Debra
Hope you have a wonderful time over the next 6 weeks - chill out, relax and enjoy yourself and being with your family.
We look forward to hearing from you on your return.
Jude
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Hey Jude not long til yours start moving - will be like a football match 
or a rave 
I reckon you should just go for it and get the preggy gear out. I must admit on Saturday I bought some preggy linen trousers on sale in H&M (not in the Uk yet???, surely in holland Alette) on sale for €25 and extra long - just went for it. They are black so will be my "smart gear". Their stuff is great and really quite cheap, good for after with baggy tummy too (especially if have c-section, advice from sis).
Poor you lot travelling on the Bl**dy trains and buses and tubes, and male chauvanist p**s that don't give seats. I always gave my seat to pg ladies and older ladies whn I commuted. Apart from dh (who is of course an angel) never saw another bloke do it though.
Alette l know what you mean about taste thing. I can't stand meat, coffee even the smell makes me gag and fried food
leave the building. Soemtimes I fancy something and then can't eat it as the taste is just yuk. Surviving on granary bread and salas sandwiches with cheese or on a good day chickn. Boiled agges are goods and fress tomatoes on toast with lots of salt/pepper and basil and olive oil. Have a fettish for chili olives right at the moment!! I lost weight so far as I am eating more healthily than vere in my life before, and of course came of the anti-depressive drugs 2 months ago and they caused water retention. Know hwta you mean about body shape change though - mines gone well wierd. At the swimming pool I just stuck my belly out and brazened it out 
my sister, for those who remember she's pg - is having her sweetie next week. It's breech and huge so she has last scan Monday and then most likely out it comes. Don't worry Alette she is like a whale (thomas was 9.5 lbs or 4.3 Kg ) She wants them to try and turn it but they don't want to as she had c-section with Thomas. I have been banned from flying til 2nd tremester so wont be going over there for a while - did any one else get a flying ban?? gynae said it's becasue of radiation while all the organs are forming. On that basis I am not sure I fancy flying when pg if I can go on the ferry....
Joy - glad you are well and the sweeties are dancing around, sounds like the doppler is great fun. Funny we get a feeling isn't it. I am sure tapas sweetie is a girl, don't know why, poor little thing, trying not to impose that thought don't want to confuse him if he's a boy
Baby on board badge is great idea. Maybe I could make my own and jump the queues at the supermarket too???
Hi Caroline - sounds like you have great friends to donate your stuff, sadly the only mums here I know are complete dwarves (I'm 5'10") and my sis has worn her stuff out
It's hardly possible how pregnant you founders of this thread are, or how pregnant we newbie Mayflowers are al;ready, amazing. I need lots of sleeps too. Have found that afternoons and evenings are out for me in terms of doing anyhting or going anywhere. You should just take your naps sweetie, I think even the youngies are doing that What a lovely card for your dh, what a sweetie you are.
Love and loads of hugs to all of you, you are in my thoughts
bigJ
or a rave I reckon you should just go for it and get the preggy gear out. I must admit on Saturday I bought some preggy linen trousers on sale in H&M (not in the Uk yet???, surely in holland Alette) on sale for €25 and extra long - just went for it. They are black so will be my "smart gear". Their stuff is great and really quite cheap, good for after with baggy tummy too (especially if have c-section, advice from sis).Poor you lot travelling on the Bl**dy trains and buses and tubes, and male chauvanist p**s that don't give seats. I always gave my seat to pg ladies and older ladies whn I commuted. Apart from dh (who is of course an angel) never saw another bloke do it though.
