Completely Devestated

heather · Post by **heather** » Sat Nov 30, 2002 2:32 pm

Did hpt yesterday, which was positive, and that was then confirmed by my own gp. However, today, i'm bleeding. Phoned my conultant, and she tried to reassure me, saying that it was normal to have a little bleeding underneath the egg sac, that i have to have lots and lots or rest, and that i have to do another hpt on weds, also to keep on taking the pessereies. Im having crampy pain, so im convinced that it's af. Why did it say positive yesterday if it wasnt??? god i cant believe this is happening to me. we wanted this baby so much, and i cant believe that it hasnt worked. I hate myself so much and i just wanna die. Just wanted to let you gals know that it hasnt worked, and i probably wont be around for a while. God it's so unfair. to get our hopes up with the positive yesterday..now this. Take care all Heather xxx

suzannemorris · Post by **suzannemorris** » Sat Nov 30, 2002 2:46 pm

Heather, try not to give up hope just yet, I can't imagine that you'd get a positive result if AF was so imminent. I know you must be so upset but do as your Consultant has said, and take it easy. I know that I and everyone else on the site will be praying that everything will be o.k for you and your DH. Wishing you both all the best, Suzanne.x

Louise · Post by **Louise** » Sat Nov 30, 2002 3:37 pm

Hi Heather - you are so down. Please don't give up hope, you have had a positive result. I had crampy pains too and was convinced af was coming and am now 8 weeks pregnant. My clinic told me pains were all normal. I know it's hard at the moment, but please don't think the worst yet. Just get lots of rest and get dh to pamper you. Sending lots of best wishes your way. Lots of love Louise XXX

beck · Post by **beck** » Sat Nov 30, 2002 4:20 pm

heather, i agree get some rest and wait till wednesday to see the result, dont give up yet !! we are all wishing you the best of luck. beck x

Wicked Lady · Post by **Wicked Lady** » Sat Nov 30, 2002 4:23 pm

Dear Heather You poor thing, your both really going through it aren't you mate. Easy for me to say I know, but take some comfort in what the others have said. It could all be normal. I's sorry I'm not helping I know. Roll on wednesday. Fingers and everything crossed for you both. Sending lots of love darling. Nicola xxx

andreaj · Post by **andreaj** » Sat Nov 30, 2002 5:49 pm

Heather, Please hang on in there - you had a +ve result,which has to be good. do as your consultant has said, and have lots of rest, which is the best thing you can do. Will be praying that everything works out well for you and dh. Andrea <><

woppa · Post by **woppa** » Sat Nov 30, 2002 5:59 pm

Heather Don't you dare give up !!! You are pregnant girlie and don't you forget it !! This could just be implantation bleeding !!! sorry if I sound harsh but don't stress out--you need to think of your little acorn implanting inside you !!!! lots of love to you woppa xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Michelle · Post by **Michelle** » Sat Nov 30, 2002 6:00 pm

Heather Sweetie Please don't give up hope - some of the other girls also had bleeding and were pg. Take it extremely easy...I agree with Suzanne and if AF were so imminent why did you get a positive - that would just be too cruel. I'm sending you all my love and positive thoughts. Love, Michelle x

becky · Post by **becky** » Sat Nov 30, 2002 7:46 pm

Hi Heather I am crossing every thing for you - I hope that it works all ok ..you even had all my luck so it jolly well should do!! As another morning breaks new ventures arise..the world ended yesterday for me ..but today I have started a new journey - found out the reason why dh and I are together and thatI have the great family, work and friends ..all of the calls, offers of help, hugs, and flowers that I have received is unreal..never felt so loved and cared for for really. dh even bought me the biggest teddy bear last night - called him Bridge Bare (had treatment at the Bridge Centre) dh and I went out for lunch and wrote down all of the things that we have missed whilst doing IVF and all of the things we would like to do in the next year and have made some magor decisions - off to Oz in November next year...going to go for Adoption next year..get fit again, see friends..and wait for this..we went house hunting again (been looking for our dream house for the last 2 years and never found it ) - well we have now found it and we are putting an offer in the morning and putting our (memory filled got to have a baby house) on the market tomorrow. Irational maybe..but why not...lets have some fun. Sorry this is probably not what you want to read about really is it!! Good luck with everything Heather - but please remember if you are not so lucky..I am here for you and I would love to help you through it. love becky b (your testing buddie)

Tracey D · Post by **Tracey D** » Sat Nov 30, 2002 10:26 pm

Oh darling Heather, You don't deserve to be going through this. I will keep everything crossed for you and even pray that everything is going to be okay. Lots and lots and lots of love to you and your dh. Tracey D

caz · Post by **caz** » Sun Dec 01, 2002 10:06 am

hi couldnt log in yesterday. VERY ANNOYING!. Wanted to send good vibes! how are you feeling today. I've got everything crossed for you. I have pg friends who were absolutely certain they were going to get af in first few weeks of pg, inc having some bleeding - just take it very easy and am sure evrything will work out ok. keep us in touch xx

heather · Post by **heather** » Sun Dec 01, 2002 2:27 pm

thanks girls, for all your messages of love and support, but i'm afraid it's no good. AF is here and in full flood, sorry to be graphic. Obviously i'm now convinced that ive either had a very early miscarraige, or that the tests that we did were actually negative, and i wasn't actually pregnant in the first place. To be honest, my head is in the shed completely. Dh still wants me to do the test on wednesday, but i cant really see the point. He reckons that there is still a chance i could be preggy, after all, and his sister had af untill the 7th month of her pregnancy, but i really am not convinced. Oh well, just have to wait untill weds. till i ring the clinic. Once again, thanks for all the good wishes, love you all loads. Heather xxx

Sarah30 · Post by **Sarah30** » Sun Dec 01, 2002 4:32 pm

ooooh heather, you must be stressed out of you head! try not to worry too much and rest, rest, rest as you've been told to. My friend bled the first 3 months of her preggy and her baby is now 2 so I don't think it's that uncommon. Don't give up hope, stay positive and see what the test says on wednesday. love sarah

woppa · Post by **woppa** » Sun Dec 01, 2002 5:23 pm

Hi Heather, Please don't give up yet. I think I told you that I am a nursery nurse. Well I was talking to one of our mums one day and asked her if she knew what sex Jennifer was before she had her. She turned round and said I didnt even know I was having a baby never mind what sex it was!!! She had bled all the way through it and didnt find out she was pregnant until 2 weeks before she had her !!! Please go to your local EPU ( i can't praise mine enough) and ask them to test you TOMORROW!! At least it will put your and pats minds at rest or sort your head out!! lots of love and hugs Woppa xxxxxx

Alison · Post by **Alison** » Sun Dec 01, 2002 6:51 pm

Heather - so sorry to read what you're going through. As Becky says, you're supposed to be this week's good news! Thinking of you and really hoping that its not all as bleak as it seems. Much love Alison x

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