3rd Trimester bumps!!

[Guest]

Hi Girls

I really do think we all needed a moan about how we are feeling. It is good for us all to be honest with each other and ourselves as I think we feel immense pressure to feel happy all the time cause we are finally pregnant when in fact, the worry does not go away.

I think certainly for me I have spent my time panicing about something going wrong because we know how bloody hard it was go get here in the first place. I just pray all goes well.

We are all entitled to moan when we need it..........cause lets face it most of our posts have been pretty positive! I think reality is hitting us all now and we just want things to continue going right......

Jules - thanks for the feedback on breast/bottle.........every little helps with the decision!

Elizabeth......lets hope you and I don't end up going down the ambulance route!!

Sophie-J........your thoughts could definatley be mine.....everything is the same for me..........I even cried on Thursday night cause a girl DH and I both know is pg again and her first is only 6 months and before that she had an abortion..........I know it is wrong of me but it makes me angry that life can be so unfair for some of us!??

Kim - hope that placenta has shifted for you!! Did you find out the sex??

Feeling better today anyway........always scared though and waiting for the next movement!

Hope the next 5 weeks fly.......

Off to do some work on my course

Big massive hugs to us all

Jenfx

[sophiejane]

Hi all,

Kim .... how are you? Did your good old cry make you feel any better. Its still so emotional for all of us isn't it, especially as we are nearing the end of pregnancy. Just like Jen said the otehr day though these last 2 weeks have seemed to have gone sooooo slowly. It seems that I've been 30 / 31 weeks pg for ages.
I've been waiting to see if you have posted about your scan. Hope everything went well. Did you find out the sex.

Jen - is your back surviving your course work (reading / typing???) Are you any nearer to completing it? Glad to see you have had a good few days. Its so like that isn't it .. good days then those bloomin worry days. I slept really well last night for the first time in ages, and baby has been wriggling all day today. Mind you its lots of little pushes really low down in my pelvis .. hope she's not trying to come out just yet!!!
Again its a relief to see that you also continue to get upset when others become pg naturally. That feeling will always be with us I guess, but our little miracle babies will also make us smile (PMA PMA).

Julie - thank you for your wishes of good luck

Hope the rest of you are OK, and that you enjoyed the bank holiday. I organised a big BBQ and invited a whole load of friends (and their kids). Its the first time I've done that as I haven't wanted to be around other people's babies before. It was still hard because they wanted to talk about my baby and I am still abit cagey about thinking too far ahead, but in general it was good to get back into the social scene.

Well off to watch Big Brother.
Love from Sophie-J

[Guest]

Hi Girls

How are we all doing??

I am off to see my consultant for a routine check tomorrow so that keeps me happy!!

Sophie-J - I am still working away on my course......so close to finishing and there is a possibility I may if I can get a wriggle on and don't give birth in the next 3 weeks!! One half of me is cursing the bloody thing and the other half of me if sooooo glad of it............I would be doing my nut pacing around like a tiger otherwise!! So fingers crossed as I would like to make the next deadline for university marking which is 20th June.......it would make for an interesting July........my long awaited degree....my precious baby and my 30th birthday all in the space of a couple of weeks!!!

Your BBQ was a brave move......well done you! Don't know where you found the energy!

Strange survey/question but typical of me and my planning for life!! Has anyone thought about whether they would do this again?? I know my priority is getting this wee bundle into the world in one safe piece and once he/she is our lives will be complete.......but I often dream!!

Take care girls

off to do MORE coursework!

Jenfxx

[sophiejane]

Jen ... as per your question I really dont know yet. Dp and I have seven frosties so we do think it will be a shame not to use them, but then that still costs money and more emotional trauma. Our minds are more on the side of No ... that one precious baby is all we want, but I suppose you never know. We really want to get married, but have been putting it off because all our money has gone on ivf. Frozen Embryo Transfer still costs at least £1500 a go, and evry likely to need more than one go, so again thats the price of a little wedding for us. I've been wearing just an engagement ring now for 3 years and would love to match it with an actual wedding ring.

Hope your appointment goes well tomorrow. Do you have a scan each time? My next midwife appointment is not until 14th June, seems ages away.

get cracking on that course, and what date is your 30th birthday?

