Hi Eskavon
Glad you enjoyed your hols - I was just thinking about how nice it would be to get away for a week or two earlier!
Can I ask where you go for your acunpuncture? From your profile I see you don't live too far from me and acupuncture is something I am really interested in for next time I have treatment later on this year. I have had a quick look to see if I can find anyone but would prefer a recommendation. If you don't mind that is!
Good luck with your treatment, hope it goes really well for you, let us know how you are doing - when do you start with your injections??
Thanks
xx
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michelle_in_scotland
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Hi girls,
How's everyone been?
I've just had the worst couple of days ever, came down with a lousy, stinking cold at the weekend and feel awful. Went to my mam's last night after work with her mother's day card, she was sitting in my brother's room on his computer, we chatted for a while, then right out of the blue she said she's thinking of leaving my dad and moving away. A little while later my dad came up and asked me to go into the kitchen as he wanted a word with me, he told me he's thinking of leaving my mam and moving out. I really don't know what's going on, who's leaving who and who's moving out, it's all so confusing. I never ever thought my parents would split up, they have been married 30 years. I really don't know what to do, do i have it out with them, tell them they are being stupid, or just sit back and say nothing and let them throw away 30 years of marriage? Michael (my DH) thinks i shouldn't say anything, he says it's between them and if it's what they want then just to let them get on with it. This is gonna sound selfish but this is the last thing i need right now what with treatment starting in 2 weeks time.
Sorry for going on about it, i know this isn't really the place for this sort of problem but i just needed to get it off my chest.
My head is starting to pound now with this stinking cold, think i'll go take some paracetamol and have a lie down, hopefully i'll feel a bit better tomorrow.
Take care all and talk to you soon.
Lotsa love
Michelle
xxxx
How's everyone been?
I've just had the worst couple of days ever, came down with a lousy, stinking cold at the weekend and feel awful. Went to my mam's last night after work with her mother's day card, she was sitting in my brother's room on his computer, we chatted for a while, then right out of the blue she said she's thinking of leaving my dad and moving away. A little while later my dad came up and asked me to go into the kitchen as he wanted a word with me, he told me he's thinking of leaving my mam and moving out. I really don't know what's going on, who's leaving who and who's moving out, it's all so confusing. I never ever thought my parents would split up, they have been married 30 years. I really don't know what to do, do i have it out with them, tell them they are being stupid, or just sit back and say nothing and let them throw away 30 years of marriage? Michael (my DH) thinks i shouldn't say anything, he says it's between them and if it's what they want then just to let them get on with it. This is gonna sound selfish but this is the last thing i need right now what with treatment starting in 2 weeks time.
Sorry for going on about it, i know this isn't really the place for this sort of problem but i just needed to get it off my chest.
My head is starting to pound now with this stinking cold, think i'll go take some paracetamol and have a lie down, hopefully i'll feel a bit better tomorrow.
Take care all and talk to you soon.
Lotsa love
Michelle
xxxx
Me 34 DH 33 male factor
1st ICSI - March 05 total freeze all
Natural FET - July 05 -ve
Natural FET - Aug 05 +ve
Baby GIRL due 15th May 2006 (Kady finally arrived on 26th May)
Complete shock on 22/10/09 when HPT came up +ve Natural pg
1st ICSI - March 05 total freeze all
Natural FET - July 05 -ve
Natural FET - Aug 05 +ve
Baby GIRL due 15th May 2006 (Kady finally arrived on 26th May)
Complete shock on 22/10/09 when HPT came up +ve Natural pg
Hi Michelle. Oh poor you.....yes this is the kind of place for saying this kind of stuff. Where else would you go?
I've had some experience of what you had yesterday and I'm sorry that it's just starting now for you. I agree it is crappy timing but no time is good for this stuff. The one positive I can see from what you said is that at the very minimum, they sound as if whatever is happening won't be a shock for one or the other. If they're both unhappy and thinking about leaving they're on the same page so to speak.
My suggestion would be get them to counselling asap. Call Relate and find out how long the waiting list is in their area. If short, get one of them to call and get on the list. Maybe having someone there to help them talk things through will get the issues out on the table and discussed clearly. I'm not suggesting counselling will make anything better but talking about it openly together can only help them decide what to do.
