this forum is for us all to say what we feal.. if they are our feelings does that make a person wrong in having them and should a person be judge for something that they want so badly?
i have wanted to hold my child for over 22 years now.
that doesnt make my dream any more important then some one else..
i have always thought that this forum was for evryone to let out there feelings..
i know a friend of mine thought about doing ivf.. she had given birth to 3 healthy boys with out any problems during the whole nine months.. but had mc everytime she got pregnant with a daughter.
it was suggested that they do ivf....
they chose not to do this but would it have been wrong...
becky
question about IVF!
hi everyone... I just came across this thread, and I just wanted to say.... That as much as everyone is entitled to their own opinion, maybe sometimes there is a time and a place to voice those opinions... 
I know through reading some of the posts on the site that there are many different problems that have made people log onto the site looking for information, comfort or whatever else that they maybe searching for....
I can't speak for anyone else, all I can go on is my own personal experience... and for the last however many years I can remember all I have encounterd is one problem after another...
I am 25 years old, and when I was 19 I had a mc. Even though that pregnancy was an 'accident' as some might say, I never realised that that brief time that I was expecting would be something that one day would be something that would come back to haunt me...
I have been with my dp, for what will be 5yrs in august, and for the last 3 1/2 years or so - if not longer - we have been undergoing test after test in order to determin why we couldn't seem to get pregnant.
I have just had to have surgery a few months ago to remove both of my fallopian tubes, which i have to say was one of the biggest things that really has had a major impact on me and my partner... not to mantion the hideous scars I now have... and we are now in the process of finally trying to get someone to put me on the waiting list to undergo IVF, and me and my dp have no hope in hell of conceiving otherwise...
I can understand the longing for a baby... and from someone who doesn't have a child, but has children all around them, sometimes that longing feels like torture....
But when you do already have children, and then decide or realise that to have any more you will ned to go through IVF ( or similar route ) I feel that your feelings are somewhat different than mine...
Like I said... as much as everyone is entitled to their own opinion, maybe sometimes there is a time and a place to voice those opinions... and even if gender selection is available to you or within your means... Some of us aren't in the position to choose.... maybe some of us would just like the chance to have a healthy baby at the end of a very stressful treatment cycle...
Especially after the trauma and depressive feelings that having infertility can bring...
Don't think that I want to burst anybody's bubble.... because I don't... but I just thought that I would share MY opinion....
Nes
I know through reading some of the posts on the site that there are many different problems that have made people log onto the site looking for information, comfort or whatever else that they maybe searching for....
I can't speak for anyone else, all I can go on is my own personal experience... and for the last however many years I can remember all I have encounterd is one problem after another...
I am 25 years old, and when I was 19 I had a mc. Even though that pregnancy was an 'accident' as some might say, I never realised that that brief time that I was expecting would be something that one day would be something that would come back to haunt me...
I have been with my dp, for what will be 5yrs in august, and for the last 3 1/2 years or so - if not longer - we have been undergoing test after test in order to determin why we couldn't seem to get pregnant.
I have just had to have surgery a few months ago to remove both of my fallopian tubes, which i have to say was one of the biggest things that really has had a major impact on me and my partner... not to mantion the hideous scars I now have... and we are now in the process of finally trying to get someone to put me on the waiting list to undergo IVF, and me and my dp have no hope in hell of conceiving otherwise...
I can understand the longing for a baby... and from someone who doesn't have a child, but has children all around them, sometimes that longing feels like torture....
But when you do already have children, and then decide or realise that to have any more you will ned to go through IVF ( or similar route ) I feel that your feelings are somewhat different than mine...
Like I said... as much as everyone is entitled to their own opinion, maybe sometimes there is a time and a place to voice those opinions... and even if gender selection is available to you or within your means... Some of us aren't in the position to choose.... maybe some of us would just like the chance to have a healthy baby at the end of a very stressful treatment cycle...
Especially after the trauma and depressive feelings that having infertility can bring...
Don't think that I want to burst anybody's bubble.... because I don't... but I just thought that I would share MY opinion....
Nes
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it is great to have opinions....
i had my first mc 22 years ago and i still feel the pain..my thoughts are with you for your mc ..
no one should have to go threw them..
i am so sorry for the pain that you have felt..
becky
i had my first mc 22 years ago and i still feel the pain..my thoughts are with you for your mc ..
no one should have to go threw them..
i am so sorry for the pain that you have felt..
becky
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!