Pregnant 40+

Smita · Post by **Smita** » Wed Aug 24, 2005 6:09 am

Crashing in again..
Donna,
I'm sorry you had such conflicting opinions to hear and worse, to face alone!
I'm not an expert, but I would think that your Ultrasound doc would also know if the embie is not growing properly and I would think he would keep you informed, and since he hasnt done so,Just try and relax(ha! nice and easy thing to do!

) and enjoy your pregnancy and keep up a pma!
When is your scan next week?
Hope you hear nothing but good news.
Hugs,
smita.

dperry · Post by **dperry** » Fri Aug 26, 2005 8:59 pm

Smita,

Thanks for your support! I'm still a nervous wreck, but the fact that I feel totally nauseous helps me to retain a bit of optimism. I'll have another ultrasound on Tuesday, which will clarify the question of whether the embryo is developing correctly. It will be my last, which is a bit depressing. If all is well, I'll switch over to an obstetrician. However, my first appointment with a doctor isn't until October 6! (I meet with a nurse in mid September to go over some things). The fact of the matter is that since I had ET on July 31 I have been monitored every week--first with blood tests and then with ultrasounds (of which I've had 2). It is good to have such scientific data on the development of the embryo (though I guess this past week the news wasn't good and it's brought total anxiety into my life). Now I'll have to go cold turkey without any information except what my body tells me!

Anyways, Smita, I hope all is well with you. Are you showing a lot?! Hearing from DH (mine can call almost every day, though we can't talk for long).

Cheers,
Donna

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Sun Aug 28, 2005 6:17 pm

Donna, I hope the next 2 days pass very, very quickly and you can get more, unambiguous information on Tuesday. Is there anyway to ask the doctors to confer? having polarised opinions must be impossible to reconcile.

Please don't say you feel stupid for being joyful, you are pregnant and worked hard to get to this stage, being joyful is the way it should be.

Best of luck and I'll watch for your news.
hugs
Debra.

Smita · Post by **Smita** » Mon Aug 29, 2005 5:29 am

Donna,
Wishing you Luck for tomorrows scan..Hope you are reassured in every way!

Cheers,
smita

erjumper · Post by **erjumper** » Mon Aug 29, 2005 4:53 pm

Hi everyone,
I'm new to this board. I came from the Over 40 Crowd after my 4th IVF. I am 7 weeks tomorrow. My US last week showed a strong heartbeat and size was 2 days ahead of date. Having alot of sharp pains on my right side. Anyone else have that? Stretching/growing pains? I'm already growing out of my clothes but MD says my ovaries are huge. Had about 20 follicles on each side. Don't have my next US with my OB for another 10 days. It's going to be a looong 10 days. And who knows how long it will be after that one. I'll go crazy not seeing progress!

dperry · Post by **dperry** » Mon Aug 29, 2005 5:58 pm

Welcome, erjumper! I'm also 40 and I'm also (according to my newly calculated time-frame) 7 weeks tomorrow! Of course calculating weeks is a bit confusing since the pregnancy is calculated from two weeks before conception rather than from the date of conception. My IVF was on July 26th and my ET was on July 31st--is this the same timeframe as you? I too have occaisional odd twinges in the abdomen.

Anyways, thanks Smita and Debra for your support. I'm nervous as hell about the ultrasound tomorrow, but it helps that I'm so busy. The semester has begun (I teach at a liberal arts college) and things are pretty crazy, which keeps me from obsessing. I'm also sick as a dog, which makes me confident that I'm still officially pregnant and that things are progressing. No actual vomiting, thank God, but nausea from the minute I wake up to the minute I go to bed. It just got really bad a few days ago and so I'm now doing the typical "grazing" that all the books recommend. The sailors bands (that you wear on your wrists) did NOT help me a bit.

So I hope everything's going great with everyone!

Oh, Debra--when is your big day this month?

Cheers,
Donna

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Mon Aug 29, 2005 8:56 pm

Donna, glad to hear you're nauseaous

that's got to be a very good sign. I was rarely sick during my pg but I walked around my school looking green apparently.

By big day, I guess you mean tmt? sorry to be dim.....I only started downregging yesterday so it's only just begun. I'm on a long protocol so nothing doing for another 4 weeks yet....I'll keep you posted!

If there's confusion over your dates, have you tried the pg calculator under 'Resources' on the right hand side of the page? it's an IVF one so takes all the peculiarities into consideration.

Good luck with your scan tomorrow.

