Bad news

MichelleS · Post by **MichelleS** » Thu Jan 09, 2003 4:42 pm

I went for my scan today - am 7 weeks. They could see a yolk sac but no fetal pole. So I guess that it is all over. The doctor said that there is a chance and to go back next week on 16th but that there is a chance that I am going to miscarry. I am absolutely devastated - I feel that I have let everyone down, and keep wondering what I did wrong. The sac measured 13.5 mm so it is a good size, they said if there is no fetal pole by 16mm then there is no hope. I have just done some research on the internet, and realy there is no chance now. I feel so cross that they tried to give me this hope when really there isn't. And why haven't they done a blood test to see if my Hcg levels are ok etc? Am not going to work tomorrow but I guess I will have to on Monday (am a teacher) I am dreading facing everybody - I really don't think I can go through all this again. Michelle

Michelle · Post by **Michelle** » Thu Jan 09, 2003 5:21 pm

Dear Michelle I am so sorry for you and DH. I had the same thing very recently - and am having a D&C on Tuesday. This whole process is such a nightmare - and I've learnt through bitter experience that even a positive isn't always positive. They wanted me to wait a couple of weeks incase I miscarry naturally and I have now insisted on a D&C - not pleasant I imagine but at least when it is done I can move forward. Please don't beat yourself up - you did absolutely nothing wrong, I promise - that is also what my dr. kept telling me. It is just one of those unfortunate things. Is this your first pg? The only positive (if you can think that way so soon) is that the treatment was a succcess and you can actually fall pg - that is what my dh kept telling me to try to cheer me up anyway. I'm sending you a HUGE hug and lots of love. Rightly so not going to work tomorrow, take the next few days to really look after you and DH. Love, Michelle x

fiona_lk · Post by **fiona_lk** » Thu Jan 09, 2003 5:27 pm

Oh Michelle, I am so sorry to read your news, but please, please don't make any decisions yet. It is far too early, and although you know in your heart there is no chance, you still have to deal with what is happening now before thinking about the future. I'm sure that there is nothing you could have done to prevent this, and nobody you have let down. We are here to support each other and some more than others know first hand how valuable this support is. Take time out (even if you are a teacher - no one can say this is a time you should be at work) Sending you loads and loads of hugs and praying even the glimmer of hope may come through for you. Love Fiona xxx

beck · Post by **beck** » Thu Jan 09, 2003 5:28 pm

im so sorry to see this.try and hold on you never know. michelle (the other one) good luck mate im thinking of you beck x

mands · Post by **mands** » Thu Jan 09, 2003 6:08 pm

Hi Michelle I'm sorry your scan was unclear I really hope things change by next Thursday. I had a scan last week and although there was two yolk sacs there was no heartbeats. I have to go back on Thursday for another scan. They told me it was normal not to see the heartbeat at just over six weeks but I didn't really believe them. I'm trying to remain +ve but it's really difficult. It's absolute torture waiting again to see if I still have a healthy pg. So we'll both get the news next Thursday, let hope it good for both of us. Everything crossed take care, love mandsx

Sarah30 · Post by **Sarah30** » Thu Jan 09, 2003 8:52 pm

Hello Michelle I'm so sorry. I am right there with you at the moment and know exactly how you are feeling. Give work a miss - I had my scan on the friday and nearly went back on the monday but am so glad I didn't, facing people is so difficult and you need time to deal with your sadness. If you want to talk, I'm here or you can e-mail me (see profile) love and big hugs sarah x

caz · Post by **caz** » Thu Jan 09, 2003 8:54 pm

oh michelle poor you. Trying to keep positive must be so tough, but hang in there This really is a rollercoster isnt it I'll be thinking of you Caz

fi · Post by fi » Thu Jan 09, 2003 9:38 pm

so sorry michelle for you both, look after each other. give yourselves time to grieve. Fi XX

Loonpants · Post by **Loonpants** » Fri Jan 10, 2003 8:38 pm

Michelle Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you. Don't forget we are all here for you. Lisa(Loonpants)

RLV · Post by **RLV** » Fri Jan 10, 2003 8:44 pm

Hi Michelle Sorry to read your bad news. They only do the scans at St James, not the blood tests - don't know why. God life can be a ***** sometimes. Take care, Luv Rachel X

Wicked Lady · Post by **Wicked Lady** » Sat Jan 11, 2003 9:46 am

Dear MichelleS I am so so sorry that this has happened to you and dh. You now have an agonizing wait and I am praying that it will all be alright for you. I haven't got a clue what you are going through but I can only imagine the terrible comedown from the massive high you were both on. We are all here for you petal please don't blame yourself you have done nothing worng. Fingers crossed for thursday. Lots of love nicolaxxx Michelle I'll be thinking of you on Tuesday. Sending lots of love and hugs to you both.

tshepher · Post by **tshepher** » Mon Jan 13, 2003 12:42 pm

Michelle So, so sorry to hear your bad news. Am thinking of you. LOL Terri xxxxx

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