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DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Thu Oct 20, 2005 1:03 pm

It's Thursday lunchtime and the clinic just called to say the result's not ready today, maybe tomorrow. I give up.

Will let you all know asap but as I still have AF, realism is the order of the day.

Debra

Mrs M · Post by **Mrs M** » Thu Oct 20, 2005 1:21 pm

Debra - Oh Debra I really feel for you, can't beleive the clinic are allowed to do this to you. Keeping everything crossed for you, sending you loads of baby dust and all the luck in the world.

Mrs M xxx

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Thu Oct 20, 2005 1:49 pm

Hi, it's not the clinic. All their tests are carried out at the local hospital as the clinic is one consultant and his staff, not a big soup-to-nuts kind of place. It's the hospital which are relocating (the whole place, dept. by dept.) it just happens to the lab's turn. Not good enough but what can you do?

D.

Mrs M · Post by **Mrs M** » Thu Oct 20, 2005 2:09 pm

Oh sorry for misunderstanding, doesn't take alot lately for me to misunderstand anything...LOL....
you still hang in there with PMA, i know its hard, I hated the 2ww.

Mrs M xxx

LittleP · Post by **LittleP** » Thu Oct 20, 2005 4:57 pm

Debra

Wishing you loads of PMA and hugs. I'm so sorry your wait has to go on.

Take care

Little P

cmg · Post by **cmg** » Thu Oct 20, 2005 5:16 pm

Debra, I'm so sorry to hear your news. The fat lady hasn't actually sung yet, so all is not totally lost, but I'm sorry that it's not looking good. Awful to have the wait dragged out longer. Hope things are clear one way or the other by tomorrow.

look after yourself

love Caroline

ps Donna, thanks for the cheerleading - I could do with it!

Katie12563 · Post by **Katie12563** » Thu Oct 20, 2005 10:32 pm

Hi guys...I'm scared

...and I've asked DebraP not to set up a test thread for me. I put alot into this adoption, emotionally and it breaks my heart that it may be negative. I haven't given up (Neg. HPT on Wed) but I'm just plain afraid my dream may not come true with these embies.
I'm fully prepared for a positive though

....if God blesses me.
I Love You All,
Katie

randa2006 · Post by **randa2006** » Fri Oct 21, 2005 1:31 am

Debra,

What a miserable night you had. Up and down with a sick child, the repeated mess that came with it, ON TOP of being in the heavy hours of a period that shouldn't have come in the first place!!!!

I don't believe you are in your 40s. It takes a very young woman to handle all that at the same time. Plus, I've seen your photo and you don't look a day over 29.

You sound very grounded about this likely outcome. Good for you. How is dh taking it?

You are in my thoughts, Dear.

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Fri Oct 21, 2005 7:49 am

Randa, you are a love! thank you. I don't feel 29 or 41 that's for sure! Actually, I always credit DF as being my youth pill. I try to behave at our average age (34).

Caroline, yep I'm hoping for clarification today too. I feel for the other ET people who tested the same day as us. At least we know our result, I'd hate to be waiting with no idea.

Off to keep busy....
hugs all round,

Katie, good luck tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you.

Debra.

cmg · Post by **cmg** » Fri Oct 21, 2005 9:39 am

Debra, you're sounding very strong. I hope today brings better news.

Katie, I'm sorry you're feeling scared but I can completely understand it. It's such an anxious time and there's so much riding in it. I'm starting to feel anxious about my own 2ww, which won't be for another month, as I feel like I'm going through this with you and Debra and Sharon and Jane. It brings it all back. I only have an echo of it and I feel jittery, you're entitled to feel scared. But so far no news (of the AF type) is good news. Just one more night and you'll know. I hope there is someone there to give you a hug.

Becky, it was you I meant when I said thank you for the cheerleading - must have been having a "senior moment" when I called you Donna by mistake. Sorry!

Jane & Sharon I hope you are doing ok and slowly coming to terms with your losses. And thanks for your support when I've been feeling grim.

Hi to everyone else

love Caroline

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Fri Oct 21, 2005 1:43 pm

Katie honey, the money's all on you now! You know you've all our support and best wishes. Let's end October on a high

hugs
Debra.

cmg · Post by **cmg** » Fri Oct 21, 2005 2:22 pm

Debra I'm so sad to hear your news. You sound very together and calm, which doesn't surprise me. Partly because I know as a very strong woman and partly because I suspect that, at least for the moment, the worst is over. You've done a lot of your grieving over the last few days and there must be a lot of relief in finally knowing and it being over.

I hope you get to do some nice things with your family over the weekend and start to move on with your lives. The sadness isn't going to go away overnight but you do have a lot in your life already and you know you'll come through this.

I remember you saying several posts back that you didn't know how strong the desire for a second child could be until you'd had the first one. I've heard that from a few people and it makes sense to me. But as one of the ones still desperately hoping to have one child, can I say just hold on to the fact that you have your daughter, as I'm sure you are. You may not have the family you hoped for but you have a family and that is something to treasure.

Good luck with moving on with your life - you need to get away from here, it's really important. But it will also be our loss - you bring tremendous wisdom and compassion to the boards.

much love

Caroline

ps Katie, hope you're doing ok and that the general air of gloom amongst us oldies is not depressing you. Only 1 more night to go and you could be this month's big success story!

meandmine · Post by **meandmine** » Fri Oct 21, 2005 2:52 pm

Debra, hon,

So sorry it's come to this. My heart is with you and your family. Take care and be kind to yourself this weekend.

Katie,

Praying so hard for you - hoping you can bring some joy to this thread - we could certainly do with it. Keep us posted.

Hugs
Sharon x

ogr1 · Post by **ogr1** » Fri Oct 21, 2005 4:29 pm

i got everything crossed for you katie...

wish you the best of luck..

Kat · Post by **Kat** » Fri Oct 21, 2005 6:16 pm

Hi, just catching up on what's been going on
I was so sorry to see your posts Debra, I hope you're doing OK, what can I say - nothing I'm sure but I am thinking of you.
Katie I hope you're doing Ok too, you sounded really down.

I got 'the call' lunchtime today - we are flying to Barcelona tomorrow night (bit shorter notice than expected!), donor has EC Sunday, DH produces a nice load of sperm and all being well I have ET on Tuesday
So keep everything crossed for me and I'll post when I get back...

Lots of love to all
Kat xx

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