Hey Little P and harri!
I totally agree with you finding work when you are married, in in the age group, late20's, early 30's is awful. In the early day's when we were ttc I went for some interviews, and didn't have success, they couldn't give reasons but I damn well know it's because of being in the age group of child bearing years. Employers do assume, Not once have I been asked in an interview about my plans to start a family. It's wrong!!
That's why I am stuck in my job, as I cant afford to leave, and know I wont find other work.
Wish I could win the lottery or something, then I would leave!!
Time off work.......
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Hi,
Everyone that is having work troubles has my full sympathy.
I went through the job hunting stage last year and it was not fun. I have worked in shops since leaving school at 17 years old, i know just about all there is to know about shop work and thought with my experience it would be easy. In my second ever job i only started as a part time worker but after 2 months got promoted twice and became assistant manager, i stuck at that job until i became ill and eventually had to stop working. So last year, after being out of work for about 4 years i felt ready to get back out to work and find just a wee part time job. I didn't think it would be difficult as there were loads of part time shop work always being advertised. Oh how wrong i was. It took just over 6 months of countless application forms, next to no interviews and not even hearing back from companies. I don't know if it was the fact i was out of work for so long with an illness that went against me or the fact that i was getting married and would need time off for that and honeymoon (you know the bit on application forms where you have to write down dates you need off), so they might have thought, yeah she's getting married so won't be too long before she's pregnant. Anyways, my MIL of all people gave me a job at the shop where she was manager as she had just become very short staffed. After being there only 2 months we found out the company was selling up and closing all their shops. I was gutted at the thought of having to go through job hunting again but my MIL came to the rescue again and fixed up my current job for me. My area manager used to be the old area manager of her shop and they were quite friendly.
I couldn't have chosen better people to work with, they all know about my treatment and have been absolutely brilliant, even the assistant manager who is an 18 year old lad, he told me the other day not to go overdoing things at work if i don't feel up to it and if need be when i'm on a till he'll even go into the office and bring me out a chair to sit on. The girls at work made a point of watching that Precious Babies programme the other night to get a rough understanding of what i'll be going through and are really rooting for me.
I really feel for you all that have horrible bosses and work mates, i feel so lucky having an understanding work place.
Good luck to you all.
Take care,
Lotsa love
Michelle
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Everyone that is having work troubles has my full sympathy.
I went through the job hunting stage last year and it was not fun. I have worked in shops since leaving school at 17 years old, i know just about all there is to know about shop work and thought with my experience it would be easy. In my second ever job i only started as a part time worker but after 2 months got promoted twice and became assistant manager, i stuck at that job until i became ill and eventually had to stop working. So last year, after being out of work for about 4 years i felt ready to get back out to work and find just a wee part time job. I didn't think it would be difficult as there were loads of part time shop work always being advertised. Oh how wrong i was. It took just over 6 months of countless application forms, next to no interviews and not even hearing back from companies. I don't know if it was the fact i was out of work for so long with an illness that went against me or the fact that i was getting married and would need time off for that and honeymoon (you know the bit on application forms where you have to write down dates you need off), so they might have thought, yeah she's getting married so won't be too long before she's pregnant. Anyways, my MIL of all people gave me a job at the shop where she was manager as she had just become very short staffed. After being there only 2 months we found out the company was selling up and closing all their shops. I was gutted at the thought of having to go through job hunting again but my MIL came to the rescue again and fixed up my current job for me. My area manager used to be the old area manager of her shop and they were quite friendly.
I couldn't have chosen better people to work with, they all know about my treatment and have been absolutely brilliant, even the assistant manager who is an 18 year old lad, he told me the other day not to go overdoing things at work if i don't feel up to it and if need be when i'm on a till he'll even go into the office and bring me out a chair to sit on. The girls at work made a point of watching that Precious Babies programme the other night to get a rough understanding of what i'll be going through and are really rooting for me.
