3rd Trimester bumps!!

[kappy]

JenF ... just thought I'd pop on and let you know what my Dr. said regarding highlights. He said "no" to any kind of hair color during the 1st trimester. Then he said I could go ahead with color and highlights during the 2nd and 3rd trimester, but nothing too crazy. I too just get highlights, so I had my hair stylist do them even further from my scalp than normal. I've only had it done once (trying to really space it out) during my 2nd trimester, and I'll probably have it done once during my 3rd. My dr. also said that hair color is far safer today. In the past the chemicals used were much more harsh. Naturally the women at my hair salon laughed at me when I expressed concern. They said they have pregnant women in there all the time for color. I guess it comes down to a personal decision.

Glad to hear that you're all progressing well! It's exciting to read about the ups and downs (I can totally relate to a lot of it). Looking forward to reading about all the new babies shortly =)

Kelly

[Toni]

Hi again

Jen - Just wanted to say that i have no idea about hair colour - i wasn't warned about anything, yet i have noticeable blonde streaks in my hair!!!

When you find out can you let us know - cos I was planning on getting my hair cut and coloured in a few weeks as I figure it will be a while before i can pamper myself when the babies are born!! Now Im worried ......

ive just read through the posts i put earlier - essays I should say! i didnt realise i had started a sentence about sex and just left it unfinished - i meant to delete that as i thought it was TMI!!! rather embarassed now - what i meant to say was that it hasnt gone down the pan as far as he is concerned (my dh) which is a very nice feeling that he can bring himself to go near me!! i on the other hand - have different ideas.....its far too uncomfortable these days!!!

just wanted to clear that up!! now ill go as you all must be fed up of reading posts from me!!!!

love as always

Toni xx

[Toni]

PS hi kelly!!!!!!

[valpas]

Hi Girls,
Kim, I loved your photographs. You are looking too lovely in the wedding gown.
Jen, I could imagine how worried you were- because I also had the same problem. When the Nurse checked with the monitor, baby is jumping there. I think every bit worries us. Now our baby is doing gymnastics. I can see the waves on the tummy when she moves. Its a great show for dh and me before going to sleep.
Jen, I don't have any idea for the high lights.
Sophie-J, How are you doing? How is your shopping going on?
Jackie, congrats on completing 31 weeks. WHen will they give the date? At 35 weeks? Why C-Section for you?
Drink warm milk before going to sleep. It may help you to get good sleep.
Toni, I also got stretch marks(a lot). For me they started in the early days itself. I don't think we can avoid them, unless if the skin has good elasticity.
Wow, your dh seems very caring and supporting. I cann't say my dh is supportive and at the time I cann't say he is not supportive.
For Braxton hicks, as Jen said drink plenty of water. It will help you.
Hi Kelly, How are you doing?
Taking insulin before bed time is helping me to get the fasting results in good shape. But after food they are kind of mixed results. I think when I go next time, Doctor may suggest to take insulin two times.
How is everyone else? Sorry if I miss anyone.
Lots of love girls,
Valli.

[Paige]

Hi 3rd Trimeser Ladies:

Just wanted to know I've been following your progress since your first trimester! My Aug/Sept buddies were 1 trimester ahead of you, so it was fun to see everyone commenting on what we just went through. Now everyone is approaching the BIG day! Congratulations for getting here and good luck with everything. Just know that after the baby is 6 weeks old.....it gets so much easier!

Also...I colored and highlighted my hair all the way through both of my pregnancies. My Dr. said they are more concerned about pregnant hair dressers smelling the chemicals all through the pregnancy than they are people who color their hair. BTW, I would look like Cruella DeVille from 101 Dalmations if I didn't color my hair......one big grey swoop on the side. I also didn't shy away from pedicures or massages!

Best Wishes to you all!

Paige

[Guest]

Hi Girls

Thanks for the advice on the highlights.........will just ask dr on Weds just to be sure..........though I am not sure he knows what highlights are....ie not all over colour and they don't touch scalp......so will maybe not bother......I am sooooo despirate to get it done I don't want to hear NO!! Like you Toni, its now or never........cause I don't envisage much time afterwards, nor would I want to be away from my baby for 3 hours!!

