Test Dates Thread

lesleypb · Post by **lesleypb** » Wed Feb 23, 2005 11:17 am

Hi to everyone on the 2WW.

On day 6 now, had funny pains yesterday, would like to think it's the embryo implanting. Then woke up this morning with extremly sore boobs!
That will be the test as last time before I even started AF on day 12 my boobs didn't hurt so I knew it hadn't worked.

Time is dragging, there's only so much TV I can take (except soaps), it's all property shows and antiques. I'm glad I've got sky, been watching the discovery test tubes babies, there's another channel with an IVF programme (Living I think)but I think it's the same that was on when I did my first cycle more than a year ago.

How's everyone else getting on?

Lesley

Suz · Post by **Suz** » Wed Feb 23, 2005 5:59 pm

Hi Everyone

Sorry I've not been on for a while. It's taken me two hours to catch up with everyone.

Firstly can I say CONGRATS

to all who got a BFP and a SORRY

to all who got a BFN.

I'm currently on my 2ww, after having my FET on Sat 19th Feb. We had 2 embies, but only 1 survived. But it was a top grade, 6 cell, so we're really pleased. DH is off work too, so I'm being looked after (sort of). I'm bored out of my tree. Being inactive is not me but I just keep telling myself that it's all worth it. Feeling a lot more positive this time around. Tried Acupuncture last week, wow sooo relaxing, have it again on Friday.

My test date is the 8th March, so here's to a BFP

.

Good Luck to everyone

Suz x

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Wed Feb 23, 2005 6:11 pm

28 Jan - Desi -

31 Jan - Charlie -

01 Feb - Cath -

07 Feb - Sally -

08 + 10 Feb - Staci -

10 Feb - Sarah - (Feb 6th = 2 x +ve hpts)

? Feb - Nicky -

14 Feb - Betts -

14 Feb - Gaynor -

14 Feb - Jane -

20 Feb - Joanne -

21 Feb - Cheryl (CC) -

23 Feb - Shan -

03 Mar - Danica -

03 Mar - Lesley -

03 Mar - Wendy -

07 Mar - Minnow -

08 Mar - Suz -

CC · Post by CC » Thu Feb 24, 2005 9:26 pm

Hi everyone - I can't believe my computer buggered up last week after my last post. Maybe it was fate making me take a little time to think about myself but I was really annoyed that I couldn't support everyone else through their 'testing' time (excuse pun) in the way that I'd been supported.

Joanne - I'm so so sorry that you didn't get your positive - I agree with the advice to not do anything rash - give yourself some time to heal. I can't believe how hard I found this time, I really thought I was cracking up. I've made myself ill with stress and my clinic referred me immediately for counselling. I do feel a little brighter now - the counselling really helped and I keep thinking that I'm a step further towards the time when it will work. I know you've already tried other treatment but two unsuccessful attempts at IVF isn't the end of the road - I'm going to a support group on Monday where one girl is sharing her diary of her 6th attempt which was successful (she now has twins!) If you reach a decision not to continue for personal, emotional, financial reasons that's one thing but don't let yourself think that two negatives means it's not going to work for you BECAUSE IT WILL. Look after yourself and keep in touch on here - maybe we should start a new thread? Any ideas? Love and hugs, Cherylxx

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Thu Feb 24, 2005 10:35 pm

Hi Cheryl....good to hear from you again. I thought maybe you'd been hit hard and were taking time off from the board. I'd be bereft without my pc, hopeless infact.

Glad the counselling has started to help, you're right not to underestimate the effect it all has.

Thanks for posting that bit out her 6th try ending in twins, there've been some on here not too long ago but the speed at which people spin through here, it's nice to be reminded.

Good idea re. the new dates thread. I'll start a March dates thread now.

I know it's very early but what are your plans?
hugs
Debra.

CC · Post by CC » Thu Feb 24, 2005 11:07 pm

Hi Debra - it's great to be back. Well after saying 'don't be rash', I do have some rather rash news of my own. I've resigned today!! I really did hit rock bottom and I scared myself and looking back it wasn't just this treatment -I've not been 'right' for a long long time. The problem is I have a hugely stressful job - up working at 4-5am, finish (at work) 7pm ish and then working at home till about midnight then all starts again. Not a day goes by without tears, sickness, dizzy eyes etc etc. My clinic actually said to me that if I didn't make some serious lifestyle changes then I was just throwing my money away. I think they meant part time, counselling, de-stress etc but in my true style (I never do things by half) I went the whole hog and thought sod it, this is far too important to me to take any chances. I'm not saying that people should have to give up work to get a positive result, it's just that I know I'm making myself ill and there's no way my body is going to nuture a little life inside it while I'm so unhealthy. I feel proud, brave, strong, terrified and gutted all at once but I do know it's the right decision for me at the moment! I'm going to take a year out (from work) - get healthy, relaxed and see if that makes a difference. I finish end of June and we will start trying treatment again through the Summer so I hope to have some company for a June - July thread. Catch me up with any news on your situation and thanks again for all the support, Cherylx

Joanne104 · Post by **Joanne104** » Fri Feb 25, 2005 5:16 pm

Hi Cheryl

Wow - that IS a change of lifestyle - good for you!!!!!

This week has been the hardest of my life, being back at work and trying to pretend that all is ok - am lucky I work from home, couldn't have stood it if stuck in an office all day - think I would have cracked up!!!