Alette l know what you mean about taste thing. I can't stand meat, coffee even the smell makes me gag and fried food
leave the building. Soemtimes I fancy something and then can't eat it as the taste is just yuk. Surviving on granary bread and salas sandwiches with cheese or on a good day chickn. Boiled agges are goods and fress tomatoes on toast with lots of salt/pepper and basil and olive oil. Have a fettish for chili olives right at the moment!! I lost weight so far as I am eating more healthily than vere in my life before, and of course came of the anti-depressive drugs 2 months ago and they caused water retention. Know hwta you mean about body shape change though - mines gone well wierd. At the swimming pool I just stuck my belly out and brazened it out my sister, for those who remember she's pg - is having her sweetie next week. It's breech and huge so she has last scan Monday and then most likely out it comes. Don't worry Alette she is like a whale
(thomas was 9.5 lbs or 4.3 Kg ) She wants them to try and turn it but they don't want to as she had c-section with Thomas. I have been banned from flying til 2nd tremester so wont be going over there for a while - did any one else get a flying ban?? gynae said it's becasue of radiation while all the organs are forming. On that basis I am not sure I fancy flying when pg if I can go on the ferry....Joy - glad you are well and the sweeties are dancing around, sounds like the doppler is great fun. Funny we get a feeling isn't it. I am sure tapas sweetie is a girl, don't know why, poor little thing, trying not to impose that thought don't want to confuse him if he's a boy
Baby on board badge is great idea. Maybe I could make my own and jump the queues at the supermarket too???Hi Caroline - sounds like you have great friends to donate your stuff, sadly the only mums here I know are complete dwarves (I'm 5'10") and my sis has worn her stuff out
It's hardly possible how pregnant you founders of this thread are, or how pregnant we newbie Mayflowers are al;ready, amazing. I need lots of sleeps too. Have found that afternoons and evenings are out for me in terms of doing anyhting or going anywhere. You should just take your naps sweetie, I think even the youngies are doing that What a lovely card for your dh, what a sweetie you are.Love and loads of hugs to all of you, you are in my thoughts
bigJ
POF+autoimmune+dh antibodies,5.05 DIVF IM M/c 7.5 wks, DIVF+TESE at ISIDA - son 08/06
FET ISIDA: 12.07.07 m/c 8 wks b.ovum, 17 Dec 2007- BFP triplets OMG!!!
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Hi ladies
Well, at long last I'm off all the IVF meds - no more itchy patches & no more pessaries 3 times a day...freedom
Went back to the antenatal clinic for my BP test, which is now normal & actually heard the two heartbeats which was amazing & made me laugh.
Have booked my antenatal classes for September & have my little plastic card that confirms I'm pregnant & entitles to free prescriptions & dental treatment.
DH & I are going shopping at the weekend for bona fide maternity clothes.
My boss has finally accepted the situation & has started to think about cover for me when I'm on maternity leave.
It's all beginning to feel real now.
Hope you are all doing well & that the nausea/sickness is beginning to settle down.
Love Jude
Well, at long last I'm off all the IVF meds - no more itchy patches & no more pessaries 3 times a day...freedom
Went back to the antenatal clinic for my BP test, which is now normal & actually heard the two heartbeats which was amazing & made me laugh.
Have booked my antenatal classes for September & have my little plastic card that confirms I'm pregnant & entitles to free prescriptions & dental treatment.
DH & I are going shopping at the weekend for bona fide maternity clothes.
My boss has finally accepted the situation & has started to think about cover for me when I'm on maternity leave.
It's all beginning to feel real now.
Hope you are all doing well & that the nausea/sickness is beginning to settle down.
Love Jude
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Hi Ladies
Sadly I miscarried our little sweetie on Monday 20th June at 7.5 weeks . I have posted the full stroy on the general forum. Just want to thank you for the suppport so far and wish you all the very best in your pregnancies.
We are very very sad, but we are sure we shall try again. I was given the all clear this morning to restart Cycloprogenova HRT, so we are aiming for September.
Love to you all
bigJ
Sadly I miscarried our little sweetie on Monday 20th June at 7.5 weeks
. I have posted the full stroy on the general forum. Just want to thank you for the suppport so far and wish you all the very best in your pregnancies.We are very very sad, but we are sure we shall try again. I was given the all clear this morning to restart Cycloprogenova HRT, so we are aiming for September.
