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Michelle so sorry to hear of your bad news.As time passes you will find great strength within your self to try again.Nothing anyone can say or do will lessen the pain and heartache you both are feeling now.<br>I will light a little candle for you both that 2003 will be a better year & hopefully bring some joy to your life's.<br>carol xoxox
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couldn't log in before<br>just wanted to say that I am so sorry for you. What a crap day for it as well. make sure you really spoil yourselves for the next few weeks. I dont know if its any consolation , of course I dont really know how you feel about it now but... but ,maybe, at least you know that you can get thru the IVF process to as far as you have.... .and next time you'll be luckier. Does that make sense?! I'm sure you'll be lucky next time. You certainly deserve it.
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Darling Girls<br>Thank you so so much for all your lovely replies - I can't tell you how much it means to me knowing that you are all out there with such wonderful support.<br>I haven't written for a few days as I needed to get my head round things, although still very upset and disappointed I feel a little better about things. I didn't wake up crying today like I have done since I found out on Tuesday. I go back to work on Monday and never thought I would say this but am quite looking forward to getting back to normality. <br>As my period has not come naturally I am going back to hospital for scan on Wed, and I hope then they will confirm that I can have a D&C (and Terri thanks, will take your advice and get it asap). I think things will also feel better once I have miscarried - it is a horrible thought that the sac/yolk is still inside me. <br>Had my hair cut and coloured today, have decided to join Holmes Place to try to get fit (I'm the most unfit person ever) and have put away all my pregnancy books for the moment. So feel that I am moving forward and that things are feeling better. DH has been wonderful and even he seemed happier today (possibly something to do with Arsenal winning!)<br><br>Hayley your poem is lovely - thanks so much.<br><br>Fiona - would love to chat - don't know what I've done with your tel no. though - perhaps we can meet in the chat room soon to exchange numbers.<br><br>Terri, when you had a D&C did that bring on a period? Is it painful -pls be honest? How many days do you think I will need off work? Sorry, haven't got anyone else to ask.<br><br>Girls, thanks once again.<br><br>Love as always, Michelle x
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Michelle<br>Sorry for the delay, I've been away from the PC for a couple of days. <br>The D&C is the easist part of the whole sad situation. It's often referred to as an ERPC (Evacuation of the Retained Products of Conception) - a horrible term but just in case you hear it.<br><br>Basically they take everything away and although you do bleed a bit afterwards, from memory it's not a real period because everything is gone.<br><br>It's not at all painful, they give you a general anaesthetic and when you wake up you just feel a bit tender, like you've been pulled about a bit but nothing that a couple of Nurofen and a double brandy doesn't cure. They may also give you some antibiotics to make sure there's no after infection.<br><br>The only thing I will warn of is that I've had friends who have had the procedure done on the NHS and they were put on maternity wards because of the nature of the Op. It's GROSS insensitivity on the part of the NHS but you might want to check. If you have any kind of private medical insurance check to see if you are covered. I was with BUPA and went privately which made the whole thing more bearable.<br><br>As for time off work, take as much as you need. Medically you can return a couple of days after the procedure but emotionally you need to take time to grieve and recover properly.<br><br>Whatever you decide, I am sending loads of hugs your way. <br>Lots of Love<br>Terri<br>xxxxxxxx<br><br><br>