I have been reading stories about acupuncture and it seems like a really good idea - I have had Reiki before which I really enjoyed but the lady who did it for me has moved away and I think my little task for now is to find someone else, it really does help relax you and chill you out.

I spoke to the hospital about my result, they just said it was one of those things, just unlucky

, and to keep trying! We have a review appointment with the consultant in a few weeks time where we discuss and agree what we want to do next.

We have already decided that we want to go again as soon as possible so we might go through it a 3rd time together!!!!! Let's hope we are both

at the end!!

Anyway I just want to say a big thanks to everyone - I dunno what I would have done without this site, it's been a real find
xx

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Fri Feb 25, 2005 6:55 pm

Way to go Cheryl! I like the proud, brave + strong descriptions best. I'm an activist too and it's all or nothing with me so I totally applaud your actions. Your job sounds way too much and definitely not the thing to help you with treatment. You've probably read Zita by now...she suggests lots of rest BEFORE treatment so as help prepare the body. Taking a year out sounds like a brilliant idea, all that stress...ugh. It reminds me of my old life (work-aholic City b*tch) and I'm so glad to have left it all behind. I don't think you'll regret this decision for long. Scary yes but sooooo worth it.

Double Hugs for being so brave!
Debra.

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Fri Feb 25, 2005 6:58 pm

Hi Joanne, I bet you're pleased this working week is over aren't you?

Accupuncture is top of my list too but I can't find a recommendation from anyone. There are a few providers but I want someone with a personal vote of confidence attached.

The summer sounds like a good idea. I read last year that summer treatment have a slightly better statistical success rate than others. Not sure why. I know there are several people going again in June. Someone on the February board posted yesterday about delaying until June. You'll have lots of good company.

Have a good weekend,
Debra.

CC · Post by CC » Fri Feb 25, 2005 7:16 pm

Thanks Debra and Joanne - it's great to be back in touch with people - I thought maybe people would disappear off the board after treatment so it's nice to think that the contact goes on. Joanne - I'm so glad you're going to give it another try - you won't regret it. Debra, I think I might be the one who was asking about June / July company so it would be fascinating to know when people are starting up again. I will also ask my friend who specialises in acupuncture and reike associated with IVF (and has trained with Zita West at some point) if she has any recommendations of people near your areas. Keep in touch, Cherylxx

Jackie S · Post by **Jackie S** » Fri Feb 25, 2005 7:17 pm

Hi Cheryl

I am so sorry to read about your negative result, and I am very sorry you are having such a hard time. I saw Kate after our miscarriage and it was good to talk to someone who knew about the emotions and pain that I was feeling. I know she will help you too.

We saw her 3-4 times but decided to stop when we were going through our last treatment, but I know that I probably should have continued.

I really admire you for having the courage to make changes to your life. Use the next few months to refresh yourself emotionally it seemed like forever when we were waiting for our treatment but I think it helped to take time out.

Good luck

Jackie

CC · Post by CC » Sat Feb 26, 2005 11:25 am

Thanks Jackie - great to hear from you. How's your pregnancy going? All blooming I hope. I feel really positive about everything and I've just got three new reads from Amazon all about treatment and there's lots of inspirational stories so all in all maybe this was meant to be. I'm going to focus on getting really fit and healthy and enjoying life instead of dwelling on that awful feeling that life is on hold until the 'problem is solved'! Which has been so bad for me. Keep us in touch with your progress, love Cherylx

Sallyc · Post by **Sallyc** » Mon Feb 28, 2005 10:13 am

Hi all,

sorry for not posting for quite a while.

First i would like to say CONGRATULATIONS to all BFP's

and i am really sorry for all -ve's, big hug!!!

I've just come back from hospital. After my hcg level first droped it started rising again. To cut a long story short...it was an eptopic pregnancy. I had surgery last thursday. Still feeling a bit weak and my tummy is still quite sore, but i am getting there.

Thank u all for your nice words and your brilliant support. What would i do without u?

All the best for all of u who r still in the 2ww. Best of luck!!

Cheryl-so very sorry u got a -ve. Good on u for making changes and giving up your job. Where abouts r u?

Sally.

Joanne104 · Post by **Joanne104** » Mon Feb 28, 2005 5:16 pm

Sally, sorry to hear your news - that must have been awful for you, hope you feel better soon....x

We are off to the clinic for our review appointment next week to chat to the consultant about future options - part of me is dreading it, have just got this awful feeling in the back of my mind he is going to say there is something wrong with me, my eggs are not good enough for ICSI etc etc, found a book yesterday by Robert Winston - has anyone ever read any of his stuff?

Cheryl - noticed that you had written that you have found some books on Amazon - can you recommend any good reads?!

Take care everyone
xx

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Mon Feb 28, 2005 8:21 pm

Joanne, I tend to think of Robert Winston as an infertility god so providing the book is accessible and not a technical tome, I'd say give a read!

Have a look at Cheryl's thread about recommended reading she lists some books on treatment there so am guessing she's refering to these...I'm sure she'll correct me if I'm wrong

Good luck with your apt. Doctors aren't usually cruel, esp. in this field. If they've some advice or findings, I'm sure they'd let you know gently. Bt let's be positive please!!!! I can imagine you're nervous though. Let us know how it goes.

Debra.

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