Other halves!

suzannemorris · Post by **suzannemorris** » Sat Nov 23, 2002 5:59 pm

Hi All, I've just been reading through the postings and the general theme seems to be that we've all got really good, supportive and understanding blokes. Can you imagine how much more difficult (if that's possible!) it would be for us to go through all this with an Arse of a bloke, and let's face it there are plenty of them around. So in the words of Denise Williams "Let's hear it for the boy" Suzanne.x Beckyb...it brought a tear to my eye reading about your hubby cuddling your belly in bed.....Aaahh shucks!!

becky · Post by **becky** » Sun Nov 24, 2002 10:25 am

I know we are so lucky to have the caring other halves that we all appear to have..I know that I would rather be in this situation any day..loving relationship with problems making babies than married to an arse..and drop pg in an instant! Off to read my paper that hubby has bought me (already had a tea and muffin in bed) - No jobs to do either ..just entertain a couple of friends that are popping over to see how I am ..dh has said that he will do the chores today - even clean out my guinea pigs as it is raining! Love beckyb

Wicked Lady · Post by **Wicked Lady** » Sun Nov 24, 2002 4:12 pm

Hi Suzanne and Becky. Yeah your right it does help having a lovely dh, although it makes it more unfair sometimes do you know what I mean?This always happens to the really nice couples who everyones says 'it's such a shame your so perfect for each other' Becky I've got guinea pigs too. They are my substitute babies four little boys.ARHH! and where very proud of them.

becky · Post by **becky** » Sun Nov 24, 2002 4:24 pm

I have 2 boy guineas..Dolce and Gabbana!! Must say that they haven't had as many cuddles lately tho' (see IVF even takes over those special moments!) Love becky B

suzannemorris · Post by **suzannemorris** » Sun Nov 24, 2002 4:41 pm

O.K well this started off as an appreciation thread for the hubbies, but Sod it let's waffle about our pets instead! Monty (our parrot) is currently tucked inside the neck of my T shirt watching me type, makes a pleasant change, as usually he's trying to wrestle the keyboard from me! He's 10 inches of absolute menace, and to be honest we've done an absolutely diabolic job of raising him (doesn't bode well does it), to the point where people are now afraid to visit us because he just attacks them until they leave (this of course occaisonally works to our advantage....Mother in law recently went home with a hole in her ear!). I dread to think what he'll be like when we do eventually have kids, because he's already a jealous and spoilt little brat. Wouldn't be without him though! Suzanne.x

heather · Post by **heather** » Sun Nov 24, 2002 6:31 pm

hi girls, Dont actually have any pets, but i do have one fantastic hubbs. He's been so supportive through all of this, and he has really helped me try to think positive. It's grest that we all have fab hubbs, but i was just curious (mainly cos i'm a nosey cow!!!)to see if there are any ladies on this board that are going it alone, as single women who want a child, or if there are any same sex couples going through this. I don't think it really matters anyhow, as we are all going through near enough the same thing, but i am just curious. Anyways, take care all, Loadsa love, Heather xxx

Mags529 · Post by **Mags529** » Mon Nov 25, 2002 9:14 am

DH was great when we had failed IVF last time, booked up massages for me, took me out when I was throwing a strop about not wanting to see people, let me cry and cry etc... and watched me go out and get really drunk. The best presses was the little puppy "Bob",who has taken over our lives, like Suzanne I do worry about what he will be like when we have kids as this dog is treated like a baby and is very spoilt. I wouldn't be with DH or Bob (who is nearly 2 years old and yes he gets birthday pressies) for the world. Mags xx

alison p · Post by **alison p** » Mon Nov 25, 2002 10:26 am

Dear all, I think that our other halves get a bad deal out of all this. Okay, we're the ones who have to be prodded and poked and have to endure all the injections, but I think that our DHs often get forhotten in all this. Everyone asks how we are, but not often how they are coping. Also, they have to keep us going when it isn't going well, whilst they're going through it as well. I think it's really important to support them as well and give them lots of hugs and treats. Alison P.S. I don't have any pets except for tropical fish, which are very well behaved, but not very cuddly!

tshepher · Post by **tshepher** » Mon Nov 25, 2002 11:10 am

Couldn't agree with you more. My DH, Scott, makes life worth living when eveything else looks so hopeless, he really is my rock. The poor blokes have to be strong for us when it all goes wrong, put up with our hormonal mood swings, temper tantrums and deal with the family /friends when we can't face talking to anyone. Not to mention that special moment when they have to disappear off with a plastic pot !! No pressure Lads !! They are the unsung heroes of IVF. Terri p.s no pets for me but a soft toy collection most department stores would be proud of !!

andreaj · Post by **andreaj** » Mon Nov 25, 2002 12:34 pm

I realy felt for my dh, John, when our IVF attempt failed - he was the one who mopped up my tears, cuddled me, and then had to ring everyone and give them the bad news. Although he was upset, he said that he wasn't really expecting it to work first time, and so he wasn't as devastated as me; BUT..... I can't help wondering how much of that is true; as when we found out that IVF was our only chance, he bottled up how desparate he felt to become a dad so as to not make me feel guilty (I have blocked tubes) about our failure to get pg. What I'm really trying to get at (the long way round) is that it's a real shame that there's nowhere like this site for the blokes in our lives to go with their grief and feelings about the whole rollercoaster that we have to go through in the hope of becoming parents. Thanks guys, for your love and support. May all our deams come true. Andrea <><

alison p · Post by **alison p** » Mon Nov 25, 2002 4:11 pm

Andrea - I'm not sure blokes would use it if there was a similar site for them. I think that it is more of a girlie thing to chat to their friends about their problems. My DH has 2 colleagues whose wives are going through IVF, but will he chat to them? Will he b****cks!! It may be a macho thing. He will chat to friends about our IVF, but I don't think he'd ever have a heart to heart with any of them. However, I wouldn't do without him of course! Alison

suzannemorris · Post by **suzannemorris** » Mon Nov 25, 2002 6:23 pm

Hi Alison, I think me and you must be married to the same bloke! Steve is exactly the same, he could be working alongside a fertility specialist and he still wouldn't share his feelings or ask for advice. Still it wouldn't do for us all to be the same would it? Thank God for this site though, it's just not the same discussing things with friends who although they can sympatise, don't really know what you're going through. Suzanne.x

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