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CC · Post by CC » Thu Feb 17, 2005 12:58 pm

I think it could be all over for me - have woken up today with awful p.pain feeling, diarroeah (Sorry if tmI), headache and perfectly normal breasts (after they had felt quite sore and tingly for the last few days). I know I should wait till I actually start bleeding before assuming but if I'm honest with myself I really don't feel pregnant and I know my AF is on its way!! Oh bugger - I really had hoped this time and thought secretly that this could be it. Now I just feel ? Don't even know how I feel.

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Thu Feb 17, 2005 1:08 pm

Hi Cheryl, sorry you've got worries and doubts. The next 4 days will seem even longer now I'm sure.

You know that 'not feeling pg' shouldn't count for much, I didn't feel anything either time I got a +ve - no sore boobs, no nothing. The stomach upset, headaches and AF feelings could all be after effects of the medication. None of them necessarily mean anything. I can see why you'd be worried though. That secret 'this time it will work' thing is only too familiar

I do know what you mean about not feeling anything. It's a strange sensation but only last week, someone (Betts?) had AF feelings and doubts but bingo, she got a +ve so if at all possible, continue to think positively, hope for the best, do what you can to feel empowered and have a plan on how to get through the next few days.

We'll be here for you.
Big Hugs
Debra.

CC · Post by CC » Thu Feb 17, 2005 1:22 pm

Thanks for supportive thoughts Debra - I think what makes it hard is that feeling of panic - not whether it has worked or not but whether I can cope with it not working. I can feel myself already going to bits even though I've been coaching myself to be strong and philosophical about it. When you read some people's stories on here I realise that I've got off lightly so far so I feel ridiculous to be so upset when others have suffered much worse things than a cycle not working. Your advice helps though and I will try not to assume because I can't control it so I must just try and relax and let whatever will happen, happen. I must dig out my Susan jeffers books - they're self help books that I've read in past when not coping with life - maybe they'll help again now - they've always made me feel stronger in the past. Thanks again, Cherylx

Edi · Post by **Edi** » Thu Feb 17, 2005 3:13 pm

Hang in there Cheryl, it's worth waiting these extra few days. Like Debra's story last time round I also felt that it was all over on the Sunday before testing. Sore boobs were gone, i was extremely tired and I had AF type cramps - in fact I thought AF was going to start any moment.
I was almost tempted to drown myself in a large bottle of red wine! but for DH's sake I pulled myself together, hung on. Five days later I got a BFP.

So stick it out, think up some nice treats to spoil yourself and keep you busy over the weekend. It'll be Monday before you know it.

I have everything crossed for you
Loadsa luck,

Edi

Joanne104 · Post by **Joanne104** » Thu Feb 17, 2005 4:44 pm

Cheryl

Sorry to hear you are feeling unwell, don't think I can add much more than what the others have said other than hang in there till Monday and wait and see what happens then.

I feel the same as you about being more "fortunate" than others, I am physically fine, my dh has low count due to vasectomy which we had reversed. However you can't help but feel sorry for yourself in these situations!

Now I have found this site just knowing that there are others who are in the same boat and will understand if I say I am happy, sad, or bit of both has helped immensley.

Feet up, try and chill out and lots of PMA for Monday!
xx

CC · Post by CC » Thu Feb 17, 2005 4:49 pm

Thanks Edi, it's a blessing to have such good advice at the touch of a button - there's just nothing like it. You feel you can really trust the advice on here because it's other people who've been there too. When I'm talking to my doctors / nurses etc I always wonder whether any of them really understand how it feels. I'll try not to worry too much and keep positive - that's what it's all about and good luck to everyone else who's testing around now - sorry if I've put any doubts in anyone else's head - I shall pull myself together now and stop feeling sorry for myself. I also want to know if anyone's found a use for

- what is it? You see I'm positively distracting myself already - just got to fill the next 3 days with other things to think about!
Thanks everyone, Cherylx

CC · Post by CC » Thu Feb 17, 2005 4:59 pm

Thanks Joanne - we must have posted at same time - I missed your message when I was replying earlier. Hope I didn't spook you with you being at virtually same stage - I'm cross with myself for getting so down - honestly I thought I was fine till I woke up this morning and all day I've been ridiculously emotional. Anyway - I'm back in control now (I hope) and even managed to weane myself off 'Baby Stories' , 'mums to be' etc on Discovery Health - it can become addictive (bit like baby magazines) - I shall replace them for time being with a few good films. Saying that though, I have discovered 'Baby Doctors' on Discovery Health in afternoons which is about couples going through IVF which is actually fascinating and helpful I think!
Good luck with your test Joanne - I'm sending you lots of positive vibes, Cherylx

Joanne104 · Post by **Joanne104** » Thu Feb 17, 2005 5:57 pm

Cheryl

You have made me laugh - honestly I thought I was the only one who secretly watched Test Tube Babies, Baby Doctor etc etc!!!!!

They are kind of addictive really - I don't want to watch them but can't help myself.....