Love to you all
bigJ
POF+autoimmune+dh antibodies,5.05 DIVF IM M/c 7.5 wks, DIVF+TESE at ISIDA - son 08/06
FET ISIDA: 12.07.07 m/c 8 wks b.ovum, 17 Dec 2007- BFP triplets OMG!!!
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FET ISIDA: 12.07.07 m/c 8 wks b.ovum, 17 Dec 2007- BFP triplets OMG!!!
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Hi all
I haven't had access to a PC for a while and it is going to take me some time to catch up with all the news.
In the meantime, I have now had my 20 week scan and everything seems to be 'normal' - whatever normal is. I am finally relaxing into the pregnancy and I am finally letting myself believe that we may finally have a child to love and nurture in another 20 weeks - you have to let go of the doubt at some point otherwise you have no fond memories to recall at a later date.
It is very hard to stop worrying especially, for medically assisted pregnancies, but you always have to remain positive/realistic and get the best treatment possible.
The secret of my pregnancy is now out in the open with family, friends and work colleagues and everyone seem very pleased - we feel very proud.
I hope and pray that everyone on these boards gets an opportunity to experience these feelings of hope and joy for the future.
CarolineP
I haven't had access to a PC for a while and it is going to take me some time to catch up with all the news.
In the meantime, I have now had my 20 week scan and everything seems to be 'normal' - whatever normal is. I am finally relaxing into the pregnancy and I am finally letting myself believe that we may finally have a child to love and nurture in another 20 weeks - you have to let go of the doubt at some point otherwise you have no fond memories to recall at a later date.
It is very hard to stop worrying especially, for medically assisted pregnancies, but you always have to remain positive/realistic and get the best treatment possible.
The secret of my pregnancy is now out in the open with family, friends and work colleagues and everyone seem very pleased - we feel very proud.
I hope and pray that everyone on these boards gets an opportunity to experience these feelings of hope and joy for the future.
CarolineP
Me 50 DH 57 - TTC 10 years
IVF July 04, Sept 04, Dec 04 all -ive
Mar 05 +ive - Amelia Leah born 30/11/05
IVF July 04, Sept 04, Dec 04 all -ive
Mar 05 +ive - Amelia Leah born 30/11/05
long time since I was here but I will try to improve myself.
am 24 weeks now.
somehow this is a comfort.
if the baby is (still)born now it will be recognize as our child and we may give it a funeral (dutch law, every new born under 24 weeks may have a funeral but it is not recognized as a child).
had a very extented scan last week.
everything seems okay, they cannot garantee anything, which I understand.
we already decided to keep the baby anyhow, but sometimes you have no choice...
how is everybody? enjoying pregnancy??
how about your medical care??
about midwifes, well I am content but I do not consider midwifes as very caring. (sorry midwife).
I am treated like a 25 year old, pregnant after 1 month stopping swallowing the pill.
you get in, your bloodpressure is measured, your weight too, they feel the baby and listen to the heartbeat, see you in 5 weeks (or 4).
when I had a comment on this she said: every baby is precious to us and, you are in safe hands.
I needed 5 ivf's (and 5 years of hospitalvisits) to get pregnant, I am an old and grey mother to be, my baby is more than precious to me, beside... if this goes wrong, I can forget any other pregnancies!
I do not really feel safe with midwifevisits once in 4 or 5 weeks!
(but do not worry, I call the gyn whenever I feel the need).
am 24 weeks now.
somehow this is a comfort.
if the baby is (still)born now it will be recognize as our child and we may give it a funeral (dutch law, every new born under 24 weeks may have a funeral but it is not recognized as a child).
had a very extented scan last week.
everything seems okay, they cannot garantee anything, which I understand.
we already decided to keep the baby anyhow, but sometimes you have no choice...
how is everybody? enjoying pregnancy??
how about your medical care??
about midwifes, well I am content but I do not consider midwifes as very caring. (sorry midwife).