Hi Paige.......glad you are enjoying your baby and how sweet of you to send us all a message! Will definately be getting a pedicure........would not trust DH to cut or paint my toe nails and I get severe heartburn when I bend down so it is complete no go for me!!

My darling mum gave me a nightdress for labour.......nice and cool (as in not warm!!) and long enough to give me some sort of dignity!! Just about getting my bags sorted out at the moment.........few things to go in but more or less organised! I think the midwife at my ante-natal scare DH and I into it when she mentioned that all the ladies in her previous group all gave birth between 35 and 38 weeks for their first babies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am STILL doing my course........quite glad as it passes the time and means I am ploughing through stuff that I may not get done for ages afterwards!!

I know for some it is quite personal but has anyone thought about whether they are going to breastfeed or not?? I only ask because I am soooo confused........because there is so much pressure to breastfeed, I don't know whether that is the decision I truely want or whether I am just being forced into something!?? There are so many pros and cons for both!

Nothing much else for me............only 2 days to my next consultant appointment yeahhhhhhhh.........and my Anti-D injection booooo!

Big hugs

Jenfx 34 weeks today!!

[Toni]

Hi Jen

just thought I'd reply to the message about breatsfeeding. its a difficult one isn't it, especially if you are in hospital for a few days following a c-section or something, as from what i have heard the nurses put pressure on you like crazy! My next door neighbour had an emergency c-section 2 1/2 weks early, and her milk hadn't actually kicked in, so after trying to breastfeed while she was in there for the first 2 days she gave up! she said when she made that decision the nurses looked at her like she was the anti-christ! She stuck it out tho and its not caused her any problems with her or her baby daughter. in fact both of my other friends who have had babies recently (including one set of twins) bottle fed too. seems to be a popular choice these days, so don't feel bad if thats the route you want to go down, i think you will be with a large majority!

As far as Im concerned its everybodys individual right to decide, surely. Personally, I want to try to breastfeed to try and get my figure back (apparently it really helps with that?), But with twins I'm not sure how easy/difficult it will be! Geoff was talking about putting together some kind of velcro contraption to stick the babies to ... lol ... Anyway, it may be totally impossible for me to breastfeed, and i think its best to be prepared for every eventuality - and make the decision when you cross that bridge! With a lot of things i reckon our babies will be ruling the roost for a while anyway!

probably not helped much but i wanted you to know my thoughts.......

hope the consultation and Anti-D injection go well..... ive got loads of blood to give next time i go to ante-natal as my dr has just told me I am borderline everything now!!!! (borderline Iron levels, haemoglobin, vit B-12, thyroid .... sigh .... the blood tests seem endless!!!)

Love always

Toni xx

[Paige]

Toni:

You are right...breastfeeding burns an extra 500 calories a day. That is approximately a 45-60 minute jog.

With first babies....the milk doesn't usually come in until 4-5 days after birth. With my 2nd baby it was in day 3. The babies are soooo hungry and the nurses and the lactation consultants at the hospital make you feel horrible if you give the baby a bottle in the first couple of days. I gave both of my girls a bottle before my milk came in....they were starving babies. It didn't affect my milk coming in, nor did they have nipple confusion. If they are screaming in the hospital and are dry and not tired, they are hungry! It's 100% your choice, don't let anyone make you feel bad.

My friend with twins nursed one baby and bottle fed the other baby. Her husband got up during the night with the bottle fed baby. The bottle fed baby was getting a lot bigger so she ended up bottle feeding them both. Good luck to you with whatever you decide.

I prefer nursing because I don't have to wash up a lot of bottles and I don't have to pack formula!

Paige

[Kim]

Hello girls

Jen - I'm going to a breast feeding workshop on Wednesday afternoon. I'd like to try to breast feed but realise that sometimes it's not always possible for one reason or another, so I'm not going to put too much pressure on myself.

Jackie - Your comment about IVF ladies getting depressed because they feel guilty about being pregnant really made sense to me. I don't feel guilty now but I felt really guilty at the beginning that it happened first time for us when there are so many others that aren't so lucky.