This won't help you yet but I was too young to understand my Mum's first divorce, the 2nd was bloody awful and screwed everyone's heads up but her third marriage has been totally and utterly wonderful for 18 years. She's so happy but had refused to marry him for years saying she was too embarrassed to be married 3 times. When I think how unhappy she was before, sometimes even after 30 years, people need to move on and find happiness alone or with someone else.
Again, sorry you're going through this. Being there for both of them will be really, really tough.
Hugs
Debra.
I've had some experience of what you had yesterday and I'm sorry that it's just starting now for you. I agree it is crappy timing but no time is good for this stuff. The one positive I can see from what you said is that at the very minimum, they sound as if whatever is happening won't be a shock for one or the other. If they're both unhappy and thinking about leaving they're on the same page so to speak.
My suggestion would be get them to counselling asap. Call Relate and find out how long the waiting list is in their area. If short, get one of them to call and get on the list. Maybe having someone there to help them talk things through will get the issues out on the table and discussed clearly. I'm not suggesting counselling will make anything better but talking about it openly together can only help them decide what to do.
This won't help you yet but I was too young to understand my Mum's first divorce, the 2nd was bloody awful and screwed everyone's heads up but her third marriage has been totally and utterly wonderful for 18 years. She's so happy but had refused to marry him for years saying she was too embarrassed to be married 3 times. When I think how unhappy she was before, sometimes even after 30 years, people need to move on and find happiness alone or with someone else.
Again, sorry you're going through this. Being there for both of them will be really, really tough.
Hugs
Debra.
Dear Michelle
So sorry to hear about your awful time, I agree with Debra, maybe you could suggest they go talk to someone. Counselling can help an awful lot. It must be terrible for you and especially with everything else that's going on its a lot to deal with. Try and keep smiling and take care.
Dear Joanne
Yes I do live in the Middlesbrough area - where abouts are you? I'm in Nunthorpe. The acupuncture clinic I go to is near to Longlands college on Douglas st in Middlesbrough. Going for my second appointment on Friday so will let you how it goes. The guy is really nice who does it and is all qualified and registered - I got his details off the British Acupuncture Society website. If you want the number let me know. He said its best to start the acupuncture a month before starting treatment. Going for my blood test tomorrow am so will probably start on the pill on Thursday.
Feeling happier today - this message board really boosts you up when you're on a downer and its great that there are so many friendly people out there
Lol Eskavon x
So sorry to hear about your awful time, I agree with Debra, maybe you could suggest they go talk to someone. Counselling can help an awful lot. It must be terrible for you and especially with everything else that's going on its a lot to deal with. Try and keep smiling and take care.
Dear Joanne
Yes I do live in the Middlesbrough area - where abouts are you? I'm in Nunthorpe. The acupuncture clinic I go to is near to Longlands college on Douglas st in Middlesbrough. Going for my second appointment on Friday so will let you how it goes. The guy is really nice who does it and is all qualified and registered - I got his details off the British Acupuncture Society website. If you want the number let me know. He said its best to start the acupuncture a month before starting treatment. Going for my blood test tomorrow am so will probably start on the pill on Thursday.
Feeling happier today - this message board really boosts you up when you're on a downer and its great that there are so many friendly people out there
Lol Eskavon x
hello...Feeling really fed up....still haven't got my AF!!!!only due tomorrow but i'm usually early, so can't make the phone call to book scan til they arrive....tomorrow is my last chance to start this month cause any later and i'll have to wait next month.
Going on a conference at the beginning of next week so can't go to clinic for scan.....
I've had bad period pain since last thursday, i really though they would have appered by now...how disappointed....did all test on time and now only waiting for 1 more thing....'
Even if they arrive tomorrow, hope the clinic can fit me in for scan on friday if not...still have to wait next month.
Work is really busy and stressful, my supervisor is off sick and i end up with the extra work load....felling really fed up.
Sorry to moad but hope all will be better soon.
Keep you posted.
Love to you all and best of luck
Delly
Delly, it's cr*p when something as 'simple' as AF fails to show isn't it? You've still got a little bit of time though.