I am treated like a 25 year old, pregnant after 1 month stopping swallowing the pill.
you get in, your bloodpressure is measured, your weight too, they feel the baby and listen to the heartbeat, see you in 5 weeks (or 4).
when I had a comment on this she said: every baby is precious to us and, you are in safe hands.
I needed 5 ivf's (and 5 years of hospitalvisits) to get pregnant, I am an old and grey mother to be, my baby is more than precious to me, beside... if this goes wrong, I can forget any other pregnancies!
I do not really feel safe with midwifevisits once in 4 or 5 weeks!
(but do not worry, I call the gyn whenever I feel the need).
after lots of IUI, 4 FETs and 5 IVF's
a babyboy!
a babyboy!
Alette, lovely to see you back on here and thrilled that you're 24 weeks already. I'm sad though that you're still so worried about it all going wrong. At 24 weeks you can allow yourself to relax and enjoy the last half of this wonderful experience.
What more would you like from the midwife visits? it sounds like she/they treat you like everyone else (which is right, surely?). What is it that you're not getting? what about paying to see a private midwife once a month who will perhaps take more time and care with the checkup?
Take care,
hugs
Debra. (trying again in Sept).
What more would you like from the midwife visits? it sounds like she/they treat you like everyone else (which is right, surely?). What is it that you're not getting? what about paying to see a private midwife once a month who will perhaps take more time and care with the checkup?
Take care,
hugs
Debra. (trying again in Sept).
Alette
At 22 weeks, I am 2 weeks behind you - I was told by the Consultant at my 20 week check to stop worrying until they give me something to worry about! Like you everything so far is normal although I am somewhat alarmed at my weight gain (21lbs so far) - I have started do more walking in an attempt at damage limitation.
I am booked in at the hosiptal for a scan and consultant visit every 4 weeks and I am to see the midwife inbetween for a blood pressure check (I have a medical history of hypertension and have been on medication since my early 20s). Therefore, I am well covered until my C section which is booked for 9.00am on 30th November (I was previously cut for a myomectomy to remove fibroids).
Generally I am feeling very well, I feel the baby move regularly each day in different places which is very comforting.
We have taken onboard the Consultants words and no longer worry but think positively towards the future - we will deal with any bad news if and when we need to.
CarolineP
At 22 weeks, I am 2 weeks behind you - I was told by the Consultant at my 20 week check to stop worrying until they give me something to worry about! Like you everything so far is normal although I am somewhat alarmed at my weight gain (21lbs so far) - I have started do more walking in an attempt at damage limitation.
I am booked in at the hosiptal for a scan and consultant visit every 4 weeks and I am to see the midwife inbetween for a blood pressure check (I have a medical history of hypertension and have been on medication since my early 20s). Therefore, I am well covered until my C section which is booked for 9.00am on 30th November (I was previously cut for a myomectomy to remove fibroids).
Generally I am feeling very well, I feel the baby move regularly each day in different places which is very comforting.
We have taken onboard the Consultants words and no longer worry but think positively towards the future - we will deal with any bad news if and when we need to.
CarolineP
Me 50 DH 57 - TTC 10 years
IVF July 04, Sept 04, Dec 04 all -ive
Mar 05 +ive - Amelia Leah born 30/11/05
IVF July 04, Sept 04, Dec 04 all -ive
Mar 05 +ive - Amelia Leah born 30/11/05
Alette
I'm 3 weeks behind you & like you I'm just having the normal check-ups.
I'll be seeing a consultant at least every 4 weeks from now on (this will probably become more often as its twins), my next scan is at 28 weeks & I have an appointment with my surgery midwife at 25 weeks.
At my appointments they check my BP, urine, the babies' heartbeats etc. They've never weighed me but have said that I have a 'nice, neat bump and good tight tummy muscles' which I guess is due to all the keep fit I did before the treatment. They treat any worries I have with consideration and try to put my mind to rest.
