soon to start IVF

[harri]

HI everyone, I'm new to this site and having read loads of your messages think this site's great! My dh (thanks for the help on abbreviations!) and I have been ttc for over 4 years . we have just had 3 unsuccessful IUI attempts and still no cause has been found. My dh has very high sperm count, me no blocked tubes and on my IUI cyles I hardly had any drugs and had two cycles abandoned because of so many eggs! All sounds good I know but i'm feeling very down about it being unexplained - although everyone tells me that's a good thing. I almost wish they'd find something wrong so at least I would have a reason. Anyone out there who has "unexplained infertility" and is going through similar, or can offer me any advice, I would love to hear from you. We are now going for IVF and hope to start in couple of months. Any advice on that would also be great!
Wishing you all all the best x

[brinilass]

Hi Harri

I dont have unexplained infertility ours is on DH side, low motility.
But i just wanted to welcome you to this site..im sure someone here will have some advice on unexplained infertility.
Good luck for the future

love kelly x

[ogr1]

glad you found this forum

i am sorry to say that sometimes we
never get answers to our qustions..

but you do have some good things going for you so hang in there..

hopefuly someone can give you some ideas..
but for know
welcome

[harri]

Hi Kelly

thanks for the welcome - it's so good to know there are people out there who know what you're going through. That's the worse thing about this - you feel so alone. My family and the friends that know have been great, but no one really can understand unless they are going through it themselves. I have just moved house and am not working at the moment either (trying to give myself the best chance - although I don't know if it's working - climbing the walls from boredom!) and feeling very lonely so it's good to know there's people there!!
Thanks and best of luck

[harri]

Hi Becky

I know it's a minefield! thanks for the welcome and best of luck to you xx

[debbieed]

Hello Harri,
Welcome. I've found this site to be really helpful.
We too have 'unexplained' infertility. Unfortunately we've never had any answers to our questions so still feel confused about why IVF hasn't worked so far for us. However, if you read the messages lots of people have successful outcomes from their treatment whatever the reason so don't give up hope. Keep asking questions and keep a PMA.

Love
Debbie

[Amers Or]

Welcome aboard Harri As Becky says - you have a good few positives in your situation so don't give up hope! Hopefully they'll get to the bottom of it with more investigations!!! Good luck with the IVF

[LittleP]

Hi Harri

Welcome - I am new here this month and I hope you get as much from it as I have.

There are so many people here who have answers and support so don't be afraid to ask any questions about IVF. We all understand what it is and how it makes you feel

Little P

[taylorjools]

Hi Harri
I also just joined this month and this board has saved my sanity - welcome to you!
As you see from the signature, we have POF and mf reversed vasectomy with antibodies so we are a super fertility nightmare. Tjiens as we say in German, I thought 35was quite a respectable time to ttc but seemingly no..nearly 6 years later we are going for IVF with donor eggs..

All I would say I'read this siteavidly because even if you don't get all the answers you'll find people who understand and also, very important the right questions to ask.

Sometimes the "experts" seem to take a long time and a lot of cycles to get the diagnosis right eg our IUI should not have happened but no-one did an ovarian function test - reason given -didn't wnat you to do expensive test if not necessary ----huh ??? better than a failed IUI..if we'd gobe straight to IVF then maybe things would have been different...??

Just an example


anyway welcome and best wishes to you

Julie from Germany

[gailp]

Hi Harri
I have unexplained infertility, I had 2 goes at IUI about 7 years ago and had to stop for personal reasons. I have now been trying for 16 months and have been told that we don't have any problems. Like you I find it so frustrating and half wish they would find a problem so that it could be worked on. On the positive side the fact that we have no problems means that there is always hope that we could just fall pregnant naturally. Im trying to have a PMA, Fingers crossed. I am waiting for my next hospital appointment to see what me and my DP can do next.

[harri]

Thanks to all of you who have replied- there are some really positive messages there and hope for us all. PMA is definitely the message here and I know how tough it is to keep it up, so thanks again for all your support. This site is great - at last i feel i am talking to people who understand! Best of luck to everyone

[rajiravi]

Hi Harri,
Welcome to the site. This is the best site I ever found. I did join other groups too. But non like this. I feel I can find the support and comfort that other groups couldn't give. Like you had mentioned, we do feel so lonely and until one really experiences an infertility or is undergoing an IVF treatment. I have myself gone through this phase where people kept wondering why the heck am i doing all this torture to my self and if we really wanted another kid just go and adobt a kid. Its easy for people outside to give comments, but its only the couples who are undergoing this treatment know what it really is

Anyway welcome to the site and hope you get your answers and wish you all the best on your cycle.

Raji

[harri]

thanks for the reply Raji - you are so right. I wish i'd discovered this sooner!!!!!!
I can't believe how lovely everyone is - taking the time to reply to messages that might not even relate to them - it's really nice to know there are people out there who genuinely care. And we're the people who can't have kids - where's the logic in that eh?!

[kimbo]

hi harry,

i to have unexplained infertility and i have a 12 year old son from a previous relationship. in my previous relationship i failed to fall pregnant after my son but ignored it really although i was not taking precautions we were not actively trying every month so i just thought id let nature take its course. I think looking back ignoring it was partly the cause of our breakdown but thats another story!.

im in a new relationship now and have been for 5 years we have actively been trying for 2 years and nothing happened so we both went for tests and everything was fine and we were referred for further tests. this showed i had polycystic ovarys although i had no symptoms. Anyway this was not put down as the cause.

we were offered ivf or iui but as im 35 we decided on ivf.

we started ivf in jan and have just tested and result is +ve I cant believe my luck especially when i read some of the other ladies stories I feel very lucky but i know i have a long way to go yet My heart goes out to others with failed attempts i feel almost guilty that its worked first time for me.

i hope that my story gives you hope and you will find lots of comfort here, its definatley helped me through the last week.

[Sand]

Hi there Harri. Glad you've found the site You'll get lots of info, support and laughs ..!

As you can see, my (or, our) problem is male factor. So, know what the problem is - just can't sort it.

A book called "Fertility and Conception" by Zita West is a minefield of info, and well worth a read.

Sandra x