Could you have a scan somewhere close to the conference? If it's fairly straightforward (measuring the uterine lining?) any private GYN should be able to measure it, take a print-out and you can take it to your clinic when you get back. Might be worth a chance vs. losing a month? what do you think?
fingers crossed AF arrives in the next few hours.
hugs
Debra.
Could you have a scan somewhere close to the conference? If it's fairly straightforward (measuring the uterine lining?) any private GYN should be able to measure it, take a print-out and you can take it to your clinic when you get back. Might be worth a chance vs. losing a month? what do you think?
fingers crossed AF arrives in the next few hours.
hugs
Debra.
hi DebraP,
Thanks for you reply and advice.
The scan if to check if i have any cystes....it needs to be done on day 2-3 of the AF.
I think if it's not meant to be this month, with all the stress and work load i am enduring at the moment, well that's that.....i might be in a uplefted spirit in april....spring, birds singing.....
At the moment i feel quite low, even i have active life, friends, job!!!!supportive husband, i feel quite the treatment will never happen and i'm terrified of it failling.....just waiting for my AF this month and i am a wreck..i think i'll find the whole precess difficult and stressfull.
It's like 5 years ago, trying for a baby all over again...
Well..no signs of AF as yet...let's hope they'll show up in the morning.
Love and speak soon.
Thanks god i have you all to moan at....
Delly
Thanks for you reply and advice.
The scan if to check if i have any cystes....it needs to be done on day 2-3 of the AF.
I think if it's not meant to be this month, with all the stress and work load i am enduring at the moment, well that's that.....i might be in a uplefted spirit in april....spring, birds singing.....
At the moment i feel quite low, even i have active life, friends, job!!!!supportive husband, i feel quite the treatment will never happen and i'm terrified of it failling.....just waiting for my AF this month and i am a wreck..i think i'll find the whole precess difficult and stressfull.
It's like 5 years ago, trying for a baby all over again...
Well..no signs of AF as yet...let's hope they'll show up in the morning.
Love and speak soon.
Thanks god i have you all to moan at....
Delly
Delly
Hope you are feeling a bit better today and AF turns up, scan goes ok etc etc!!!!
Kelly - good luck at clinic, hope it goes ok
Eskavon
I live in Coulby Newham, have lived here for about 3 years (am originally from Durham), if you would let me have the number that would be really great, and yes please do let me know how things go at your next appointment.
Have you begun your treatment yet?
Joanne
xx
Hope you are feeling a bit better today and AF turns up, scan goes ok etc etc!!!!
Kelly - good luck at clinic, hope it goes ok
Eskavon
I live in Coulby Newham, have lived here for about 3 years (am originally from Durham), if you would let me have the number that would be really great, and yes please do let me know how things go at your next appointment.
Have you begun your treatment yet?
Joanne
xx
me 34 - dh 39
ttc 4 yrs
2 ivf -ve
1 ivf Aug 05 +ve, miscarried 5.5 wks
ttc 4 yrs
2 ivf -ve
1 ivf Aug 05 +ve, miscarried 5.5 wks
Thanks Debra for the experience with Synarela. I am patiently awaiting to start sniffing next week. Hot flashes I can deal with - but DH may not be able to deal with any mood swings. We shall see how it goes - but in the end it is all worth it! 
Traci
me37,DH49
IUI 01/05:-
1. IVF - 04/05: -
2. IVF -cancelled -preg nat-m/c 5w3d
3. IVF -success
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me37,DH49
IUI 01/05:-
1. IVF - 04/05: -
2. IVF -cancelled -preg nat-m/c 5w3d
3. IVF -success
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Hello All 
Sorry I haven't been around lately - having trouble catching up
I have been ill for over a week now and off work this is really worrying me as I haven't even started treatment yet so feel like I am using up sick days I could do with saving!! My boss is really understanding - but everyone has there limits!! I know stop worrying.
Today I do feel much better and have had some sad news from work that kind of puts things in perspective. I have been really down the last few days feeling like I will never get better and that it might hold up tmt - trouble with being off sick too much time to think. DH is doing his best to look after me - but we all know what men are like - bless um
Michelle I was really sorry to hear about your mum and dad - I know there would never be a good time for this but now is pretty rotten timing!!Hope you are ok otherwise. This is exactly the place to talk about it - that is what we are all here for.