Hope everyone else is OK. Toni - haven't heard from you in a while, how are those twinnies?????
Love from Soph

[Kim]

Dear girls

I have to be honest and say that I felt low for most of the weekend and only started to feel human again when I got back to work yesterday.
I was in such a weird mood on Friday and felt totally detached from the scan - I feel so bloody guilty!! However we were over the moon to discover that we're having a boy !! My mum and dad came with us and I saw my dad wipe away a tear - he's never seen a scan before and I think he was totally overwhelmed !! Unfortunately the placenta is still low so I've got another scan on June 9th.

I'm now impatient for him to be here as I think the weeks between leaving work and the baby arriving will make me feel a bit down in the dumps - am going to try and find myself a project to keep me busy.

At this point in time I would say no to IVF again but as our problems were unexplained infertilty I'd certainly try again the natural way !! Well you just never know do you !

Jen - Hope you finish your course, that will make July one amazing month.

Sophie - Perfect BBQ weather, am glad it went well.

Hope everyone else is doing OK

Love

Kim

[sophiejane]

Kim, how fabulous its a boy . Are you pleased you found out? and have you thought of a name.
Sorry to hear your weekend was clouded by being a bit low. I so understand how you feel. The emotional baggage that we are carrying is huge. Pregnancy and birth is so much more important to us because we have to fight for it and pray for a miracle, unlike the majority of other people. But then we have the guilt of finally becoming pregannt while other ivf couples don't, but don't actually enjoy the pregnancy because we are so bloody worried all the time.

I had a horrendous dream last night that my baby did during labour ... is anyone else having these dreams ??? Its put me in a weird mood all day, and I feel a bit guilty mentioning it to you all because its the last thing any of us need to think about, but its really shaken me up.

Kim, you look and sound a wonderful person so we all know that you will make a wonderful Mum to your little boy .. who will soon be here, and we can't wait to see the photos.

Well I must go I'm meant to be working.
From Sophie-J

[Guest]

Hi Girls

Kim - fab news about your little boy!! Keep thinking about him and his arrival on days when you are down hun!! If you need a project........I will send you some of mine, I am sick to the teeth of it at the mo.......but as I said glad of it too!!
Some good projects for finishing work are: Manicures.......pedicures (especially as we can't reach our toes!!.........facials.........some shopping to see what is new for after baby and shoes!! ...... that should keep you busy!
How many weeks are you now??


Sophie-J - dreams........don't even go there.........I have actually woken up sweating......I get them every single day ranging from all baby shops running out of everything through to me dreaming that I am bleeding......soooooo awful I can't bear to think about them.......however, I have read that dreams/nightmares are fairly normal........oh joy!!

Having a small break then back to the grindstone for me!

Jenfx

[Kim]

Sophie J - After a dream like that I'm not surprised it's put you in a funny mood and left you feeling shaken. I've had no baby/ labour dreams but I do sometimes check in the morning to make sure I'm pregnant and haven't actually just dreamt it !! Things going wrong during labour are going to be at the forefront of our minds at the moment - it's our next big hurdle so it's understandable. Once again it's time to find those hidden reserves of PMA !!

You know we're always talking about Positive Mental Attitude - sometimes I want to be a bit naughty and think of other things PMA might stand for at almost 8 months pregnant :-

Puffy Meaty Ankles
Piles in My Arse ( sorry that's so rude but I couldn't help it !! )
Panicking Mums-to-be Alert

OK enough of that silliness ( you now all know far too much about my slightly warped sense of humour !! )

Love

Kim ( in a silly mood )

[Kim]

Jen

We must have been posting replies at the same time ( I take ages ) so by the time I submitted my last ( feeling a bit silly ) post you had snuck in there without me seeing !!

I am 35 weeks today ( a couple of days behind you. )

Thanks for the after leaving work advice - shopping usually works for me when I'm feeling low so I will probably give the credit card a bit of a bashing - lots of cute outfits for baby boys, I can't wait !!

The sex of your baby is going to be a big surprise for all of us - I think you're the only one who doesn't know yet, you're obviously more patient than the rest of us - so good for you !!

Love

Kim

[Guest]

Hi Girls

Kim - don't know why I even asked how many weeks you are.......I know you are due the day after me..........shows the state my brain is in right now!!

Saw my consultant yesterday and all is looking well.......can only see the baby in bits now as it is way too big to see the whole thing! The head is engaging 4/5ths yesterday!

I just want to wake up and be holding him/her........my nerves can't take this!!

I have also finished my course.........cannot believe it!! Just doing some tidying up this afternoon and then packing it off in major secure post for marking........pray I pass the bloody thing now after 3 years of hard graft!!

