Roll Call--where are we all up to?

woppa · Post by **woppa** » Mon Apr 28, 2003 12:57 pm

Hi all, Glad to see the board back up and running. Where is everyone up to?? To all those who didnt know--we lost our baby at 12 weeks. We are now waiting for test results back from the hosp and the baby back for a private cremation. We ae both ok but just feel a bit in limbo . We will hopefully try again soon if the tests are what we want to hear. I've missed the site. Everyone let us know where you are up to if you are cycling or not. lots of love woppa xxxx [Edited by woppa on 28-Apr-03 17:28]

woppa · Post by **woppa** » Mon Apr 28, 2003 4:28 pm

bumping up--come on where are you all???

Dawn V · Post by **Dawn V** » Mon Apr 28, 2003 4:55 pm

Hi ya woppa Glad your back and I hope your results are good news. My friend lost her baby after treatment but now has two healthy boys so fingers crossed for you. We start our first ivf in July it should have been in April but we're getting married in June so thought we'd postpone but wish we hadn't now! Everywhere I go there are hundreds of pg women, I saw 4 before I'd got to the 1st aisle in Tescos on Friday!!! Am really scared about the tmt and the nurses at my clinic can be right old bags so can't look to them for support! This is our freebie so if it fails wil tell them to shove it and go elsewhere. lol Dawn xx

Lizzy · Post by **Lizzy** » Mon Apr 28, 2003 5:43 pm

Hi Woppa, Much love to you and DH, I'm waiting for AF to start first IUI. I'm also nervous about tmt - bit worried about letting DH near me with a syringe! I can't believe i'm actually going to start at last - i'm just so glad i have the support of everyone here. Dawn - good luck with the wedding and sorry about the nurses, theres really no need to be like that is there? You come on here and we'll give you as much support as you want. Take care everyone, Lizzy xxx

RLV · Post by **RLV** » Mon Apr 28, 2003 6:05 pm

Hi Woppa So sorry to read your bad news, I didn't know you'd lost your baby. You must be gutted, I know what it's like. Take time to grieve & pamper yourself a bit. Sorry again, Luv Rachel X

caz · Post by **caz** » Mon Apr 28, 2003 6:21 pm

Hi all Woppa - big hug - must have been a nightmare not having this to chat on. Talk away now PLEASE! I really hope you both feel a little better soon I start treament next month - safe to say I am pretty scared (altho part of me cant believe its actually happening). I'm definately having trouble with the old PMA tho! What a TOTAL bummer the site being down. Thank god I managed to luckily meet up with Pat on teh chat room on Sunday! (Hi Pat if you are reading this!- it was weird did you get my last few msgs because they didnt come up on the chat...? It was basically just saying I had to get off anyway - hope you're feelin ok.) Anyway waffling....

woppa · Post by **woppa** » Mon Apr 28, 2003 6:35 pm

Hi there Thanks for the messages. To fill you in--we went for our 12 weeks scan on the 14th April and discovered that the baby had died probably the week before. We are absolutly gutted it has happened especially as we had got to that magic 12 weeks mark!! I went in the next day ( even though it was our wedding anniversary) for an evacuation. Was horrific and we were treated terribly ( but thats another story!!) Anyway the baby has been to sent for genetic testing and sexing and that can take up to 6 weeks to come back. We have asked for the baby back as there is now way we could allow the hosp to dispose of it ( their words --not mine) EPAS put us onto our local funeral director who have been fab and are not charging us for their services. They siad "no-one should ever have to bury their baby". So it will be a very simple time with me and Dougie saying our goodbyes. However we wont get any ashes back so we have adopted a tree in our fav place and will remember our baby that way .Its a local castle, park and loch and we love going there. Anyway -we both now have to go for testing at the recurrent miscarriage clinic next month so hopefully will get some answers. anyway sorry if i have depressed anyone but thought i should fill you in lots of love to you all woppa xxxxxxxxxx

caz · Post by **caz** » Mon Apr 28, 2003 6:38 pm

god woppa - what a terrible ordeal - I dont have the words. Do you know what you might do next...I guess its too early, also I suppose you need to wait to find out what the docs say. POor poor you. I hope you are REALLY spoiling yourselves. Take care Caz

Traci · Post by **Traci** » Mon Apr 28, 2003 8:09 pm

I have just read your thread woppa and the tears are rolling, you are so brave , I cant imagine what it must feel like , I knew that you had bad news but didnt like to pobe you about it earlier. I hope the news is good when you get it Lots of love and hugs Trace x

indus · Post by **indus** » Mon Apr 28, 2003 9:14 pm

woppa, i didn't know what to write before and i still don't, just take care, love and best to you and dh tracey xxx

Helen G · Post by **Helen G** » Mon Apr 28, 2003 9:53 pm

Woppa As I've said to you already, I am so desperately sorry for what you and Dougie have had to go through. To get so far and then have it snatched away - unbearable. I think it's a lovely thing that you are doing with the service and tree - I hope it gives you the strength you need to continue and carry on. My thoughts are with you. Helen xx

Lissa · Post by **Lissa** » Tue Apr 29, 2003 9:18 am

Hi Woppa Just wanted to say my thoughts are with you and I think its a lovely idea to plant a tree. I hope the results come back quickly and you can then start looking towards trying again. Lots of hugs to you and dh. lol Lissa x Forgot to do roll call - I am on day 5 of sniffing - boringly early in the cycle! x [Edited by Lissa on 29-Apr-03 10:19]

Sarah30 · Post by **Sarah30** » Tue Apr 29, 2003 10:21 am

Hi Woppa I'm so glad to hear that you're getting things sorted. After the cremation hopefully you will be able to close that chapter and move on. Roll Call - I dealt with my feelings and the miscarriage in January, went for FET again in April and am now 5 week + 4 days pregnant

Hopefully you'll be following on soon Love Sarah x

ANGELA · Post by **ANGELA** » Tue Apr 29, 2003 11:10 am

Dear woppa so sorry to hear your sad news hope you get some good news when you go back to docs look after yourselves thinking of you both love ang

sharoninsomerset · Post by **sharoninsomerset** » Tue Apr 29, 2003 11:29 am

Hi Woppa, I've tried to post to you several times, but each time I've been really choked up. Still writing this with misty eyes (and at work which isn't good!) Anyway, no words can say how sorry I am for you and your DH at the loss of your baby and your treatment after. I wish you both well for a speedy recovery and a happier future. I'll be thinking of you both under your special tree. Lots of love Sharon xxx Rollcall - Will start 2nd round of ivf around 3rd week in May - Good luck to all.

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