Kelly - hope your appointment went ok yesterday
Delly - hope you are ok and that your AF is here - it is so mad this tmt business one minute you want your AF then you don't then you do - that alone is enough to make you mad
How is everyone else?
I will try and catch up - everytime I log on and start reading it wears me out.
Love to all
Julie
Sorry I haven't been around lately - having trouble catching up
I have been ill for over a week now and off work this is really worrying me as I haven't even started treatment yet so feel like I am using up sick days I could do with saving!! My boss is really understanding - but everyone has there limits!! I know stop worrying.
Today I do feel much better and have had some sad news from work that kind of puts things in perspective. I have been really down the last few days feeling like I will never get better and that it might hold up tmt - trouble with being off sick too much time to think. DH is doing his best to look after me - but we all know what men are like - bless um
Michelle I was really sorry to hear about your mum and dad - I know there would never be a good time for this but now is pretty rotten timing!!Hope you are ok otherwise. This is exactly the place to talk about it - that is what we are all here for.
Kelly - hope your appointment went ok yesterday
Delly - hope you are ok and that your AF is here - it is so mad this tmt business one minute you want your AF then you don't then you do - that alone is enough to make you mad
How is everyone else?
I will try and catch up - everytime I log on and start reading it wears me out.
Love to all
Julie
Me 32 DH 37 ttc 2years
Male Factor
First ICSI October 04 - cycle abandoned high risk of OHSS
ICSI April/May 05 -ve
ICSI Sep/Oct 05 +ve result 12th October
DD born June 2006
ICSI Oct/Nov08 -ve
Male Factor
First ICSI October 04 - cycle abandoned high risk of OHSS
ICSI April/May 05 -ve
ICSI Sep/Oct 05 +ve result 12th October
DD born June 2006
ICSI Oct/Nov08 -ve
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taylorjools
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- Location: continental Europe
for Jude
JUde my heart is with you, you darling sweetie
you have been though so much, I am waiting with you for your test, please don't give up, I'll be your buddy if you want, I know how painful it all is..I'll meet you in Barcelona or the Uk or whatever would help..and if you get a BFP then I'll dance for joy and if BFN then I'll be here for you and pray for you and if dh needs someone then my dh has offered to talk...praying to the womb and placenta fairy tonite
JulieT
you have been though so much, I am waiting with you for your test, please don't give up, I'll be your buddy if you want, I know how painful it all is..I'll meet you in Barcelona or the Uk or whatever would help..and if you get a BFP then I'll dance for joy and if BFN then I'll be here for you and pray for you and if dh needs someone then my dh has offered to talk...praying to the womb and placenta fairy tonite
JulieT
POF+autoimmune+dh antibodies,5.05 DIVF IM M/c 7.5 wks, DIVF+TESE at ISIDA - son 08/06
FET ISIDA: 12.07.07 m/c 8 wks b.ovum, 17 Dec 2007- BFP triplets OMG!!!
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FET ISIDA: 12.07.07 m/c 8 wks b.ovum, 17 Dec 2007- BFP triplets OMG!!!
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Hello...Well, still no sign of AF, i can't believe it....always early....but i've been on some medication for my thyroid, it's underworking and i think that's the reason why i am late...well only due today.....
I hope to come on tomorrow and hope still be ok to do the scan on friday....if the clinic can fit me in???!!!!Who knows it's a nightmare.
It's true, i am waiting for AF to arrive and i'm pretty sure it 'll be the opposite in a couple of month...still be a wreck either way!!!
Take care and speak soon
Love
Delly
This board is getting really busy now isn't it? I can tell if I need to write notes before I start typing!
Kelly. How did the apt. go?
Delly. You're right if it's not this month it will be April and that really is spring in the UK. Fingers crossed it still arrives though, the meds may very well have altered the timing slightly. Sod's law.
Traci. I was reading my fertility bible again last night and found a fuller list of possible side effects from the downregging.
* mood swings/emotional fragility
* irritability and bad temper
* tiredness
* hot flushes and sweats
* breast tenderness
* vaginal dryness
* flu-like aches or headaches
* changes in sex drive
* irregular bleeding
quite a list. I forgot to say I'd had to wear a bra at night as my boobs were so tender. My libido has dropped like a stone and I'm sooooo irritable. Poor DH. At least they know it's for a good reason for once!!
