waiting over

a gibbons · Post by **a gibbons** » Mon Dec 09, 2002 2:21 pm

I guess fri 13th has not been lucky for me, the dreaded af arrived this morning.Thought i had prepared myself for the worse but obviously hadnt, i cant describe how i feel. Rang the clinic i have got to wait about 6 weeks to hear from them (more waiting)but as i can only have 1 cycle on the Nhs and have none frozen i think i will have to look at going private. Anyway it is my birthday next week and plan to get steaming drunk, may even have a bottle of wine tonight or do you think this will make me more depressed. Good luck to those who are testing on the 13th and to everyone else going through treatment at the moment. Fingers crossed for you all. Love Amandaxxx

Sarah30 · Post by **Sarah30** » Mon Dec 09, 2002 2:26 pm

Amanda Am so sorry for you. Have been there and know exactly how you feel. All the waiting really is a killer, I know. If you're going to go private though, you can go straight out and get that moving. Sink a bottle of wine - have a good cry and try and enjoy your birthday next week. It takes a while, but the horrid feeling passes and things soon get back to normal (well, as normal as they can be). Don't give up hope, your chances increase the more goes you have apparently (I was lucky on my second) so don't be too depressed. Sending you a big hug love sarah x

Andie · Post by **Andie** » Mon Dec 09, 2002 2:42 pm

Hi Amanda Sorry to hear it hasn't worked for you this time. I know how you feel, we have just completed our first cycle of IVF after ttc for 4 years. Unfortunately AF arrived on day 11 of 2WW. I was so upset I couldn't even cry for a few days, just felt very empty and a complete failure. However, it does get better and I feel that I have come to terms with it and ready to start planning for the next cycle in February. Try and enjoy your birthday, unfortunately for me, I had my EC on my 30th Birthday so couldn't go out and celebrate! I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but you do feel much better each day and more positive for the next attempt - don't give up. Sarah - it's so nice to hear of others that have had successful treatment - good luck for your scan, I know you have had a long wait for it. Take care Andie

beck · Post by **beck** » Mon Dec 09, 2002 3:27 pm

hi. im so sorry to see your post! take a little time to pamper yourself, and goood luck in the new year for you. love beck x

sammy · Post by **sammy** » Mon Dec 09, 2002 4:22 pm

hi amanda,sorry to read your message,i dont mean to give false hope but at barts(where i have treatment)even if we have a period we still have to do hpt to confirm. Last time i had what i thought was a period,did the test,as i was told to and i was pregnant. I hope im not giving false hope,as you are probably feeling confused enough as it is,but i also know that all clinics are diffrent. My pregnancy stopped at 8weeks,so as you know im here again testing on the 13th. I feel really bad for posting this,but,as i said last time i bled for 6days(just like a period and i was so shocked at test result. Yes i did miscarry,but the bleed had nothing to do with that. I hope i have helped,and i also hope i havnt made you feel worse. Whatever the outcome i am really thinking of you. take care here if you need me love sammyxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxx

Lissa · Post by **Lissa** » Mon Dec 09, 2002 4:36 pm

Hi Amanda So sorry to read your message - its a bloody pain upside the arse isn't it. Was due to test on Friday but got AF today and done a test to say negative! It is also my birthday next week (17th) and to make it worse have hit middle age (35)! Hope you start to feel better soon - I was kind of prepared for mine. Take care, have a great birthday and let your hair down! lots of love Lissa xxx

mands · Post by **mands** » Mon Dec 09, 2002 5:15 pm

Hi Lissa & Amanda I was so sorry to read about your bad news, I hope the pain eases soon, look after yourselves. Love Mands

Michelle · Post by **Michelle** » Mon Dec 09, 2002 6:10 pm

Dear Lissa and Amanda I am so sorry for you both - that bloody af! Take some time out and really go wild over your birthdays and Christmas and think about next steps early January. I sending you both love and a huge cyber hug. Love, Michelle

beck · Post by **beck** » Mon Dec 09, 2002 9:22 pm

hello lissa, i spoke to you in chat earlier..and ill say it again im so sorry, have a good birthday, and a drunken xmas !! time will heal. lots of hugs to you all. beck x

Louise · Post by **Louise** » Mon Dec 09, 2002 11:59 pm

Dear Amanda and Lissa So sorry to read your sad news. Thinking of both of you. Lots of love Louise XXX

scorry · Post by **scorry** » Tue Dec 10, 2002 10:42 am

Oh Amanda, I was just gutted for you when I saw your posting, I can't quite believe it, I suppose it's because we were all waiting for Fri 13th, don't really know what to say except have a damn good cry before you do anything, then go out and get 'hammered' with DH or a good friend. So sorry for you too Lissa, I suppose after looking at the advice I saw on one posting that said the more tries you have the better chance you have, it gives us all a wee bit of hope to carry on. Just want you both to know I'm thinking of you. Love Scorry x [Edited by scorry on 10-Dec-02 10:43]

a gibbons · Post by **a gibbons** » Tue Dec 10, 2002 12:07 pm

Thankyou to everyone for your kind words it really does help. Cant stop thinking about trying again but will wait until the new year to start enquiring about private clinics. Can anyone give me any advice as do not know where to start as had last ivf on nhs at st marys in manchester. I will be looking at going to manchester or sheffield so any help would be appreciated. Thank again to everyone...Fingers crossed still for Sammy and Scorry. Love Amandaxx

tshepher · Post by **tshepher** » Tue Dec 10, 2002 12:10 pm

Amanda and Lissa From another Birthday girl next week (20th) just to say how sorry I am that it hasn't worked for you. I know it's easier said than done but hit the bottle over your Birthday and Christmas and pamper yourself with all those things you wouldn't be able to do if you were pg...I definitely intend to. Thinking of you both and sending loads of love your way Terri xxxx

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