2nd trimester bump buddies

HM · Post by HM » Tue Aug 30, 2005 8:25 pm

Hi evreyone,

May I jump in. I'm already 13 weeks, but I'm not happy at all now because I feel so sad about my babies.

Two of the triplets are not ok and will not live much longer.

My case is so complicated. Besides a heavy bleeding in 11th week, two of the triplets have been diagnosed having defects, which are fatal. In order to save the only healthy baby, all doctors involved have urged me to go for a reduction procedure as early as possible. I'm still strugling with the result, just couldn't believe that I'm the 1% who has a defect fetus.

I don't want to describe the reduction procedure in any detail, the last chance I have is to save the healthy one. It seems I have no other choice, even it risks the entire pregnancy. I feel so guilty of what will happen to my babies. But what can I do?

For over 35 year old moms, any of you have or had the same situiation? It most happens to the older women. I blame my age, blame any factors I can think of might contribute the result. I don't know why I have to go through all the pains and miscarrage or termination in order to have only one baby. What if things go wrong and I lose all of them. Will that happen to me. If I'm already the 1%, can I be the 0.1% of the 1%?

I don't want to spread negative thoughts to you all; I case is rare. I should be grateful for what I can get--a healthy, full term baby. I keep the highest hope for the outcome.

My procedure is on this Thursday. I pray for my babies, and I need your prayers too, a lot. Thank you all.

jamato253 · Post by **jamato253** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 8:53 pm

Absolutely!!!

Sher8 · Post by **Sher8** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 8:57 pm

HM,

Will keep you in my prayers. Wishing you health and happiness in days ahead.

Sher8

HM · Post by HM » Tue Aug 30, 2005 9:15 pm

Thank you so much, Sher. I think I'll be fine, just feel sorry for my babies.

Susie · Post by **Susie** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 9:30 pm

Jamato - Welcome to the 2nd tri, this is just the next stage of the 9 month worrying process!

HM - Sorry to hear about 2 of your babies, I cant begin to imagine how you feel but just make sure you concentrate on the healthy one.

Smita - dont worry about your scan everything will be fine, and soon you will be feeling your baby kick. Its very reassuring, but I must say if I havent felt mine move all day I have a Mars Bar as this makes it move. It was an old wives tale but it certainly works!

K - Only 3 more sleeps til your scan, please dont worry about it, all will be OK

Little P - Its lovely isnt it being able to wear maternity clothes and stroke your bump, my only problem is sometimes I sense I'm trying to push my stomach out further so more people will notice I'm pg, I guess I'm a bit sad really

My scan is on Thursday at 3.30pm. I am working on Thursday and leaving at 3 for my appointment, so I dont know how I am gonna get thru Thursday. I am now counting in hours til my scan. Bubs is moving alot and I'm getting rather attatched now so I pray that all will be OK. I just cant wait to tell my DD shes gonna get a bro or sis on Thursday night, but I'll be so happy I think I'll cry when I do it.

Hello to everyone else
Susie

jamato253 · Post by **jamato253** » Wed Aug 31, 2005 12:04 am

Thanks Susie!!

HM I will keep you and your little ones in my prayers...We are all here for you!

Christine B · Post by **Christine B** » Wed Aug 31, 2005 12:17 am

Jamato - Welcome my friend! This is a great message board. Very nice and caring ladies.

HM - God bless you and your babies. Thoughts and prayers are being said for you for a successful outcome.

Smita - Best of luck with the ultrasound. You will be pleased to see the beautiful little one you carry. I do get the sciatic pains down my backside and down the legs and sometimes the pulling of the uterus depending on my movements. I have my next Level 2 ultrasound on Sept 15th which we can't wait for. Starting childbirth classes that week as well. Time is flying.

Little P - Isn't it such a nice feeling to see the bump and rub it a lot? It's even greater when the baby is moving and you try to feel where it is moving with your hand.

Sher8 - I have found some people distance themselves from pregnant women. Sometimes it is friends that may be struggling as we did. Others may not understand why we want children so much. Cherish yourself and your baby.

Take care ladies!

Christine

Smita · Post by **Smita** » Wed Aug 31, 2005 3:42 am

HM ,
Will pray everything is ok with the healthy baby and you hold a wonderful, healthy baby in 6 months.
Christine,
Hope you're fine too!

Going in to the hosp in abt 2 hours, cant believe how jittery I am..
Will come in and post..

Sher,
Hope today is better..I know what you mean abt the emotional days..

LittleP,
thank you for the brightness you spread!

Kim, so your scan is on friday?thats what i understood from susies post..