Lisa, glad to see it looks like a singleton for you, that must have been a relief.

hugs
Debra.

Smita · Post by **Smita** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 3:48 pm

Donna, just checking in on you.. hope all went off well..Do post.
hugs,
smita

LittleP · Post by **LittleP** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:32 pm

Donna

Good luck with the scan - I'm not quite sure whether it has happened or is happening tomorrow

Anyway, fingers crossed that you come away feeling totally reassured.

Big hugs

Little P

dperry · Post by **dperry** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 8:53 pm

Hi ladies--First, I hope everybody's doing great and that pregnancy is proving a happy time! I'm VERY happy myself!!! I had my ultrasound and the little embie grew from 5 to 10 MM in a week--big for his/her age and, most importantly, evidencing a good "growth interval." The doctor has no more concerns about it. The second sack, alas, turns out to be empty--no embryo ever developed. I was, however, primed for this by both doctors and it comes as no surprise.

At any rate, it's hard to describe the relief I feel. I'm normally a pretty practical and businesslike person, but all day I've been teary--both before and after the good news. Thank God I'm holding it together at work!

So my doctor isn't letting me loose just yet--he wants one more ultrasound next week to ensure that all is well. That, frankly, is great with me. In the meantime I'm getting sicker and sicker--this morning I actually vomited. My conversations with my husband (who is away, so we talk by phone) are pretty funny. As I describe my ever-increasing nausea, all he can say is "That's great!" and I agree.

Debra--I was referring to the IVF you'll be going through in September (somehow yesterday I thought we were already in September!). Good luck down-regging and we'll keep our fingers crossed.

Cheers,
Donna

Smita · Post by **Smita** » Wed Aug 31, 2005 3:15 am

Donna,
So good to hear bubs is doing well..I was a little worried..
And the nausea sounds wonderful.. I wish I had some..Now you can relax for a while!

Hope the other mom's to be on this thread are also doing wonderfully!
Cheers,
smita

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Wed Aug 31, 2005 7:05 pm

Donna, that's great news, a huge relief for you both I'm sure.

hugs
Debra.

LittleP · Post by **LittleP** » Thu Sep 01, 2005 7:41 am

Donna

Fantastic news - the first sigh of relief!!!

Hope the nausea isn't too bad - take care of yourself.

Little P

erjumper · Post by **erjumper** » Thu Sep 01, 2005 11:55 am

Congratulations Donna! Isn't it crazy how we work so hard to get to this point and think it's all going to be wonderful but there is always something to worry about?
Before I had to go through all the infertility treatments and 2 miscarriages I was very critical of women who were "neurotic" about their pregnancies. I thought, Oh it's such a natural process and people make such a big deal about it worrying about every little stupid thing. Well, maybe that's why I had to take this long painful trip through infertility and in-vitro because the shoe sure is on the other foot now! I had a dream the night before last that I had sharp pains on my right and when I went to the OB our heartbeat was gone. Then I woke up with sharp pain on my right and was convinced that I was suddenly clairvoyant. I called my OB's office and told them how upset I was and how stupid I felt at the same time and they were very sweet. They had me come right in for an US and she/he is growing like a weed! Beautiful heartbeat! And I don't care about feeling stupid. It goes with the territory. They said it's understandable and were very supportive. Seeing that heartbeat and movement goes a looong way to relieving anxiety. I think i'll be this way until he/she is delivered healthy. It's going to be a long road. Hope everyone else is seeing great things on their US's too!

Lisa

dperry · Post by **dperry** » Fri Sep 02, 2005 5:51 pm

Yeah, the whole pregnancy thing is bizarre. I feel completely bizarre and my emotions are somewhat bizarre (since I can't yet let myself feel fully confident about this--maybe when my first trimester is over?). I 'm surprised at how sick I am--I now throw up every day, sometimes twice. Today I even had the pleasure of doing it at school, in the privacy of my office. This is NOT pleasant--worrying that I'll puke in front of my students. But I keep thinking of the joy that's to come--getting my big belly, decorating the baby's room, going to birthing and baby classes with my husband. And of course, the biggest joy of all--our little baby!!!!!! After trying for so long, this is a true miracle.

Anyways, I hope all you other moms-to-be are doing great. And I hope,
Lisa, that you have no more nightmares, though I love it that you had the strength of personality to insist that the doctor do an ultrasound! I, personally, would love to buy my own ultrasound machine so that I could check myself weekly (or even daily!).

Cheers,
a weary Donna in need of a nap

Pregnant 40+

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