (even closer with you being pregnant). Don't worry too much about it, but again ... it's great you're clinic is looking after you. Hoping that your cramps subside soon.

SophieJ - so happy to hear that your scan was a good one! Thank goodness for scans! I was talking with my MIL last night and she was telling me how she never had an ultrasound when she was carrying my husband or his sister. What's worse is that she had 6 miscarriages and a still birth before them, so I can't imagine the stress she experienced during her pregnancies. Hope you're feeling better soon and enjoy the weekend now that you know you're baby is okay!

JenF - I've also read in a number of books/magazines that morning sickness really starts to diminish after 14 weeks. I'm sure everything is okay. I've followed your story from the beginning, so I'm happy that your little trooper is doing so well.

The second trimester is right around the corner for a lot of you. How exciting! Wishing you all the best, and I'll continue to follow your stories.

Kelly

[Toni]

Hi Sophie-J

I think it would be a great idea to have a special thread where we can all stick together, now that some of us have reached the 2nd trimester, and the rest are on our way! What did you have in mind??

Thinking of you - hope you are feeling a lot better?

Love Always,

Toni xx