Julie. Sorry to hear you've been ill. It never helps does it? If it's out of your control then all you can do is go with it and think positively that it will be over soon and you'll be fighting fit for tmt. Hearing other news does put things into perspective I agree.
I'm worried as I read Zita again and she talks alot about resting during downregging. I'm looking at 3 days of manic physical activity whilst we move this weekend (we live on the 4th floor now so must carry everything out), and that's without looking after my toddler. Then next week is really busy workwise and I start with 2 new clients in the next fortnight. I'm self-employed so no chance of delegating or postponing. I'm concerned I'm not giving myself the space to get ready. That and I've sprayed Mr Muscle all over my oven and as this is an open plan room, can smell it from here. Can't be good for me......see? I'm looking for things to worry about
I need to relax and drink water. Zita's warnings about not going into tmt dehydrated struck a chord as I always under-drink...
I hope other people are more balanced and calm than I feel right now.
hugs
Debra.
Kelly. How did the apt. go?
Delly. You're right if it's not this month it will be April and that really is spring in the UK. Fingers crossed it still arrives though, the meds may very well have altered the timing slightly. Sod's law.
Traci. I was reading my fertility bible again last night and found a fuller list of possible side effects from the downregging.
* mood swings/emotional fragility
* irritability and bad temper
* tiredness
* hot flushes and sweats
* breast tenderness
* vaginal dryness
* flu-like aches or headaches
* changes in sex drive
* irregular bleeding
quite a list. I forgot to say I'd had to wear a bra at night as my boobs were so tender. My libido has dropped like a stone and I'm sooooo irritable. Poor DH. At least they know it's for a good reason for once!!
Julie. Sorry to hear you've been ill. It never helps does it? If it's out of your control then all you can do is go with it and think positively that it will be over soon and you'll be fighting fit for tmt. Hearing other news does put things into perspective I agree.
I'm worried as I read Zita again and she talks alot about resting during downregging. I'm looking at 3 days of manic physical activity whilst we move this weekend (we live on the 4th floor now so must carry everything out), and that's without looking after my toddler. Then next week is really busy workwise and I start with 2 new clients in the next fortnight. I'm self-employed so no chance of delegating or postponing. I'm concerned I'm not giving myself the space to get ready. That and I've sprayed Mr Muscle all over my oven and as this is an open plan room, can smell it from here. Can't be good for me......see? I'm looking for things to worry about
I need to relax and drink water. Zita's warnings about not going into tmt dehydrated struck a chord as I always under-drink...
I hope other people are more balanced and calm than I feel right now.
hugs
Debra.
Me: 44, DH: 31
Game Over.
Dates: Aug 02 - May 06
Tries: 5 fresh + 4 frozen.
Results: 1 daughter, 2 m/c, 1 ectopic.
Game Over.
Dates: Aug 02 - May 06
Tries: 5 fresh + 4 frozen.
Results: 1 daughter, 2 m/c, 1 ectopic.
Debra,
I try to keep up, but I can't remember when you are cycling next. Can you please update your signature? You are right... this board is VERY busy. The updated signatures/profiles really help keep people straight with histories and next steps.
I love this board!
Thanks,
Randa
I try to keep up, but I can't remember when you are cycling next. Can you please update your signature? You are right... this board is VERY busy. The updated signatures/profiles really help keep people straight with histories and next steps.
I love this board!
Thanks,
Randa
Randa
Me 44, DH 40
ttc 0, went straight to IVF
1st EC = Feb 05, 5 frosties, no transfer attempt
2nd EC = June 05, cancelled
3rd EC = Sept 05, 4 frosties, no transfer attempt
4th EC/ET = Feb 06, 3 transf., BFN
5th EC/ET = May 06
Me 44, DH 40
ttc 0, went straight to IVF
1st EC = Feb 05, 5 frosties, no transfer attempt
2nd EC = June 05, cancelled
3rd EC = Sept 05, 4 frosties, no transfer attempt
4th EC/ET = Feb 06, 3 transf., BFN
5th EC/ET = May 06