Hi Jodi & Princess
I think it's absolutely normal to feel like that. In fact Jodi I think it's pretty selfish of your SIL to tell you she's pregant on the day you tell her you are as she presumably does know you have been doing IVF & the path hasn't been easy (hope you don't mind me saying that). It would have been nice to have a week or so to bask in your own glory!
Families can be really really annoying at times, particularly as you have to try and get on. I must say I am mostly lucky with mine. My MIL is v. nice although she often gives me the impression that she feels her older son is far more 'sensible/intelligent' than my DH - which I of course know is complete rubbish. Anyway - I just ignore all the irritating bits now - Right I'm off towork now - Oh by the way - Jodi did you just do FET? I think I saw that you did. I did & also got BFP. Hope you are feeling more cheery today. Vicky
Tonya, Jodi, Want2beamommy and Quasi - Test Mon 29 Aug
Hi Jodi,
Don't feel bad for these feelings it is a perfectly natural reaction. It is a special time for you and you feel like she has just rained on your parade. I know how you feel, and I am not even pg! I finally let my family know that we are starting IVF in September and hoped for sympathy and a bit of support when my SIL pipes up with well isn't that great because i am pregnant
She didn't even have the grace to wait a day or so! Now all the family are excited about her scans and pregnancy and not at all bothered about our boring baseline scans and injections! To make matters worse SIL HATES pregnancy and children!! This is her 2nd and she is still moaning about her 1st pregnancy!
So, if I feel like this about my tmt being ignored I dread to think how you feeling about your pregnancy being over-shadowed!! Sign me up to your website
Whatever they say or do remember that this is YOUR time and a very special time at that and DO NOT let these shallow minded people ruin one minute of your pregnancy or happiness. Enjoy this experience as much as you can (even with all the worrying) and look forward to that gorgeous baby at the end.
Sending you lots of hugs,
AJ
Don't feel bad for these feelings it is a perfectly natural reaction. It is a special time for you and you feel like she has just rained on your parade. I know how you feel, and I am not even pg! I finally let my family know that we are starting IVF in September and hoped for sympathy and a bit of support when my SIL pipes up with well isn't that great because i am pregnant
She didn't even have the grace to wait a day or so! Now all the family are excited about her scans and pregnancy and not at all bothered about our boring baseline scans and injections! To make matters worse SIL HATES pregnancy and children!! This is her 2nd and she is still moaning about her 1st pregnancy!So, if I feel like this about my tmt being ignored I dread to think how you feeling about your pregnancy being over-shadowed!! Sign me up to your website
Whatever they say or do remember that this is YOUR time and a very special time at that and DO NOT let these shallow minded people ruin one minute of your pregnancy or happiness. Enjoy this experience as much as you can (even with all the worrying) and look forward to that gorgeous baby at the end.
Sending you lots of hugs,
AJ
Me 28 DH 29
PCOS
1 ds conceived naturally
ttc 3yrs
ivf sept/oct 05 - BFP, Twins!!!
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PCOS
1 ds conceived naturally
ttc 3yrs
ivf sept/oct 05 - BFP, Twins!!!
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Princess!!!!
You made me feel SO HUMAN after reading your message. I am sorry that your SIL treats you like that in front of other people. I took a poll at my office and all the girls said that she should have waited at least 2 weeks or so....
AJ... Are your sil and mine related? Sounds like they have the same MO. Your sil should have had the decency to respect your and HER brothers feelings about the very trying process of IVF. Guess not. When do you start the meds for IVF? Is this your first? You will need the support and kinship for this process.....
You guys are great thanks for making me feel BETTER!!!
Jodi
You made me feel SO HUMAN after reading your message. I am sorry that your SIL treats you like that in front of other people. I took a poll at my office and all the girls said that she should have waited at least 2 weeks or so....
AJ... Are your sil and mine related? Sounds like they have the same MO. Your sil should have had the decency to respect your and HER brothers feelings about the very trying process of IVF. Guess not. When do you start the meds for IVF? Is this your first? You will need the support and kinship for this process.....
You guys are great thanks for making me feel BETTER!!!
Jodi
Jodi,
We all have to deal with In-laws from hell. Not everyone talks about it though.LOL
I have to see mine next weekend. we are flying to MN, OH yay,! Can you see the sarcasm dripping there?
HOw are you feeling hun?