Susie, another day to go for your scan..It'll be a happy moment!

Isnt it wonderful to be sharing all this with so many of us.. It makes the days go by faster..

Jessica,
so do you feelany different yet?
love,
smita

Smita · Post by **Smita** » Wed Aug 31, 2005 7:03 am

Hi!
Back after the scan..Evrything is ok with baby except it seems theres not enough water around him/her to swim in so doc has asked me to drink 5 litres of water daily!!She said that it wasn't somthing to worry about now, but could become a cause of worry..
Ya right- like I'm not nervous already!At this rate, I'm only going to be drinking water and not eating!

Anyway, I'm praying hard that by the 9th theres some imrovement.. I'm going to drink drink drink!
Hope you all are ok..
have a great day!
Cheers,
Smita

LittleP · Post by **LittleP** » Wed Aug 31, 2005 9:01 am

Smita

5 litres of water

- my goodness!!! You take care of yourself.

HM

You are in my prayers and thoughts. I will be keeping everything crossed for you tomorrow. Take care of yourself won't you.

Thank you all for your lovely words.

Take care girls and keep stroking those swelling bumps

Little P

HM · Post by HM » Wed Aug 31, 2005 12:57 pm

Thank you all for your prayers.

Smita,
that's lot of water, but you need to drink for your baby. My doctor told me to drink 6-8 cups of water daily, much less than 5 litres. I drank a lot for a few days, then got tired with that much of water. If you can't eat much, drinking water can make you feel better sometimes. You and your baby will be fine.

Little P,
I'm glad things go well with you and your baby. Enjoy your bump in your new maternity clothes. I only have a couple of skirts, I need to buy pants. Don't know if those pants can fit for the fall and winter. We have the same due date, so do you eat a lot now? I still have morning sickness since the 7th week. Now I'm getting better and can eat some meals, but not a lot. Glad we've entered the 2nd trimester. Wish things will go smooth from here.

Sher,
Hope your pain will go away soon. I had pain on the lower right side when I sleep on my back in the first trimester. I figured that might because all my triplets are settled on the right side of my uterus. After two weeks, the pain's gone. Now I can sleep on my back again. But my doctor said I'd better sleep on my left side.

Everyone,
Thank you again for your prayers. I'll go tomorrow for the procedure. Hope my pregnancy will become normal after this. I'll post when I get back home.

Best,

ESTHER · Post by **ESTHER** » Wed Aug 31, 2005 1:16 pm

HELLO 2ND TRI LADIES

I feel like iam jumping in now after being off the boards for so long. How is everyone doing.

Smita glad to know that all your lows and worries are over now, Dont worry about the amniotic fluid iam sure it will ok after that 5litres a day regime. My friend went thru the same condition at one time in her pregnancy but she gave birth to a healthy baby boy.

HM - my prayers are with you at this very stressful time. Asking God to take care of you and your healthy one.

How is everyone I can see bumps are growing super. Mine is showing a bit but iam still in my normal clothes, but iam still waiting for my next scan.

Stil trying to catch up with a lot on the boards right now

Jamato Glad to see that you made it past 12wks.

LittleP · Post by **LittleP** » Wed Aug 31, 2005 1:22 pm

HM

My appetite is full on now - I used to be a terrible eater, now I just can't stop

I've had a bump since about 7 weeks, but now there is absolutely no chance of squeezing into anything other than maternity trousers. This is one of those moments I have waited for for a long time and I can't say how much I love it.

Esther

Good to see you back - hope you are feeling ok and enjoying this time.

Big hugs to all

Little P

Smita · Post by **Smita** » Wed Aug 31, 2005 2:46 pm

Hi all,
HM,
Wishing you only good things for the procedure tomorrow.
Esther,
good to see you on the 2nd tri..
Lil P,
I've done 4 litres so far and its 8 at night here..I hope to get thru another half a litre..
I've been making lots of trips to the loo as expected, but its not been too hard..I'm only worried abt the night- as to whether I'll be sleeping or heading to the loo and back!
have a nice evening all!
only one day for the weekend!
and 16 days till I see dh again- yippeeeeeeeeeee!
cheers,
smita

LittleP · Post by **LittleP** » Wed Aug 31, 2005 3:43 pm

Smita

Well done on the water front - you must be full to popping!!

16 days - wow, no wonder you are starting to get excited - I'm sure they will flash by for you. Keep rubbing that tummy

HM

I know that tomorrow will be a difficult and sad day for you, but know that you are in my prayers and thoughts.

Take care of yourself.

Big hugs to all

Little P

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