This was my DH first attempt at IVF - I made 19 eggs and 9 fertilized with ICSI. We chose to implant three on July 12th. Well, unfortunately none of the embryos took and the pregnancy wasnt viable.
I am crushed!!! The R.E is going to bring us back into his office this Thursday and prepare for us for round two in Sept. (I am 35 and my husband is 45)
We opted to go straight into IVF after my husband's reversal in June. That way we wouldnt have to wait. We were told everything was "Text book" I just had a bad gut instinct during my 10 day waiting perioud. Well, Friday when I took my HCG bloodtest and I didnt hear back from them as promptly as expected - I heard my huband come home early and walk slowly up the stairs (our nurse called him with the news)
I have not stopped crying since Friday and then the cycle started on Sat with horrible cramps.
What is the reasons for most miscarriages? Anything anyone can shed light on for me?
A little bummed in Houston
Our first IVF attempt
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Smita
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Hey Kristi,
Sorry to hear your news..looks like you're having a bad time..
Just keep up a positive attitude for round 2 in september- dont think of gut instincts etc as they can only bog you down..
Theres no reason I guess to explain why you went through that..All I can say is that ensure you takes lots of rest after the transfer next time- no exerting yourself..
You're in the right place as there's a huge support system here waiting to listen to you and offer advice...
My twopence would only be that keep up a positive attitude(which is hard right now, I know)and don't let it colour your next cycle.
Good Luck to you! !:)
Take care..
xxx smita
Sorry to hear your news..looks like you're having a bad time..
Just keep up a positive attitude for round 2 in september- dont think of gut instincts etc as they can only bog you down..
Theres no reason I guess to explain why you went through that..All I can say is that ensure you takes lots of rest after the transfer next time- no exerting yourself..
You're in the right place as there's a huge support system here waiting to listen to you and offer advice...
My twopence would only be that keep up a positive attitude(which is hard right now, I know)and don't let it colour your next cycle.
Good Luck to you! !:)
Take care..
xxx smita
Kristi - So sorry things haven't worked out for you this time. I know just how bad you're feeling at the moment. It will get easier with time, I promise. Sep probably feels like a looong time away to you, but it's really only just around the corner. Take a little time out and treat yourself this next week or two, then get back on board and preparing yourself for the next round.
The good news is that you had a great crop of eggs, and a good number that fertilised, so that's positive for next time. There's no knowing why none of the 3 implanted. It's all just so hit and miss.
Hope your follow up consultation gives you renewed hope. Good luck.
Sandra x
The good news is that you had a great crop of eggs, and a good number that fertilised, so that's positive for next time. There's no knowing why none of the 3 implanted. It's all just so hit and miss.
Hope your follow up consultation gives you renewed hope. Good luck.
Sandra x
Me 41 yrs old - dh 49 yrs old. ttc 110 yrs.
1st cycle (ICSI)....Mar 04 -ve.
2nd cycle (ICSI)....Aug 04 -ve.
3rd cycle FET........May 05 -ve.
4th cycle (ICSI) ... Feb 06 -ve
5th cycle FET ..... Feb/Mar 11
1st cycle (ICSI)....Mar 04 -ve.
2nd cycle (ICSI)....Aug 04 -ve.
3rd cycle FET........May 05 -ve.
4th cycle (ICSI) ... Feb 06 -ve
5th cycle FET ..... Feb/Mar 11
Hello Kristi,
Soo sorry to hear your news. I do know what it feels like and it will get better. I too was devastated when I got a BFN on both of my attempts but here I am back again and am really hoping for a BFP this time.
Many people who read you post will really understand how you feel, which I hope will give you a little ray of hope for the future.
Sending you a hug.
Love
Debbie
Soo sorry to hear your news. I do know what it feels like and it will get better. I too was devastated when I got a BFN on both of my attempts but here I am back again and am really hoping for a BFP this time.
Many people who read you post will really understand how you feel, which I hope will give you a little ray of hope for the future.
Sending you a hug.
Love
Debbie
Age 40
Dh 42
ttc#1
1st IVF Oct 2004 -ive
2nd IVF March 2005 -ive
3rd (and final) IVF August 2005 +ive
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Dh 42
ttc#1
1st IVF Oct 2004 -ive
2nd IVF March 2005 -ive
3rd (and final) IVF August 2005 +ive
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Hey Kristi!
I hope that you are doing a little better. Same thing happened to me and DH in June. Everything was "Textbook" We are getting ready to do an FET pretty soon. I am a little frustrated about that ( see scared and afraid in the general topics!!) One of my patients gave me a book called "Don't Cry Mommy" and I believe you could get it from Amazon.com It is a children's book but it address what you are going through. Sometimes people don't understand our loss as they would understand someone who miscarried a little later on. For us Kristi.. We knew they were embryos- they were a part of you and DH- and we lost them. The book is downstairs and I will try to get the authors name to you.
It took me a little while to feel better about things. Once we started the shots for the FET, I felt good again. I also went back to exercising about every day and that helped too. Take time to do what you want to do, what makes you smile. You will do it.
Hope you laugh at least 1-2 times tomorrow
Jodi
I hope that you are doing a little better. Same thing happened to me and DH in June. Everything was "Textbook" We are getting ready to do an FET pretty soon. I am a little frustrated about that ( see scared and afraid in the general topics!!) One of my patients gave me a book called "Don't Cry Mommy" and I believe you could get it from Amazon.com It is a children's book but it address what you are going through. Sometimes people don't understand our loss as they would understand someone who miscarried a little later on. For us Kristi.. We knew they were embryos- they were a part of you and DH- and we lost them. The book is downstairs and I will try to get the authors name to you.
It took me a little while to feel better about things. Once we started the shots for the FET, I felt good again. I also went back to exercising about every day and that helped too. Take time to do what you want to do, what makes you smile. You will do it.
Hope you laugh at least 1-2 times tomorrow
Jodi