Hope everyone has a nice weekend!

Jenfx

[valpas]

Hi Girls,
Went to the scan and then visit with OB/GYN. Baby is in Breech position. Ob/Gyn says baby will be in the same position, thou babies normally will be turning around until 32 weeks but my baby may not turn much as she is a big baby. Almost 4lbs now. Because she is big she won't find much space in there to turn around. So its going to be C-Section for me. OB already fixed a date for me on August 5th(instead of waiting until my due date, as I am diabetic now). Baby is showing 32 and 33 weeks as per the measurements in the scan(I completed 30 weeks, and entered into 31st week yesterday). I am too worried and stressed now.
Please pray for me.
How is everyone else doing?
Love Valli.

[Kim]

Valli - Try not to worry, I may also have to have an early c-section and it does have it's good points. It will be much safer for you and the baby and you can now get organised knowing that on 5th August you will meet your baby girl and hold her in your arms at last.

Jen - Good luck with the course, I hope you pass with flying colours !! Now what are you going to do with all that spare time ? The head is engaging - things are getting ready to happen in just over 4 weeks time.

Sophie J - Hope you haven't had any bad dreams recently. I've heard that quite a few pregnant women have these bad dreams.

Elizabeth, Jackie, Toni - Hope you're all keeping well, have been thinking of you all.

I finished work yesterday and although I have a few more bits to buy I feel ready, really ready, for the first time, for my baby's arrival. The nerves are slowly disappearing and I can imagine myself coping with things more now. It feels quite strange and I feel very calm at the moment - it's a good feeling.

Take care

Kim

[sophiejane]

Kim, how lovely finishing work. That is my next hurdle to reach - about 3 weeks to go. I've also packed my hospital bag ... not sure whether I like the idea of big maternity pads and nursing pads and my nursing bra is horrible but I would give up all decorum for a cuddle with my baby girl. I am still so nervous .. my groin pains are back and I have diarrhea every morning, so off to the doctors tomorrow for a check up and some reassurance. My iron is really low (100) ... is anyone else suffering with anaemia ... and I think its the iron tablets making me feel ill.
I've been trying to think of more phrases for PMA but just can't ... instead all I've got is a vision of piles!!

Valli - isn't it normal for baby's to be bigger when the Mums have daibetes. Please dont worry. My friend recently had a beautiful baby boy, and she had diabetes and so had a c-section early. babies are completely viable from 37 weeks, so on the 5th August your baby girl will be fine. So thinking of you, take it easy, and I'll get my candles going again for us all to have lovely deliveries (whether c-section or vaginally (urr thats such a funny word I still can't say it without blushing!!).

Jen - Well Done, you must be so pleased you finsihed your coutrse. Thats another goal you've achieved this year. It couldn't have been easy as I bet your concentration levels have been shot to pieces. How are you doing ..... are you sleeping, any show or anything yet .. because am I right in thinking you've only got 3 (or is it 4) weeks to go. By the way have you chosen a monitor yet. I think I'm going to go for the AngelCare Movement and Sound monitor. What are you going for???

TONI - I'm getting worried about you as you haven't posted for a while and you are normally a regular. Hope everything is OK and those twins are just keeping you on your back lying on the sofa. Hope to hear from you soon.

Elizabeth, Jackie - hope you two are OK.

All th best
Love Soph-J

[Toni]

Hi girls.

Sorry i have been awy for a while - and especially sorry for worrying you Sophie-J. Just you look after your little girl! Thing is - i got stuck in the bath!

ha ha not really !! I have just got to the point where every day is a struggle - even walking up the stairs gets me out of breath! And i have to go up 2 flights to get to my computer. Once i get myself out of bed ( the time depends on how much sleep I got the previous night - not alot usually - maybe a few hours!) and settled on the sofa i really don't want to move (and it takes me a long time to do that anyway!) I have been keeping an eye on you all, don't worry, i wouldnt let more than a couple of days go by without making an effort to check on my girls. But getting around to posting with a back like this is so much effort i just give up!

Had another scan on friday - all went well, babies are happy and growing nicely. Boy baby is no longer fat, and has slimmed his tummy down. They are on par with each other is seems now. he was hiding tho right at the bottom, and back a bit so it was hard to get decent measurements and no amount of prodding would get him to move. Got another scan in 2 weeks time, so thats nice. Get very scared about my little boy tho - he hardly kicks me or moves at all - whereas my little girl who is lying up at the top of the bump never stops moving. She gave me an almighty kick on sunday which actually made me jump and shout out!! About gave DH a heart attack, I think. I'm forever massaging lumps and bumps all day long. which gives me something to do while lying on the sofa!