Valli - Isn't it fun watching your tummy move around, it's great that DH can see it and feel it as well.

Toni - It's good that your hubby is being so supportive and still finds you sexy !! My nice neat bump is still neat but is a really big bump now !!!

Sophie J - Hope you are well - no panics recently I hope ?

Elizabeth - Hope you're OK too !!

Hello Paige and Kelly !!!

Luv

Kim

[Guest]

Hi Girls

I am on here for a self indulgent whinge today! So sorry in advance!!!

I am nearing 35 weeks.........and I have to say I have not relaxed since before my embies were put back last October! I am really sick of myself and this constant worry!

I still panic regularly that I may still not make it.........I look at my house surrounded in all this baby stuff and panic.........!

Despite 6 treatments and the most awful start in the world to this pregnancy I have had a relatively easy pregnancy and just keep waiting for something to go wrong again, like it has done for the last three years......

Up until 30 weeks, it felt like this pregnancy was flying by..........now it seems to have ground to a halt..........just want to get to that big day!!!

I am so glad for my course, which I initially was worried about, however if I did not have it do I really would lose my marbles!!

Final moan...........also really worried about labour as I don't live near anyone at all and my family are in Ireland.........if it starts when DH is at work or something it could take him 1hour 1/2 to get home........so worrying about that too!

Thats it girls............no solutions required short of a knock on the head!! Just needed to get it off my chest!!

Big hugs - promise not to be on a downer for my next post!!

Jenfxx

[Jules R]

Hi Girls!

As far as breastfeeing goes, I really wanted to breastfeed my two to give them the best start in life. Interestingly I was the only one on my ward that tried breastfeeding - the midwives seemed to positively encourage bottlefeeding and as a result I didn't get the support that I needed to breastfeed twins. My son couldn't latch on and lost huge amounts of weight so when he was 2 weeks old we took the very difficult decision to put him on bottles.

The transformation was amazing - he went from a miserable skinny baby to a bonny, happy baby and ultimately went on to gain much more weight than his breastfed sister. And DH gave Daniel all of his feeds when he was around (including at least 1 night feed during the week) so it gave him the chance to be involved; Daniel and he still have a very close relationship. So for Daniel bottlefeeding was absolutely the right thing to do.

I adored breastfeeding my daughter, who took to it like a natural. You can't imagine the closeness of breastfeeding your own baby until you've done it and I'm so glad that I was able to continue feeding her for 8 months. As you've mentioned, the weight drops off when you're breastfeeding so that's a definite plus. I expressed at least one feed a day for Daniel as well so that he was getting some of the benefits of breastfeeding.

Good luck.

Jules

[eacole]

Jen,

just a quick reply here..I do feel for you as like you I have all my family far, far away (the US!!) so what hubby and I decided was to have one friend on call and if that doesn't happen (they aren't home, etc) we'll just call an ambulance. I kinda dread going in an ambulance, but if I have to I will. At any rate, you might have plenty of time to get to the hospital, which in taht case you can call a taxi, but none of these are ideal by any stretch of the imagination! I wish I could come up with something better than these..any suggesstions from anyone else are welcome.

But maybe it helps alittle to know you are not alone in this unfortunate situation?

Love,
Elizabeth

[sophiejane]

Hi all,
I've had loads of posts to catch up on, you have been busy.

Jen - first and foremost I am very similar to you, and am so relieved when I read your posts. I am still so nervous and still think that something is going to go wrong. I was thinking the other day that I love it when the baby is moving, but apart from that I have hated being pregnant. Its the responsibility of growing this little baby and that if it goes wrong its my fault, and that pressure is so hard to bear for 9 months. I am emotionally exhausted. I started writing down every kick, but then that meant that I thought about it all too much. I am so stressed that something will go wrong in labour, or that the baby might have a disability, or even worse.
I have started the nursery, but have now stopped as i started panicing, and that maybe I started it too early. So we are both mad, neurotic and prone to anxieties. I still can't look at other pregnant people or babies as still feel that rush of sadness as if I am still childless and infertile. I rarely talk about being pregnant to others and cannot talk about post birth. I do however rub my tummy all day long and talk to my baby. I love her so much already. I've still got 9 weeks of this turmoil to go .... aaaagggghhhh

My weight has evened out ... and now I am paranoid as I haven't put any weight on for 5 weeks. baby bump has grown though and has increased from the 50th percentile to the 75th percentile, so midwife wasn't worried.