In ways its quite nice to be treated as a 'normal' pregnant woman and not some old dinosaur who had to use medical science to get pregnant in the first place.
I do understand your feelings but it sounds as if you & your baby are fit & healthy. Try to relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy..and keep posting.
Love
Jude
I'm 3 weeks behind you & like you I'm just having the normal check-ups.
I'll be seeing a consultant at least every 4 weeks from now on (this will probably become more often as its twins), my next scan is at 28 weeks & I have an appointment with my surgery midwife at 25 weeks.
At my appointments they check my BP, urine, the babies' heartbeats etc. They've never weighed me but have said that I have a 'nice, neat bump and good tight tummy muscles' which I guess is due to all the keep fit I did before the treatment. They treat any worries I have with consideration and try to put my mind to rest.
In ways its quite nice to be treated as a 'normal' pregnant woman and not some old dinosaur who had to use medical science to get pregnant in the first place.
I do understand your feelings but it sounds as if you & your baby are fit & healthy. Try to relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy..and keep posting.
Love
Jude
Debra, Caroline and Jude, thank you for your reactions.
Debra, great to see you back (and trying again in september!! brave girl!)
your reaction made me cry (hormons), I always love your reactions.
yes, what do I want more?
well, a bit more care, I think.
not just 5 minutes per 5 weeks.
I must explain, the first visit to the midwife, I was concerned about some "pimples" around my vagina. She did not pay attention to it.
I did not like it and then went to the docter, who doesn't take any risk with me, and sent me to the gynaecologist. By then, the "pimples" were gone
but he treated me with so much care (he was the one who insisted on an extra scan), the care I missed with the midwife.
I am going to see him in 2 weeks again.
The last visit to the midwife, I gave her the results of the extended scan and I explained that I did not want to pass her (she was the one who should have advised me to get an extra scan I think) but when I have something (in this case, the pimples) I would like to be taken seriously.
If not, come on, I am 41 years old, I take action myself.
Caroline and Jude, it is nice to hear that you two have normal checkups.
Specially what you tell me, about, relaxing because if there is something to worry, they will tell you, if not, just relax, I like that idea.
And it is not that I do not enjoy my pregnancy, hell no, I love being pregnant! I love this feeling of movements in my stomach, I love to grow (I do not care at all about gaining weight) I love to wear maternity clothes and the whole world may know I am pregnant! And I think, by now, the whole world knows.
I love it!!! I still can not believe that finally finally we did it.
But yes, I do have concerns.
I know Dagny's story, the real nightmare.
I am afraid that now we have come so far, something will go wrong, that the happiness of a baby may not be ours.
and I do worry, that I do not love the baby for example.
I am afraid of getting psychoses (not that I ever had one) but I am prepared for anything strange.
I think it is all part of the deal, I will never be carefree anymore...
love,
Alette
Debra, great to see you back (and trying again in september!! brave girl!)
your reaction made me cry (hormons), I always love your reactions.
yes, what do I want more?
well, a bit more care, I think.
not just 5 minutes per 5 weeks.
I must explain, the first visit to the midwife, I was concerned about some "pimples" around my vagina. She did not pay attention to it.
I did not like it and then went to the docter, who doesn't take any risk with me, and sent me to the gynaecologist. By then, the "pimples" were gone
but he treated me with so much care (he was the one who insisted on an extra scan), the care I missed with the midwife. I am going to see him in 2 weeks again.
The last visit to the midwife, I gave her the results of the extended scan and I explained that I did not want to pass her (she was the one who should have advised me to get an extra scan I think) but when I have something (in this case, the pimples) I would like to be taken seriously.
If not, come on, I am 41 years old, I take action myself.
Caroline and Jude, it is nice to hear that you two have normal checkups.
Specially what you tell me, about, relaxing because if there is something to worry, they will tell you, if not, just relax, I like that idea.