I really feel for you all that have horrible bosses and work mates, i feel so lucky having an understanding work place.
Good luck to you all.
Take care,
Lotsa love
Michelle
xxx
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1st ICSI - March 05 total freeze all
Natural FET - July 05 -ve
Natural FET - Aug 05 +ve
Baby GIRL due 15th May 2006 (Kady finally arrived on 26th May)
Complete shock on 22/10/09 when HPT came up +ve Natural pg
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Thought I would just bring this up to the top again, after reading Harri's post, other's might want to refer to it. 
My boss is still a %^&*"£$% Now people in the office are gossiping.....Wish, I'd kept my mouth shut!!
My boss is still a %^&*"£$% Now people in the office are gossiping.....Wish, I'd kept my mouth shut!!
IUI using donor in 2005
1st IVF cancelled OHSS 2006
2nd IVF 4 eggs all failed to fertilise 2009
3rd IVF successful 2010 pregnant Miscarried early
FET negative 2011
ADOPTED DAUGHTER 2014
1st IVF cancelled OHSS 2006
2nd IVF 4 eggs all failed to fertilise 2009
3rd IVF successful 2010 pregnant Miscarried early
FET negative 2011
ADOPTED DAUGHTER 2014
Nicola
Don't let gossips get to you - one day soon you'll have your little one and it'll all be worth it.
If that's all they've got to talk about they are very sad
It makes me 
people's total insensitivity to other people's situations
Be strong, we're all here for you.
Little P
Don't let gossips get to you - one day soon you'll have your little one and it'll all be worth it.
If that's all they've got to talk about they are very sad
It makes me people's total insensitivity to other people's situations Be strong, we're all here for you.
Little P
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thanx little p..... it's u again.... you are all over the place!!
The gossips dont intimidate me. they are small minded people. I dont care about 'em!
The gossips dont intimidate me. they are small minded people. I dont care about 'em!
IUI using donor in 2005
1st IVF cancelled OHSS 2006
2nd IVF 4 eggs all failed to fertilise 2009
3rd IVF successful 2010 pregnant Miscarried early
FET negative 2011
ADOPTED DAUGHTER 2014
1st IVF cancelled OHSS 2006
2nd IVF 4 eggs all failed to fertilise 2009
3rd IVF successful 2010 pregnant Miscarried early
FET negative 2011
ADOPTED DAUGHTER 2014
Hi Nichola,
I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry to hear about people gossiping - it's really hurtful and like Little P said, very sad they've got nothing better to do. It makes me really cross but please try and ignore them. If they knew of your pain I'm sure they wouldn't do it, but unfortunately they don't. Perhaps you should confront them (although i have to say i'm not sure i'd be that brave!)
When I left my last job (because my husband's job moved), everyone was going on about how I was leaving to have a baby and can they be godmother etc etc. They went on about it for ages, and a rumour even started that I actually was pregnant. I went home (and to the toilets!) every day and just cried becuase I so wished it was true. People are so insensitive!!
It's very true - we're all here for you. x
me 30, dh 33
ttc nearly 4 years
3 IUI's - unsuccessful, about to start IVF
unexplained infertility
I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry to hear about people gossiping - it's really hurtful and like Little P said, very sad they've got nothing better to do. It makes me really cross but please try and ignore them. If they knew of your pain I'm sure they wouldn't do it, but unfortunately they don't. Perhaps you should confront them (although i have to say i'm not sure i'd be that brave!)
When I left my last job (because my husband's job moved), everyone was going on about how I was leaving to have a baby and can they be godmother etc etc. They went on about it for ages, and a rumour even started that I actually was pregnant. I went home (and to the toilets!) every day and just cried becuase I so wished it was true. People are so insensitive!!
It's very true - we're all here for you. x
me 30, dh 33
ttc nearly 4 years
3 IUI's - unsuccessful, about to start IVF
unexplained infertility