Toni - wow your dh sounds absolutely fantastic. I have to say he puts mine to shame. Mine certainly doesn't find the look of me appealing, and still thinks that I should be cooking, cleaning etc. Sex went out the window, as unfortunately I associate it with losing one of the twins so I am still too scared to indulge.
Dp doesn't talk about the baby or pregnancy much. I think he too is really nervous still. The pram is at his mothers, and there is no way he will bring it back to our house yet. When he's had a few glasses of wine he strokes, chats and kisses the baby bump, and he always says hello and goodbye to baby.

Valli - hope the insulin is working. I must admit it must be hard for you to be worrying about it, but sounds like it'll soon be under control.
I've also got a few stretchmarks on my legs abit - using BioOil everyday to try and keep them at bay.

Kim, hows it going. You must be only 4 or 5 weeks off due date aren't you??

Jackie - I think of you really often when I have a bad nights sleep, and just can't imagine what it must be like for you not getting much sleep. Has it improved at all?? You do sound as if you are understanding yourself and your emotions well, which must make things easier. What were your antenatal classes like. Mine was appaling (i have no confidence in the midwife ) and so I actually missed this weeks one.

My best buy this week has been a 'bump' pillow/wedge. Its fantastic and so much more effective than a normal pillow. No groin or ligament aches. Still having nosebleeds, cramps and back ache though!!!

Elizabeth - hello, hope all is well. Hows your aches and pains?

Jules and Paige - thanks for your words of wisdom, and checking up on us all.

I still can't believe we are in the last 2 months. I can still remember the 2ww. I actually found the 2ww quite easy and can remember being so positive, as from about day 3 of transfer I just knew I would be pregnant (its a shame my positivity hasn't lasted!! ). I can remember Toni asking questions then about sex!!!! I can also remember Jen having the first positive out of us all and how brave she was during the first 2 weeks after the positive result.

Well I must go, the days seem to be flying by at the moment with me getting very little done. Only 4 more weeks of work ... hooray
Lots of Love
from Sophie-Jane

[Kim]

Hi girls

It's just such a shame that having wanted a baby so badly for so long that when our deams finally start to come true we find it hard to accept and enjoy, due to worry. I'm not doing to badly on the worrying front at the moment but at the beginning I felt totally robbed of the excitement and joy I expected to feel when I found out I was pregnant. I was worried sick for those first 12 weeks and petrified when I went for that first 7 week scan in case something was wrong.
Now, as long as the baby moves around I'm happy because I know he/ she is safe and sound where they are - I'm more concerned about the birth and bringing baby home.

My triple test came back high risk all those weeks ago ( 1:210 ) but we decided against an amnio and didn't tell people about the result so as not to worry them. However, nothing abnormal was picked up at the 20 week scan so that was a relief - but that test result is still in the back of my mind.

I'm having a scan today because the placenta was low at my 20 week scan. If it's moved up then great - if not then I'll have to have a c-section.
I think we may find out the sex of the baby today and I'm quite excited about that.

You know this is probably one of the first moans I've let myself have on here ( not because I haven't been feeling these things ) but because I have felt all along that I've no right to moan because I'm one of the lucky ones - and you know what I'm actually crying my eyes out now while I'm typing - I feel like I'm finally being honest with you all and myself !!

I must go get ready for my scan.

Sorry for going on but it's been good to open up a bit.

Luv

Kim

[julesg]

Sorry to butt in on your thread - hope you don't mind

Just wanted to say that I am sooo pleased that my old buddies from last year are doing ok and are soo close to having your babies

Wishing you lots of luck and sending you loads of love for the future

Love
Julie