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taylorjools
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Very sad news

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Hello girls

I am so sad to have to tell you that although little sweetie had a heartbeat, on Monday I was admitted to hospital with heavy bleeding and cramps. She fought all day and the doctors were amazing doing scans all the time, but sadly she died at 16.00, no heartbeat. I had to have a D&C as the m/c was incomplete, I just got home from hospital last night and am still in shock with dh, we are so sad. At this stage we have no obvious reason hy it happened, we know it wasnt' my fibroid.

We are lucky in that my therapist is seeing us for counselling together on Saturday, and we have already decided we will try again in September when I have been through the necessary waiting time. Dh is being wonderful, but we are just so sad and so shocked it's hard to know what to do. I will be back on the board as soon as I feel ready, and want you all to know you are all in my heart all the time.

very special hugs

Love bigJ
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I am so sorry that you have had to go through that. I can't imagine how you are feeling, I just want to send you huge hugs. You and DH take good care of each other x
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Post by michelle_in_scotland »

aaawww BigJ, i'm so so sorry to hear your news.
Take all the time you need.
You know we are all here for you when you feel ready to come back.
You are in my thoughts.
Take care,
Lotsa love

Michelle
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Post by lumi »

What devastating news, I am so sorry. Do take care of each other and take time to grieve. You are so brave.

Love Lumixxx
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Post by gailp »

I am so so sorry, words can't really express what I want to say. Take time with your DH, we are all here for you when you are ready

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Post by NickiMark »

Oh Big J, I am so sorry. I cant believe what i was reading You poor little thing. I am sending you lots of hugs ok.
I am in shock so I cant imagine what u are feeling.
I am happy that u feel sure you can try again in Sept, are you sure this aint too soon. Just thinking of your body after a D&C. When my friend miscarried it took her body a year to recover. Anyway, you are seeinga councilor and thats a good thing so I just hope that life will treat you fairer soon.

Love and Hugs my dear friend. x x
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Post by DeniseM »

Big J.

Words cannot express how sorry I am that you are going through this. Make sure you give yourself time to be sad and mourn. Everyone does this differently, but do what you need to do to get through.

When I had my m/c I chose a name, have you picked one for your angel?

My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Post by kagome »

Big J Sorry to hear your loss. Lots of cyber hugs for you. Get lots of rest now.
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Post by princess »

(((((((((( Big J ))))))))))))))
oh my love I am sooo sorry to read this.
I know how hard this is for you and DH. We are still going through it. I know for you it's worse because they told you everything was ok.
PLease PM me if you need to talk.

Lots of love
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Post by Sher8 »

Big J -

I am so sorry this had to happen to you and DH. Your message just about brought me to tears. As everyone else has said, give yourself time to recover. I am glad you have the support you need to get through this. I wish you the best of luck on your next round!

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((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Big J...

Just to say ' sorry'......you know where we are xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Post by k »

Big J

I am so sorry. Im devastated for you. You and DH take care of each other.
We are all thinking of you.
Love from Kim
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Big J,

I am so sorry. My heart breaks for you and DH and your loss. Please know that you have a lot of support here when you are ready.

Hugs,

T.J.
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Post by Joanne104 »

Big J I am so sorry :( to read your very sad news.

Take care of yourself and dh and look forward to seeing you around on here when you are ready.

Sending you lots and lots and lots of big hugs

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Post by JaneR »

Oh BigJ,

I am so sorry for you and DH, when everything was going so well.Take care of yourself and DH, big hugs to both of oyu.

Love,

Jane
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