I have my driving test soon also, so please wish me well! Very nervous!

You all sound like you are doing well.

Valli - it is true that women with Diabetes tend to have larger babies, Sophie-J is right. I know how you must feel though. With me having twins my consultant is pushing for me to have a C-Section, as he is very old school. He's the only OBS at the hospital who handles multiple births, and hes also the one that handles all the IVF pregnancies, so I had no chance really. So far i have resisted as I really don't know why i have to make that decision til i need to if you get me! I hope they are here before 38 weeks (August 2nd) or they will be racing me into surgery! On the other hand, needs must and all that. You don't compromise when it comes to the life of your baby/babies do you? at the moment im hoping to get to 36 weeks (19th July) and after that anything is a bonus! I'll be so huge at that point I'm sure i'll be praying for them to come out!


Wow Jen I see on the list that you are due next to have a baby! how does it feel? i bet you can't wait and I can't wait to read that post that your baby is here. I also can't wait to find out whether you are having A BOY or A GIRL!!! Well done on finishing your course! now you can rest up! i really hope you get top marks - but in truth its an achievement just getting there on top of everything else. im sure i wouldnt have been able to do it - all my studying went on hold the minute i found out I was pregnant - it involved too much travelling too.

Sophie-J, (BTW great memories - did i really ask about sex? I remember a post about the pessaries (back door or front door? ) but not about that. i must have been mad!) you are so organised. Havent got around to packing my hospital bag yet - i still need to buy a labour something or other, and a dressing gown, and some decent night wear to wear while in there (i tend to sleep in oversized t-shirts - pre-pregnancy too!!). We still need to buy car seats but the ones we want are not out til June/July time. mind you they can be bought on the day so im not too bothered. We have a crib and clothes, nappies and wipes and all that stuff so we should be okay if anything suddenly happens!! as for bad dreams - don't even go there. i have heard its quite common during pregnancy to dream about your baby, often nasty things too. I guess its because its at the forefront of our minds all the time (the wellfare of our babies i mean) even invading our sleep. Mind you, yours sounds pretty scary - bless you! I had one the other night where i woke up and my babies were both gone. my tummy was flat and it was like someone had reached in during the night and pulled them out! It was horrible!! But then I woke up for REAL! I had to check tho, that my belly was still rounded.
My iron is also really low - borderline they say. and i have been on Iron tablets since I was 10 weeks! They took MORE blood yeterday, so we will see what that shows, but they are talking about putting me on something stronger than Pregaday. The tablets made me feel sick too (and constipated - TMI!!! ) - when do you take them Sophie-J? i used to take them frist thing, but switched to evening as they made me feel so awful for the rest of the morning. Now i take them just before i go to bed, in an attempt to sleep through the sickness! On the whole, it works! Try it!

Kim - fab news about your boy! the first thing we did when we found out what we were having (under my demand!) was go out and buy some boy and girl clothes. Evrytime i walk into Mothercare or past Pumpkin Patch or any baby shop really I come away with something - but my DH was the last to buy something - he saw a couple of pairs of pyjamas he said he just had to buy! they are really cute - but the main thing is its nice to see him relaxing and looking forward at last! So, Kim, i don't blame you, enjoy choosing all those outfits! Can't believe how time has flown really, since that dreaded 2ww - you are due only a day after Jen - hows your resting going?

Elizabeth and Jackie - you seem to have disappeared too!! How are you guys!??

I'm going to take my back back to bed now its aching already! Besides you all have another long essay from me! Ill try and post much more often I promise!

take care of you all!

much love and kisses as always

Toni xx

[sophiejane]

i'm having a stress today. I think I want to have a ceasarean because then I know the baby will be safer. Do you think they will let me. I'm getting more nervous every day. So angry with myself for it but just can't help it. Having a cry now because I just want it all over and to have my baby here. Still feels like I've been 32 weeks for bloody ages.
Toni - glad to see you are well. I'm sure both babes are fine ... the boy most probably hasn't got much room to kick around down there. Or he might be kicking the girl and the girl is kicking you back.

I dont know how I am going to survive the next 7 weeks.