No you didn't spook me with your message at all, think the only thing we can take for granted is that everyone is different, and that whatever the outcome our symptoms could be different for everyone too. Think that is what is the hardest part of it all, symptoms for both results are too bl**dy similar for my liking! Mother Nature can be very cruel but we have to believe we will get there in the end!

Am very scared about doing test, seems to be coming round really quickly but I will deal with whatever it is and take each day at a time!
xx

sophiejane · Post by **sophiejane** » Thu Feb 17, 2005 6:30 pm

cc and joanne
I'm butting in to say ..... you must be really strong people to be able to watch baby programmes. I had to turn over the tv every time a baby was on. Dont you just cry??????
Apart from that .... i don't think there are any symptoms that can reliably let you know that the embies have held on in there. All I did differently during my last ivf was think positively, and kept on visualising the babies bedding down and their hearts beating. I dont usually belive in mumbo jumbo about positive thinking but I got a +ive test result which showed somethoing decided to work this time round.
So hang on in there ... and please do not test early. there is really no point and it only makes things worse.
Good luck you to all you 2ww. Keep warm and take it easy.
From Sophie-J

wendy30 · Post by **wendy30** » Thu Feb 17, 2005 7:27 pm

Hi Everyone

I started the 2ww today after a FET.

Debra can you put me down for a 3rd March test please.

I have to admit I have spent all afternoon watching the Baby/ivf stuff on Discovery Health as well, we need to do something to pass the time.

Wendy

CC · Post by CC » Thu Feb 17, 2005 7:37 pm

Thanks for encouraging thoughts Sophie-J - it's great to hear positive news. As to 'baby programmes' I can only watch them when I'm going through treatment - it's become a kind of ritual that as soon as I'm back on treatment I watch them all - plus (and I'm ashamed to share this

) Father of the Bride 2 (over and over again). Can't look at any of it normally without depressing myself but when I'm in any stage of treatment I allow myself total access to all baby and pregnancy zones because it's sort of like being part of the whole 'Mums' club just for a tiny time (sad I know but can't be helped I'm afraid). Does anyone know of any therapy that sorts out such bizarre behaviour? One of these days you'll probably see me on camera poking out the back of Carole Smilie's handbag claiming to be 'coming along for a little look'. I think it's a symptom of the sense of magic and mysticism that I've associated with pregnancy - because I'm not sure I really believe that it's ever going to happen to me I find all of it fascinating. Cherylx

CC · Post by CC » Thu Feb 17, 2005 7:53 pm

Hurrah - just seen Wendy's message - nice to know there are more of us afflicted with the Discovery Health bug. Hope your 2WW goes well - I'll be sending you lots of positive vibes. Enjoy it as much as you can and here's to 'Baby Hospital' ''From here to maternity' 'Baby Baby' 'Midwives' 'Portland babies' 'Test tube babies' 'Baby Doctors' (and lots more I can't remember) 'Baby's room' (although this one is only for extreme boredom and normally consists of some woman sticking together bits of cardboard and glitter to create a crib and colouring in walls with felt tip pens!! - you think I'm joking - I'm really not. - The highlight of each programme is the parents getting home going 'Mmmm, yes its mmmm different, mmmm thank you' and you can see the poor buggers desperately trying to paint over everything and rip the double-sided sticky tape off the walls even as the camera crew departs (He never wanted to take part but thought they'd at least get a changing rooms standard only to discover it's more Blue Peter). Maybe we should get a group together and make a pilot for Diiscovery Health? - 'Getting through the 2WW - a guide to Arts and Crafts while you wait!' Could go down a storm - I think you only need a Carole Smilie look alike, couple of puond for resources, basic camcorder (no need for tripd - the shaky approach would keep us in good company on most Sky channels) and at least one presenter who's pregnant themselves (for lots of sympathetic nods of head and little quips about the down side of pregnancy (as if there could be any?) Anyone up for a starring role?

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Thu Feb 17, 2005 8:41 pm

28 Jan - Desi -

31 Jan - Charlie -

01 Feb - Cath -

07 Feb - Sally -

+

08 + 10 Feb - Staci -

10 Feb - Sarah - (Feb 6th = 2 x +ve hpts)

? Feb - Nicky -

14 Feb - Betts -

14 Feb - Gaynor -

14 Feb - Jane -

16 Feb - Christian -

20 Feb - Joanne -

21 Feb - Cheryl (CC) -

23 Feb - Shan -

03 Mar - Danica -

03 Mar - Wendy -

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Thu Feb 17, 2005 8:45 pm

Hi Wendy, congrats on your ET....you're on the list!

CC -

is often used with early use of hpts as they so often give false results.

All very silly about the arts and crafts programmes

I don't get Discovery Health only the basic Discovery channel which is overwhelmingly aimed at men it seems with hours and hours of war footage....yawn.

Babydust sprinkes...
Debra.

CC · Post by CC » Thu Feb 17, 2005 9:35 pm

You don't know what you're missing Debra!! (hee hee)

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