And it is not that I do not enjoy my pregnancy, hell no, I love being pregnant! I love this feeling of movements in my stomach, I love to grow (I do not care at all about gaining weight) I love to wear maternity clothes and the whole world may know I am pregnant! And I think, by now, the whole world knows.
I love it!!! I still can not believe that finally finally we did it.
But yes, I do have concerns.
I know Dagny's story, the real nightmare.
I am afraid that now we have come so far, something will go wrong, that the happiness of a baby may not be ours.
and I do worry, that I do not love the baby for example.
I am afraid of getting psychoses (not that I ever had one) but I am prepared for anything strange.
I think it is all part of the deal, I will never be carefree anymore...
love,
Alette
after lots of IUI, 4 FETs and 5 IVF's
a babyboy!
a babyboy!
Alette,
Sorry about crashing into the 40 plus thread (again). I pop in and read where you and the other ladies are up to on a semi-regular basis.
I felt compelled to write to you to say what you are experiencing and feeling in relation to your pregnancy is normal. I had all these fears too. I think having had so many difficulties conceiving means that we know how precious these little lives are, and we want to do everything we can to protect them. My obs used to say a similar thing to what the other ladies have said: "You are paying me to do the worrying for you, relax until I tell you otherwise". She also said that once you get through the 19 week scan you have a VERY good chance of delivering a healthy baby. I used to worry about EVERYTHING, every little twinge, cramp etc. I had my obs' e-mail and would send her e-mails telling her my "symptoms" and 100% of the time she would take the time to write back to me to say that all was fine. Be reassured with the excellent care that you are receiving, disregard the rest or, as you doing, let them know that you are unhappy with their advice and/or treatment of you.
In terms of "will you love your baby", I can guarantee you that you will love that child with every cell in your body the moment he or she is placed in your arms. Heck, you already do, look at your advocacy for him / her, look at your pride in their presence. You will be a beautiful mum Alette and your child will be truly loved. As for post natal depression or psychosis, yep, it can happen and it's awful, but there is a much better chance that you won't than will get it.
Take care
Belinda
Sorry about crashing into the 40 plus thread (again). I pop in and read where you and the other ladies are up to on a semi-regular basis.
I felt compelled to write to you to say what you are experiencing and feeling in relation to your pregnancy is normal. I had all these fears too. I think having had so many difficulties conceiving means that we know how precious these little lives are, and we want to do everything we can to protect them. My obs used to say a similar thing to what the other ladies have said: "You are paying me to do the worrying for you, relax until I tell you otherwise". She also said that once you get through the 19 week scan you have a VERY good chance of delivering a healthy baby. I used to worry about EVERYTHING, every little twinge, cramp etc. I had my obs' e-mail and would send her e-mails telling her my "symptoms" and 100% of the time she would take the time to write back to me to say that all was fine. Be reassured with the excellent care that you are receiving, disregard the rest or, as you doing, let them know that you are unhappy with their advice and/or treatment of you.
In terms of "will you love your baby", I can guarantee you that you will love that child with every cell in your body the moment he or she is placed in your arms. Heck, you already do, look at your advocacy for him / her, look at your pride in their presence. You will be a beautiful mum Alette and your child will be truly loved. As for post natal depression or psychosis, yep, it can happen and it's awful, but there is a much better chance that you won't than will get it.
Take care
Belinda
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Alette, I've just seen you're logged on. How are you? how's it going with the midwife? any better?
We've just had another 40+ +ve result so expect her over here soonish, Lisa in the US. Might be expecting multiples! + 2 more 40+ tests later this week.
Hoping everyone is really, really enjoying their pregnancies.
hugs
Debra.
We've just had another 40+ +ve result so expect her over here soonish, Lisa in the US. Might be expecting multiples! + 2 more 40+ tests later this week.
Hoping everyone is really, really enjoying their pregnancies.
hugs
Debra.