Love
Joy
We all have to deal with In-laws from hell. Not everyone talks about it though.LOL
I have to see mine next weekend. we are flying to MN, OH yay,! Can you see the sarcasm dripping there?
HOw are you feeling hun?
Love
Joy
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Joy!!
I am pretty ignorant about baby things..I guess you must be doing really great if you are flying to MN... Did you have to get your Dr. ok for that? We are hoping to have a trip just the two of us if we can travel and everything is ok.... We have enough air miles to go visit some friends in Holland( John's company is based in Holland and his best guy friend and his family were transfered there last year.) My SIL who of course is pregnant will be flying to London at Christmas( her in laws live outside of London) . We are the same age-however she had a "perfect" pregnancy last year- no sickness no nothing. So maybe she will be this same this time- Everytime is different though.
I hope that your blood pressure stays controlled when you go visit your inlaws...... Don't envy you on that!! I am feeling fine except for the ever present pottie problems!!!!
Hope you have a great Labor Day weekend.
Jodi
I am pretty ignorant about baby things..I guess you must be doing really great if you are flying to MN... Did you have to get your Dr. ok for that? We are hoping to have a trip just the two of us if we can travel and everything is ok.... We have enough air miles to go visit some friends in Holland( John's company is based in Holland and his best guy friend and his family were transfered there last year.) My SIL who of course is pregnant will be flying to London at Christmas( her in laws live outside of London) . We are the same age-however she had a "perfect" pregnancy last year- no sickness no nothing. So maybe she will be this same this time- Everytime is different though.
I hope that your blood pressure stays controlled when you go visit your inlaws......
Don't envy you on that!! I am feeling fine except for the ever present pottie problems!!!!Hope you have a great Labor Day weekend.
Jodi
Hi Vicky!!
Yes I did the FET- you did too? How are you doing? My SIL acutually told us less than 24 hours and yes EVERYBODY knew how long we have been trying- (2 years on meds) and how many miscarriages( suspected 2) and how many failed procedures we had (3 IUI's, 1 IVF). I have been trying to concentrate on the positive with this situation- but it is a little tough I am afraid. My inlaws will visit SIL on Monday and that is when they will tell them...... Last year when She told everyone she was pregnant- my MIL talked nonstop about her daugher and the baby .. DH FINALLY spoke to his mom over the phone and said that although we were happy, that we were disheartened about our own journey. I can see it already on Monday when we talk to his parents..... Hopefully DH will answer the phone and nip it in the bud. We'll see. I know that I am a petty person for this- but I know how protective mom's are with their daughters. Mine is. I just got to get prepared for it.
THANK YOU ALL FOR LETTING ME VENT AND NOT JUDGING ME (Hopefully)
MY FAMILY DYNAMIC SITUATION IS A ROLLER COASTER OF STUPID CRAP WITHIN MY OWN FAMILY AS WELL AS EXTENDED. I APPRECIATE THIS... I HAVE TO CONVINCE MYSELF I AM NOT A BAD PERSON .
HOPE EVERYONE HAS A NICE WEEKEND.
Jodi
Yes I did the FET- you did too? How are you doing? My SIL acutually told us less than 24 hours and yes EVERYBODY knew how long we have been trying- (2 years on meds) and how many miscarriages( suspected 2) and how many failed procedures we had (3 IUI's, 1 IVF). I have been trying to concentrate on the positive with this situation- but it is a little tough I am afraid. My inlaws will visit SIL on Monday and that is when they will tell them...... Last year when She told everyone she was pregnant- my MIL talked nonstop about her daugher and the baby .. DH FINALLY spoke to his mom over the phone and said that although we were happy, that we were disheartened about our own journey. I can see it already on Monday when we talk to his parents..... Hopefully DH will answer the phone and nip it in the bud. We'll see. I know that I am a petty person for this- but I know how protective mom's are with their daughters. Mine is. I just got to get prepared for it.
THANK YOU ALL FOR LETTING ME VENT AND NOT JUDGING ME (Hopefully)
MY FAMILY DYNAMIC SITUATION IS A ROLLER COASTER OF STUPID CRAP WITHIN MY OWN FAMILY AS WELL AS EXTENDED. I APPRECIATE THIS... I HAVE TO CONVINCE MYSELF I AM NOT A BAD PERSON .
HOPE EVERYONE HAS A NICE WEEKEND.
Jodi